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When my marriage of 33 years broke up, this was one of the things that I mourned — to grow old with someone I love. It still brings tears to my eyes and sorrow to my heart — but I know that this is not bad — it is OK to mourn my loss.
Just think, now you can act like one of those crazy old women [if you don't find anyone else] and just mess with people. That’s what I plan to do if I end up alone :]
And I hate when people say stupid stuff about it like ,
it’s young love , it’s not gonna last etc.
NO
It’s true love (:
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Comment by tress
2010-02-01 15:03:56
love is love–enjoy all the moments in it!
Comment by Emily
2010-02-01 23:54:21
Statistically teen love doesn’t last. It’s not that these people are being stupid just that the odds are stacked HIGHLY against it.And I do mean ASTRONOMICALLY HIGH. I’m not saying it’s impossible mind you. I’ve meet people who have meet the love of there lives in high school just that it’s unlikely. I think you need to look realistically at this. On that note though I wish you the best of luck as young love can be so lovely.
Myself I’m still single, never dated and 21. I’m waiting with fingers crossed. I guess I’ll need a lot of luck to.
Comment by Matthew
2010-02-02 10:56:32
The odds are against young love. But it does last, sometimes.
Thing of it is, if you don’t try, it *wont* last.
Comment by SuzyQ826
2010-02-03 12:48:52
There’s nothing quite as magical and thrilling as experiencing your first love, and for many people this happens as a teenager. Savor every moment because 20 or 30 years down the road, you’ll wish you could feel so vividly and completly enthralled with another person. Not to say that feelings or love gets watered down as we get older, it’s just that young love, or your first love, is just THAT amazing.
Good luck, Sandra. I hope you’re one of the lucky ones!
Comment by bryan
2010-02-08 05:00:30
Ive been with my highschool love and I am 30 years old now, we have been through it all though, poverty, children, family feuds (not the show), moving cross country and recently my 3 year battle with cancer. All those things made us as strong as we are today though, but without work and cooperation with one another all its all out the window. Young love can work it just takes work.
Comment by al
2010-03-21 16:17:09
i met my husband at 17, we were married and had a child at 30, this summer we will have been together 25 years. I could never be as happy with anyone as i am with him. If it’s to be, then it will be. I also know other friends who are in similar relationships, rare but very special and yeah it takes work but its worth it!
Comment by Brie
2010-04-21 18:37:40
I have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 years old. We just had our 4 years on Saturday. I am hoping to be like the couple in the postcard someday!
Comment by Sam
2010-05-17 16:39:12
The fact that teen love isn’t statistically sound has been causing doubts and ruining my relationship for over a year.
We married at 19 and she died at 62, and we are forever in love. I’ve been alone for 3 months, and I just want to live my life so she would be proud of me.
Bill, the love you found is what we all hope to find. My parents were married 28 years before my father passed away, he was the love of her life. She says the same thing. She’s proud of you. She loves you. And you keep her alive, even though isn’t physically here anymore, through the memory of her. You give hope to us younger females that real, loving men still exist. Thank you.
Hey there, to the person who has never been kissed, not sure if that’s by choice but just wanted to give a shout out to those who may be waiting for marraige. Many of the loving old couples we see? They waited. I’m a 26 & waited till age 24 to have sex – my wedding day. Guys dumped me for it. My gfs and 2 sisters who said they’d wait 1 by 1 fell by the wayside (gave in to cultural norms cause they were “in love” with guys they no longer know). Been called sexually repressed, nun, & prude by my college track team. Pop-psychology warned me that premarital sex is healthy and necessary to ensure a couple is sexually compatible. I’m pretty and wasn’t sheltered so it was hard as I had lots of pressure, little encouragment, and not 1 roll-model -not even my mom! But my husband and I have the best sexual relationship that I know of. I am SO happy I waited for this! My married gf’s, co-workers and big sis say thier sex life is either just ok or non-existant. We have crazy hot sex all the time. Took a leap of faith but turns out sex within a real commitment like a loving marraige can be unbeleivably deep and beautiful. If you’ve never even been kissed, you have an amazing opportunity before you!
Well I never actually had a girlfriend. Girls just see me as a friend because I’m so nice. I just feel the first girl that doesn’t see me that way and if I have feelings for her would probably end up being my first. I would like to wait till marriage, but I don’t feel like I can hold out. I get really horny all the time and I just want to feel something. You’re story is really encouraging, but I don’t know…
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Comment by Jay
2010-06-05 04:06:05
Can I just say that you need to MAN UP! Im not saying it to be nasty, but you would be suprised at how many of those girls who think you are nice just got sick of waiting for you to make a move… and if my ‘nice guy’ doesnt make a move soon Im going to put him permanently into the friends basket as well!!!
Im 24, Ive never had a bf but id rather be alone then with an idiot…
I love this. And I do beleive “young love” does last, you just got to work hard and be there for eachother through everything. I have been with my boyfriend since we were in 8th grade, Im now 21 and we are planning on getting married soon. I want to grow old with him, and I know I will. =)
I thought I had found him. He convinced me to allow myself dreaming of our wedding. and then he withdrew his proposal…
maybe some people are not meant to be loved and to love.
a., everyone is meant to be loved. Even if it’s not enough, I love you. I do sincerely, and I hope you to find that to be truth. It hurts, you feel like you’re broken, but things will work out for you. Sometimes the hardest thing is just accept the love we’re given. We feel love is suppose to be this fairy tale, but it isn’t it is hard, and it is work, it takes time, and it makes us just want to give up, and cry at times. My friend told me recently about a quote she read (these are not the exact words of the original), One’s capacity for love, is as great as their capacity for hate. Just remember that there is someone out there that loves you.
I get jealous of my friends that have found their “one”. This is most of my friends and I always feel left out. I’m usually the played girl, and i’m tired of looking for love. I wish I could just find the one and be happy…
I have spent the last 6 six years HOLDING ON to NOTHING and I have no idea why. He lied to me from the very begining, and I was so desperate to be paid attention to by him I did just about anything I could just to hold on to someone. As I age I realize the days of me attracting any man those days are over .. I have spent these last 6 years praying that you would choose me or just go on your way . I love you an it tears me apart to know that yet again , I am not enough for you. Loyalty is one thing but truth is another . Why not me ? its because Im black huh? well too bad .. shes going to have your baby ? Oh I really despise you an her now .. YOU ARE A COWARD!!! an you are so lucky that I have 4 kids an no one wants me you fuckin liar … I am beautiful smart an intelligent but I dont wanna be Peggy … I wanna jump ship and completely start over but it would kill my mom for me to leave. I want a bigger house and I need a bigger vehicle and I NEED to get out of debt .. an YOU AINT /CAINT hellp me with either. So I think that if I find an old flame that things would be / will be different but you (old flame) and I have nothing in common Your conversation is BORING your jokes are not funny an your dick is small.. so I knicked it big deal you were fine actually your dick is garbage and I only suck it to get wet . I really only hang out with you because I want a break from my life. You and I willnever be together and it hurts to know that why caint you pretend to be in love with me as I want you to be ? You left me not once but twice .. how dare you say all Ihad to do was tell you I wanted to be with you? what ? fuck you man if it was that easy why didint you tell me there was the option to be with you outside of the military ..asshole I think you lie and youre just tellin me what I wanna hear ( an Ill go for it ) thats how starved for attention I am you got so much to do …huh do you ? well mike fuck you Mark fuck you an Nandi fuck you peggy fuck you Carl fuck you …I wish I could hang out with a cool girl I am tired of being broke I am so sick of not being able to afford to do anything or buy anything I am so sick of not finishing anything ..everything I want never coming to fruition.. I dont win anything not radio contests,not lottery , not a drawing, not a dime NEVER EVER notta new car NUTHING I put in for free saMPLES ONE CENT BOOKS AN NOTHING..I sign up to meet up wit a sexy older bitch that I could do nasty stuff wit I caint even git a response ti that .. I dont ave no ggod luck I never win anything. UGH
i hear what your saying about holding on to the love of your life or finding it.. i thought i found mine but now i realize it wasn’t love at all.. at least not on his part.. he was just using me for sex, money, someone to talk to and what ever else he could think of.. thing is i seen it but i made excesses for what was really happening so i wouldn’t be alone.. it makes me think “damn i did everything in my power to make it work, but the whole time it wasn’t my fault” i made myself blind but now i see.. i didn’t believe in love anymore.. well that’s what i tried to tell myself because i was hurting.. i truly believe there is true love out there.. we just got to go out and live our lives to the fullest and let it come to us.. i’ll never give up..
I found that person in the 7th grade. I am currently a sophmore in college and we just started dating. Neither of us have ever been happier. Even before dating we were best friends. I truely understood just how much I loved him when I almost lost him in a car accident. I have never felt so much physical pain then whenever I thought I lost him. My chest felt like I had the breath knocked out of me, and I wasn’t sure I could ever get it back. I don’t think I would have had he not made it.
ME TOO!!! I wish that the people that reall, truly felt this way would meet each other. Instead we unfortunatley meet people that waste out time, and sometimes….our lives!!! SAD!
I have been in love with the same man since I was 15… its been 11 yrs…we have been up and down some hard crazzy paths. I wish we had got married, but both come from broken homes so we never did. I have been sober for 4 years now ( drugs were one path we went down together)… I thought he had at least quit the hard stuff…I found it in the draw….cocaine! It took me and hr to let the powder go and shut the drawer. When I confronted him, he acted like it wasn’t a big deal. I’ve never felt soo stupid, I broke it off. I tried to get him to quit.. he doesn’t want too. I’m still in love with him! Does that ever go away?? ( I can’t go back.. the last time when we were both doing cocaine he was verbaly abusive and threatening… id cower in a corner in a corner) how do I help a man like that…. I pray he gets help everyday.
I wish i was with somebody who really loved and adored me instead of the person who I am with. I love and adore him so much. I just don’t see it in his eyes. I stay though. Because I love him.
im 15 and in want this too. i know the odds are against us, but we love each other so much and im willing to go through anything to make it work. our 6month anniversary is coming up:)
I found what I think is the love of my life, when I think of him its like something inside me melts and I cant help but smile. He left me and thats ok.. I’m still his best friend and he’s still my best friend.. and if this is how I have to spend the rest of my life I still like knowing that when he thinks of me he smiles and when I think of him I smile.. I miss him and I love him and I’ll always be there for him.
My grandparents love eachother so much after 66 years of marriage at an age of 87.. they always hold hands and always smile at eachother,, it’s kinda cute that after so long they’re still together and still love eachother
I know I’m really late replying to this, but congratulations 6 months now-days is a quite an achievement for teenagers. I’m 17, my boyfriend is 19 and we just celebrated our 7 months. If you think it is worth it, then anything is possible
The only thing that is keeping me alive is a singer who lives over 4,000 miles away in Finland, thank you Ville Valo. 3 days ago
I got up at 5:00 in the morning to go out hauling with you, not because I like lobster, but because I like you. Take the hint! 3 days ago
I had sex with my ex-boyfriend, to verify his homosexuality. I can't decide if that makes me slutty or just a good friend... 4 days ago
Im gay but I dnt know what to do cuz if theres hell i dnt wanna be in it. A girl kissed me when i was 9, Im 19 now but im lonely n confused. 4 days ago
I HATE YOU. I'm married to a wonderful, adoring person 4 days ago
we all do
me too
When my marriage of 33 years broke up, this was one of the things that I mourned — to grow old with someone I love. It still brings tears to my eyes and sorrow to my heart — but I know that this is not bad — it is OK to mourn my loss.
It’s absolutely okay to mourn your loss!
Just surround yourself with good friends! They’re fun to grow old with and make memories with too!
Just think, now you can act like one of those crazy old women [if you don't find anyone else] and just mess with people. That’s what I plan to do if I end up alone :]
I want this too.
I think I found him
I’m pretty sure I’ve found mine ,
And I’m only 16
Me too. I never thought I’d be this young and meeting someone I want to be with forever.
And I hate when people say stupid stuff about it like ,
it’s young love , it’s not gonna last etc.
NO
It’s true love (:
love is love–enjoy all the moments in it!
Statistically teen love doesn’t last. It’s not that these people are being stupid just that the odds are stacked HIGHLY against it.And I do mean ASTRONOMICALLY HIGH. I’m not saying it’s impossible mind you. I’ve meet people who have meet the love of there lives in high school just that it’s unlikely. I think you need to look realistically at this. On that note though I wish you the best of luck as young love can be so lovely.
Myself I’m still single, never dated and 21. I’m waiting with fingers crossed. I guess I’ll need a lot of luck to.
The odds are against young love. But it does last, sometimes.
Thing of it is, if you don’t try, it *wont* last.
There’s nothing quite as magical and thrilling as experiencing your first love, and for many people this happens as a teenager. Savor every moment because 20 or 30 years down the road, you’ll wish you could feel so vividly and completly enthralled with another person. Not to say that feelings or love gets watered down as we get older, it’s just that young love, or your first love, is just THAT amazing.
Good luck, Sandra. I hope you’re one of the lucky ones!
Ive been with my highschool love and I am 30 years old now, we have been through it all though, poverty, children, family feuds (not the show), moving cross country and recently my 3 year battle with cancer. All those things made us as strong as we are today though, but without work and cooperation with one another all its all out the window. Young love can work it just takes work.
i met my husband at 17, we were married and had a child at 30, this summer we will have been together 25 years. I could never be as happy with anyone as i am with him. If it’s to be, then it will be. I also know other friends who are in similar relationships, rare but very special
and yeah it takes work but its worth it!
I have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 years old. We just had our 4 years on Saturday. I am hoping to be like the couple in the postcard someday!
The fact that teen love isn’t statistically sound has been causing doubts and ruining my relationship for over a year.
i think i have too, and im 19:) (found him at 16 though)
We married at 19 and she died at 62, and we are forever in love. I’ve been alone for 3 months, and I just want to live my life so she would be proud of me.
It sounds like you were both richly blessed Bill! And I know she is proud of you. I’m into a good one for going on 27 years now.
Bill, the love you found is what we all hope to find. My parents were married 28 years before my father passed away, he was the love of her life. She says the same thing. She’s proud of you. She loves you. And you keep her alive, even though isn’t physically here anymore, through the memory of her. You give hope to us younger females that real, loving men still exist. Thank you.
I’m sorry she’s passed. Keep making her proud – carpe diem!!
Thank you Bill.
That is the finest thing I have ever read.
I wish I could have this. I’m 21 and never been kissed.
Hey there, to the person who has never been kissed, not sure if that’s by choice but just wanted to give a shout out to those who may be waiting for marraige. Many of the loving old couples we see? They waited. I’m a 26 & waited till age 24 to have sex – my wedding day. Guys dumped me for it. My gfs and 2 sisters who said they’d wait 1 by 1 fell by the wayside (gave in to cultural norms cause they were “in love” with guys they no longer know). Been called sexually repressed, nun, & prude by my college track team. Pop-psychology warned me that premarital sex is healthy and necessary to ensure a couple is sexually compatible. I’m pretty and wasn’t sheltered so it was hard as I had lots of pressure, little encouragment, and not 1 roll-model -not even my mom! But my husband and I have the best sexual relationship that I know of. I am SO happy I waited for this! My married gf’s, co-workers and big sis say thier sex life is either just ok or non-existant. We have crazy hot sex all the time. Took a leap of faith but turns out sex within a real commitment like a loving marraige can be unbeleivably deep and beautiful. If you’ve never even been kissed, you have an amazing opportunity before you!
Well I never actually had a girlfriend. Girls just see me as a friend because I’m so nice. I just feel the first girl that doesn’t see me that way and if I have feelings for her would probably end up being my first. I would like to wait till marriage, but I don’t feel like I can hold out. I get really horny all the time and I just want to feel something. You’re story is really encouraging, but I don’t know…
Can I just say that you need to MAN UP! Im not saying it to be nasty, but you would be suprised at how many of those girls who think you are nice just got sick of waiting for you to make a move… and if my ‘nice guy’ doesnt make a move soon Im going to put him permanently into the friends basket as well!!!
Im 24, Ive never had a bf but id rather be alone then with an idiot…
I love this. And I do beleive “young love” does last, you just got to work hard and be there for eachother through everything. I have been with my boyfriend since we were in 8th grade, Im now 21 and we are planning on getting married soon. I want to grow old with him, and I know I will. =)
I thought I had found him. He convinced me to allow myself dreaming of our wedding. and then he withdrew his proposal…
maybe some people are not meant to be loved and to love.
a., everyone is meant to be loved. Even if it’s not enough, I love you. I do sincerely, and I hope you to find that to be truth. It hurts, you feel like you’re broken, but things will work out for you. Sometimes the hardest thing is just accept the love we’re given. We feel love is suppose to be this fairy tale, but it isn’t it is hard, and it is work, it takes time, and it makes us just want to give up, and cry at times. My friend told me recently about a quote she read (these are not the exact words of the original), One’s capacity for love, is as great as their capacity for hate. Just remember that there is someone out there that loves you.
Realizations, thank you for your note. I really appreciate.
I get jealous of my friends that have found their “one”. This is most of my friends and I always feel left out. I’m usually the played girl, and i’m tired of looking for love. I wish I could just find the one and be happy…
I completely feel you. sometimes I mourn the fact that LOVE will never find me again. i blew the only chances I was gonna get.
I have spent the last 6 six years HOLDING ON to NOTHING and I have no idea why. He lied to me from the very begining, and I was so desperate to be paid attention to by him I did just about anything I could just to hold on to someone. As I age I realize the days of me attracting any man those days are over .. I have spent these last 6 years praying that you would choose me or just go on your way . I love you an it tears me apart to know that yet again , I am not enough for you. Loyalty is one thing but truth is another . Why not me ? its because Im black huh? well too bad .. shes going to have your baby ? Oh I really despise you an her now .. YOU ARE A COWARD!!! an you are so lucky that I have 4 kids an no one wants me you fuckin liar … I am beautiful smart an intelligent but I dont wanna be Peggy … I wanna jump ship and completely start over but it would kill my mom for me to leave. I want a bigger house and I need a bigger vehicle and I NEED to get out of debt .. an YOU AINT /CAINT hellp me with either. So I think that if I find an old flame that things would be / will be different but you (old flame) and I have nothing in common Your conversation is BORING your jokes are not funny an your dick is small.. so I knicked it big deal you were fine actually your dick is garbage and I only suck it to get wet . I really only hang out with you because I want a break from my life. You and I willnever be together and it hurts to know that why caint you pretend to be in love with me as I want you to be ? You left me not once but twice .. how dare you say all Ihad to do was tell you I wanted to be with you? what ? fuck you man if it was that easy why didint you tell me there was the option to be with you outside of the military ..asshole I think you lie and youre just tellin me what I wanna hear ( an Ill go for it ) thats how starved for attention I am you got so much to do …huh do you ? well mike fuck you Mark fuck you an Nandi fuck you peggy fuck you Carl fuck you …I wish I could hang out with a cool girl I am tired of being broke I am so sick of not being able to afford to do anything or buy anything I am so sick of not finishing anything ..everything I want never coming to fruition.. I dont win anything not radio contests,not lottery , not a drawing, not a dime NEVER EVER notta new car NUTHING I put in for free saMPLES ONE CENT BOOKS AN NOTHING..I sign up to meet up wit a sexy older bitch that I could do nasty stuff wit I caint even git a response ti that .. I dont ave no ggod luck I never win anything. UGH
i hear what your saying about holding on to the love of your life or finding it.. i thought i found mine but now i realize it wasn’t love at all.. at least not on his part.. he was just using me for sex, money, someone to talk to and what ever else he could think of.. thing is i seen it but i made excesses for what was really happening so i wouldn’t be alone.. it makes me think “damn i did everything in my power to make it work, but the whole time it wasn’t my fault” i made myself blind but now i see.. i didn’t believe in love anymore.. well that’s what i tried to tell myself because i was hurting.. i truly believe there is true love out there.. we just got to go out and live our lives to the fullest and let it come to us.. i’ll never give up..
You did not like the sex?
I found that person in the 7th grade. I am currently a sophmore in college and we just started dating. Neither of us have ever been happier. Even before dating we were best friends. I truely understood just how much I loved him when I almost lost him in a car accident. I have never felt so much physical pain then whenever I thought I lost him. My chest felt like I had the breath knocked out of me, and I wasn’t sure I could ever get it back. I don’t think I would have had he not made it.
ME TOO!!! I wish that the people that reall, truly felt this way would meet each other. Instead we unfortunatley meet people that waste out time, and sometimes….our lives!!! SAD!
I know.
Everybody else has had sexual relationships, I have not. I want to measure up to other people.
all I have ever wanted to be is to be like other people, to measure up to them.
I have been in love with the same man since I was 15… its been 11 yrs…we have been up and down some hard crazzy paths. I wish we had got married, but both come from broken homes so we never did. I have been sober for 4 years now ( drugs were one path we went down together)… I thought he had at least quit the hard stuff…I found it in the draw….cocaine! It took me and hr to let the powder go and shut the drawer. When I confronted him, he acted like it wasn’t a big deal. I’ve never felt soo stupid, I broke it off. I tried to get him to quit.. he doesn’t want too. I’m still in love with him! Does that ever go away?? ( I can’t go back.. the last time when we were both doing cocaine he was verbaly abusive and threatening… id cower in a corner in a corner) how do I help a man like that…. I pray he gets help everyday.
I wish i was with somebody who really loved and adored me instead of the person who I am with. I love and adore him so much. I just don’t see it in his eyes. I stay though. Because I love him.
me too. i feel so lonely, even when i’m surrounded by my family that loves me. i sometimes feel guilty that i don’t appreciate that love enough.
Sorry to hear that Jessi. So you really want to be with someone?
it’s not that i want to really be with someone, i just have yet to find that special someone that really gets me.
same here. i ve been single all my life and i m 21. apparently i m a real good friend, but nothing else.
im 15 and in want this too. i know the odds are against us, but we love each other so much and im willing to go through anything to make it work. our 6month anniversary is coming up:)
I found what I think is the love of my life, when I think of him its like something inside me melts and I cant help but smile. He left me and thats ok.. I’m still his best friend and he’s still my best friend.. and if this is how I have to spend the rest of my life I still like knowing that when he thinks of me he smiles and when I think of him I smile.. I miss him and I love him and I’ll always be there for him.
i want to find a guy who makes running errands together feel like winning the lottery
i know he’s out there
Me too
My grandparents love eachother so much after 66 years of marriage at an age of 87.. they always hold hands and always smile at eachother,, it’s kinda cute that after so long they’re still together and still love eachother
I know I’m really late replying to this, but congratulations
6 months now-days is a quite an achievement for teenagers. I’m 17, my boyfriend is 19 and we just celebrated our 7 months. If you think it is worth it, then anything is possible