May 28, 2012 by Kirsten You would not want that legacy, it is a very lonely place to be. I would not wish it on anyone. It has taken me nearly 30 years to recover from the abusive childhood I experienced and in that time I lost so much of what my life could have been if only I had loving parents. I can never get that time back. Talk to someone, find a good therapist who can trust and talk to.