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I and my best friend also went through same situation for our good since she stopped talking to me like 2 years ago, everything is worse and pointless now, I miss her so much, she was the bestest friend I’ve ever had. you also keep this thought in mind….

Hey, mine too. And you know what, I’m happier too. Sometimes we have to let go of the weeds that wreck out lives. Good luck finding your own way in the future!

My best friend in high school broke up with me when we graduated. By the end of it, our entire relationship was about drugs and alcohol and being slutty so I guess its good that its over but still part of me wishes that we could watch eachother get better together too. She deleted her facebook, cut all of her friends out of her life. Me and my bf have been going out for a long time he helped me get sober and clean, he is my best friend. But sometimes I still get lonely and I wish I could see what shes doing. I have new friends and better hobbies but I can’t help but feel nostalgic

This exact thing happened to me recently and its the best decision i made. I hated her more and more for months, everything she would say was so against my own morals, believs and felings etc, so i eventually told her i dont like her. We lived together at the time haha. The things she said to me when i told her that, really showed how horrible she is, and always will be. Im so glad to have a person like that out of my life forever!good on u!

I can completely relate to this one. I knew my best friend from 1st grade until we graduated high school. After graduation, I told her what I really thought of her. It’s been two years, and it’s a little sad but… I don’t miss her one bit.

She treated me like absolute shit because of her own insecurities. Nobody understood why I stayed friends with her. But I just did, for some stupid reason.

My best friend and I have been friends for 8 years. I love her dearly, but she is very opinionated, judgmental, and always assumes she is right about everything. She also assumes she knows me better than I know myself. For the past several months I have found it easier not to confide in her with my problems. She is moving to another state soon, and I can’t say I’m terribly disappointed about it.

I have never had a best friend.

My ‘best friend’ and I parted company over a year ago. I was always a bit unsure as to what I was getting from the relationship, she had my confidence, my house if she needed a place to sleep/hide/come and cry, in fact I was a bit like a mother when ever she fell out with her own and a husband whenever she fell out with her own and even a boyfriend whenever she fell out with her own etc etc – but thankfully without any sex!!
When we argued about my kids, I was relieved to be able to yell at her, and finally put a wedge in the way of continuing our very lop sided friendship. It was like shedding a very uncomfortable skin. I can now concentrate on the real friends in my life. Phew….

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Having a best friend is similar to being in love in that when the friendship ends it can be just as devastating as breaking up with a boy/girlfriend. When you break up with someone you have shared so much of your life with, it hurts about the same, or can be just as liberating.

I’ve had the same BFF since 6 th grade…14 years now. She moved in with me as a favor which nearly destroyed our relationship. She saw me do things I should not have been doing and we pretty much avoided each other for the whole year. Luckily we talked it out a few months after moving out. However, I had been replaced. While we still have a special relationship her new BFF is her maid of honor at her upcoming wedding, and apparently the godmother of her future child. While I understand completely why this happened I admit I am very jealous of their relationship. The new BFF is doing all the thing we had talked about growing up. Now I have no BFF aside from my husband.

The moral of the story being, if you want to keep you best friend, DO NOT LIVE WITH THEM!!! Someone warned me if that fact prior to us moving in together but I ignored it. Very sound advice.

Ditto

I hope this never happens with me and my best friend. We’ve known each other almost 18 years and I cant ever imagine living without her.

This recently happened to me as well, and I totally agree with you. It is like a weight has been lifted off me. I wasn’t so much her friend as her aliby. I would get txts and emails from her telling me to tell anyone who asked that she was with me the night before….WTF!!!

My moms best friend calls me fat. I just want her to dump her already. She is really bad into drugs and my mom always takes her in no matter how shitty she treats my mom.

I can totally relate. I cut off my best friend of 4 years after graduating this year. She was convinced she was a gift to the world and even threatened physical harm if I didn’t stay in touch with her while at college. Now none of our other friends will talk to her either. She got what she deserved and I finally feel like myself again.

This is the EXACT same situation I have… I haven’t talked to my best friend since 2nd grade since high school graduation, she was insecure so she tried to bring me down with mean rumors and lies, and she tried to drag me into her new life of drinking and partying (unsuccessfully) >:( After graduation we just stopped talking. I love not having to deal with her. All my friends didn’t like when she tagged along.

I was in exact same situation for a year since my best friend and I spilt up after HS graduation and went to different colleges. She turned into different person so I was, too. And lately she was so judgemental and acts like she knows it all because she is completely serious about her life and I am not. I am tired of having to lie to her all of time to not be judged now we aren’t longer best friends and I’ve been never happier…

but I am going very difficult situation right now and don’t have a best friend, I am pretty much alone so I think I maybe I wanted to take her back again.

i have recently fund myself in the scariest situation that i have ever faced, so natually i went to my best friend (since the 4th grade). Only to find out from another friend that doesnt even know her that she went and told my exhusband.im lucky that he is the person that he is because he could have made things much worse. I had never felt more hurt or alone. Luckly I have an amazing lil sister that was by my side when i jus wanted to give up. There is no way i could ever repay her! I love you so much! thank you for everything.

I wish this was me. I want rid of my so-called “best friend” so badly it hurts. I think I hate her…

But she needs me.