June 21, 2012 by Tom McG If you listen very carefully, you can hear the voice inside you that says good things about you before “The Judge” rushes in to tell you that you are wrong, ugly, worthless, whatever. That quiet little voice is YOU…it is the SELF…your SELF. THAT is what others see. The real SELF inside you knows how wonderful you are; what a beautiful person lives in your body. You may have to fake it for a while…play “pretend” for even what seems like a long time…but if you keep reminding yourself that he is seeing what that little voice is telling you, you will eventually hear the voice more clearly. You will be able to really accept his love, revel in it, and, although hard to believe, it will make the love you are feeling towards him richer and stronger. This is the process of loving yourself, which you have to do to be able to believe anyone else can love you. Hang in there…pretend hard (for a while)…and it will all come to you, Sweetie.