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September 5, 2012
Maybe if I was skinny, I would have friends.
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Honey, you ARE skinny. Take a look around you, super models aren’t the norm. Dig deep and find out whatever causes you to have a negative body image and tackle it!
Maybe if you were confidant and not searching for attention you would have friends.
If you succeeded in getting those friends solely by being skinny, then they’re not friends worth having, trust me. Definitely search your heart for some self-confidence and self-esteem like the others said, and don’t settle for fake or shallow friends!
I’m skinny. And I do not have many friends. Those that I do have, do not care about my dress size!
Actually being skinny might even make finding friends more difficult – girls can be jealous and hateful.
Oh my goodness, it’s not about your weight i think it may be because of your confidence. Love yourself and others will also.
Oh hon, I’m heavier than you are and I do have friends <3 just have the confidence to try new things, and friends will follow. have hope.
You aren’t fat! There’s nothing wring with your body, the next step down would be stick-skinny, and your body now is the body of a thin WOMAN, thin but with the natural curves that come with being a girl. Embrace what you are, because what you are is lovely.
you do have a friend, all the way in South Africa and i think you have a great body
I’m skinny and I barely have any female friends. I usually hang out with guys; girls hate you for the stupidest reasons. You’re not fat btw just learn how to dress your body in a way that you will carry yourself more confidently. Also something as simple as standing up straight with your shoulders back makes your stomach look flatter.
This is the same thing I think every time I look in the mirror. I’m not “searching for attention”. Maybe if I didn’t have an Eating Disorder, I would have friends.
Kate- Then go get treatment for your E.D. I’ve been in treatment for 12 years. No one can solve your problems but you. I don’t know about you, but my E.D really has NOTHING to do with my weight although that is what I fixate on. My anorexia has to do with severe depression and anxiety disorders -as do MOST E.D’s.
We don’t know if the individual in the photo has an E.D. Even if they do, one should learn that real friends care nothing about what you look like or weight. I made the best friend I have ever had when I was so sickly thin that I looked hideous.
I will comment that yes, Kate, maybe your E.D is getting in the way of having friends. It is very isolating and many people avoid us. It can be hard for friends to want to be around us when we fixate on food/exercise/sadness/self-loathing. But once again, you’re talking about YOU. The girl in the photo may have a E.D, but if she does, it is not obvious. The fact of the matter still remains- you probably don’t want any friends who only like you because you’re skinny.
Uh, you are clearly looking into a distorted mirror. You are slim. Friends generally like these “conversation” and “being able to relate to your mind” things.
I just lost 14 kg’s in 12 months, I’m 5’1 and it really shows. Looking great! Thought I’d be happy when I’m skinny, now that I’m skinny I realize that I have much bigger problems to deal with. From your pic I can see that you have bigger problems too, your body is slim.
O.M.G are you serious? Honey you are slim but if you want to be slim you also have to be toned and you have got to have a good mind about it too. It also sounds like you’re attention seekeing. I know this from experience. Stop complaining and just have a great mind and not being self concious about your body.
I wish more people would realise that this is not attentin-seeking. Its an anonymous secret that clearly weighs on the poor girl’s mind heavily enough for her to feel the need to express it. Respect please. It’s not fun to hate your body.
I wish more people would realise that this is not attention-seeking. Its an anonymous secret that clearly weighs on the poor girl’s mind heavily enough for her to feel the need to express it. Respect please. It’s not fun to hate your body.
I weigh about 80 pounds more than you do, and I have several amazing friends.
It’s not your weight. Maybe it’s just that you haven’t met the right people yet.
Thin or fat, it doesn’t change the person that you are inside. People who love you for your body alone are not friends.
You have issues, that you need to work on sweeite. Its not about your outside thats the problem. Its your inside. Looking deep inside and see the beauty that you are. You are amazing, all by yourself.
I’m really skinny; that’s all anyone says about me & I have no friends.
Yeah, feel better. I’m thin and have no friends. It didn’t help at all!
[insert comment about how beautiful you are] Feel better?
I weigh 202 lbs. and I have more friends than I can count. Heavy ones, skinny ones, in-between ones. Friends don’t care what your tummy looks like. And P.S., I’d kill to have your body!!
My true friends love me and i love them cause when we are hanging out everyone can act like a idiot, dance, sing, laugh, and joke around or even be serious and have a good heart to heart…the best advice that was ever given to me was “stop feeling sorry for yourself and make yourself happy” And trust me when I say i know how hard that can be. Im still working on it, I have days its hard to leave the house still but I try and remeber as corny as it sounds do your best to be positive and it shines through! ( PS Those curves are lookin just fine lol )
I WISH I looked like you! My goal IS to actually look like you.
You are skinny! So am i and i hate my body some days too. We are more than our bodies and faces. You wont have a lot of friends until you realise this.
You’re fat
Deal with it
yo girl you’re not fat at all I thnk you look great! lets me friends!
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This sounds like someone who just wants to be complimented. “You’re not fat”. Blah blah blah. That’s annoying and pathetic.
I’m happy to be with you on the skinny debate, but you’re beautiful.
And most definitely nowhere near 341 pounds – you can’t be more than 117? Unless the photo and your thoughts are unrelated…
Beauty is within, we might not believe it ourselves – but starving yourself makes you mor eugly to the outside world than being happy in your own skin.
How is anyone meant to love you when you cant love yourself?
Once you find love for yourself, you will also find that people cant get enough of you
If that’s you in the photo you are not fat. Try to forget about yourself . You can do this by not buying magazines, all of which encourage self-doubt in women, eat well, exercise and meditate. Buy a pet and offer to do some charity work. Your thoughts will be directed outwards to others as you see how valuable you are, your self esteem will rise and you will make friends along the way.
I don’t see it either.. But body image for a female is so hard to overcome, way more than men. Having a great guy that will reprogram your grey matter and tell you OFTEN how great you look will help. As far as making friends, it just takes having some common interests.. I am a bit shy typically, so when I travel I force myself to meeting people by going alone. And I’ve made lots of friends that way. Cruise ships are good as well.. The travel dates means that you can spend some time getting to know the people on the cruise with you and after day 4 you pretty much know who you like and who you hate.. The last time I suggested with the group doing something a little more daring and breaking ship protocol ( we hopped a plane to watch an F1 race in Rio and met up with the ship 2 days later) It totally worked and the friends I made are all still in contact today.
It has nothing to do with anything. I used to say if I was chubby i will have friends too. It’s all about loving yourself, have confidence in yourself. You’re perfect the way you are, God made you. If you don’t like the way you are, no body will. I used to hate myself being skinny. I decided I have enough of people telling me how I should be. Don’t listen to the media, or in my case my mom and my sisters making fun of me that I am breakable. When they gain weight they envy me. What the hell does that mean- it made me realized that skinny and chubby are beautiful. I use to tell myself someday I will change when I am married and give birth. My body will open and I will be chubby. You change like life, like the seasons, or your bank account (up or down). But it doesn’t matter if you’re skinny, short, chubby, tall. We are all beautiful! You don’t need to be skinny to have friends just love yourself, do something you love. Trust yourself and have confidence in yourself. People will be attracted to you. I have two friends now. It’s been so long. You can do it too. It won’t happen overnight but don’t give up. I am on my way to knowing myself. I have faith in you! Good luck! Love you for sharing, I never did!
I get this. I’m agoraphobic and think along the same lines. It’s hard to be inside our heads x