I am 32 and a virgin; I feel like I am less of a man than other men.

26 , on the other hand…

Nord, some of the stuff you say makes sense [ie- sex being something that must be accepted subconsciously... I learned that in psych.]and some of it is, clearly, blinded by blantant and overly forward ignorance.

Do try to keep your own warped religious opinions out of your comments. Maybe then people will actually repsect what you’re saying. Religious or not, you sound like an opinionated moron.

I can’t believe anyone in the world would think that.

You don’t see any irony in the fact that he waited, citing that he didn’t sleep with her because ‘it still didn’t feel right with her’ (i.e. not thinking about how she felt about it), and clearly getting it so completely wrong, by virtue of the fact that she clearly was ready and willing, that she was actually out there cheating on him.

This is just too funny. His lack of understanding of causality (glad I didn’t sleep with her because she was cheating on me….) is stupefying and I have to confess, highly entertaining.

Obviously, knowing that I’m pushing the buttons in your little mind too only adds to the entertainment!!

If the girl had loved him, she would never have done such a thing.
If you jump into bed with every person you go on a date with no one is special.
Waiting until you feel it’s totally right makes a huge difference. it makes that person special.

in the end, no one regrets waiting. If your man can’t deal with it, he’s the wrong man for the deed anyway.

Whatever you choose in the end, just be safe! and don’t do anything that isn’t going to make you happy.

This is between a 15 year old girl and her boyfriend. End of story. God, or more specifically, people’s impressions of God only serve to muddy the water with unsubstantiated claims and misinformation.

Either A) sex is important, in which case, you need to test the product before you buy it (for life), or B) sex isn’t important, in which case, well, um.

There is no B.

Withholding sex is grounds for divorce, after all.

The VAST majority of people on this planet have health sexual relations, don’t have massive hangups about it one way or the other and just get on with their lives, recognising that sex is dangerous, but only if treated carelessly, much like a car. Sex is the most instinctive of all our endeavours, is vital to our survival and can be a source of immense pleasure, whatever your age. Best of all, it’s completely natural. In fact, the only un-natural part of your comment was the reference to God and marriage, both of which are, of course, man-made. To limit sex to marriage only denies it’s ability to provide pleasure to both parties and reducing it to a functional baby-producing activity.

As for ‘pain you have never know existed’, how about the 17 year old girl who is terrified she’ll die a virgin because she has leukaemia? I have known one, so this is not just an analogy.

All you really indicate here is that YOU made some bad choices which resulted in you becoming a religious nut (sorry, I meant ‘child of god’). The Christian Church’s attitude to sex is one of the most warped and damaging influences in the world, simultaneously destroying the confidence and independence of children and teenagers the world over whilst physically destroying everyone else (no condoms allowed. Got AIDS? Still no condoms…who really thinks this is sensible advice?).

en garde!

Secondly, one of the ‘must have’ items in your check list for a partner has got to be chemical compatibility. I have been head over heels for girls before only to find that just kissing them is enough to put me off. This is something totally out of your control and you simply cannot know your sexual compatibility with someone until you actually sleep with them.

You know what? I’ve just realised quite how futile my words are, against the brainwashing of the religious busybodies. If it genuinely feels right for you (and think long and hard about whether it’s what YOU want, or those around you want for you), then knock yourself out, but you will almost certainly regret it in the long run.

And to those who would say it, no, I’m not advocating rushing out and grabbing the nearest heartbeat as soon as you turn 12.

he obviously likes the slutty girls.

He seems a bit of a saint for insisting on waiting though, so maybe he is gay!

And Chad, since when did sex = pregnancy? That’s like saying water = drowning beer = alcoholism. It’s treating people like idiots that removes responsibility from them and ultimately results in them behaving exactly the way you were trying to avoid.

Have sex, loads of it, just use sensible precautions.

Also, You shouldn’t be encouaging a 15 year old to wish her 16th birthday would come faster, but letting her know it “it hurts the first few times.” Imaature kids.

kids these days are crying every weekend about who they had sex with when they were “smashed, hammered, bombed” cherish being a virgin.

Until then, please come and give ME a blow job.

..nice guy…seriously ladies???

I don’t know anyone who regrets waiting. Only people who regret not waiting.

I don’t have that man yet cuz I’m holding out for something better than the boys around me

I truly believe good things come to those who wait

IF HE’S WAITING, IT PROBABLY MEANS HE’S A REALLY GREAT GUY WHO ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT YOU!!!!

Aside from the whole age of consent thing, You might look back on it some day and be glad you waited. And you might see that he asked you to wait for just that reason.

I want to make it perfectly clear that I do not believe you need to be married to sleep with the person you love. I do personally believe that if you wait for your first time to be with someone you love, and who respects you, you’re likely to have fewer regrets about it.

And never think that sex is the only way to express love. That has been the downfall of many great relationships in my experience. Love is much, much more than physical affection.

If you love him, tell him Show him by being there for him, by supporting him, by making him laugh and smile and feel cared for.
And always remember you deserve all those things in return as well.