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I’m dating my cousin
January 1, 2012
I’m dating my cousin
I’ve never been happier
But no one sees past the first part….
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my cousin and i love each other but we cant tell anyone but he is everything to me. i just dont know what to do.
I am afraid of what I am feeling right now, I know it is wrong but I cant help my feelings for my first cousin. I just met him and since the day we met we both had this chemistry going on. We just started a long distant relationship. He is currently married and has kids but he doesn’t love his wife. Our relationship is just online and secretly. He is also older then me by 7 years. He is also a product of cousins getting together. I really don’t know whether or not to continue with this relationship. I think of the risk there might be if we get together and have kids, but I also think of just getting together and take care of his kids or have kids with someone else because I have no kids. This is so mentally disturbing for my because my feelings are going against all my values and beliefs. I never been in such dilemma.
My second cousin and I are in love with one another. He has always wanted to date me but never approached me.
We have been together for a while and we fell hard for one another.
We have a lot in common, he’s sensitive, sensual, sweet, kind, and good looking.
We have vowed to love secretly forever because our family would be hurt.
We would love to marry one another.
Me and my cousin are in a long distance relationship she lives in Mississippi and I live in louisiana we are very much in love and want to tell the family but can’t because then they would disown both of us and cut all contact
Im dating my 3rd cousin, and things in the beginning were pretty bad. But when your family sees how happy you are every single day, they will eventually get used to it. All your family ever wants is for you to be happy for a long time, they dont wanna see a sad,hurt person sulking around everyday. So just yolo. fall in love. make mistakes. erase them. but most of all just do what you wanna do to make YOURself happy. thats all that counts. #support
Dating and having relationships with your cousin is going to become the norm. I watched a documentary where this military person traveled to the future and everyone had obviously been having children with their cousins. Everyone had become so mentally slow, that the military man was one of the smartest people there, even though he was considered normal in this day and age. So I support your decision to date your cousin, your kids will have a better chance of fitting in with the other future inbreds.
I’d love to date my step brother but no one could see past the brother part
I’ve been dating my first cousin for five months. We are both young and our family found out about it. They were very angry and they still disapprove. Even now they are trying to seperate us apart. His side of the family is just like any regular christian asian family. They all love each other dearly but he has a very over-protected mother. But me on the other hand, i don’t really like my family. We don’t really care for each other and don’t love each other. My parents are divorced and each recently got married while his parents are still together. But i put all the blame and gossip on me so he doesn’t have to worry. I’m stubborn but i really do love him and i will do anything to protect him. I just don’t know how to deal with family problems, i just turn 16, and trying to find a job while getting good grades. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much.
Th3 “don´t date your cousins” thing is more a social convention than anything else. Of course there are genetic reasons not to do it, since it might increase the chance of diseases running in the family, but in that case, dating someone who is diabetic should be just as wrong, yet it´s not seen in the same way.
I know it´s hard to ignore society, but many people have done it, when their love is strong enough. If you feel your conviction weaken, just remember that there was a time when what you´re doing was perfectly normal, just like there was a time when dating someone of another ethnicity was terribly wrong. People moved past all those things, because we make mistakes, our societies are judgemental, but our judgements evolve. What is now wrong was perfectly appropiate before, what is now appropiate was wrong before and so it will continue. Know in your heart that there is nothing really “wrong” with what you are doing. Come at peace with it, stick to it, and with time, people will have to learn to accept and understand, or move out of your lives. You might lose people you love in the way, but so have many gay people, and sick people, and people with different etnicities, and they sacrificed people they loved, to make it okay for the gay,sick and everyone else could have a chance at loving freely. If your love is true, you have that strenght to change the world.
If it ends, at least you´ll know you didn´t turn your back on a great experience just for a social convention.
Good luck.
Luvbug: You mean idoitocracy?
I was raped by my first cousin.
I am in love with my 2nd cousin. We share a love bond that is so strong. I cannot picture living the rest of my life without hime. He is my lifeline. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what family thinks because we are happy with each other. For now our love relationship is a secret but in due time all will know about the love we have for each other. What matters most is the love we have for each other.
I don’t understand this. Sometimes you cant have the one you love. Like someone who’s married for example. Not because its morally wrong but because it hurts the people who love you the most. Honestly not judging but some people need to grow up and realise their choices can effect others. And “followed my heart” may not cut it with your child who will be faced with social stigma and a genetic disadvantage. Not being mean, honest.
@The Good Girl,
That’s called victim blaming. Instead of rightfully pointing the finger at society and berating society for their bigoted views on cousin relationships, you blame the social stigma a child may receive onto the parents. It’s the same as blaming an Asian/Black/Middle Eastern/White/mixed couple for the racial bullying their child receives (“Honestly “follow your heart” may not cut it with your child who will be faced with the social stigma…”)
As for your comment regarding “genetic disadvantages”,you are aware that cousin couples have the same risk in having a child with genetic abnormalities as a forty year old woman, right? Given light of this new fact, are you saying it’s irresponsible for forty year old women to have kids? Are you aware of the continuing development in medical sciences that allow us to detect genetic abnormalities in a foetus at shorter periods of time from fertilization? Are you just another bigoted, uninformed individual, who has decided to draw their conclusions from stereotypes and lack of personal experience? Not being mean, just honest.