August 23, 2012 by Ella How do you know you took it the hardest? Is it a competition? I’m sure others were secretly grieving much more than they showed just like you were. Your mother lost her mother- that is one of the hardest things a person can endure no matter how close they were. Grieve however you need to- it is all part of healing from loss… but you should never compare your grief with other peoples grieg, its a very personal thing and most people do not show how much they hurt so no one can measure that but them.