Congratulate her. Tell her she’s lucky he proposed because any longer and YOU would have. Start it with a joke like that. Ease into it. If she’s getting married then it really is too late, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a calm conversation with your friend about how you feel.

For five years I have loved a wonderful woman, without telling her. She left the area and started dating someone a year ago, and my thoughts continue to be consumed by her.
I have just learned that she is getting married in two months.

Did she ever have feelings for me? Could she have? Was I as “not good enough” as I thought? Would telling her have damaged the friendship which is now all but dormant anyway because she isn’t around? Would I have made a fool of myself?

I don’t know any of those answers. What I do know, is that this is the greatest regret of my life. It plagues me. I’m depressed, sad, heartsick, apathetic, and otherwise damaged and being damaged from not telling her. I still function and get through the day, and there are actually days where I only think about her a few times or can stop myself from thinking of her for more than a minute; but my life, relationships, and business has suffered because of my troubled mind about this.

SO IF YOU CAN, TELL HER! Don’t make the mistakes I made. Don’t be the fool that I have been.

If she has no interest, if it costs you some dignity or even a friendship, it is worth it not to end up in this purgatory of uncertainty.

I wish you luck, but should it not end as Hollywood would like you to believe all things must, just know that though the sun might dim a little, and all the lights of the world might follow in kind, the world will not end, and neither will yours.

it goes by so fast, and then they’re gone.

you don’t have to let her slip away into the infinite future without you.

be brave, and just tell her.

<3 take care.

from a 9th grade class.

We’ve been together for over a year now. The rare days we get to spend together are the happiest of our lives.

I liked this girl for 5 years and she was dating someone else and I didn’t tell her how I felt. Finally I just told her and she felt the same way… However, we started dating and I was on my way out of the military so I was long distance for a bit and she started dating someone else. It hurt like hell for a bit but honestly after that I had a huge weight off my shoulders. I was a free man not wondering if I should be with her instead of the girl I was currently with. After that I knew she wasn’t right. Now I’m engaged to a different girl, the girl of my dreams. So TELL HER FOR CHRISTS SAKE!!! The worst thing she’ll probably say is aww thats sweet, I’m sorry I don’t feel the same way. She’ll be flattered you told her.

Consider other girls; do not close the door on this girl yet.

I will leave everything I have,
to try to be with her.

I hope her heart is open,
but I will try anyway!

This summer, I’m going back, and I’m going to tell him. You should do the same! Best of luck, friend

Even if it’s not I would tell her.

What are you waiting for? Seriously, ask yourself that. And answer it. What.are.you.waiting.for? Any fear you may have, I can promise you that you will never regret taking a chance for her. This is one of those moments in life where if you take that chance, no matter what the outcome, you will never look back with regret. She will never be something you regret, kid.

If you want a girl, tell her as soon as possible.

I’ve had so many male friends try to be my BF by roundabout ways. And it always fails. If a girl wants you, she usually knows w/in 10 minutes of meeting you.

She already knew whether she was interested in you a long time ago. You’re just wasting your life not finding out sooner rather than later.

There’s NOTHING I hate more than some prick who tries to be super-nice to me, and then gets his feelings hurt when I reject him 1 year away from when we first met, and then acts all f*ing bitter because I’m not interested.

Sometimes you TELL a guy you’re just friends, not interested, and they still do this, and get all bitchy once you finally confirm what you originally told them.

Whatever the end result, just don’t be creepy after the fact. There really are a million fish in the sea.
If you can’t see this- it’s because you’re either young or anti social. Make an effort to meet more people. Don’t be so self centered. Get some hobbies.

I finally told him and he just wasn’t interested in anything but being best friends. I relaxed and we stayed friends.

Nine months later, he changed his mind and we kissed.

Fast forward two months, he gave me roses and told me he loved me.

Another two months and we moved in together.

Skip ahead five months and he asked me to marry him.

Nine months later, we both said ‘I do’.

That was 13 years ago. I’m married to my best friend, living a wonderful life I never thought possible with him and our kids.

TELL HER.

Say something.

Look at it this way – you already know that he/she enjoys your company, and more than likely admires many things about you because you are friends. If he/she treats you well (i.e. considers your feelings, doesn’t lie to you or ditch plans with you for a “better offer”) then you’ve got a good indication, and decent odds, that he/she may be responsive to your declaration! Good Luck!

If you don’t do anything, it will end.
If you bare your heart, it may end or it may develop.

If you don’t do anything, you will hurt and hate yourself for what might have been.
If you bare your heart, she may say no. This is real and it will hurt. It may change what you have, but she may say *yes*.

These are the choices that make a life. It isn’t safe and it isn’t comfortable.

Or did you suppose that you would enter Paradise without facing the same as those who came before you?

Love Amy xx

I hope this has helped as much as it’s helped me