Comments on: I am trying to feel more for my boyfriend http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/ Tell us your secret Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:16:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: M http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-16229 M Sat, 14 Jan 2012 03:24:01 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-16229 I'm going through the same exact thing. I spent the best summer of my life with my "friend with benefits" we were both getting over ex's when we met. I got over mine. He still isn't over his. I met someone when i left home to go back to school, and started dating him becuase my logic told me the one i had fell for so hard would never really want me as more than a friend with benefits and i'd be wasting my time waiting for something that would probably never happen. I miss him everyday though. I dream about him all the time. And part of me is still holding onto the hope that one day we'll be together, even though whenever we talk he tells me he never wants another serious relationship again. I feel horrible because i'm dating a great guy, but no matter how great my boyfriend is, i just can't forget him. But i'm too afraid to live without my current boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I know I love my ex friends with benefits... and i'm trying so hard to love my boyfriend, really love him. I'm afraid I never will, and will always look back at last summer as the happiest time of my life and wish i had him back again I’m going through the same exact thing. I spent the best summer of my life with my “friend with benefits” we were both getting over ex’s when we met. I got over mine. He still isn’t over his. I met someone when i left home to go back to school, and started dating him becuase my logic told me the one i had fell for so hard would never really want me as more than a friend with benefits and i’d be wasting my time waiting for something that would probably never happen. I miss him everyday though. I dream about him all the time. And part of me is still holding onto the hope that one day we’ll be together, even though whenever we talk he tells me he never wants another serious relationship again. I feel horrible because i’m dating a great guy, but no matter how great my boyfriend is, i just can’t forget him. But i’m too afraid to live without my current boyfriend. I don’t know what to do. I know I love my ex friends with benefits… and i’m trying so hard to love my boyfriend, really love him. I’m afraid I never will, and will always look back at last summer as the happiest time of my life and wish i had him back again

]]> By: Never Ending http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-15891 Never Ending Fri, 09 Dec 2011 21:42:42 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-15891 Just Me...i am in the exact same situation. I can't live without my boyfriend of four years. but when we were on a break i fell in love with my best friend. Now that were back together i may be happy but still feel incomplete. The secret of thinking about him everyday leaves me with a heavy heart. When i told you i loved you preka i really wish you would have loved me back. then we wouldn't feel so torn and our friendship wouldn't be a complete lie. Just Me…i am in the exact same situation.

I can’t live without my boyfriend of four years. but when we were on a break i fell in love with my best friend.

Now that were back together i may be happy but still feel incomplete. The secret of thinking about him everyday leaves me with a heavy heart.

When i told you i loved you preka i really wish you would have loved me back. then we wouldn’t feel so torn and our friendship wouldn’t be a complete lie.

]]> By: Ghost http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-15306 Ghost Thu, 06 Oct 2011 04:34:33 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-15306 I know how it feels i got more feelings for my friends with benefits that i do if i have a bf its not easy I know how it feels i got more feelings for my friends with benefits that i do if i have a bf its not easy

]]> By: just me http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-15153 just me Sat, 17 Sep 2011 18:27:10 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-15153 just mailed in a postsecret note very similar to this. god, i miss him, but i tried to break up with my boyfriend [of 4 years]-that was simply impossible. yet having him next to me isn't making me completely happy, need them BOTH just mailed in a postsecret note very similar to this. god, i miss him, but i tried to break up with my boyfriend [of 4 years]-that was simply impossible. yet having him next to me isn’t making me completely happy, need them BOTH

]]> By: thisone http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-14938 thisone Wed, 17 Aug 2011 04:37:32 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-14938 I feel your pain. If you want to hear my 2 bits, then I think it's best when your boyfriend or your girlfriends is a best friend with benefits. How many wedding toasts have you heard of, where they say that not only is their spouse the love of their life- but their best friend. Someone you can share such intimacy with, while still enjoying each others company all the time- that's love... No one will fill that void. I feel your pain. If you want to hear my 2 bits, then I think it’s best when your boyfriend or your girlfriends is a best friend with benefits.

How many wedding toasts have you heard of, where they say that not only is their spouse the love of their life- but their best friend.

Someone you can share such intimacy with, while still enjoying each others company all the time- that’s love…

No one will fill that void.

]]> By: D http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-14398 D Sat, 11 Jun 2011 12:09:27 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-14398 Things went boring with my boyfriend. I still love him, but my 'friend with benefits' R, gives me butterflies in my belly. With him I want have sex. My boyfriend and i haven't had sex for over 2,5 years now. My boyfriend has back-problemens, while my 'special friend' carries me to bed. I think of my special friend even when I'm with my boyfriend. But my special friend is 10 years younger than me, still in his 20's with a starting career. There is no future for us, even is we would have feelings for each other (which I doubt he has for me) so I will stick with my boyfriend and find pleasure somewhere else... Things went boring with my boyfriend. I still love him, but my ‘friend with benefits’ R, gives me butterflies in my belly. With him I want have sex. My boyfriend and i haven’t had sex for over 2,5 years now.

My boyfriend has back-problemens, while my ‘special friend’ carries me to bed.

I think of my special friend even when I’m with my boyfriend.

But my special friend is 10 years younger than me, still in his 20′s with a starting career. There is no future for us, even is we would have feelings for each other (which I doubt he has for me) so I will stick with my boyfriend and find pleasure somewhere else…

]]> By: ViewtifulForever http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-13743 ViewtifulForever Tue, 05 Apr 2011 04:43:02 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-13743 @18: I was really hoping that would end in a different name. I was on the opposite side of the situation, being the boyfriend. This may not be sound advice, but while it was hell on me, she seems happier now that she left me for him. @18: I was really hoping that would end in a different name.

I was on the opposite side of the situation, being the boyfriend. This may not be sound advice, but while it was hell on me, she seems happier now that she left me for him.

]]> By: *crushed* http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-12813 *crushed* Tue, 01 Feb 2011 09:11:48 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-12813 egads! it's truly comforting to know that i'm not the only one. jeez, it just honestly hurts, SO bad. egads! it’s truly comforting to know that i’m not the only one. jeez, it just honestly hurts, SO bad.

]]> By: Devon http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-12810 Devon Tue, 01 Feb 2011 05:21:05 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-12810 I know what you mean.. we were so much closer before we started dating I know what you mean.. we were so much closer before we started dating

]]> By: uno http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-12706 uno Thu, 27 Jan 2011 02:07:57 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-12706 dido dido

]]> By: JustADotOnTheEarth http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-11778 JustADotOnTheEarth Fri, 12 Nov 2010 00:59:25 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-11778 This was the first secret that came up on my screen and the only one that can describe exactly how I am feeling. Stay and pretend? Or bail and risk the unknown? This was the first secret that came up on my screen and the only one that can describe exactly how I am feeling. Stay and pretend? Or bail and risk the unknown?

]]> By: alone http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-11774 alone Thu, 11 Nov 2010 18:57:14 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-11774 I completely understand...my boyfriend became my best friend when we first started dating--we broke up 2 months ago to meet other people but I can't go 1 day without seeing him or talking to him. We still do all the things we used to do, we still say I love you. I wish every minute of every day that we could be together again because no one else comes close to making me feel the same--I've tried. I love you jason. I completely understand…my boyfriend became my best friend when we first started dating–we broke up 2 months ago to meet other people but I can’t go 1 day without seeing him or talking to him. We still do all the things we used to do, we still say I love you. I wish every minute of every day that we could be together again because no one else comes close to making me feel the same–I’ve tried. I love you jason.

]]> By: iloveyou http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-11619 iloveyou Wed, 27 Oct 2010 06:59:26 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-11619 i know how you feel, i had a friend with benefits, and then we stopped talking. everytime i see him, the feeling just comes straight back, its crazy. every boyfriend after him doesnt even compare, but the sad part is that after that we stopped talking, and now he even has a girlfriend. i miss him tho, a lot. i know how you feel, i had a friend with benefits, and then we stopped talking. everytime i see him, the feeling just comes straight back, its crazy. every boyfriend after him doesnt even compare, but the sad part is that after that we stopped talking, and now he even has a girlfriend. i miss him tho, a lot.

]]> By: d http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-11306 d Fri, 01 Oct 2010 07:27:12 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-11306 Sometimes I wish there was one right guy Sometimes I wish there was one right guy

]]> By: inlove http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-11289 inlove Thu, 30 Sep 2010 21:52:03 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-11289 I think you should tell your husband atleast for the sake of honesty... i think my husband is cheating on me and i dont have the guts to ask...... I think you should tell your husband atleast for the sake of honesty… i think my husband is cheating on me and i dont have the guts to ask……

]]> By: Its weak http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-11237 Its weak Tue, 28 Sep 2010 00:26:01 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-11237 I'm trying to feel less for my boyfriend. I wish I could treat him like just a friend. I’m trying to feel less for my boyfriend. I wish I could treat him like just a friend.

]]> By: Luv Doc http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10638 Luv Doc Sun, 08 Aug 2010 08:42:27 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10638 Sounds like you are with the wrong guy. Sounds like you are with the wrong guy.

]]> By: I miss you, lazy. http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10595 I miss you, lazy. Wed, 04 Aug 2010 15:33:02 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10595 Currently living this. About to get married and move to Hawaii for 3 years and all I want is to stay in Texas with the man that frustrates me to no end, who I didn't know I loved with all my heart until we said goodbye. I hate this. Currently living this. About to get married and move to Hawaii for 3 years and all I want is to stay in Texas with the man that frustrates me to no end, who I didn’t know I loved with all my heart until we said goodbye. I hate this.

]]> By: Wannabe expat and patriot http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10520 Wannabe expat and patriot Sun, 01 Aug 2010 10:04:35 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10520 Friends are always better than lovers, you can be honest with 'em. That's the things with a friend with benefits, there aren't any strings in a good way, no promises said aloud, all of it, is simply because both parties enjoy it, and both care about one another in a truly altruistic sense. It may not be healthy, but cake and gin is better than spinach and wheat grass anyway. Friends are always better than lovers, you can be honest with ‘em. That’s the things with a friend with benefits, there aren’t any strings in a good way, no promises said aloud, all of it, is simply because both parties enjoy it, and both care about one another in a truly altruistic sense. It may not be healthy, but cake and gin is better than spinach and wheat grass anyway.

]]> By: LostInLove http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10423 LostInLove Sun, 25 Jul 2010 10:57:30 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10423 I understand. I'm in love with my husbands bestfriend, who is also my bestfriend. A year and a half ago, he confessed his love for me...we've been having an affair ever since. I love him more than I love my husband. I understand. I’m in love with my husbands bestfriend, who is also my bestfriend. A year and a half ago, he confessed his love for me…we’ve been having an affair ever since. I love him more than I love my husband.

]]> By: Brit http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10357 Brit Tue, 20 Jul 2010 06:01:33 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10357 I'm in love with my best friend who just told me he was bisexual but leaning towards men. Now my dream of us getting married and having kids and living in a big city may never come true. But I love him anyways, whole-heartedly. I’m in love with my best friend who just told me he was bisexual but leaning towards men. Now my dream of us getting married and having kids and living in a big city may never come true. But I love him anyways, whole-heartedly.

]]> By: alexandra http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10347 alexandra Mon, 19 Jul 2010 20:50:19 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10347 this, this is something i understand. i miss him. this, this is something i understand.

i miss him.

]]> By: Di http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10293 Di Thu, 15 Jul 2010 17:17:28 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10293 I know EXACTLY how you feel I know EXACTLY how you feel

]]> By: Alicia http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10273 Alicia Wed, 14 Jul 2010 07:09:12 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10273 I'm currently living this. I just recently moved out from my friend with benifits who has shared the same deep feelings I have since 6th grade. We are still madly in love with each other but now have to fail at finding someone to try and be with. If he's reading this...id do anything to be with you again, plz know that. I despretly love you, and my heart is truly yours. I'm failing so bad its killing me everyday. I’m currently living this. I just recently moved out from my friend with benifits who has shared the same deep feelings I have since 6th grade. We are still madly in love with each other but now have to fail at finding someone to try and be with. If he’s reading this…id do anything to be with you again, plz know that. I despretly love you, and my heart is truly yours. I’m failing so bad its killing me everyday.

]]> By: Chris http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10215 Chris Sun, 11 Jul 2010 05:30:52 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10215 I know just how you feel. I know just how you feel.

]]> By: lost believer http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10212 lost believer Sat, 10 Jul 2010 12:31:36 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10212 i dreamt about my old friend with benefits the other night. its funny how when he moved away i was more heartbroken then i've ever been with my past boyfriends. i guess he just got under my skin. i miss aidan. i dreamt about my old friend with benefits the other night. its funny how when he moved away i was more heartbroken then i’ve ever been with my past boyfriends. i guess he just got under my skin. i miss aidan.

]]> By: still in love http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10190 still in love Fri, 09 Jul 2010 08:21:08 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10190 ah I know. me too. I would leave my boyfriend of 2 years in a heartbeat if my high school crush said he wanted to be together. We were only together for 2 weeks at the end of school, and it wasn't even that amazing, but every time I see him I feel alive, and desperate, all over again; it's a passion that is just not there with my boyfriend. It kills me. ah I know. me too.
I would leave my boyfriend of 2 years in a heartbeat if my high school crush said he wanted to be together. We were only together for 2 weeks at the end of school, and it wasn’t even that amazing, but every time I see him I feel alive, and desperate, all over again; it’s a passion that is just not there with my boyfriend. It kills me.

]]> By: jenna http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10179 jenna Thu, 08 Jul 2010 23:07:27 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10179 more than anything, i miss the fact that he's no longer my friend. i try to make my boyfriend fill the void he left, but he's not the same. every time he touches me, it kills me inside. more than anything, i miss the fact that he’s no longer my friend. i try to make my boyfriend fill the void he left, but he’s not the same. every time he touches me, it kills me inside.

]]> By: D http://postsecretarchive.com/2010/07/i-am-trying-to-feel-more-for-my-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-10082 D Sun, 04 Jul 2010 21:25:29 +0000 http://postsecretarchive.com/?p=6677#comment-10082 I know the feeling...I miss my best friend....with benefits. I know the feeling…I miss my best friend….with benefits.

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