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with me.
And I know I’m supposed to be your best friend….
but now he’s mine and I think I could really love him someday….
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you still live with mommy and daddy? that’s pretty pathetic and so sad. why don’t you get off your ass and get a job? there’s nothing we can do about the war, so why should we sit here and worry about it? that’s not going to solve anyhing, dumbass. hun, not all college students play beer pong and do keg stands. get over it. college isn’t about partying to ever college student. you’re losing this argument against Lisa so just give up already. you’re making yourself look pathetic.
I don’t care to argue with Lisa. We think differently and because she disagrees with me she decided to attack me because that’s what adults do. We disagree with the way one another thinks and can’t just accept that. My parents are dead, and you’re right, there is nothing we can do to stop the war, so sleep well and never worry about it. There is also nothing we can do about drugs, violence and all the other problems facing our world today. WOW! you gave me an epiphany, there is no need to worry about anything, least of all some “friend” who got her boyfriend to cheat on her best friend….(back to the original comment here) I enjoy reading these post secret books because they have a unique way of showing us the human condition..and so do the people who respond with WHORE WHORE WHORE. Obviously some of these women have been hurt by cheating men..join the club, don’t let it define you and don’t give him the satisfaction of hating THE WOMEN for it. Be happy, and judgment free of others, in turn you will come out a better person, and a stronger one.
omg shut the fuck up. now your parents are dead but you live with them? stop trying to get sympathy from people. why should i worry about shit i can’t change? i can’t go to iraq and bring everyone home. i donate money and that’s all that i can do from this distance. i worry about shit i’m affected by. i can’t worry about every little thing that’s going on in the world. stop using that as a fucking argument. you’re definitely not 30 years old like you claim. you’re a moron. she didn’t even fucking attack you in the beginning until you wouldn’t just drop the subject. this girl is a whore, yes, because she betrayed her best friend. this girls boyfriend is just as disgusting. man, just shut the fuck up ’cause no one cares about what you have to say anymore and i’m done responding after this because of how pathetic you are. don’t let this argument “define you” either, ass. “be judgment free of others, in turn you will come out a better person, and a stronger one.” take your own advice and swallow it. the end.
Lisa, I’ve been in your situation too. It sucks… a lot. And I won’t pray to any God for you but after you find the guy who was meant for you, you will definitely be a happier person. I know how you feel, it shows in your comments, and it takes years to get over it. I’m sorry… and no one deserves to be in this much pain or feel this much anger towards anyone. It will get better with time
Good luck finding a man (or woman, I suppose!) who truly respects and deserves you.
PATHETIC! you are so funny, seriously become a comedian or something. although don’t become a debater, cos frankly you suck at arguing. are you like twelve years old? how can you not understand that anon is being COMPLETELY AND OBVIOUSLY sarcastic in her third post!? oh my god, get a brain, pleaseeeeeee.
plus, some of you are such bitches here that frankly i think you deserved to be cheated on. your partners must have thought you had no souls, can’t really blame them.
Olive, you’re just as pathetic as “anon”. Just because I’m a bitch here doesn’t mean I’m a bitch all the time. I’m only being a bitch because “anon” is a moron, like yourself. If girls that are bitches deserve to get cheated on, people that cheat deserve to get STDs, girls that dress like skanks deserve to get raped, etc. That’s definitely a concrete argument you have there. Please go to law school so you can defend others – just remember: some of the clients lawyers defend [murders, child molesters, etc] deserve to be punished yet some walk away free. Does the next person to get killed/raped/molested by these people deserve it? No. No one deserves any harmful thing they go through.
nearly every single comment you make here is bitchy and bitter lisa, whether it’s directed at another person who opposes your opinion or at the OP. i can only assume from this that you’re a bitchy person, sorry. and likewise you assume that i’m a pathetic person and i honestly don’t care. we don’t know each other, unfortunately it’s only in the heated comments that we get to form opinions of each other.
lmao
are you kidding?
how do you know “lisa” made all of those comments?
just because there’s a poster named “lisa” doesn’t mean it’s the same, “lisa” is a very popular name.
anyone can easily change the name he/she is posting with to a different name.
for all we know, you’re really “anon” trying to pretend that someone is backing her/him up.
maybe you’re really “lisa” just trying to get other people heated.
maybe “anon” and “anonymous” are the same person.
maybe i’m “lisa”.
maybe “stephanie” or “alice” is “lisa”.
IT’S AN ANONYMOUS WEBSITE!
it’s the internet.
we get to be whoever we want to be on the internet whether it reflects who we really are or not.
you shouldn’t assume things, “olive”, because you make an ass out of yourself.
WOO WOO!!! Go, “lol!”
Hahahahaha
Well… olive certainly isn’t me, and I’m pretty sure Lisa is too stupid to change her name. I’m pretty sure Olive was correct in his assumption that she was 12, which is why in fact, I backed off.
oh yeah, shit i forgot about that.
well, i think it’s pretty obvious though that the same “lisa” is posting frequently though, her calm justifications are quite recognisable. and i think someones got to have a pretty weak argument if they feel they need to make up aliases to big themselves up. are you sure you’re not PATHETIC!, lol? you both use the word ass rather inappropriately, hmmm.
WOO WOO!!! Go, “olive!”
Hahahahaha
actually i didn’t call you an ass like “PATHETIC!” did.
i said you shouldn’t assume things because you’ll make an ass out of yourself.
the saying goes “when you ‘assume’, you’ll make an ass out of both you and me”.
by your inability to read correctly, you’ve probably never heard of that saying.
to “anon”, “lisa” actually stopped responding to you first.
you continued arguing with “PATHETIC!” after “lisa” stopped.
also, just because you’re stating “olive certainly isn’t me” doesn’t prove anything.
i can easily say “lisa” is me.
would you believe that?
I think it’s funny that all of you “adults” are still arguing about this. I stopped responding and not shortly after, “anon” did as well. There’s no reason for anybody else to be jumping down each others throats. We stopped a long time ago. We all know that anyone can be posting as other people because it’s anonymous. We all get that everyone has different opinions. Just stop responding ’cause it’s never going to stop. Wait until someone new posts and then we can attack them [just kidding].
lol, don’t hide behind sayings when you’re making an argument. english is not my first language, and even though i had heard that saying before, just because i didn’t interpret it the first time doesn’t mean i’m stupid. (inability to read correctly = illeriate = poorly educated = stupid, see i got that one!)
i agree with lisa actually, it’s funny when people argue about this but it gets tiring very quickly. can’t wait until someone else posts and we can attack them, not kidding, cos lets face it. it’s going to happen.
this isnt even about the postcard anymore…
Bahahahaha nope… it’s all about Lisa!
Good for you. It must be nice to have so many painfully idiotic best friends, really. If they honestly do “understand” they’d probably have no problem fucking you over in the future.
Good luck with that.
Agreed. This just happened to me two days ago, and it hurts. It hurts even more to see them together and know that it’s just not right. I miss him every second of every day, and I hate them both for what they did. I have no respect for people that run around and do things behind my back, especially when we were together for two years. I loved him, and the love we shared was better than anything I’ve ever felt in my life, and someone like you took it all away. I hope you’re happy, because you’ll have to live with it for the rest of your life, and someone like me will have to pick up their life and try to move on, even though they deserve to be happy. Don’t trust anyone.
This happened to me two years ago
it still hurts
thats really shitty i hate backstabbers
wow thats fucked up how can you have your best friends man to cheat on you thats grimmy
To the poster: I know exactly how you feel. I honestly started crying when i saw this. Because, i did the exact same thing.
and i know im probably going to get a ton of ‘you are shit, scum, bitch’ responses.
I am.
I should have never done this.
But i love him.
I am sorry, k. I love you. Always.
B: i feel horrible about what we did, but i love you too much.
I feel horrible. as i should.
i think you’re really brave for this…and it sucks that you’re love story started out this way but make it the best you can
I think its wrong that she put her secret on here, and everyone is bashing her for it. Seriously? I’m sure she feels bad.
my god. i truely pray i never meet a person as horibble as you
Wow, haha I don’t think she’s fucked up, she just wants what is not hers….
If she may love him, she should pursue her love. If he loves her, he will show it in return. His girlfriend is better without him considering that he doesn’t care enough for her. Everyone can get what is best for them in this particular situation.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting this secret. If that’s how you feel, then this should be an open forum to express your feelings without being persecuted. I applaud those who have the courage to state how they feel and those who can respond without being rude, demeaning, or judgmental.
What right do you people have to judge? We all make mistakes and we’re all faced with tough choices. I feel for you.
I can say I am not fucked up – but have been fucked over! Boyfriends are far too much hassle – they are needy and have too many expectations. I plan on remaining single – I don’t want a boyfriend of my own – somebody else’s is okay with me. I’m not the one doing anything wrong, I’m not the cheater. And I will say it again – Humans are the only beings who believe monogamy works… maybe its every other being on the planet are the ones who have it right!
What you don’t realize yet is that if he’ll cheat on your best friend with you.. it’s just a matter of time before the next girl comes (so to speak) along and steals him from you.
KARMA is a bitch..
I believe people who do mean and cruel things need of our love and compassion the most. There are deeper things going on in this girls life than ‘stealing’ her best friends boyfriend. Just about anyone with self-esteem, respect and dignity would never consider breaking up a relationship. As sad as it was for the girl who lost her boyfriend and best friend, she WILL move on and eventually get over it (and she’s better off), but the girl writing this may carry her issues with her for the rest of her life. I believe one day she’ll acknowledge what a terrible thing she did…if she hasn’t already.
If we continue to tell ourselves (and each other) that people don’t have the right to make mistakes, we would never grow up.
wow, people should shut up, stuff happens, and getting cheated on doesnt hurt all day every day. LIFE GOES ON.
I think anyone sitting here judging this person is completely RIDICULOUS. The people who do sit here and get all pissy about something someone says are the exact reason why they keep their secrets to themselves. If it weren’t for post secret I don’t know how i would be right now. Because it shows that you can at least trust someone to don’t know to tell them something. Sure, it gets posted everywhere, but it’s also anonymous.
You messed up. But you still deserve to find love. I know I don’t know you, but I forgive you.
oh yeah well if you might love him someday maybe in the forseeable future it’s totally work fucking over your best friend
evidently you’re a sad lonely person and you weren’t thinking rationally but the degree of selfishness you’ve shown doesn’t deserve sympathy
you do realise people admitting to stuff anonymously will be doing it to alleviate the guilt
they’re doing it solely out of selfishness, or they’d be doing it in person
this is sick self-indulgent exhibitionist behaviour, or at the very least a pathetic attempt at justifying a horrible thing
they don’t even apologise, they’re blatantly not sorry for what they’ve done
I think that you all have to get over yourselves. There are somethings everyone does that are wrong. her mistake may have been larger but that doesn’t give you the right to criticize her.
yeah only at no point does she say it was a mistake
this is an attempt at validation, nothing more, and anyone who doesn’t call her out on it is doing her a disservice
wow guys…. i dont think that this person ACTUALLY did this.. but who knows.. maybe im wrong..
What you did is terrible, but since you’re admitting it here, it seems like you realise it was a horrible mistake and that you did the wrong thing.
Please have the courage to make amends with your friend and break off the relationship with this guy – besides from the fact that it will heal your broken conscience, it’s a bad idea to keep an enemy that knows you well, and it’s also a bad idea to have a relationship with a guy that has a tendency to cheat.
No.
She’s not posting this up to share a secret – she’s bragging.
I hope she does kill herself; there ain’t nothin’ wrong with suicide, and honestly, the world could do with fewer humans.
No, humans are not more complex, just more self-congratulatory and too stupid to understand that different does not mean lesser.
Also, YES, YOU SHOULD STOP COOKING YOUR FOOD! Cooking food is poisonous, you dumbass! There’s a reason humans evolved to eat fruit!
Oh wait, you’re probably someone who believes that we were hunter-gatherer cavemen in Europe that killed mammoths and hit our women over the head and dragged them off to our cave to
rapehave sex with them.So it’s not very surprising.
Word to the wise: bigotry makes you stupid; species bigotry is still bigotry, no matter how many times you repeat the phrase “just animnals”.
I am in the exact same situation. I moved in with a work friend and immediately was attracted to her husband. Good thing is, he felt the same way. We started sleeping together after a few days and fell in love. She has a feeling something is going on, but no proof. He and I are saving up for an apartment and when we get enough, we are moving out. He is going to file for divorce and as soon as it’s final we are going to get married. In fact he just proposed today. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.
I know most people will tell me if he cheats with me, he will cheat on me. But funny thing is, I trust him. He doesn’t even touch or do anything with his wife. We are completely and hopelessly in love.
I cannot condone what this girl did. There are people saying that it “doesn’t matter” how the relationship was started and they were in similar situations, but are they reading the damned postcard? She said she “got” him to cheat on her and “could” love him someday! This girl did it for sport. She didn’t want the boy, she wanted to see if she could get her BFF’s man to fuck her and now that she has, she is deciding if she will keep him or not. Is that not obvious? Girl is conniving. Not all post secret confessions are out of guilt. Some are just little releases of pleasure or feelings you don’t feel comfortable displaying. Not every girl, no matter how nasty would want her new man and her ex best friend to know that she had been planning this or she feels satisfied by her victory.
However; the dude is a scumbag too. There is too much hate for the lady here. It takes TWO to tango. He could have said no. It isn’t that hard. I have done it. I’ve never cheated on my man, but I have sure as hell been approached. If he loved her, he could have said no. They were BOTH in the wrong and she is better off without them.
It seems like it is easy for the people who HAVEN’T been cheated on to say that they were just “kids” and made a mistake, but I don’t see anywhere on the card that they were children. They could easily be I their thirties. That being said, yes we do all make mistakes but cheating is not some little mistake you should not be judged for. It’s a big fucking mistake that effects EVERYONE in your life. A little “cheating” mistake would be kissing her best friend’s boyfriend, not fucking him. I am not saying that we as human beings don’t do stupid shit, but really people think that you should just sweep this under the rug? Sleeping around on your partner or upsetting an established relationship is not something that should just be ignored, no matter how new or old the relationship was and no matter how young the participants! Human beings may make mistakes, but we should be held accountable for something in our relationships and when you are in an exclusive relationship, cheating is one of them. Breaking trust in any relationship is a serious thing.
If she liked the guy, tell her friend; but she DIDN’T like him. She made a point of saying that. She thinks now that she has him she perhaps could find it in herself to like him, but hasn’t yet formed those feelings. It’s so blatantly obvious I want to smack some people with the card.
There is NO reason to cheat. If you are unhappy with a relationship, BREAK UP! Don’t further another person’s pain by cheating. That is so sick. You know you are leaving the third party in shambles. It isn’t fair to that person. There is no logical reason for cheating when you could simply tell your partner you aren’t interested anymore… or have an open relationship. Whatever works!
Wow. FINALLY someone gets it. Thank you! My ex and I are in counseling for his cheating [we have a 3 month old together so we figured counseling would be a good idea] and I keep asking him why he didn’t just break up with me ’cause it would’ve been a hell of a lot easier to deal with. Instead, he stayed with me and ruined any self confidence I had in myself, which only got worse after having a baby. I think it’s because he had no respect for me, was selfish, and never loved or cared about me like he claims. If he had any of those things for me, how could he have a completely other relationship with some whore? Yes, she’s a whore because she knew the whole time he was with me.
Amen to that. My husband is unfortunately still paying for my ex’s mistakes. My husband continually surprises me with how much he is not like every guy I have ever know and is a man of God, but I still worry because of what my ex did (tried to cheat on me with two of my friends while I was at school, not to mention all the girls he successfully did because they weren’t my friends and didn’t know about me). I now have problems trusting friends too because of the fact that they got in a situation where they could have cheated.
I agree people need to be held accountable, but first they need morals and a conscience. Consequences have no effect if you don’t think you did anything wrong. If you beat down the conscience God gave you enough, pretty soon you won’t have one, that is when you know you are screwed.
You know. Somethings I can get. Like the reasons people cheat, there are never good reasons for why, but some are definitely better then others. However, this right here is ignorant all around. How fucked up do u have to be to become a common whore behind your best friends back and get her boyfriend to cheat on her, WITH YOU? I agree with whoever said that you two deserve each other. How low, how pathetic.
UGH! THANK YOU! that gir is a sneaky bitch. Gosh! Whoever this girl is… what a damn shame!