I’m tired of waiting for my birthday
I’m tired of waiting for my birthday because the only way
I can show him I love him
Is to give him my virginity
But he won’t let me until I’m 16
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Sex hurts the first few times. A lot.
Not if you’re ready.
Er, yes, even if you’re ready. Physical facts aren’t changed by psychology, at least not to that extent.
haha, yea, it does hurt the first few times. gets much better
Really? It hurts the first time no matter what? Interesting. Guess I must have been hallucinating my first time or something. Or maybe it wasn’t my actual first time?
My first time didnt hurt, either.
Neither did mine.
Mine hurt a lot – but girls are biult differently, I guess. Some bigger than others… or something.
guys are built differently too…
A lot of people lose their hymen due to sports when they’re younger or other anomalies, so it doesn’t ALWAYS hurt the first time, just if you still have a hymen.
Mine didn’t hurt either.
actually, no. it doesn’t hurt if you start with smaller things first… like fingering, masturbation, small dildos and vibrators to stretch out your skin and muscles… which is smart anyways. why jump into the riskiest thing first?! jeeeze, people, get educated before you try to give advice to people who wanna hop on it.
you’re right. and i like your title.
that is the worse way to show love. enjoy labor..
I agree, that isn’t showing love at all. That is just using your body. Good for him for not taking advantage of that though, and keeping himself out of jail…
Disagree: she is undoubtably giving him what he wants most (unless he’s gay).
He seems a bit of a saint for insisting on waiting though, so maybe he is gay!
And Chad, since when did sex = pregnancy? That’s like saying water = drowning beer = alcoholism. It’s treating people like idiots that removes responsibility from them and ultimately results in them behaving exactly the way you were trying to avoid.
Have sex, loads of it, just use sensible precautions.
That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. Sex is the ultimate way to show love, by sharing something so private of yourself with another person. It’s only the worst way to show love if you do it to if you’re not doing it for love.
I can’t believe anyone in the world would think that.
I Hope Jesus helps you see the way.
Until then, please come and give ME a blow job.
I think that if I could, I would take back that I lost mine at 14. Love shouldn’t have to be shown by having sex. It’s a special thing you share with the one that you marry. If he loved you the way he says he does, then he should respect you, and not make you have sex with him just to show that you love him back. It’s sad, and I want to just remind guys that it isn’t all about sex.
It’s not all about sex, but do you think your husband would still have married you had you been an inexperienced puritanical virgin (one can only assume not, as you have been a totally different person).
he obviously likes the slutty girls.
I think that if I could, I would take back that I lost mine at 14. Love shouldn’t have to be shown by having sex. It’s a special thing you share with the one that you marry. If he loved you the way he says he does, then he should respect you, and not make you have sex with him just to show that you love him back. It’s sad, and I want to just remind guys that it isn’t all about sex.
Also, You shouldn’t be encouaging a 15 year old to wish her 16th birthday would come faster, but letting her know it “it hurts the first few times.” Imaature kids.
this is really a reply to Nord.
Just because you like banging girls for the hell of it doesn’t mean everyone does and it doesn’t mean every guy falls for girls if they give it up more. Mine didn’t and I know many who would punch you in the face just for saying that. So, take your predetermined solutions and opinons and shove them up your ass where they can be found by someone who obviously agrees
Am i the only one who thinks its sad that the only way this person can feel like they are showing affection is by going at it?
I think that is just sad. Maybe I’m a romantic, but Really?
Also, if he is waiting til you are 16 (which here at least is the age of consent) then he is a good guy.
i think that’s pretty sad as well..
I completely agree. you do not need to have sex with someone because you love them.
love should be shown by what you say to eachother- what you are willing to do for eachother when the other needs you. Supporting each other.
I couldn’t agree more.
I’m saving myself for marriage. Sex and love don’t have to intersect. In fact, I find love is shown better through not having sex, because it shows your commitment. Giving your virginity to someone isn’t the only way you can show someone you love them.
To the girl who posted this secret, losing your virginity should something you do when you’re ready, not something you do for someone else. If he’s waiting for you, he’s a good guy.
I agree 100%. I’m saving my virginity till marriage. I respect my body and would never let a guy take advantage of it. A virgin is pure inside and out. Most guys I’ve met in my life dream of one thing and that is marrying a virgin. He is a good guy for waiting till you turn 16, but he will be an even better guy if he waits longer than that.
Wow, so judgmental! Are you saying that people who have sex before marriage do not respect themselves? You are insulting most (90%) Americans… There is a lot more a man should seek in a partner other than a piece of skin between her legs!! I respect your decision to do (or not do) whatever you please with your body, that is the true mark of self respect. But there are many different ways to do that, outside your narrow-minded vision of the world. I think the key is to have sex only if you are interested in the act of sex. It’s something you do for yourself, not to please someone or get their affection. I never felt that men giving me multiple orgasms were taking advantage of me! I became sexually active at 17, I was more than ready and I never regretted it. It hurt (and bled!) the first few times, then it became really really awesome. I always did it responsibly (use protection!!! not negotiable), and it became something I did for myself, because it felt good and I enjoyed feeling close and intimate to someone I liked or loved (for tons of reasons other than sex), and we enjoyed pleasing each other. Mostly though, it was a gift I made to my body, for my own selfish little self.
Marie;; Props to you.
I don’t think either of them were being judgemental or narrow minded. They were just voicing their opinions, as you did yours. Sex doesn’t have to be saved for marriage, most religious people think it’s a Law, but there is not one verse in the Bible saying so. It’s more of a statement. However, being a follower of Christ, I’ve been having sex with my boyfriend for the past 3 years. We waited until it was something special we wanted to share together. I won’t regret it if we break up but I think a person’s virginity is the best gift you can give someone. Make sure the RIGHT person though, because you can’t re-give it.
The whole ‘no sex before marriage’ is totally and fundamentally flawed as an approach. Firstly, it means you have literally zero experience of what will be a major part of your married life. If he is the same, then you will both most likely miss out on most of the fun, as you won’t know what you’re doing (sex IS a skill, one that you certainly do get better at over time). The alternative is that you will go at it like rabbits and be thinking,’why, oh, why, did I deprive myself of one of the most pleasurable aspects of life for so long?’
Secondly, one of the ‘must have’ items in your check list for a partner has got to be chemical compatibility. I have been head over heels for girls before only to find that just kissing them is enough to put me off. This is something totally out of your control and you simply cannot know your sexual compatibility with someone until you actually sleep with them.
You know what? I’ve just realised quite how futile my words are, against the brainwashing of the religious busybodies. If it genuinely feels right for you (and think long and hard about whether it’s what YOU want, or those around you want for you), then knock yourself out, but you will almost certainly regret it in the long run.
And to those who would say it, no, I’m not advocating rushing out and grabbing the nearest heartbeat as soon as you turn 12.
No, you’re not the only person who thinks that. I agree. I waited until I was married for my wife. That’s how I showed her that I *really* loved her. I respected her and cherished her so much that she was worth the wait for me. That is real love.
And, no, he’s not “a good guy.” He’s a user just like everyone else. He is just not stupid enough to get in trouble over it. He’s probably already using some other girl who’s over 16.
Why judge this man when you yourself were obviously good enough to respect your wife? Do you think you’re the only good guy out there who isn’t driven by his penis?
Wow I can’t believe it was actually a MAN who pointed this out. Being a woman, my very first thought was the the guy ‘won’t let her until she’s 16′ because he doesn’t want to be leave himself open to a rape allegation.
..nice guy…seriously ladies???
omg thank you. someone finally said it. hes not a good guy for waiting until shes 16. he doesnt want to run the risk of getting in trouble. trust me i lost my virginity to someone a few years older than me when i was 16. it was the stupidest desicion i ever made. he told me he loved me and after we did it if ound out he was using me to get a virgin. so let me be ther first to say having sex with someone is NOT the way to prove that you love them!
Although I dunno, waiting until JUST 16 seems kind of scary either way. Lost mine at 16 and think it was way too early anyway.
Aside from all the religious comments, if sex is the only way to show you love someone, then you need to revisit the definition of love and how you express it. Whether or not you wait, or at what age you have it, sex is not the only way to show someone you love them. Go ahead and have sex, just make sure it’s not because you know no other way to express love.
Oops, stupid iPhone made it a reply. It was supposed to be a general comment, not specific to yours. My bad! :S
No you are not alone that is sad
Wow… girls are stupid these days. it doesnt matter your age or “to show you love him” its more about the love for one another. if he asks, hes a bad guy. if you ask and he says no, respect it, GOOD guy! but come on you stupid little girl. why would you WANT to give it to someone just by an AGE!? people like this dont understand that its something that can be done once in a lifetime.
kids these days are crying every weekend about who they had sex with when they were “smashed, hammered, bombed” cherish being a virgin.
I think 16 is kind of young to have sex.
You should be able to show love in a different way.
If you can’t…maybe it’s not love.
Until the 20th Century most women had children before they were 16…….In fact most were married by 12.
this is modern times,
society had changed so that children can not be married to men.
16 is not too young to have sex; it’s nothing else than her own decision. And by the way, having sex with someone under the age of consent – even if you’re older – is in most countries “allowed”, as the law exists normally for greater gaps between the ages, not like 15 and 17.
Still statutory rape :/
Maybe he’s not waiting due to laws, maybe for maturity? Every person grows in their own time and maybe he sees she’s not actually ready for it yet. Maybe he’s too scared and is using her age as a excuse?
Trust me, the wait will be worth it…I only wish I had
Sex is the highest degreef love you can sow for a person in my mind, and if he is making you wait, then he truly is a good guy. It is worth the wait for someone you truly love. I wish I had waited.
If he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t make you wait.
He must really love you.(:
Or is afraid of getting a sexual crime put on him for statutory rape. I knew a guy who had sex with an underage girl, just weeks before her birthday. Her folks found out and charged him. Now he can’t be a teacher like he wanted to because schools don’t look to kindly on a sexual crimes, they don’t need to know the details, they just need to see that the crime was committed, she may have consented but it’s still a mark on his record FOREVER. Don’t always mistake love for self preservation and selfish motivations…which could be the case.
If he really loved you, he would believe you and not make you have sex with him. Trust me, you’ll regret it if you find that you two are not really in love.
Ahhh, Everstrike. Did you read the postcard? She doesn’t indicate she doesn’t want to have sex with him, just that he won’t with her. Kinda the polar opposite to what you said.
en garde!
you do not need to give him your virginity to show him you love him. there are so many other ways. and the fact that he wants you to wait means a lot in itself
yeah, it means he doesn’t wanna get taken off to jail. Stop being naive.
Sex does one of two things, brings you closer together or rips you apart and destroys everything in its path. I speak to you now whoever sent this secret, if I am a child of God and if you are as well, You will feel pain like you have never known to exists. WAIT till you are married
Thank you for leaving a beautiful comment like that. I couldnt agree more.
Ahh if only
Decided that this was a good idea and to hold off until then.
I was never one of those people who really believed one had to wait until marriage. But after the experience, I understood how it was an absolute expression of love. Sex is giving EVERYTHING of yourself to that person. Waiting is worth it, if you are, as you say, in love.
And this is not for any religious reason.
That has got to be the most selfish, self-righteous, misleading and fundamentally…fundamental thing I have EVER heard anyone say.
The VAST majority of people on this planet have health sexual relations, don’t have massive hangups about it one way or the other and just get on with their lives, recognising that sex is dangerous, but only if treated carelessly, much like a car. Sex is the most instinctive of all our endeavours, is vital to our survival and can be a source of immense pleasure, whatever your age. Best of all, it’s completely natural. In fact, the only un-natural part of your comment was the reference to God and marriage, both of which are, of course, man-made. To limit sex to marriage only denies it’s ability to provide pleasure to both parties and reducing it to a functional baby-producing activity.
As for ‘pain you have never know existed’, how about the 17 year old girl who is terrified she’ll die a virgin because she has leukaemia? I have known one, so this is not just an analogy.
All you really indicate here is that YOU made some bad choices which resulted in you becoming a religious nut (sorry, I meant ‘child of god’). The Christian Church’s attitude to sex is one of the most warped and damaging influences in the world, simultaneously destroying the confidence and independence of children and teenagers the world over whilst physically destroying everyone else (no condoms allowed. Got AIDS? Still no condoms…who really thinks this is sensible advice?).
“In fact, the only un-natural part of your comment was the reference to God and marriage”
Nord, some of the stuff you say makes sense [ie- sex being something that must be accepted subconsciously... I learned that in psych.]and some of it is, clearly, blinded by blantant and overly forward ignorance.
Do try to keep your own warped religious opinions out of your comments. Maybe then people will actually repsect what you’re saying. Religious or not, you sound like an opinionated moron.
I agree with this… fortunately, my first time was at 21 with the right person, and I haven’t had to go through the self-torture and scarring that so many other people go through at earlier ages. So think about it: it took me until I was 21 to find the right guy, 21 years for me to find the right guy that I could go through this special act with with 0 inhibition and 0 regrets. It’s only made us closer and more in love with each other. I can’t imagine how awkward and uncomfortable it would be with someone that wasn’t. I have no regrets about waiting until I was 21, which is considered “old” in many Western countries. Please wait until you’re older and absolutely sure.
wait… it doesnt necessarily have to be til you’re married… but wait …. it’ll be worth it
I agree with what so many people here have already said. First, he is a true gentleman if he wants to wait. Sex is something that needs to be cherished and should only be shared between two people who truly love and need each other. Once you begin to give that away, it becomes meaningless. What will you have one day for someone else, in case things don’t end up working out with this guy? There are so many ways to show a person that you love them aside from having sex.
My fiance and I have been together for over 3 years now and still haven’t. Yes, it is difficult sometimes, but I prefer it that way over the pain I have seen my friends go through. People are always saying how jealous they are of our relationship. It is because we love each other and find ways to cherish our love outside of sex.
I’m 15 and I had sex alreaddy,
Make sure your readdy 1000000000000%
& make sure the condom won’t break and get you pregnant and ruin your life like me.
i feel sorry for you!
what a lesson…
If you think you have to have sex with him to prove you love him, you’re not mature enough for sex.
I think I couldn’t agree more ..
Most sensible thing anyone’s said on here so far.
definitnely.
You’re stupid.
I think that that in itself shows that he genuinely cares for you, and that’s as real as it gets. if you’re basing your whole relationship with him on sex, then i think you should know, although i dont know specific statistics, that sex isnt all its cracked up to be for a huge populaton of women, and this guy must know that. communicate how you feel to him, but respect his feelings and keep it special.
The only reason sex is bad for so many women is because people don’t know what they are doing, and they don’t take the time to do any research or talk to their partner honestly about what they like. Seriously, a little online searching about how to make a woman orgasm is all it takes.
That’s not true. For several years I searched for love through sex. I first had sex at 14, but when I turned 17 and joined the services is when it got into full swing. Between 17 and 20 I was with about 30 guys, many of them knew exactly what they were doing, but it just left me feeling empty and dirty. Now that I’m 21 and have found the one man that I truly love with all my heart and soul, I wish I could take it all back and wait for only him. To this day I still sometimes have issues having sex and it feeling right, and I’ve been with only him for over half a year. Please, don’t make the mistake I did. Sex is not love, not to anyone in today’s world. It’s just a recreation. Many of them “felt” like “the one” and I just wanted them to love me back. But now I KNOW I’ve found “the one” and my past hurts us both. Save it and wait until you’re an adult. If he truly loves you, he’ll understand.
i don’t think she was talking about waiting for sex, she was talking about making some one orgasm.
I understand that, I was just saying that it’s not always the case. Even if it feels amazingly pleasurable to your body, your mind can make it the worst experience ever.
Women play at sex because they want love and men play at love because they want sex.
i lost it at 15 to my now best friend. so i cant complain about the age.
but seriously, if you think that the only way you can “prove your love” to him is by sleeping with him, i suggest waiting longer. sex doesnt prove love, it proves lust. he should know you love him from your touch, your kiss. sex shouldnt make the love “official”, the feeling you get when you even hold hands should, the feeling in your hearts. that’s love. sex isnt.
I understand how you feel. Its hard to say in words. From what I gather, shes not just with him for the sex, and he is a decent guy for making her wait. I lost my virginity when I was 16, and I have never, EVER regretted it. It wasn’t until I lost it, that I realized that it honestly wasn’t even a big deal to me. And, everyone is different, so I would expect you to feel differently.
She just wants to cement her feels for him, to prove to him that she loves him. Actions speak louder then words, after all.
I was in this same situation. My girlfriend became obsessed with the idea of losing her virginity and I told her that I loved her but I would not do anything until we were both 16. She promised she would wait too. She broke her promise with someone else. I don;t regret my decision.
Don’t push him. He’s making you wait because he cares about you more than anything.
having sex doesnt show that you love him and it sure won’t keep him around.
In fact, it’s a good test. If he stays around afterwards, he really does love you! But you won’t know until it’s too late…..
Honey, there are so many more ways to show him you love him than by giving him your virginity. You could make one of his favorite foods. Do one of his favorite (non-sexual
) activites with him. Think about why you love him, and tell him that. Hug him when you first see him, when you part, and every other chance you get in between. Rent one of his favorite movies and watch it with him.
Please, please don’t feel like sex is all you can offer in a relationship–you have so much more to give than that!
All the best,
J
I have to agree whole heartedly with this. Sex is such a touchy thing with me and my boyfriend because of my past. We both have trust issues. His ex-wife cheated on him and they were married for less than a year. We’re working on sex being an expression of love between us, but it’s the little things that we do for eachother that have really allowed us to work through our problems and grow stronger together in our love. We even made a deal not to have sex for a period of time. The best thing you can do to show you love him is to always be there for him, when he needs you and when he doesn’t; to constantly think of him and show him; to just hang out doing things that you both like to do, or just gritting your teeth and suffering through that movie he really wants to see but you would rather ram your head into the wall for the two hours.
Those are the things that will really show him your love.
Most people lose theirs near 16. It’s natural given the time and not something to be ashamed of. If you don’t want to wait till marriage then don’t, some people prefer that, more often people don’t. If you are ready and he’s ready go for it. Just be sure to please wear a condom!
maybe you should find a better way to show your love.
i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time when i was seventeen…because i LOVED him. not because i felt i needed to prove anything. you’ll know when you’re really ready.
If you realy want it… do it. Love don’t need such proof as sex. If you think that after this something will change…hardly.
If there’s any grammar mistakes – sorry, my inglish is no well as I want.
Having sex doesn’t prove your love. This is a baaaaadddddd idea.. I did it at 17 because I was in love. I spent the next 9 months being angry at myself… after that, it was getting up in the middle of the night with a crying baby, changing diapers, missing fun times with friends… no high school graduation, no prom.. no daddy… TRUST ME, no matter how much you believe he’s a good guy… He WILL bail when you get pregnant. And you will. Because you aren’t thinking. Good luck.
Yeah, and some people know how to use contraception.
This just means don’t be a moron, use a condom, not don’t have sex.
hah it always reduces to some childish argument… did anyone think that maybe not everyone’s body is the same? girls’ vaginas are all different… and so are boys’ penises… so maybe it does hurt for some… and not for others :O
I usually don’t comment on these but being a guy we seem to get pressured to have sex as soon as we can. Its like to be a true man you gotta have sex before your 12(im exaggerating by the way). I waited till i was 20 and even though i had a girlfriend for 3 years before, it still didn’t feel right with her so i never did it and yeah i got made fun of but i gotta say i am so happy i waited cause that girl had been cheating on me anyway and now im with the girl of my dreams. Im not saying your too young or anything but you might not be mature enough yet to realize what you might be getting yourself into. At the same time if you truly feel its right then i say no one can judge you for it because maybe he is the one but you gotta go with your instincts even if it means getting made fun of a little for not giving that up to the first guy you think you love or that you think loves you.
You ever think she may have been cheating on you because she was needed and wanted sex and you wouldn’t give it to her?
Withholding sex is grounds for divorce, after all.
Nord you are a jerk.
If the girl had loved him, she would never have done such a thing.
If you jump into bed with every person you go on a date with no one is special.
Waiting until you feel it’s totally right makes a huge difference. it makes that person special.
sarcasm/irony aren’t your forte, are they Katie?
You don’t see any irony in the fact that he waited, citing that he didn’t sleep with her because ‘it still didn’t feel right with her’ (i.e. not thinking about how she felt about it), and clearly getting it so completely wrong, by virtue of the fact that she clearly was ready and willing, that she was actually out there cheating on him.
This is just too funny. His lack of understanding of causality (glad I didn’t sleep with her because she was cheating on me….) is stupefying and I have to confess, highly entertaining.
Obviously, knowing that I’m pushing the buttons in your little mind too only adds to the entertainment!!
if the only way of showing him you love him is by having sex with him, it’s not love and will never be. sure, he wants you to wait until you’re sixteen, but still. sex does not equal love and you shouldn’t feel pressured to do it or keep waiting anxiously for your 16th birthday to do it. i lost it when i was 16 and regret it all the time. hopefully you can realize this before you make a mistake that you’ll regret forever.
I feel that sex does one of two things. Brings you closer together or destroys everything! In your case yougn one, it will destroy everything. You still yougn and in some adults eyes a baby. So say you get pregnant, now you turn into a statistic of society, the term would easily be said, “Babies makeing Babies” Wait till your married and if you dont want you till your 18. The emotional pain you will go through if you do it this early will ripe your heart apart.
if you really believe the only way to show him you love him is through sex, then you probably aren’t mature enough mentally for it.
there are lots and lots of ways to show him you love him.
bake him cookies for crying out loud!
Yummy
I really hate that sex still equals love in so many eyes.
He’ll take your virginity, and then dump you, to take the next girl’s.
I don’t understand why some people thinks this guy really loves her.
16 is probably the consent age for him to have sex with her, so for his own safety, he’s making her wait.
But to give her the ultimatum of giving up her virginity?
That’s not the way. She doesn’t HAVE to give up her virginity to prove that she loves him. There’s so much more to love than sex. Sex maybe a form to express love. It is not anywhere near something that would prove one’s love for another.
She should make her decision of having sex by being ready for it, not doing it because only then will he believes that she loves him. All for the wrong reason.
why is everyone so damn set on him being at fault, itsas if you’re all projecting what you think of men onto him. he is doing the right thing by waiting untill it isn’t considered statutory rape, and for the people who aren’t bible bashers 16 is a common age to loose your virginity. I lost mine at 14 to the man I am still with, before him I hadn’t done anything more then kiss anyone else. I’m not saying it is right for her to believe the only way to express her love is through sex (and it isn’t), or that they should have sex. I don’t know them, or him, or the situation. what I’m saying is none of us really know the relationship so why should we put them under a category when we don’t even know them.
grow up girl!
there are other ways to show love!!!
blow jobs, hand jobs and anal also work pretty well!!
Age aint nothing but a number here in Mexico.
if he doesnt wanna have sex, its probably bc hes waiting for you to lose weight.
hit a gym.
ur so stupid
if he wont have sex with you its clearly cause he’s bangin’ someone else
so tell him to give me a call
ha ha
No, no, no. It’s not that that is the only way. SHE feels as though he will not understand how much or that she truly loves him unless this happens.
I don’t think sex means love. I’ve never had sex, but this is how I think of it: Sex is something people have when they are already deeply in love. It’s just a way to get more intimate/closer at that point. You shouldn’t have sex with someone until you love them so much that you would be happy if you could never do anything but hold his/her hand for the rest of your life. When sex no longer mattters except as a way to get closer, then I think you’re ready. Don’t just do it because you think it’s the best way to show love.
Can it not just be for fun? I have ex’s who are very good friends who I’ve had the odd fling with. Nothing taken too seriously by anyone and a lot of fun had by all. Some fantastic memories, some relationships made closer and no harm done. Sex is like a car: it can seriously enhance your life or kill you stone dead. The choice is very much in your hands.
There are other ways to show someone you love them, but I suppose if you really love someone and if you know that you’re going to be with them for a while and you know you won’t regret it later on…then why not have sex? As long as you’re comfortable with them and you know you’re ready, then go for it. I was totally comfortable with my boyfriend to have sex with him and lose my virginity. Because I knew with him, even after we had sex, that just kissing or holding hands or laying down would be enough for him.
Okay, I know this has probably been covered in the dozens and dozens of comments already posted. But here it goes.
IF HE’S WAITING, IT PROBABLY MEANS HE’S A REALLY GREAT GUY WHO ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT YOU!!!!
Aside from the whole age of consent thing, You might look back on it some day and be glad you waited. And you might see that he asked you to wait for just that reason.
I want to make it perfectly clear that I do not believe you need to be married to sleep with the person you love. I do personally believe that if you wait for your first time to be with someone you love, and who respects you, you’re likely to have fewer regrets about it.
And never think that sex is the only way to express love. That has been the downfall of many great relationships in my experience. Love is much, much more than physical affection.
If you love him, tell him Show him by being there for him, by supporting him, by making him laugh and smile and feel cared for.
And always remember you deserve all those things in return as well.
Sex will be the final way of me expressing my love for my man. I will first show him love in many other ways, pledge my lifelong love to him in front of family and friend, then on our wedding night, we can experience a new style of love.
I don’t know anyone who regrets waiting. Only people who regret not waiting.
I don’t have that man yet cuz I’m holding out for something better than the boys around me
I truly believe good things come to those who wait
And what happens if you’re not sexually compatible? What happens if you find out too late that the guy you’re going to spend the rest of your life with has a tiny winkie?
Either A) sex is important, in which case, you need to test the product before you buy it (for life), or B) sex isn’t important, in which case, well, um.
There is no B.
nothing like a great blow job every day……and remember the bird of love is not the dove its the swallow
sounds more like lust than love.
confusing, much.
I lost my virginity when I was 15 and I realize now that I should have waited. Sex is not love. And everyday, I wish I could have the days with my boyfriend that all came before the sex.
your virginity is a much bigger deal than you know it is or want it to be
i’m not saying wait til marriage but wait until you’re old enough and wise enough to realize how important it really is- you can lose your virginity whenever you want to but you can never get it back
girlfriend, that is not the only way to show a man that you love him. and if that’s what he is making you believe, he does not really love you.
Whenever you try to define “love” that is when you lose it. Love is unique and special unto each person. Go with your feelings, but make sure it is YOUR feelings that your following not something society has made you believe.
Having sex with someone isn’t the way to show them that you love them. :/
Mine didn’t hurt my first time, it depends on your body. And I am almost positive that there are other ways to show him you love him, trust me, it’s better if you wait a while that way you are 100% sure you won’t regret it. I am not telling you to wait until you are married, but wait a little longer than until you are 16. I lost mine at 17, and I kind of wish I had waited longer because I ended up getting screwed over by the guy I thought loved me. Just think about it
You are Gods child. He loves you. No matter what. If i could go back, take back the things i have done. i would do it in a heartbeat. Dont sell yourself short. If he loves you. He will wait.
Um, forgive me if I’m out of line here, but what on EARTH has this got to do with God?
This is between a 15 year old girl and her boyfriend. End of story. God, or more specifically, people’s impressions of God only serve to muddy the water with unsubstantiated claims and misinformation.
I think it’s admirable that he put a time frame like that on it. Most guys around your age would just be gunning to get laid. I think it shows that he respects you, wants to make sure you’re ready, and wants to make sure that you are sure it’s what you want. He might be worth hanging on to. Even if it doesn’t work out in the long run, at least it seems he genuinely cares for you.
i lost my virginity at 15 and i never regret it. Maybe some people have different ways of seeing it, but i knew i was ready to have sex. Even though the guy was some what of a jerk i’m NOT emotionally damaged or scarred for life just because i gave him my virginity. Sex was something i did for myself not for someone else. I’m not a slut, i don’t sleep around i’m now 19 and i’ve only had sex with 3 people all of them were serious boyfriends. If you’re ready now, you’re ready now, but you can’t say “its the only way to show him that i love him” that really proves that you are not ready. so its good that he’s making you wait til you’re 16. As for everyone else theres no right or wrong way to view sex people see it how they see it and if some people think pre marrital sex is wrong then thats their perogative the trick is not pushing you’re opinions in peoples faces in an obnoxious way.
Sex is the cat’s pajamas.
but the younger you start, the more partners you’ll likely have in your life.
and so you have a heightened chance of picking something up.
My husband has had a half dozen partners and it ended up getting him into trouble.
in the end, no one regrets waiting. If your man can’t deal with it, he’s the wrong man for the deed anyway.
Whatever you choose in the end, just be safe! and don’t do anything that isn’t going to make you happy.
Oh honey! You’re so young! Sex is NOT the only way to show you love someone! It’s not even the BEST way to show someone you love them! I hope you wait longer… I hope you’re not hurt…
There are other ways to show love other than having intercourse. I hope that you can find other ways to love and be loved. If your partner is the one saying this to you then they might not be the right one for you right now (but you probably wouldn’t see that until afterwards). Make the right decision for YOU! Best wishes.
It’s really sad that you think that’s the only way to prove your love for him… good luck to you both… your future sounds bleak.
And so you know, I say this because I did something similar when I was 16. It was the biggest mistake of my life and 4 years later I regret it every day… and so does my fiance. You’re ruining your future before it’s even started. And if that’s really how your boyfriend needs to know you love him, then there is no love in his heart.
For real if he needs to see that you really love him by giving it up. Your with the wrong guys. He should respect you enough to understand that your not ready.
That’s not the way to show someone you love them…
I like how everyone is bashing on the guy here, when he’s not the one in the wrong. He’s MAKING her wait (‘but he won’t let me until I’m 16′), which is something that is actually VERY noble, in my opinion. He could’ve been some asshole that lets his 13 year old girlfriend give up her virginity to him and then leaves her a couple weeks later like someone I know. :\