I’ve spent my whole life trying to please my parents..

I've spent my whole life trying to please my parents..

I’ve spent my whole life trying to please my parents and to get them to like me.

I give up…

7 Comments on “I’ve spent my whole life trying to please my parents..

  1.  by  Gina

    I’ve spent my 51 years trying to please my father, who has now been dead for 16 years. I’m getting help. Do that for yourself, because you are worth it. God speed.

  2.  by  felix

    I think you’ve spent enough of your time for them. Maybe it’s time to spend it just for yourself.

    Parents aren’t born to be great parents; I think some try to learn how to be the parents they wish they had. Sometimes it works and sometimes it backfires.

    Yes, I myself also recognize what I used to do to please mine.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  3.  by  Kristy

    I just told my parents I’m done with them last night! They allowed me to be humiliated and stood by and did nothing. I’m better than that! Life here I come 😉 Karma can deal with it now!

  4.  by  Tom McG

    I am so sorry you have had to be in such a situation. Good for you for moving on…perhaps it may shake things up but probably not. The same goes for you Felix and Kristy!! Gina is so right. This crap doesn’t stop just because the parents had the good graces to finally die. Help is important and SO worth the cost or effort it takes to aquire the help. I’ll wager you will all be great parents. I may have sucked as a parent but I was open to see the unbelievable awesomeness of my son and was able to learn so much about myself from him. Bottom line, I think we came out okay because I was able have that perspective. I gave him the respect he so richly deserves and we love each other dispite any temporary differences and wrong turns that cropped up. Good luck to you all!

  5.  by  anon

    I spent my entire life trying to get my mom to like me.. until the day she dissapointed and hurt me one to many times.. now i hate her

  6.  by  Marije

    Several years ago I gave up trying to please my parents and accepted the fact that they are who they are, and that this caused me grief. However, I did tell them what I would like our relationship to be like. My mom has surprised me the most; she changed into a mother. In return, I show my appreciation, love and respect. And my dad told me he was proud of me for the first time in my life a couple of months ago. At age 34, what more can I ask for? I’m just really happy I probably still have several years to enjoy these changes.

    So don’t expect your parents to change, be who you are and would like to be, and see what that will bring you.

  7.  by  Jenn

    Maybe now you can be free. Pleasing others (no matter how important they are to you) isn’t as important as pleasing yourself. Others can’t make you happy. Only you can do that.

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