I never told anyone how hard it was for me when my grandma died..

I never told anyone how hard it was for me when my grandma died..

I never told anyone how hard it was for me when my grandma died right in front of me.
I didn’t tell anyone because I didn’t want to seem selfish.
She died one month before my birthday.
And nobody knew that I took her death the hardest.

 

11 Comments on “I never told anyone how hard it was for me when my grandma died..

  1.  by  Ella

    How do you know you took it the hardest? Is it a competition? I’m sure others were secretly grieving much more than they showed just like you were. Your mother lost her mother- that is one of the hardest things a person can endure no matter how close they were. Grieve however you need to- it is all part of healing from loss… but you should never compare your grief with other peoples grieg, its a very personal thing and most people do not show how much they hurt so no one can measure that but them.

  2.  by  amy

    I understand completely how you feel. I was with my nan when she died and it was so unbearably hard… it still is. Nearly 10 years on xxx hugs xxx

  3.  by  rosie

    how do you know she or he didn’t take it the hardest and how do you know that it was his or her mother who lost their mother! you say no one else can measure and compare grief but seam to feel someone losing thier mother at an old age is worse than a child losing thier grandma?! you dont know thier situation. this secret is about a feeling of guilt and misunderstanding not comparison. dont deny a person of thier feelings respect that that is the way they feel!

  4.  by  Ky

    Rosie and Ella, your comments hurt so much because your too naive to understand the pain a child could feel

  5.  by  Annie

    I feel the same, except it was my Grandfather and it was 6 days before my birthday. It took a lot of years before I wanted to ‘celebrate’ again. There are people that understand x

  6.  by  The Good Girl

    Loved my gran so much. Miss her more than i can say..x

  7.  by  mouse

    Living so far away from my family I wasn’t there when she died. And I didn’t go through the grief process with anyone who knew her… I don’t think my family know how raw it still feels to me. I feel selfish to want to talk about her.
    I understand SS.

  8.  by  Erica

    I know how you feel, my great grandmother passed away last April, and while I know it was hard on my grandma and my dad, I felt like I didn’t spend enough time with her before she died. She passed away right before I graduated college, and I really wished she could have been there with me.now, I’m the first great grandchild to get married, and Ian going to have a special verse read in honor of my grandma

  9.  by  Kc

    The pain of loss can be heart-wrenching. It would not be selfish of you to talk about it. I used to think that I had to keep all of the pain bottled up so that no one could see it and so that I could take care of parents and siblings. I lost four grandparents and a best friend to cancer, and an aunt to suicide within the span of six years. I never wanted my family to see how much and how deeply everything hurt me. Little did I know that talking about it helps more than you can possibly imagine. If you don’t want to talk to your family, talk to a counselor or a friend who has also gone through a loss. Even see if you can join a support group. Everyone grieves differently, but I have to admit, being able to talk about my pain made me feel like I wasn’t so alone.

  10.  by  Bamdkfkd

    I know exactly how you feel. My grandmother died on my 13th birthday. My mom kept it from me so it wouldnt ruin my birthday or birthday party. I never really cried that much when it actually happened because i had to be strong for my mom. But on my 15th birthday about a month ago i cried for nearly 2 hours straight and i have never cried so much before in my life. Im very sorry for your loss though and hope you are okay

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