I’m dating my cousin

I'm dating my cousin

I’m dating my cousin

I’ve never been happier

But no one sees past the first part….

79 Comments on “I’m dating my cousin

  1.  by  anonymousgirl

    my cousin and i love each other but we cant tell anyone but he is everything to me. i just dont know what to do.

  2.  by  afraid

    I am afraid of what I am feeling right now, I know it is wrong but I cant help my feelings for my first cousin. I just met him and since the day we met we both had this chemistry going on. We just started a long distant relationship. He is currently married and has kids but he doesn’t love his wife. Our relationship is just online and secretly. He is also older then me by 7 years. He is also a product of cousins getting together. I really don’t know whether or not to continue with this relationship. I think of the risk there might be if we get together and have kids, but I also think of just getting together and take care of his kids or have kids with someone else because I have no kids. This is so mentally disturbing for my because my feelings are going against all my values and beliefs. I never been in such dilemma.

  3.  by  michelle williams

    My second cousin and I are in love with one another. He has always wanted to date me but never approached me.

    We have been together for a while and we fell hard for one another.

    We have a lot in common, he’s sensitive, sensual, sweet, kind, and good looking.

    We have vowed to love secretly forever because our family would be hurt.

    We would love to marry one another.

  4.  by  Lotus

    Me and my cousin are in a long distance relationship she lives in Mississippi and I live in louisiana we are very much in love and want to tell the family but can’t because then they would disown both of us and cut all contact

  5.  by  Support

    Im dating my 3rd cousin, and things in the beginning were pretty bad. But when your family sees how happy you are every single day, they will eventually get used to it. All your family ever wants is for you to be happy for a long time, they dont wanna see a sad,hurt person sulking around everyday. So just yolo. fall in love. make mistakes. erase them. but most of all just do what you wanna do to make YOURself happy. thats all that counts. #support :)

  6.  by  Luvbug

    Dating and having relationships with your cousin is going to become the norm. I watched a documentary where this military person traveled to the future and everyone had obviously been having children with their cousins. Everyone had become so mentally slow, that the military man was one of the smartest people there, even though he was considered normal in this day and age. So I support your decision to date your cousin, your kids will have a better chance of fitting in with the other future inbreds.

  7.  by  emily

    I’d love to date my step brother but no one could see past the brother part

  8.  by  Secrets123

    I’ve been dating my first cousin for five months. We are both young and our family found out about it. They were very angry and they still disapprove. Even now they are trying to seperate us apart. His side of the family is just like any regular christian asian family. They all love each other dearly but he has a very over-protected mother. But me on the other hand, i don’t really like my family. We don’t really care for each other and don’t love each other. My parents are divorced and each recently got married while his parents are still together. But i put all the blame and gossip on me so he doesn’t have to worry. I’m stubborn but i really do love him and i will do anything to protect him. I just don’t know how to deal with family problems, i just turn 16, and trying to find a job while getting good grades. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much.

  9.  by  Ally

    Th3 “don´t date your cousins” thing is more a social convention than anything else. Of course there are genetic reasons not to do it, since it might increase the chance of diseases running in the family, but in that case, dating someone who is diabetic should be just as wrong, yet it´s not seen in the same way.

    I know it´s hard to ignore society, but many people have done it, when their love is strong enough. If you feel your conviction weaken, just remember that there was a time when what you´re doing was perfectly normal, just like there was a time when dating someone of another ethnicity was terribly wrong. People moved past all those things, because we make mistakes, our societies are judgemental, but our judgements evolve. What is now wrong was perfectly appropiate before, what is now appropiate was wrong before and so it will continue. Know in your heart that there is nothing really “wrong” with what you are doing. Come at peace with it, stick to it, and with time, people will have to learn to accept and understand, or move out of your lives. You might lose people you love in the way, but so have many gay people, and sick people, and people with different etnicities, and they sacrificed people they loved, to make it okay for the gay,sick and everyone else could have a chance at loving freely. If your love is true, you have that strenght to change the world.

    If it ends, at least you´ll know you didn´t turn your back on a great experience just for a social convention.

    Good luck.

  10.  by  Angel

    I am in love with my 2nd cousin. We share a love bond that is so strong. I cannot picture living the rest of my life without hime. He is my lifeline. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what family thinks because we are happy with each other. For now our love relationship is a secret but in due time all will know about the love we have for each other. What matters most is the love we have for each other.

  11.  by  The Good Girl

    I don’t understand this. Sometimes you cant have the one you love. Like someone who’s married for example. Not because its morally wrong but because it hurts the people who love you the most. Honestly not judging but some people need to grow up and realise their choices can effect others. And “followed my heart” may not cut it with your child who will be faced with social stigma and a genetic disadvantage. Not being mean, honest.

  12.  by  The Logical Girl

    @The Good Girl,

    That’s called victim blaming. Instead of rightfully pointing the finger at society and berating society for their bigoted views on cousin relationships, you blame the social stigma a child may receive onto the parents. It’s the same as blaming an Asian/Black/Middle Eastern/White/mixed couple for the racial bullying their child receives (“Honestly “follow your heart” may not cut it with your child who will be faced with the social stigma…”)

    As for your comment regarding “genetic disadvantages”,you are aware that cousin couples have the same risk in having a child with genetic abnormalities as a forty year old woman, right? Given light of this new fact, are you saying it’s irresponsible for forty year old women to have kids? Are you aware of the continuing development in medical sciences that allow us to detect genetic abnormalities in a foetus at shorter periods of time from fertilization? Are you just another bigoted, uninformed individual, who has decided to draw their conclusions from stereotypes and lack of personal experience? Not being mean, just honest.

  13.  by  Anonymous

    My second cousin and I have been dating for over a year now. I’m truly in love with him, but I don’t know how to tell my family because they would be devastated,and probably even deny us. Anyway me and him are always together whenever we get the chance, and when we aren’t together we are always talking to each other on the phone. He tells me everything and I tell him everything. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and eventually we are going to get married. We said to each other that we where going to tell our family when the time is right, but I don’t think that the time is ever going to be rig because I know how strict they are. Then again if they can’t accept us, then oh well. Every time we see each other and others are around we have t be various and make sure that nobody sees what we are doing, and I hate that we have to hide our affection towards each other. Then on top of that I have to sit there when we go places together and watch girls flirt with him, and I can’t even say anything because most of them know me as his cousin/ best friend. Then we get into a big argument because I have to tell him that he needs to tell his groupies that he has a girlfriend. I mean I know it’s not his fault but still. If he wasn’t my cousin, then our life would be waaayyyy easier and we wouldn’t have to deal with all this drama, but the. Again if we weren’t cousins the we never would have met. Sooo….

  14.  by  Anonymous

    My second cousin and I have been dating for over a year now. I’m truly in love with him, but I don’t know how to tell my family because they would be devastated,and probably even deny us. Anyway me and him are always together whenever we get the chance, and when we aren’t together we are always talking to each other on the phone. He tells me everything and I tell him everything. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and eventually we are going to get married. We said to each other that we where going to tell our family when the time is right, but I don’t think that the time is ever going to be rig because I know how strict they are. Then again if they can’t accept us, then oh well. Every time we see each other and others are around we have t be various and make sure that nobody sees what we are doing, and I hate that we have to hide our affection towards each other. Then on top of that I have to sit there when we go places together and watch girls flirt with him, and I can’t even say anything because most of them know me as his cousin/ best friend. Then we get into a big argument because I have to tell him that he needs to tell his groupies that he has a girlfriend. I mean I know it’s not his fault but still. If he wasn’t my cousin, then our life would be waaayyyy easier and we wouldn’t have to deal with all this drama, but the. Again if we weren’t cousins the we never would have met. Sooo….

  15.  by  islands

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  16.  by  Me

    Me and my second cousin just met in March of this year and we both instantly fell in love recently we started a secret relationship and said not to tell any one because our family would be upset about it. Yesterday we were texting on his mom’s phone saying that we live each other. And his sister who is a very close friend of mine found it, read it, and showed it to his mom who told his dad. I really love him. And I just don’t know what to do though.

  17.  by  In love

    Me and my 2nd cousin met through work. i never knew anything ever about his side of the family. My dad had warned me that we were cousins, but he told us third. anywho, we became really close and realized how much we liked eachother cause we have a bond that we have never shared with anyone before. we have been dating for almost half a year and are happy as can be :) his family supports it and love me to death, they look at me as a daughter-in-law but on the other hand my parents tolerate it. I love it not being a secrete between either sides of the family, weither some disaprove of it or not, they still love me and just want to see me happy. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we know right from wronf and being in love and young love. I’ve done my research completely on all of this, for one point i almost changed my mind on our relationship due to kids. If you actually read up, a lot of information is just on first cousins and slim to none on 2nd cousins ans so on, so i’m very confident in having a normal realtionship with the best amn alive at this point. Does it get hard not bringing him around the family, yes. But at one point my parents didn’t even want to hear his name and now i can actually openly talk to both about him (even my dad who hated it the most cause it’s his moms brothers sons, sons. so his part of the family). And with the progress that everyhtings going i have hope and faith that one day everyone will just look at him at the love of my life and future father of my kids and not a cousin who no one has ever met in my family. We just bought a house together and never been happier with anyone else. So with my story, i say do what makes you happy, your family loves you either way, it may be hard on them at first but they will never stop loving you no matter the choices you make in life. And for the people who make nasty comments, ignore them, they have no room to judge anyone for there more than likely not perfect or saints. :D

  18.  by  Nicks BDB

    i dnt knw wat to do so that she could see that im in need of her company!. Im a 21yr old guy nd my cousin close to b my sis is a 29yr old lady wth nice looking body nd a good shape i gues, she is jst a short gal nd i toller dan her. We dnt diffr that much to date bt da problem is dat she kips on sayng wat knw them!. I cn c dat she lovs me too the thing is she dnsnt knw how to accpt me or hw to jst sy dat Yes we cn date. Evrytime i try to 4get abt her/ignre my feelngs she starts it again nd jst acts ignrnt nd avoidable bt i cn c she wnt to go for it bt hw?. Pls help me get her..

  19.  by  Nicks BDB

    some txts missng whr she kips on sayng wat..abt our family..you knw them!. Pls past nd re-read. Pls reply

  20.  by  Jeanelle

    I have once dated my 2nd cousin. Nobody knows because I don’t want them to look down on me for it. But I was once really in love with him. But he ruined it by cheating. I’m scared to ever tell my mom, even though we are like best friends. I don’t know what to do. ? Help me please. ! :(

  21.  by  charmer

    Well this is a very difficult point in my life. Shes my 1st cousin we’re both in love but she has a family. Our families are very close so they think its just the normal brotherly sisterly love we have for each other but its deeper than that. Her husband recently left her and her 3 kids so we’ve been in contact again. I really dont know what to do. Im the eldest in my family so my parents have high hopes for me. I love her but at the same time I love my parents as well. what example would I be setting for my younger brotgers and sisters. Incest is really frowned upon in South Africa and whats worse is that her dad and my dad are both staunch Christians. I feel so confused so I know how you feel.

  22.  by  george

    I dont know what to do me and my first cousin are bestfriends i love her she means everything to me but im not sure if she feels the same way about me loving her , i make jokes saying that i do and she just says thats gross and i just smile and say im just kidding . In my religion its very wrong to date any family , i dont know how to stop this feeling , she really is everything i want but we cant be together :(

  23.  by  3sm0

    I just told my family I am pregnant with my second cousins baby. No one in my family understands and I can’t help to think they’re right. I’m slowly getting into depression and I feel alone. But I love him and I hope everything gets better. I hope you on the other hand don’t go thro what I’m going thro.

  24.  by  annonymous

    iam dating my cousin and we have been dating for a year.for the 1st time iam very happy .the problem is we are afraid to tell our family and what they will say about it.I am so crazy in love like im seeing him for the first time every time iam with him.He also feels the same way about us.

  25.  by  Anonymous

    I am in love with my first cousin ever since we were kids & first met we were really attracted to each other & most importantly were the best of friends. Eventually he married had children & so did I but now I am divorced with 3 kids of my own & he is in the process in divorce himself with 3 kids of his own. We recently had an encounter & it’s like we have never stopped talking after almost 15yrs later our feelings are real strong. We are in love with eachother and plan on getting married but we both fear the rejection we will face from both of our families most of all from our children how will we explain our love? And how we feel bc we know it’s not right or giving our children principles but this is something we just cannot explain we are soo truly happy together & are willing to face the world for our love. All we really care about is how our children will cope with this situation.

  26.  by  jack

    Me and my second cousin have been dating for about 7 months noww i love her with all my heart and she feels the same i could never hurt her but our relationship was a total secret only her mom knew and she was okay with it and now all a sudden she is not and is threatening to tell her father and my father and i will be kicked out of the house and disownded and who knows what might happen to her i am scared i want to be with her but i dont want hurt to get hurt.

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