August 13, 2012 by Ella People go through huge changes and periods of growth in their teens and early twenties. A twenty year old is far less mature than a 25 year old in most cases and I think it’s fair to say that MANY 20 year olds prefer casual relationships as they don’t come with the responsibility and commitment of a serious relationship. The late teens and early twenties can often be a good age to explore, learn about yourself and try new things. So, what you describe her doing is not uncommon or even bad. I’m sorry you are hurting and I am sorry you love someone unwilling to be with you, but now may be a good time to explore your own needs, learn about yourself and grow as a person. Part of that growth may include learning that you have worthwhile needs too, and if someone isn’t willing to care for you and meet those needs, you should move on.