Sometimes when you get angry, I get scared and want to cry.

11 Comments on “Sometimes when you get angry, I get scared and want to cry.”

1. August 30, 2012  by  Tom McG

   Please talk to this person. They may be shocked to their very core to learn you are frightened at what they may do. I had a temper but I always directed it inward; yelling at myself, hitting myself, the works. I worked hard to change when I learned that my little boy was scared of me because of my anger. I never directed ANYTHING towards him…I just didn’t know that anger is like a force field stretching out beyond me like a giant bubble. The bubble had nothing to do with my son, but when it burst, he still got wet. I just didn’t know.
2. September 4, 2012  by  Little Bird

   This is how I feel about my dad… I know this might seem cliche, and insensitive to assume, but I think know how you feel.
3. September 17, 2012  by  Flight

   It’s the worst feeling in the world, I know. I cry because when he gets angry, I want to leave – and that’s not how it should be.
4. October 18, 2012  by  bedlamb

   Months after my marriage had ended, my ex told me she was afraid when I got angry. She said it contributed to her side of our break up. It was too late to bother telling her so, but it offended me that she hadn’t ever said anything. People vent. I was sometimes loud in the garage. How could I have known. Damn it. I’m still offended.
5. November 8, 2012  by  Iknow

   This happens to me too, except it makes him even angrier if I cry and then he does take it out on me. It is horrible. Be careful.
6. November 12, 2012  by  Shy Bee

   I was in a relationship like that. Even after I left, I was still afraid. Don’t feel bad for feeling the way you do! It doesn’t matter why, just that you feel it. Try to stay safe. More people care than you think.
7. December 1, 2012  by  Meghan

   I felt the same way about my now ex. I cried when he yelled and took his anger out on objects. Finally he took it out on me. I loved him for a year and thought his anger would get better. It didn’t.
8. February 6, 2013  by  ItsMeh

   That’s sad.
9. February 22, 2013  by  RS

   Whoever is doing this to you, you need to talk to this person, ESPECIALLY if there is any chance it could get physical.
   I used to get scared when my boyfriend got angry. I would instantly stop talking because I didn’t want to make it worse and have it turn to me. He eventually noticed that I would get scared and very sweetly told me he never wants me to be afraid of him. I think ever since he has been really careful about how he reacts to frustrating situations. There is a chance that this person may not know how you feel or how he/she acts.
10. April 18, 2013  by  Ruth

    My husband has an anger problem, you cant tell him he has one. Its like stepping on egg shells all day and I cant tell him because he gets angrier. He is very thoughtful and loving and does a lot for me, I just cant handle the anger issue.
11. May 5, 2013  by  Lee Mullin

    Trust your fears. There is a reason you feel them. There is a reason you do not want to engage with him while he is in this state. You do not have to live with this fear. No one has the right to act that way. No ONE!

    I tried living with my fears when my ex-husband acted like that. He was always so sorry afterwards, but I still ended up with bruises and even broken bones. I learned the hard way that nothing stops a person with that much anger inside. They do not want to deal with it. They do not want to admit they even have a problem. They do not want to be stopped.

    So, stop it yourself. Before you become a victim of domestic violence. Trust your fears. They are telling you something. Listen to them. Keep yourself safe. It is not worth even trying to tell him how you feel or asking him to stop. He can not, and will not.

    I’ve been there. And even decades later, the sound of his voice makes me tremble. But I am safe now.