For a split second at the altar, I wondered if I was marrying the wrong one
Now I know
I was
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did we not all do that??
I thought the same thing too…. but it turns out I married the right one.
Turns out I married the right one!!!
I havent married yet.
But that can kind of go dating wise..
I steady dated this guy for the longest of times,I thoguht he was the one..But he wasnt.
Men
ehh.
I knew he was the wrong one when I was saying my vows.
I had those same feeling and 17 years later I wish I walked……..
I broke up with my boyfriend for my now husband. At the altar I knew I asked myself if this is what I wanted… now I know that I want my ex and not my husband.
Hindsight bias?
I asked myself if I was doing the right thing when i accepted his proposal. But I wanted so badly to be married. Then when my Dad was driving me to the church, I wondered if I was doing the right thing. I thought everybody wondered these things.
4 years later I walked out. Now I’m getting a divorce.
can anybody tell me how to post a secret
i rlly cant figure it out
The night before my wedding, I called my best friend in a panic and said, “I just don’t think I can go thru with this. He’s not the right one”, into her answering machine. She didn’t get the message til she got home from my wedding. By then it was too late…he was the wrong one. Now we are divorced.
I know I didn’t marry the right one. Now I’m stuck with two great kids and I am miserable
I sat for an hour before I walked down the aisle to marry my husband worrying about if he was truly the right one for me. Now 3 years later I know I made a mistake. I wasn’t in love with my husband but I wanted to be married. I realized to late that I was still in love with someone else.
I knew I was marrying the wrong one both times i got married, and done it anyway. Now i know i’m with the one i’m supposed to be with, and i’m scared to get married again.
I never got married. In 50s now. Don’t care. No kids…I know what causes that. Yep. Then I go and meet Mr. Right just before I got laid off. Yep. An Angel came along. Thanks to the Universe…I am grateful.
Yeah, I married the right one too, but with all my heart I miss the wrong one….
At one point, I thought that all married people were miserable to some degree, and growing bored and disenchanted with each other was just a normal part of a relationship. Then I realized that I was wrong, and I just needed to break up with my boyfriend.
So I did.
This is what I’m terrified of most in the world. Sigh.
I thought I might have been marrying the wrong one. But… I’ve never been happier. He’s been my best friend for 5 years. My husband for only 6 months. I’m so happy to get the chance to grow old with him. =]
I use to have dreams about being at the back of a huge church full of guests, in full wedding gear, afraid to walk down the aisle. I would break into tears and be consoled by the man that i was to marry. I never did. Every man that wanted to marry me I ran away from.
30 years later the man that I loved from the time I was a teenager married me. I cried on my wedding night because I didn’t know if I made the right decision. I now know that I did because i don’t mind waking up with him in my bed; I just have to roll over, reach out and he is always there to love me.
I’m sorry.
I had to take drugs and drink vodka tonics to get me down the aisle. I knew I didn’t want to get married but went along with it. Then I fell really in love with him when we were married and I was glad I did it. Until he started cheating on me. I hung in there wanting to save our marriage. His cheating never ended. Our marriage did. I wish I had listened to myself from the get go and saved myself all the hurt I went through.
self punishment?
I’ve only been married over a year. i thought the same thing when i got married..i was so scared i didnt look into his eyes. now 13 months in i find out he had a gf on the side for 5 months, but now i’ve fallen completely in love with him and cant let him go.
yesterday i regretted not getting married to my ex.
it would’ve been our 1 year anniversary
as a married couple.
I have 3 great kids and a horrible husband. It sucks, and I am stuck.
I married the wrong one and I knew it. But, I met the right one and now I know that I never knew what love was, but I am learning and love is great!
I’m with a wonderful caring supportive man, I respect him and care for him dearly, I know he loves me beyond words and he would never leave me and will always do anything he can to take care of me, I know I will have a happy peaceful life with him… but I’m still scared. Is this enough? I have had feelings for someone else and it scares the hell out of me because he doesn’t treat me like my current partner does…. Please, I need some wisdom and I’m too afraid to say it out loud..
Hey,
might be u dated the wrong guy without knowing his real nature. there r men who love to die by loving their girl friend.. may be u should find one such guy so that u need not think for a moment in the altar whether he is the right one or not.
all the best for u to find the one for u..
cheers
Sadly I thought the same thing days before the wedding. And sadly, it wasn’t the right one but I married anyway cuz of all the money we spent. 4 years later we divorced.
This is like reading my own life!
Now 15 months into a marriage with the most wonderful, caring man who loves me more than anything. And it’s killing me that I can’t make myself fall in love with him.
I don’t have any wisdom I’m afraid, but maybe it helps to know you’re not the only one?
It does help to know im not alone
I have had a long hard think about it, and I’ve decided to look at it in another light. Im so lucky to have a man that adores me and puts me first in everything he does, in turn I respect him and care for him and I think that is a great foundation for a marriage.
It beats being with someone that treats you like rubbish!
I do have one question for you though… Do you regret getting married?
Sometimes I regret it and sometimes I don’t. Depends how much I’ve driven myself crazy with questions that day!
I think you’re right. If you change the way you look at things they appear in a completely different light. Most people would give anything to be with a men like ours, and we shouldn’t take that for granted. There’s just a little voice in the back of my head saying “he’s perfect, but not for me” that I don’t know if I should listen to. Does that make sense?
It makes complete sense to me…
I suppose as long as you respect and love the person then your doing the right thing.. however theres a difference between loving and being in love with someone. I have heard of people finally falling in love with their partners after many years together.. Im happy to sit and wait for that time, in the mean time he makes me laugh and makes me smile so I cant really complain…
I totally agree, and I think it would be foolish to throw away what we have. Like you I’m happy to sit and wait ’till I fall in love with him. Let’s hope that time comes for both of us. Best wishes to you, I hope everything works out!
I Cant marry her though she is haveing my kid. She will never be that one, she is Changing her self to fit a church wanting me to follow or go away. I now only care about my son. I WILL LIE TO HER till I find the right one.
I hope it all works out for you too
thanks for the chat..
This is why most people are divorced! You should never get married unless you have no doubt in your mind, that, that is who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and divorce will never be an option.
Why lie??? that’s stupid! you should never lead someone on like that. It will end up in a seriously broken heart for her. Just find a way to be honest, it will turn out way better in the end
As I was walking down the aisle, I asked myself what the hell am I doing, but I went thru with it. I stayed for 22yrs and am now finally married to MR RIGHT!!
I married him because he told me the only reason he survived two combat tour in Iraq were because of me. I cried during our vows, but told everyone it was because I was so happy. He loves me more than life itself. I felt I owed it to him to make him happy because of the ordeals he’s been through. Now he’s away on his third deployment, and I’ve fallen in love with my childhood best friend. I don’t know what I’ll do when he gets back in four months. Our two-year anniversary is in five days.
I cried during mine and told everyone they were tears of joy.
I wondered the same thing, it’s never too late to make things right. I did and am much happier for it.
i dated this guy 4 years. it was very stress filled relationship of him cheating and lying…and me forgiving everytime.he put a big rock on my finger,and we got married, even though my family could not give their blessing.we lasted a year and a half.people dont change people!!!! i must have been living a fantasy….
I cried too and postpone mine as much as I could, and there was no other one hadnt been just dont belive in tales, my parent loved each other and they still fighted for money,life isnt fair ,men and church created marrige to easy their life and reproduce .I dont like the role given , I am happy I have daughters tell them them what I think they can decide, We born one person why we have to be couple to babaysit guys???? because we now isnt reciprocated
I feel for you. I don’t have any wisdom to offer, only a friendly ear if you need one
My mom is in your shoes. I wish she would get out of the marriage. It would make her so much happier, which would make everyone happier.
It hurts your kids to see you hurting.
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My mom finally divorced my dad after 16 years. All of her kids know she did the right thing and love her for finally standing up for herself!
We all Make decisions, right or wrong. The trick to life is to be happy. Find a way to be happy. I wish you the best, I understand the situation all too well.