However; the dude is a scumbag too. There is too much hate for the lady here. It takes TWO to tango. He could have said no. It isn’t that hard. I have done it. I’ve never cheated on my man, but I have sure as hell been approached. If he loved her, he could have said no. They were BOTH in the wrong and she is better off without them.

It seems like it is easy for the people who HAVEN’T been cheated on to say that they were just “kids” and made a mistake, but I don’t see anywhere on the card that they were children. They could easily be I their thirties. That being said, yes we do all make mistakes but cheating is not some little mistake you should not be judged for. It’s a big fucking mistake that effects EVERYONE in your life. A little “cheating” mistake would be kissing her best friend’s boyfriend, not fucking him. I am not saying that we as human beings don’t do stupid shit, but really people think that you should just sweep this under the rug? Sleeping around on your partner or upsetting an established relationship is not something that should just be ignored, no matter how new or old the relationship was and no matter how young the participants! Human beings may make mistakes, but we should be held accountable for something in our relationships and when you are in an exclusive relationship, cheating is one of them. Breaking trust in any relationship is a serious thing.

If she liked the guy, tell her friend; but she DIDN’T like him. She made a point of saying that. She thinks now that she has him she perhaps could find it in herself to like him, but hasn’t yet formed those feelings. It’s so blatantly obvious I want to smack some people with the card.

There is NO reason to cheat. If you are unhappy with a relationship, BREAK UP! Don’t further another person’s pain by cheating. That is so sick. You know you are leaving the third party in shambles. It isn’t fair to that person. There is no logical reason for cheating when you could simply tell your partner you aren’t interested anymore… or have an open relationship. Whatever works!

I know most people will tell me if he cheats with me, he will cheat on me. But funny thing is, I trust him. He doesn’t even touch or do anything with his wife. We are completely and hopelessly in love.

Also, YES, YOU SHOULD STOP COOKING YOUR FOOD! Cooking food is poisonous, you dumbass! There’s a reason humans evolved to eat fruit!

Oh wait, you’re probably someone who believes that we were hunter-gatherer cavemen in Europe that killed mammoths and hit our women over the head and dragged them off to our cave to rape have sex with them.

So it’s not very surprising.

Word to the wise: bigotry makes you stupid; species bigotry is still bigotry, no matter how many times you repeat the phrase “just animnals”.

She’s not posting this up to share a secret – she’s bragging.

I hope she does kill herself; there ain’t nothin’ wrong with suicide, and honestly, the world could do with fewer humans.

If we continue to tell ourselves (and each other) that people don’t have the right to make mistakes, we would never grow up.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting this secret. If that’s how you feel, then this should be an open forum to express your feelings without being persecuted. I applaud those who have the courage to state how they feel and those who can respond without being rude, demeaning, or judgmental.

I am sorry, k. I love you. Always.
B: i feel horrible about what we did, but i love you too much.

I feel horrible. as i should.

Good luck with that.

to “anon”, “lisa” actually stopped responding to you first.
you continued arguing with “PATHETIC!” after “lisa” stopped.
also, just because you’re stating “olive certainly isn’t me” doesn’t prove anything.
i can easily say “lisa” is me.
would you believe that?

are you kidding?

how do you know “lisa” made all of those comments?

just because there’s a poster named “lisa” doesn’t mean it’s the same, “lisa” is a very popular name.

anyone can easily change the name he/she is posting with to a different name.

for all we know, you’re really “anon” trying to pretend that someone is backing her/him up.

maybe you’re really “lisa” just trying to get other people heated.

maybe “anon” and “anonymous” are the same person.

maybe i’m “lisa”.

maybe “stephanie” or “alice” is “lisa”.

IT’S AN ANONYMOUS WEBSITE!

it’s the internet.

we get to be whoever we want to be on the internet whether it reflects who we really are or not.

you shouldn’t assume things, “olive”, because you make an ass out of yourself.

And Tankita, some people, especially ones that think that sleeping with your best friend’s man can ever be an option, never come to their senses. They go through life taking what they want and never give a shit about who they hurt. Because nobody ever tells them they have gone too far. That’s what we are here for. And I am here to tell her that she has gone too far.

lookinthemirror: I concur with your views on this subject. No one will ever make the dishonest friend feel as bad about herself as she one day will when she realizes all she has lost. It is really sad to me.

besides we are human beings, not animals. our thought processes are much more complex than any other species. it’s silly to use the rationale that “humans are the only species that are monogamous, so it shouldn’t be that way.” humans are also the only species that cooks its food, so should we stop cooking too?

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been cheated on in the past, manda, but that’s not really an excuse. don’t you remember how terrible it felt to discover you’d been cheated on? and now you’re contributing to the same pain for other, innocent women. if you can live with yourself knowing that, then it’s whatever. but when you tell people you’re an “other woman,” the vast majority will judge you to be a dumb homewrecking whore, and will therefore treat you that way.

I could probably go on and on about this, not because I’m bitter. I’ve never been cheated on and never cheated, but I know how emotionally devastating it would be for either of those things to happen to me.