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you are beautiful. what a lucky boy he is.

Don’t belittle your self just the fact you stuck by this child shows how beautiful of a person you are. That little kid you see there will be grateful with time.

God never makes mistakes-HE knew you needed your grandson.

Probably the best thing she ever did for him. I wish my junkie neice would leave her baby Grace with me so at least I would know she was taken care of!

I am a recovering addict (clean for 2 1/2 years) with a 6 year old boy. My BF of three years has a greater connection with my son than I do because I wasn’t around most of the time, I think my son hates me. He was grandma’s boy for years. I wish I could take those years back and turn my life around. I miss the bond I should have with him. I don’t know how and if I can get it back! I’m scared he’ll never be my mama’s boy. And his dad isn’t around. I’m so scared I’ve single-handedly deprived him of a loving childhood that will scar him for life.

I am a recovering mother-10 years. My daughter is 16, so for 6 years I was out of it. Give time-time. We are living our amends everyday that we stay sober to our kids.

Great book out about how a child’s brain and emotions and coping mechanisms develop (or don’t) based on what nurturing and stimulation they get (or don’t) during different times of their infanthood and childhood.

Though it’s entitled ‘THE BOY WHO WAS RAISED AS A DOG’, that’s just one small chapter of this book. It tells how a child can do well in so many areas of his/her life, but not in another area because maybe they were left in their crib in the dark day after day for a time. Or if they were raised in an orphanage with adequate food, clothing, diaper changes, but no physical nurturing.

Great read for anybody wanting to understand further how people turn out the way they do.

Sometimes he happiest kids are the ones who have to deal with more, because they can appreciate so much more. The kids I babysit keep me going. Kids do that to a person.

your message made me cry

actually, honey, addiction is defined as a disease by doctors, psychologists, and many other people in the physical and mental health field. here’s a quote for you:
“The American Society of Addiction Medicine has this definition for Addiction: Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry.”
Why is it, do you think, that some people can have 1 or 2 beers at a party, and others have to get wasted? It’s a fucking disease that people are environmentally and genetically predispositioned to. And you’re not really telling me to get over myself, you’re telling the philosophy of Alcoholic’s Anonymous to get over itself. way to be closed minded, you moron. just watch an episode of intervention. people don’t “choose” to ruin their lives.

actually, honey, addiction is defined as a disease by doctors, psychologists, and many other people in the physical and mental health field. here’s a quote for you:
“The American Society of Addiction Medicine has this definition for Addiction: Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry.”
Why is it, do you think, that some people can have 1 or 2 beers at a party, and others have to get wasted? It’s a fucking disease that people are environmentally and genetically predispositioned to. And you’re not really telling me to get over myself, you’re telling the philosophy of Alcoholic’s Anonymous to get over itself. way to be closed minded, you moron. just watch an episode of intervention. people don’t “choose” to ruin their lives.

Well? It’s not called disease THEORY for nothing. I could start and association with an official sounding name and claim all kinds of things. Don’t trust everything you read. Think. for. yourself.
Btw, AA has a dismal success rate.

I don’t watch TV, but I’m sure ‘intervention’ is another show designed to make money off of peoples’ pain. I don’t support that sort ‘entertainment’, I think it’s very sad.

Have you heard of Iboga? I’ve seen so very many people walk away from addictions in three days. No joke. Of course, they are left with themselves to examine. That’s actually the hard part.

I walked away from 20 years of alcohol addiction with the help of Iboga. I haven’t walked back. I don’t go to AA. I’m not diseased.

I’m not sure why I’m bothering to tell you this.

Dear Tia,

I applaud you for overcoming your addiction. I was 17, a junkie, and pregnant. I quit alcohol, pills and drugs as when I found out I was expecting, I put myself through high school, through college, and now work a full-time job in a career that I worked my butt off for. I did it all without “AA” or “NA”. I made a choice – a choice to be a mother, my son saved me and is the greatest gift that I have ever received. Mothers that don’t embrace and nurture their children should be ashamed of themselves.

Be there for him now! My mother left me when I was 5 and became a drunk/druggie and almost died. When I was 18 she got sober and emailed me to apologize. I am so proud of her. We can’t do anything about the past only the future. Make the present count and you’ll BUILD a relationship with your son and he’ll always know that you came back for him!

um maybe you should study addiction a little more huh!! Becasue Opionions are NETORIOUS for being just that an opinion not a fact!

some choices are easier for some then others. i walked away as well cold turkey from meth haven;t looked back.. doesn’t mean that it wasn’t hard for someone else.. if everyone is so unique as we tell our children with the color of their skin eyes and hair etc.. you think that stops on the outside?? what a bunch of closed minded people.. all i know is i am glad someone made the choice to die on the cross for me so i wouldn’t live in unforgiveness or judgement.. I am glad someone is there for that boy.. hope someone is gonna be there for that Mom. because choice or disease, people are effected. and shouldn’t be shunned forever.. so instead of this.. what useful things can be done?

agreed addiction isn’t a disease, you can make the decision to get help it may be hard to do but you can. stop making excuses

No they didn’t wake up with a crack pipe in their mouth you fuck ass, but they didn’t choose to become addicted. And addiction is a disease, when you’re addicted you don’t have a choice in your actions its all on impulse. The only way to over come it is to have a support system. So get your head out of your ass and look at the facts and real life, Addicts don’t choose to become addicted they just made a bad choice initially.