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The stupid one here isn’t the wife.
I know exactly how you feel. I have the same secret. Only I know her name, the kids names and everything else. She even knows of me. BUT refuses to admit things are going on. He will never leave her and for that reason alone I am trying to move on, even though he says “He loves me” and wants to be with me. I love him more then he will ever know.
She is not the ignorant one. I would wager a bet that everything he has told you about her is a lie. Karma is a bitch honey. Wake up and have more respect for yourself as a woman and as a human being. If he’ll cheat with you…he’ll cheat on you. Get a clue.
this is so true
To those who are disgusted by this secret – the world is not black and white; you cannot help who you love or why you love them regardless of their circumstances. I wish it were as simple as you all make it out to be because if it was this wouldn’t be my secret too.
AMEN! Well said and I could not agree more. I didn’t mean to fall in love with him it just gradually happened.
Even in a world with colors-you can make the choice to do right. Cheating is never right, even when so called love is involved. How can you love a person that lies to you and to others. What a self absorbed hypocrite! There are no “good” excuses. Make the right decision-leave him/her. Cheating is a cowards way to sleep around!
It is lust, not love you are feeling. If he were to leave her for you, he would eventually end up saying the same things he says about her once you started living together and going through lifes challenges. People say they love each other, then when things get hard they give up and move on. Meaning he will give up on you too. And if he actually did love you, he would have left her when he met you. He doesn’t, he just wants some. You may not be able to control who you “fall in love with”, but you can control wether you are a homewrecking whore or not. Get your own man.
I was thinking the exact same thing.
Good for you, Honey. I’ve never really had respect for for the woman/men partners cheat with (I’ve been cheated on multiple times by multiple boyfriends. I’m usually used, nothing more than someone on the side for when the hot girl they’re cheating on me with leaves them.), but I’m happy to hear you’re trying to move on. I know how it feels to love someone who doesn’t love you back. You can get over him, and get someone MUCH better than him. You go girl! lol
Good for you, Honey. I’ve never really had respect for for the woman/men partners cheat with (I’ve been cheated on multiple times by multiple boyfriends. I’m usually used, nothing more than someone on the side for when the hot girl they’re cheating on me with leaves them.), but I’m happy to hear you’re trying to move on. I know how it feels to love someone who doesn’t love you back. You can get over him, and get someone MUCH better than him. You go girl! lol
who are any of you to say this person is not in love?
yah, it may be wrong, but “the heart understands what the mind cannot”
If he has children please don’t stay with him, that’s what tore my family apart, my dad did this, my mum knew but stayed with him for our sake, she finally grew up and kicked him out. I still love my dad but no matter what you will always be the woman that destroyed are family and the comments above are right, if he cheated on her, he will cheat on you.
he has kids… with his ex-wife, not his current wife
He cheated on me, and called it love because it sounded better than “I got drunk and fell into bed with the first ho I encountered.” She calls it love because it sounds better than “I got drunk and fell into bed with the first horndog who popped up.”
you need to leave him be. my dad cheated on my mom with some one my mom knew. do you know how freaking BAD its going to KILL those kids when they find out their dad didn’t care about them enough to stay faithful to not just their mother but to them too? think about it. your in the process of becoming a HOMEWRECKER.
thats exactly what happened to me…he was my best friend and next door neighbour my entire life, everyone used to tease us when we were little that we would get married and we were like ew….he had a girlfriend when we started to become more than friends….they eventually broke up and now we’ve been datin for 2 years next week….i know he will never cheat on me cause he knows me better then i know myself, hurting me would kill him…
lol my situation isnt the same. oops…no marriage no kids….lots of difference…
Wow, you people make me want to never send in a post secret. Way to judge a stranger. Good for you.
She probably doesnt sniff her husband when she comes home because she is busy doing his laundry.
AGREED!!!!!!
Sometimes some people are incapable of being monogamous. People make decisions. To some they make see those decisions as wrong or right. Personally, the way I see it, who am I to judge someone else’s relationship, decisions, actions, feelings, etc and say what is right or wrong. To one person something might be wrong, while to another it is right. We as people tend to focus too much on what is going on in other people’s lives rather than our own.
TYPO: ***To some they MAY see those decisions as wrong or right.***
You’re trying to move on? Good for you! Because the reality is he will never leave his wife and children, and if he really wanted to be with you as he claims, he would be. The only way he ends up at your doorstep is because the wife finally said “get out”.
Sorry may be harsh, but what you guys know about the wives is what the cheating (and lying) husbands are telling you.
I know about you. I don’t kick him out because I still love him. I don’t fight to keep him because that would just mean that he’s always able to be taken away. I know he bought you a present with my paycheck. I know he says he is with his best friend when he is with you. I know it was your t-shirt he was wearing when he came back. I know he calls you pet names. You don’t know that the special name just for you was his name for me. You don’t know that all the money he spends on you is mine. You don’t know that the car he drives you around in is mine. You don’t know that when he told you he had to go take care of business, he was having sex with me.
He is not tied down. He stays because he chooses to stay.
You need to wise up to the fact that he is never going to leave her for you, and she is probably not as stupid as you think.
Or she just might be insanely jealous and murder you when she finds out.
Agreed completely. If he’ll cheat on her, he’ll cheat on you.
I was with a married man for about 6 months. There were so many things aobut him that i loved. He was perfect (except he waz married) so i thought. I knew of the wife and she knew of me as well but refused to admit it. It didnt take long to see why. He broke her down and talked so bad to her about the screwed up things she caught HIM doing. made her feel at fault. I was more than relieved when we broke it off. we are still friends and i talk to the wife more so than him now. I feel bad for her. She is a sweet beautiful woman and she deserves to be loved the way she loves him.
Love is not in stolen moments, lies, and betrayal. Infatuation is. Love is in the day to day. Growing together and working through the difficulties. Love requires honesty,patience, and commitment. If you were special or loved you would be the only one.
dont waste your time on this man if he cheated on his loving wife and mother of his kids with you he will cheat on you and if not it will always be in the back of your mind. leave this man to his family and get your own.
amen!!!!!!!!!!
You women always want to say leave the guy, but maybe if you were being everything he needed he wouldnt be looking for the sex somewhere else. Learn to be that whore he really wants, do that freaky shit he asks you
to do, suck his fucking dick, give him your asshole whatever he wants to do, because whatever you wont do, some other female will and you will be left a victim. Let the hate begin
bet she knows and wont let him go.
words of wisdom buddy…i do it all and then some…so ladies watch your men!
Why do you want him? He’ll just do the same thing to you. People are who they are, period, and this guy has already proven himself to be a cheater. If he ever does leave her, you’ll spend the rest of your life sniffing him and wondering…
Find your own man. Forget this one who doesn’t have what it takes to be faithful and keep his promises.
The world may not be black and white – and while I know it sucks to face this truth – your decision to be with someone who is already committed should be black and white. She/he needs to make up their mind about who they want to be with and pick one.
Is soothing the pain you would feel apart from him/her really worth creating more pain for the partner or family he/she is cheating on? I’m sorry, but you are entirely complicit in his/her cheating, making you just as sleazy and reprehensible in your behavior as they are…
HAHAHA!! HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE FOR YOU!!!! you’re destined for a life of misery. @ the poster: she probably does know about you, she is not stupid she is merely holding on to what is HERS. If you do get him he will cheat on YOU.
@ Curtis Sanders
i do everything for him… i suck his dick for hours on end until it hurts to speak.. we have sex 3-4 times a day..i do his laundry, make him dinner, i wake up when he does.. even if its 3am. i do all that and then some…. and hes still cheating on me….
what do you have to say to me??
Is marriage sacred to no one anymore? The wife may know, but perhaps her vows mean more to her than they do to him. The other woman may think the wife is stupid, but who’s the fool thinking he will leave his wife? And if he does leave his wife, who’s the fool thinking he won’t do the same to her? And he’s the real fool who will end up alone.
Maybe she knows and just wishes that one day you’ll realize what a pig you are for sleeping with a married man.
CHOOSE YOU, NO MAN IS WORTH THAT! IMAGINE HOW GREAT YOUR LIFE COULD BE IF U TOOK ALL THAT ENERGY AND TOOK CARE OF YOURSELF.LOVE, SINGLE AND LOVIN IT!
You need to leave him. He doesn’t love you at all. He’s using you and you’re ruining a FAMILY. Step off and find someone who wants to commit to you.
Cheating with a married persn is fruitless. Even if they leaves his their spouse for you, they most likely will cheat on you too. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater”. I think you’re in love with him because its safe. He can’t truly commit, but you’re hurting a FAMILY. Why do these (wo)men never think of the children or the spouse? If s/he was really in love with you s/he would leave his/her partner. You’re a booty call. I don’t understand cheating. Why hurt the person you’re with? Just tell them you’ve met someone else! At least then they can get away from the lies. It hurts WAY less.
i don’t share this secret with you, but your comment was beautiful.
Agreed.
agreed
whats wrong with you people
“Once a cheater, always a cheater”
Sometimes i think people get so jaded by what hurts/offends them that they refuse to think that something can be more complex than they themselves will ever understand.
This was my secret, she found out. Now we’re married and my life couldn’t be happier.
@?Addonymous?
and my worst nightmare is that that saying is true… but i will say this… you’ve destroyed someone’s dreams. and it scares me that you don’t care.
love isn’t taking someone away and claiming them. that’s just possession.
love doesn’t need someone to be everything all the time, but understands that you don’t get everything you want.
love… is something you haven’t had or felt yet.
if you loved the first wife, as much as you “loved” the man… you’d be appalled.
i’m sorry.. very sorry. b/c i hope you find love one day… but it’s going to hurt… b/c that’s a part of love.
I don’t have a job
There for I have no money I live with my boyfriend of almost 2 years & I’m afraid he’s cheated,cheating or will. He’s been so secretive, we fight a lot so why wouldn’t he? We both have said pretty hurtful things to one another but the things he said made it beyond ovbious he doesn’t wanna be with me. If he cheated on me I would die & have NOWHERE to go. He’s litarally the only person I have left. If I ask him or wonder we will fight because I don’t trust him. He has a history of cheating & suddenly he’s different with me. I’m so scared & don’t now what to do.