July 29, 2012
All I ever wanted was for you to be proud of my choices in life.
All I ever got from you was criticism and condescending remarks.
I love you!
Category: New Secrets
Tags: mom, proud
Can’t see it.
She may BE proud of you but just unable to show it in a way that would work for you. Most likely, her remarks are really about her and have little or nothing to do with you. If YOU thought your choices should have earned her pride, then you have a LOT to be proud of!! Revel in YOUR pride…know you are good and have done well and right. Someday…tomorrow or years from now, you may be able to talk to her and find out what was going on in her mind! You love her. She loves you. You are awesome!!! Believe it (even if you aren’t allowed to hear it)!!!
All I ever wanted was for mine to be proud of me…and now she is…I guess…I mean, I think I hear it between her criticism and statements of how jelous she is of my life. Funny, I really don’t care anymore.
today is the first day the i was able to admit that i hate my mother. i spent my entire life trying to get her to love and accept me but sometimes a mother can never really be a mother
today is the first day the i was able to admit that i hate my mother. i spent my entire life trying to get her to love and accept me but sometimes a mother can never really be a mother..
it’s really hard growing up, seeking acceptance from a mother who is unhappy with her own life… it took me a long time to recognize that it was her that was the inadequate one and not me. i say it everyday… I will never be that kind of mother… my children will know an unselfish love and i will be their #1 fan in everything they do. After all isn’t that what being a mommy is all about??? RAISING YOUR KIDS TO BE BETTER THAN YOU AND LEAD A BETTER LIFE…
This secret could have been mine
All of you, anon, m, skew, alex and OP, I want you to know how sad it is that you feel this way and that you had to suffer through the things that brought you here. It is very sad that we have to become older to realize that the “bad” parent just is unable to get past their pain and “stuff” to parent and that they can’t see the havoc and damage they leave in their wakes. You are all wonderful, courageous souls that should be proud of them selves for surviving and please know in your hearts that you are worthy of pride and praise
I am not having kids in the near future because quite frankly, I’m really messed up. I don’t know how to give love nor receive it yet. maybe your mom decided to have you in the midst of her self discovery and was unable to show you love. I think you might be her saving grace.
It’s like this secret it mine.
It’s an never ending battle where the results are only disappointment and sadness.
My mother is the same way…..I have to apologize to my 2 teenage daughters at least once a week because somehow something my mother said to me at that age comes out of my mouth. I swore to myself many times that I would NEVER be like her. I would NEVER tell my children that they were the reason my life was ruined. I would never say I was going to kill myself and then lock myself in my bedroom with my gun for 4 hours while my 15 year old daughter sat at the door crying.
The good news is I’ve never done those things, the bad news is I inherited my mothers condescending tone. But, I’m REALLY working on it and my girls say I’m doing better.
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