i secretly hate my friends
i secretly hate my friends, its hard having friends 1/2 your size
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I know how you feel…
especially when they moan on and on about how they need to lose just 5 more pounds to fit into that size 2.
I hate going shopping with my best friend when she complains because she’s lost more weight and can now fit into a size 1. I wish.
i know exactly how you feel :/
I understand where you are comming from. However, I am a small size (size 3) And I do not feel comfortable. I wish to gain more weight. I feel like I look unhealthy. It doesn’t matter how much I eat-I can’t gain weight. I try, believe me. Maybe your friend wants to be more like you-more than you know.
I agree. and Danyelle, i am the same.
Now, don’t wish to be tiny like your friends, considering you may be completely unaware of how self conscious they may be. i know, that maybe you have self esteem issues because you’re slightly larger but they probably feel bad about themselves as well. you should know there are probably tons of girls who would kill for your beautiful full out figure. nobody likes to be larger, and nobody likes to too slim either. we all just want the perfect body, and i know everyone has an idea about the body they want, and who has the perfect body. but the truth is, there are VERY few people who feel comfortable about their size. Nobody these days understands that everyone’s different, and beautiful. in their own way.
so do I! people are always like YOURE SO SKINNY! and im like I KNOW. i feel like people think im anorexic or some shit like that. i don’t try, i just am!
Oh God, this is practically my life. Especially when they all say that you’re not fat, they’re fat, and you are literally twice their weight. It’s the worst feeling in the world.
i know exactly what you mean.
sometimes i want to tell them to put a sock in it.
and sometimes i really want to hurt them because they’re thin and healthy and i am not…
Hurt them? That’s a bit extreme.
don’t hate your friends because they’re not overindulgent gluttonous slobs like you. harboring resentment towards others just because YOU have no self control is asinine. you hate your friends because you hate yourself! who’s holding the gun to your head? just put the damn fork down.
I see where your coming from but I think a lot of the people here aren’t in that sort of situation but are just simply ‘average’ weight and their friends abnormally under that. I’m from Australia so the sizes are different but the norm is around size 10-12, which I am a part of. My friends on the other hand are sizes 4-8, it’s not that they are underweight-they eat an awful lot more junk than me and exercise considerably less- that is simply their size. I think ‘healthy’ is more of an ideal to strive towards than putting an emphasis on sizes- although I fall into the same mind set as most here.
I agree..”healthy” is definitely the ideal to strive for…Unfortunately, especially here in the United States, “healthy” and “average” are not equivalent. About 65% of Americans are clinically overweight… So if more than half of the United States is fat, the perception of “average” changes… & I was responding to the girl who made the postcard…If you are twice as large as all of your friends, you are probably overweight! Come on! & I can’t stand any of this naturally thin/ naturally fat bullshit…That’s so convenient. This is coming from a girl with obese people in her immediate family. The difference between me and them? Self control! Interestingly enough…The obesity and overweight rates are significantly HIGHER within the lesser educated demographics. What does this tell you? The advancement of our society has allowed for so much convenience at such a low cost, we can stuff ourselves fucking stupid with little or no effort. Just drive to McDonalds! The uneducated masses are eating themselves into poor health…And looking to their genetic make up for some excuse. OH THAT IS SO CONVENIENT. I’M FAT BECAUSE MY MOM IS. FUCK YOU! You’re fat because you either don’t know how to eat properly, or you do and just can’t muster up the self control to stop shoveling it in. The fact is; the rise in overweight people really took off after the industrial revolution. This indicates that convenience and complacency are the leading contributors to the problems with weight.
Oh, by the way, I have thyroid disease. I can’t stand excuses.
Wow. You are an ass. Obviously you must know what thyroid medication costs; ever think about how fat you would be if you couldn’t afford it or had crappy insurance? Or how bout diabetes on top of it? It is not always “excuses!” Sometimes life just hands you a shit stick. You sound like you really need to see that for yourself.
um i kind of agree with scott…i know people who have weight issues and still try, if you voluptuous and you eat right and work out then at least your doing the best you can…im not a perfect weight and yes i hate it when my thinner friends go on about being “fat” when i weigh more than them.
if you work at it and try to have some self control with your eating and are still big then you have some tiny right to complain, but another thing, its a turn off for guys to hear a woman complain…insecurity is worse than a few curves sweetheart…for all the fattys that are eating right now while complaining about being fat…SCREW YOU…and for those who are trying…WELL DONE
Actually, bodies are different, and some people are naturally larger than others. You ever wonder why some people work out, diet/eat right, and never really change their shape/size/weight too much? It’s because no matter what, you’re going to generally be around the same size no matter what. It has nothing to do with your parents, when it comes to genetics, just how you’re put together. The only way some people will ever be as skinny as the girls who look like starving children in Africa, is if you starve yourself. It’s just how those disgusting looking girls are (sorry, super skinny girls.. It just looks gross to me). You can still be kind of chunky and be eons more healthy than those girls. [: Don’t feel bad about how you look if you’re doing everything you can; you’re probably doing more than most people! Be proud! Hell, with extra walking, maybe a little jogging, you can tone yourself out some. Also, along with some of the people that have commented, your skinny friends are probably around you to feel better because they’re ugly. What they don’t get, is that you’re probably actually more attractive than them. The guys who pick them up do it because they’re easy.
makes them feel better. I’m not particularly thin, and neither is my sister. She’s got thick thighs, and her tummy isn’t flat, but she wears.. anywhere from a 0 to a 5-6, depending on the store. And her fingers are made of twigs. Lol. Even she thinks she’s fat, but, that’s just how she and I are built. And let me tell you, I don’t have a problem at all with guys. And all of the guys I’ve dated are attractive to myself, and most others.
My advice, get different friends that are okay with themselves, and you’ll start to feel better about yourself.
I’m a bigger girl and I used to blame it all on genetics. I’d say it was my moms fault… When I realized it wasn’t I took control of my life. I ate healthy, worked out every day. I’ve lost almost 50 pounds. Though your comment was harsh I have to agree. Most of the time people are overweight because they’re too damn lazy to do anything about it. I can’t stand it when people bitch about being fat but never do anything about it. I’m almost at a normal weight because I WORKED MY ASS OFF.
Though I have to admit it is irritating when girls that are really tiny say they’re fat.
I hate when people fish for compliments !
I usually just agree with them
ok, it sucks being larger than all your friends, I am. my friends all weigh like 100 pounds, i way 145. however, they are all underweight, but still being around them is hard (and btw, for my height, 145 is pretty skinny) also, it is never about just stopping eating, its harder than it looks. don’t judge people for what you don’t know about them.
let me guess you are one of those skinny people who think they are fat! Go puke and and stop talking to people who look healthy! Go and follow what the media dictates while we live our free and loved lives!
This is the meanest thing I have ever heard. it isn’t always about putting the fork down….if it were only that easy… what it all comes down to is how you feel on the inside… skinny or fat feeling ugly on the inside is a tragedy that both sizes share… for the record I am skinny but I would give my left arm to feel sexy for just one day… what people dont realize is…mean is mean… calling someone a skinny bitch hurts… I dont think less of you for being bigger… being envious is realistic but hating…I think you need to re-evalute the word friend.
don’t judge her scottt….u haven’t been there and u don’t know she feels !
scott, you’re an a$$hole. Simple as that. And everyone you know secretly hates you.
Hahaha. I guess it’s a good thing a have a decent enough self image to not rely on what others think of me. I have an awful lot of friends for someone so hated. weird. It’s a real cute comment though, kiki. I giggled a little.
HHmm… yeah and if you suddenly became fat, ill, and poor would you really still have so many friends? I doubt it. You see who your real friends are in those situations – and sadly enough – it often turns out that they were all just friends of convenience.
Scott’s comment was harsh, but he does have a point.
Coming from a size 16 girl, it’s our own fault. Have self control.
Actually I am about a 16 right now. I used to be a 3 to 5. I started gaining weight because I got ill, then gained more when I had surgery, and more again after being put on bed rest and oxygen after blood clots. I also gained more inches wise after I had my baby. I exercise and everything… I even eat a lot healthier since I got pregnant and even after. I even tried diet pills, but they messed with my mood and appetite so badly the doctor said no more. I am barely losing any weight and for the longest time I couldn’t lose any. It is just as hard for me to lose weight now as it was for me to gain weight when I was thin and actually underweight. So, it is not always people’s own fault when they get bigger in size. There are things like illnesses, genetic problems, thyroid disorders, and a much longer list of things that can make it difficult to control.
Real women have some jiggle in their wiggle.
I’m a proud, voluptious woman.
Who gives a shit about them, you’re beautiful.
Look up Mia Tyler.
I dont agree with the real women have some jiggle in there wiggle I think that any women who has confidence in themselves is what a “Real women” is someone who has confidence in themselves. I dont want to come across as anything other then a realist and I’am in no way a size 3 but I belive that women who are morbidly obese but dont want to lose weight just because they feel confident is wrong…
I think you might be envious of your friends as we all can feel at some time but to say that u hate them is harsh and if that is the true nature of you feelings towards them do yourself and them a favour and stop!!!!!
your torturing yourself and making them feel bad over something that isent there fault. In a way I agree with scott if your so jealous do something about it
One thing about the venomous comments to remember is fear. When I was young, my greatest fear was to become bald and fat. Guess what happened?
The saddest thing about it; when I look at the pictures of my younger self–it is an athletic and good-looking stranger. I never saw myself as I really was. I was too full of fear and anger; so desperate to please, and yet rebellious and angry.
Lose weight if you can’t pull your stomach flat without much effort. Learn good posture, and never let yourself slouch. Spend money on coordinated ladies suits (with proper length skirts AND slacks) tailored by a straight male from the same fabrics as used in men’s suits. Only wear clothing and underclothes which actually fit you. Speak in the lower register of your voice to convey confidence and intelligence. Don’t chew gum. Do those things and you will achieve much–and be much desired.
Hey there [larger girl], your skinny [friend] hangs out with you because you make them feel better about themselves. They like to go out with you because being seen at a bar/club near you makes them look that much better, increasing their slutty chances of hooking up with a guy for the night. Don’t be their beauty accessory, go out with girls like yourself… you’re the more attractive ones anyway; those skinny bitches don’t have anything to offer beyond their nice bodies. You on the other hand have a great personality and a smart mind, you should use it to think sometimes and realize that your skinny [friend] isn’t really your friend at all.
Misogyny ahoy!
Wow talk about story of my life
sept I later on I realized i was only there to make THEM feel better about there insacurities.
long story short?
I found better friends
-Hope
Don’t bother. Really, you will waste your time being unhappy. I’m by no means skinny, but I still like me
How about everybody just calms down? If someone is overweight, and they’re happy overweight and they’re educated about what being overwieght means for the present and future, why don’t you just leave them alone? if they like to eat a lot, let them. also, as someone who is unnaturally underweight yet always struggling to loose more , i envy overweight and confident people more than i’ve ever envied thin people…
How lucky you are to have friends that accept you for who you are. You should thank whatever entity you choose that your friends see the real you.
Most of my friends are a size 0 or 2, and I’m a 10-12. I am 6 inches taller than them and love my body. When we go out my curvy friends and I are the ones who get hit on more often. It’s all about confidence and loving yourself.
Agreed!
I agree 100%
Friends are needy leeches
My friends are the same way, and while I don’t hate them for it, it does severely piss me off that they like to complain about their weight to me and expect sympathy. I have one friend right now who is REALLY pretty and much thinner than I am (she’s healthy, not super skinny) and she keeps posting shit on myspace like “lol I lost *insert number* pounds this week cause I’m practically starving myself”. Every time I see it I just want to bang my head against my keyboard until my brains fall out.
Scott, you’re a goddamn idiot if you think genetics plays no role in someones weight. I eat half as much as all of my friends, who I should mention have never counted calories, or worried about how many grams of fat they consume in a day. They do not exercise…ever, while I do…4 days a week…weight training and cardio, bitch! I count calories, I eat verrrry low-fat, low-carb, and high-protein. Hmm…have you ever considered, certain medications (that you HAVE TO take) cause you to gain weight? Well guess what genius…they do. I was on 3 medications during high school that made me gain a total of 70 pounds during those 4 years. Recent studies at Harvard, which were shared during a medical conference, showed that antihistamines cause weight gain. Now, you tell me Scott…what sort of diet are you on that’s oh-so-healthy? And if her friends weighed about 80-90 pounds, then she wouldn’t be thaaaaat over-weight if she was ohhh…about 5’9″. I actually had a friend who weighed 80-90 pounds, she was about 5’5″…and definitely under-weight due to drugs. I will never resort to drugs to lose weight. Please Scott, enlighten me as to how I can be more like you…douche bag.
I have a friend who feels like you and yesterday i gave her a wonderful experience. We went to a store that has so many cute cloths for plus size women and she looked so pretty and she actually said “I bet you are jealous that your skinny ass (and I am a size 12-14 not no anorexic chick) can’t wear these cute outfits. I do not want to offend anybody here with writing this, its just that after reading this that memory came back and it seemed like a boost.
PS: Size 00-4isch is gross 6 and up is when it start to get pretty because we are women and not stick figures!
I’ve just read these comments and I’m amazed that people have to shift the blame to someone else. I’m not big myself, size 10-12 aus which is normal, I have friends skinnier than me and bigger than me and you know what – we’re all insecure about ourselves! I resent the remark that skinny people hang around fatter people to feel better about themselves and that they’re slutty. I mean really, you don’t choose your friends because of their appearance. Some of my bigger friends have such amazing personalities and I wouldn’t change who they are for anything – but one of them was upset about her weight after having a baby 12 months ago and we said enough of making excuses the only way it’ll change is to change it yourself. We go to the gym 4 times a week and she has lost an incredible amount of weight and I’m so proud of her! We now laugh about the weight she (and I) were and laugh at the excuses we both made about the extra cushioning. Bottom line. There are no excuses all you are doing is lying to yourself.
Hello everyone,
Just thought I would add my comments to this thread. People have different sizes (eg. bone structure) for many different reasons, including genetic factors and cultural factors. In other words, if everybody in the country ate healthily and did excercise, there would still be a large range of sizes. Although of course the average weight of the nation would decrease and the range may be slightly smaller than it is now. Additionally, there is a widespread problem of irresponsible lifestyles choices. Peoples energy intake is by far surpassing their energy output….this may result in larger sizes and is part of the reason that people nowdays are bigger than we were previously. A healthy female may be a size 6 or a size 12…(I am from australia, not sure how these convert sorry!). To assume a smaller-than-average person is unhealthy or healthy is incorrect….likewise to assume a bigger-than-average person is unhealthy or healthy is incorrect. Do not rely on out-dated measures like the BMI Index…see your GP if you are concerned about your weight. Sorry to ramble….and I hope I have helped.
SOURCE *I am a medical student*
Julie
to the person who wrote this secret:
I know it must be hard to feel that way, but I’m a rather skinny person and I love my friends, regardless of their size and I’m sure your friends feel the same way about you. Besides which, they may have insecurities with their bodies as well, even if they don’t deal with weight.
My friends always complain to me that they feel fat when I’m at least 30lbs heavier than all of them.
I know how you feel. this also irrigates me.
irrigate is watering plants, irritate is what i think you were goin for…
My best friend is 5’5 and weighs 98 pounds. i’m 5’2 and i weigh 110. It sucks.
in a world where everything revolves around appearances, learn to love the skin your in. once you start doing that, the people around you will too. who cares if you have a little extra, someone is going to love you for EXACTLY who you are. you will know who you want to keep in your life by who accepts you for your flaws and imperfections if thats even what they are. you may look at your butt and say its too big or small, but i guarantee there are people who think it is just right!! dont give in to what society’s view of beautiful is. once you think you are beautiful, you will be. just embrace who you are and have the confidence to match. you can get any one you want that way.
I’m 5’0 and 159 pounds, so a pretty big girl, and I have never felt resentment towards my skinny friends because I understand the implications that go along with being skinny. People expect you to be a certain way to think certain things.
I like having full breasts and a nice butt. Most my skinny friends have zero curves. I don’t like, however, my overweight female friends. Because the are constantly complaining about how they WISH they could be my size, and sometimes even belittle me for weighing less.
It’s hurtful that they treat me badly for being “skinny” when I am over-weight for my height!
I think one of the reasons my ‘best friend’ quit hanging out with me is because when we decided to start losing weight I’ve been losing whiles she’s been gaining. You shouldn’t dislike people just because they are trying to get into shape. It’s not like life is a competition.
If you are my friend, I’m sorry. I’m just as self conscious about my weight as you.
3 things…
1. Interesting that this secret has the most comments I’ve ever seen on a postsecret, tells you something about society, no?
2. I’d like to mention that genetics is NOT “an excuse” but a genuine stumbling block for many overwieght people. It causes people to be predisposed to weight gain (thats why you get those friends who can eat and eat and eat, do very little exercise and remain “skinny” while others eat minimally, work out regularly and lose as little as 2lb per week) Its unfair to marginalise these people simply because of the family they were born into, if you thought racism was bad try being on the receiving end of fatist comments.
3. BUT the world is unfair, the same way some people are just not bright and others have high intellect, and if it bothers you that much you can overcome genetics by working hard (you may have to work harder than most but, hey, life’s a bitch right?)
Wow. When I saw this secret I almost started crying. This is totally how I feel too.. And sometimes I feel like my friends only keep me around because I’m smart and they know I’ll help and do pretty much anything for them. It doesn’t often seem they I’m their friend because they just want to hang out with me. And what makes it even worse is a couple of my friends always seem to think it’s funny to give my cell # to the “gross” guys that they would never consider. One gave my # to a guy she met yesterday and I’m just waiting to find out what’s wrong with him… That’s one of the things that hurts the worst, I’m never their first choice and they always give me their garbage….Writing this made me realize how true all that really is. I can’t wait until I go off to college so I can just start over! Hopefully it’ll be better then.