June 21, 2012 by Tom McG It will be hard, hard, HARD…but ask him. Chances are he will be surprised at what you say. He might very well not realize that is what is happening to him. The good news is it might make him look at things differently and work on changing things for the better (which may be better for BOTH of you). The bad news is he may realize that what you say is the truth and he may decide to “go with it.” As difficult and painful as that will be for you…it will be better for you in the longer run. So talking to him is a win-win for you…even though you may not see it that way for a long time. Good luck, Sweetie.