I got your boyfriend to cheat on you
I got your boyfriend to cheat on you,
with me.
And I know I’m supposed to be your best friend….
but now he’s mine and I think I could really love him someday….
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you’re a bitch. I hope she finds out if she hasn’t already and busts your head in. that’s what I would do if I were her. But… of course I’d probably forget about you both, because a boyfriend and a friend wouldn’t do that to someone they care about.
Agreed!!
You really are fucked up
Excuse me? Who’s fucked up?
i don’t think she’s talking about you, lisa. the comment she made is not in reply to your comment, but to iwish. however, seeing as you’re agreeing on the same thing, i don’t relly think it matters.
u really an asshole.. however, glad to tell u, u n ur bf really suit each other.. cause both of u are asshole..
I second that… after being cheated on… I have no pity for whores like you. Good luck with your relationship… even if you love him, you’ll always be a piece of ass to him.
Agreed. This just happened to me two days ago, and it hurts. It hurts even more to see them together and know that it’s just not right. I miss him every second of every day, and I hate them both for what they did. I have no respect for people that run around and do things behind my back, especially when we were together for two years. I loved him, and the love we shared was better than anything I’ve ever felt in my life, and someone like you took it all away. I hope you’re happy, because you’ll have to live with it for the rest of your life, and someone like me will have to pick up their life and try to move on, even though they deserve to be happy. Don’t trust anyone.
thats really shitty i hate backstabbers
wow thats fucked up how can you have your best friends man to cheat on you thats grimmy
I think anyone sitting here judging this person is completely RIDICULOUS. The people who do sit here and get all pissy about something someone says are the exact reason why they keep their secrets to themselves. If it weren’t for post secret I don’t know how i would be right now. Because it shows that you can at least trust someone to don’t know to tell them something. Sure, it gets posted everywhere, but it’s also anonymous.
i hope you get cheated on.
you have no idea how much it HURTS! You have no idea how much pain you will cause. IT HURTS ALL DAY, EVERY DAY!
Not to mention it fucks up all trust you have with future relationships and friendships. It’s definitely NOT an easy thing to get over at all.
It’s the first thing u think of when u wake up n the last thing u think of before falling asleep. If a seconds passes u by and u manage not to think about it, u feel achieved. AND if you are not here don’t judge.
The exact situation does not matter. What matters is you were betrayed by the people you should have been able to trust.
I have been betrayed too many times, I know how it feels. It never stops hurting, and you never forget.
Was it really worth breaking your so-called best friends heart for someone you only THINK you could love SOMEDAY?
im sorry, but people put stuff on here to admit to stuff theyve done, and some of their secrets. not to get judged.
If they can’t take the negative with the positive, they shouldn’t post these on public forums. Anything you put on the internet will get whatever feedback the readers feel like.
Not to mention, if she cared what we had to say… she wouldn’t have done it in the first place. It’s not like she shows any remorse.
you do realise people admitting to stuff anonymously will be doing it to alleviate the guilt
they’re doing it solely out of selfishness, or they’d be doing it in person
this is sick self-indulgent exhibitionist behaviour, or at the very least a pathetic attempt at justifying a horrible thing
they don’t even apologise, they’re blatantly not sorry for what they’ve done
yes it was a dickish thing to do, and i literally no how shit this is.. but im pretty sure thaat they didnt write in with one of theyre secrets just to get about 293846293746 people judging them in response.
scary.. we both said like the same thing :L
What you don’t realize yet is that if he’ll cheat on your best friend with you.. it’s just a matter of time before the next girl comes (so to speak) along and steals him from you.
KARMA is a bitch..
i hope your friend finds out and leaves both of you. oh, and i hope that asshole breaks your heart by cheating on you too.
do you really think he would love you back? It wouldn’t be that hard for him to do the same to you. It’s funny how you could do something so heartlessly to your best friend. How can you live with yourself…absolutely disgusting
Clearly you two deserve each other.
Your “friend” will be better off.
I was the guy who’s girl went off with my best friend. I just got back from the war and came home to him doing her doggy style. I left right away when I caught them and the next morning packed my shit and wrote her the following letter, I remember it because to this day these words are engraved on my heart.
“My love for you was pure, my love for you was right, good and true, but above all my love for you was unconditional, however with your actions you have shown that your love for me was as an option. I forgive you for what you both have to me, and I will always love you both with all my heart mind and soul. However life is a series of moments and to see either of your faces again would remind me of a moments that I compare to as bad as loosing my men in my arms in war. I have killed the enemy before he killed me, and I killed him for you both, so that you have the right to love anyone the way you do without consequence. Do not attempt to contact me, as I am already on a plan back overseas where I know I will be safe from either of you attempting to cause me more harm, than you already have. Overseas I was in fear and desired to be home more than ever due to fear of loosing my life, but now I find what I feared most, i embrace all the more, cause you two have shown me that your betrayal is more deadly than any weapon I have ever seen. However I will not let either of you win. Have a good life, and I hope you both find what you were looking for. Yours always and now never again.
I am so sorry
I will not forget the story you shared. What you did was so honourable, and I respect you so much for what you did.
What was great is you did what was healthy for yourself and I love that. I think the greatest loss is loosing someone as awesome as you are and I think you can probably say without a doubt,”their loss.”
you are obviously another person who is too selfish to think about anyone but yourself.
GET OVER YOURSELF.
being cheated on is one of THE worst feelings in the world.
you have NO fucking idea how much it hurts EVERY SINGLE DAY. NO IDEA how dare you say it’s okay to do.
I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Except maybe those selfish people who cheat and say that cheating is okay.
you make me sick.
Wow, were you commenting on my comment? I don’t know exactly what you thought I was saying. I was simply saying it was healthy for the solider who was cheated on to let go of his losses and move forward despite his heartache. It was very adult of him to also wish them a good life. Someone who is able to do that is someone who is probably really special, hence the reason I said, “their loss.” I don’t condone cheating at all, breaking trust is a very real and harmful thing.
And you, Amber, are very adult yourself for not being rude to “omg”‘s comment (which was obviously a mistake because he/she had no reason to lash out on you like that).
Honestly, I don’t know if I could have not lashed out at he/she back although I know better.
Props to you Amber.
i believe “omg” was responding to amber’s comment thinking she was making a comment towards the secret, not towards the soldiers comment…
i hate to nit-pick, but this is killing me. it’s “losing”. “loosing” isn’t a word.
It’s amazing that you are so genuine and brave that you would be so noble towards them, after doing such a thing.
I wish you nothing but the best, even though I do not know you, because you have the best heart I know of to this day.
You will find a lady who will love you whole-heartedly, and truly.
She will show you compassion, warmth, and the beauty of love.
She will be exactly what you deserve in life.
wow, i could have never done what you had to endure. i respect that in so many ways.
HUGS… thank you for what you do…
God bless, may love find you again!
It really takes courage to do what you did.
I couldnt do it.
your story is truly inspirational. the love in which you obviously have for both parties is unbelievable and rare. it’s nobel to say the least. thank you for your service both to your country & to those who read this site. i wish you safety and wellbeing and above all, happiness. you deserve a love as pure as yours.
<3
Thank you for sharing your secret.
While most people won’t find what you are doing acceptable, it is difficult to stop ourselves from being who we are. Just remember you reap what you sow. Perhaps your friendship to her wasn’t as true as you led yourself to believe in the first place. Maybe he will be the one. No one knows for sure.
Best of luck to you in your future.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?! It’s default to stop ourselves from being who we are? She’s a backstabbing whore. If this was her BEST FRIEND, she would put her feelings aside and be happy that her friend is in a healthy relationship, not get her friend’s boyfriend to cheat WITH HER because she’s selfish. She’ll get what she deserves and I hope it hurts more than she can ever imagine.
yes it is selfish, but arent we all selfish?!?!
Wow, your trying to make her feel bad for a mistake that she made and she will learn from. Yeah, she hurt people, it seems pretty unintentional… And you think your noble when you are purposefully wishing her more hurt than she can ever imagine?? I hope it makes you feel like a great person when you call someone YOU DON’T KNOW a backstabbing whore. You sound like a real classy girl. Your hurting people just as much as the next person, grow up.
I’m pretty classy for not sleeping with any guys in relationships. In my book, yes, that makes her a backstabbing whore. You must be completely blind if you think her “mistake” was unintentional. You don’t accidentally fall into bed with your best friend’s boyfriend. Also, if you’re going to start an argument with me, use correct fucking English please. Thanks.
Oh and yes, we all are a little selfish, but how many of us are selfish enough to sleep with our best friend’s boyfriend? I don’t know of any.
I am using correct English. I’m sorry, maybe if I use the word fuck in every sentence, you will understand better. She did sleep with him on purpose, but she didn’t do it to hurt her friend. She did it because she thinks she loves him. She made a mistake, get the hell over it, your not perfect.
You’re a such an idiot. First of all, Lisa only said “fucking” once, so you using “the word ‘fuck’ in every sentence” wouldn’t matter, moron. Second of all, you’re not using proper English. Learn to spell. Third of all, she knew sleeping with her best friend’s boyfriend was going to hurt her best friend, so she was fully aware of what she was doing. That does make it intentional. It wasn’t a mistake if it was intentional. You must be a stupid 13 year old or something if you think this girl isn’t a slut. Open your eyes and look in the mirror. After all, that is your username so take your own advice.
Um….”second of all” and “third of all” make no sense. The correct way to type that would have been: “Second, blah blah blah blah….judge judge judge…”; the third sentence should have said, “Third, blah blah blah…judge judge judge….”.
lookinthemirror: I concur with your views on this subject. No one will ever make the dishonest friend feel as bad about herself as she one day will when she realizes all she has lost. It is really sad to me.
Sorry, lookinthemirror, I have to roll with Lisa. No one ever gets through life without hurting anyone, but damn! Stealing your best friend’s man? Where I come from that is pretty fuckin low. And yes that is backstabbing and yes she is a whore.
And Tankita, some people, especially ones that think that sleeping with your best friend’s man can ever be an option, never come to their senses. They go through life taking what they want and never give a shit about who they hurt. Because nobody ever tells them they have gone too far. That’s what we are here for. And I am here to tell her that she has gone too far.
Tankita,
It could be “secondly/thirdly” or “second of all/third of all”. It doesn’t matter which way it’s written. Take an English course.
thank you for posting that. i totally agree. if this was a movie, and either the boyfriend or the person who wrote this was the main character, people would think “aww. what a cute couple. feel a little bad for the other chick, but these two are toooo cute!”
People may call you a bitch, but they have no right to judge. I wish you the best. Ive been in a similar situation.
No, the fact of the matter is that if she cared about her best friend, she wouldn’t do this at all. Not for love, or what she thinks is love. It’s probably not love at all.
If she knew at all what it felt like to be cheated on, replaced, fucked around, she wouldn’t do this to another person at all, let alone her best friend.
She deserves to get fucked around the same way, and he deserves the same. She’s a selfish excuse for a friend and this ‘best friend’ of hers deserves better friends, a better boyfriend, a better life.
I couldn’t have said it better myself!
If anyone of us had a relationship with someone, we dont want to hurt them. We all have at one point or another been hurt. I feel that the point of the problem is that she did what she did to her friend and was able to do so without have a conscience large enough to stop her. Therefor there was no relationship at all. We do not hurt those we love. When one person loves another and that person they love does not feel the same, their love turns to obsession. The one who loves pours out and pours out and withought being poured back into they become empty (depressed) we translate this as heartbroken. Yet the pain she causes in time will only hurt herself. She never was her friend, nor did she truly care.
I agree with you. I was and still am in a similar situation.
I too have been in a simular situation, and I reallzed I loved my best friend more, I changed sence then. Just keep in mind, he’s willing to cheat on you, what would he be willing to do when you go out? Cheat on your sister?
Guys=Dickheads
i was that girl.
we’ve been together for awhile now.
i regret losing my best friend more than anything.ever.
i would take it all back in a heartbeat.
it will always haunt me.
People need to learn to think things through , every action has an equal and opposite reaction ” plz people use your heads”
Good. You deserved to be “haunted” forever.
Gosh, I am going to pray for you, Lisa, that God softens your heart and teaches you about forgiveness. Someone taught me once that anger is actually a secondary emotion. It always is a “veil” for another emotion-for example hurt, despair, sadness, or loneliness.
Furthermore, I cannot for a second imagine that you have never committed an act that was less than righteous. It is human to err.
I don’t believe in god so I don’t need you to pray for me. Anger can be just anger, you know.
Lisa, I’ve been in your situation too. It sucks… a lot. And I won’t pray to any God for you but after you find the guy who was meant for you, you will definitely be a happier person. I know how you feel, it shows in your comments, and it takes years to get over it. I’m sorry… and no one deserves to be in this much pain or feel this much anger towards anyone. It will get better with time
Good luck finding a man (or woman, I suppose!) who truly respects and deserves you.
What you did was inexcusable, but what these people have said to hurt you more is even more inexcusable.
I was in a similar situation once, although I did not “get” him to cheat on her. He took away my first kiss from me while he was still with her. I went to my best friend and asked her what comes next. I didn’t think I could date him because it would hurt her; she said otherwise. Not knowing what dating was, I went for it. That lie she told me cost us our friendship but brought me true love.
Sometimes these things just happen. You don’t deserve to be “hurt” by anyone. Never.
If you think you can really love him, go for it. Love is a rare gift: cherish it. Don’t be surprised if he hurts you, that can happen with any guy. Don’t blame it on how you started the relationship.
“What happened happened and couldn’t have happened any other way”
So, let it go. Your best friend, if he or she was your best friend, will understand and move on as well. And if he or she gives you the chance, help him or her move on.
Well..i think a huge reason you are ‘someone who understands’ is because you’ve (like u admit), been there, done that.
If you read the post again..she “COULD love him SOMEDAY.”
An act of love can be forgiven, an act of deception without love cannot.
You “got” him to cheat on her? You deserve to have your heart broken. My boyfriend cheated on me a few months back. We’re trying to work things out, but you have NO IDEA how much it hurts, the pain and torment you have to go through, the trust you have to rebuild. You’re supposed to be her best friend and protect her.
i feel your pain
and i’m sorry.
Thank you, love. It’s hard. Trust is hard to rebuild, but I think we’re getting there. I sneak glances at his phone and haven’t found a single thing, so that makes me feel a lot better. It’s been 7 months since it happened and I don’t trust him to go back home yet [we're away at school and it happened during Thanksgiving break when he went home and spent it with HER AND HER FAMILY instead of spending it with my family like planned]. Thanksgiving’s definitely going to be hard to go through every year for the rest of my life – whether we’re together or not, you know?
No, Thanksgiving will never be the same again. “It” will always be there somewhere. For me it’s Halloween …
He doesn’t understand why Thanksgiving’s going to be hard from now on. He tells me “just don’t think about it” as if it’s that easy. He agreed to go to counseling, but now he’s saying no. So I’m threatening to leave…and I’m pregnant with his kid.
I’m so sorry girl… he’s not worth it… do what’s best for the baby! You definitely want a dad you and your child can depend on.
We just started going to counseling two weeks ago. It’s going alright so far. An issue I’m having is why me. He never cheated on any other girlfriends before. Another GIANT issue I’m having is just why. Why did he do it, what were his reasons and he can’t answer those questions because that’s how he is. He doesn’t know why he does things, he just does them and doesn’t think about the consequences or how it’ll effect other people. He could eat a crayon and not tell you why he ate it. The counselor asked how I’d feel if he was never able to tell me why. I won’t be able to stay with him then. I need answers, you know? The other day he told me he was looking at engagement rings for me. HA!
i was cheated on by my best friend; i thought she was my sister and of course i was the last one to know. but there is one thing i always knew – karma comes back around. it always does, and she’s dealing with it now, and you’ll probably have to deal with it too, very soon. have fun.
You stupid fucking cunt. You need to die.
Reading the comments on this is quite hurtful even to me.
People look out mostly for themselves.
Just remember, for your own heart:
once a cheater, always a cheater.
cheating is unacceptable. there are no excuses for it. friends don’t do that to each other. trust is the hardest thing to rebuild.
trust is now constantly an issue for me. not just with him but with everyone. i can’t trust anyone, not even my bestfriends because i placed all my trust in him and my “friend” with whom he cheated and they threw that trust in the dirt and spat on it. i can’t talk to people as openly as i used to, i can’t hug males without feeling inferior, i’ve lost all self confidence. i feel that if i let someone in, they’re going to break my trust again and i don’t know if i could handle that.
only those who have been cheated on can understand how worthless it makes you feel so i can’t even begin to make you understand the hurt you will have caused. i hope you get fucked over and cheated on. i hope you fucking understand how much pain you have caused. “I THINK i could really love him someday”?!?! give me a fucking break!! you disgust me. you honestly do.
I definitely agree with you completely. Trust with anyone will NEVER be the same. When I’m boyfriend’s on his phone, I’m always wondering who it is. When he says he’s going by a male friend’s after work for a few minutes, I wonder if that’s true. When he’s like 10 minutes later than normally coming home from work, I get paranoid. When I’m home alone while he’s at work, my brain goes crazy with insecure thoughts. Sometimes I honestly think it’s better to just break up with him than try rebuilding trust and get over my securities. Am I stupid for staying with a guy that I love and am completely in love with even though he cheated on me 7 months ago?
One of his friends covered for him COMPLETELY! This guy went above and beyond to cover for him – saying he saw my boyfriend and shit like that. None of that was true. Now that guy thinks we’re engaged ’cause that stupid whore saw a picture of the promise ring he gave me and told her friend [who's my boyfriend's friend that covered for me] and he’s like “oh don’t cut me out of the wedding”. Fuck off! There’s no way in Hell that guy’s standing up in MY wedding if me and my boyfriend end up getting married – whether they grew up together or not. I’d rather have the stupid whore he cheated on me with as part of my wedding than that friend of his. Now I can’t trust any of his friends either who have all been claiming for the past 2 years that I’m family to them.
I hope you get over everything. You deserve someone great and someone that won’t hurt you. Remember: not everyone will hurt you. Not everyone will stab you in the back. Not everyone will ruin their trust with you. You WILL find incredible friends and you WILL meet an incredible guy that will take your breath away and make you happy. <3
Im an 18 year old mother of a 7 month old boy, and my 20 year old partner slept with my best friend – On the night of her 16th birthday.
I was the only girl he had ever been intimate with.
She lived in my house for 3 months, he forced me to have a threeway with her, and lied to me the whole time.
I found out 2 weeks ago.
All I can say to you, is that you are worthless scum.
I honestly hope, with all my heart that you Die.
You dont even deserve Death, you deserve Torture and Immortality.
Girl you should cut your boyfriends dick off and shove it down his throat for making you have a threesome with that whore.
i appreciate your support, i have wondered time and time again if i have made the right choice, i am still with him.
i dont know how to leave
Life is always complicated. If she is truly your friend, try and figure out why the possibility of losing her and gaining him was more important to you. Hopefully that will give you more insight to yourself so one day you can be trustworthy of someone’s heart again – as of the day you lured him away you became a greater enemy to yourself than anyone else involved.
dear out of control, emotional women,
stop blaming strangers for something you boyfriend did to you.
Dear post secret girl,
at least when you get cheated on in the future, you won’t be so suprised
p.s. coming home from war to see your friend fucking your wife is messed up. everyone else, CALM DOWN and GET OVER IT. People usually get what they deserve anways.
Dear Caroline,
All these women have a right to say whatever they’re saying here.
In the ‘lady’ in question here, they see the every ‘other woman’ who has made there life a living hell.
Although the author of this note as well as the jerk who was with her dont deserve the attention of an ant, let us lesser mortals, IF YOU PLEASE, rant off some bitterness from our lives.
This is not just for her..but for her entire category of heartless souls!
WHORE!!!!
couldnt say it any better
You are a vile piece of shit, just remember that Karma is a Bitch like yourself
Why?
What you did is wrong but I’m sure you have reasons and I don’t think any of these comments before me are necessary. If you sent this in then you’re probably already feeling some feelings of guilt and I hope they grow and you do what you feel is right. You’re probably not a “vile piece of shit,” you probably made a mistake and a lapse in judgment.
Oh Shannon, perhaps you should re-read the post secret…she clearly states “I got your boyfriend to cheat on you” those words do not relect that of a person who feels any remorse. It is a sentence that is far more boastful than “Oh sorry I took your man, hope you will forgive me some day” I really do not know how any sensible person could view this situation as a “mistake” Can someone please help me with this? I mean honestly, give me a break, no one sleeps with anyone as a mistake. I don’t care how much you had to drink. Years ago as a high school student believe me I was so plastered with guys trying to get on me left and right and I didn’t “mistakenly” sleep with them at all. Everyone knows what they are doing> Unfortunately not everyone has this little thing called morals…simple as that.
This happened to me, i still love him.. But i HATE her.. i can never forgive her, and i want to forget him.
I am doing the same thing to my “best friend”
I am with her boyfriend, and he’s to be breaking up with her as soon as he gets back from europe, to be with me.
My best friend is also the girl who would talk behind my back, and one day decided to drop all communication with me whatsoever.
I feel no remorse.
You’re a piece of shit.
@ Apple: Wow that’s sad…can’t wait to see it happen to you then you won’t be laughing. Let’s see how remorseful you will be then.
you are the most disgusting, wretched piece of crap i’ve ever heard of. what a waste of skin.
oh for gods sake, get a life seriously.
“you are the most disgusting, wretched piece of crap i’ve ever heard of.” do you even step outside your door? if this girl is the worst person in your opinion, i suggest you go and meet some victims of rape or a family who’s been affected by murder. you must live in some isolated world. either that or your holding on to a grudge. stop projecting your bitterness onto other people and GET OVER IT.
Has anyone ever told you that you’re absolutely horrible? If not, I’d just like to clear that up. I’ve never been cheated on, but I’ve felt the pain of being backstabbed by someone who I thought was my friend. It’s a terrible feeling that I’m sure you can relate to. Or, maybe you can’t. Maybe your best friend even deserved it. I highly doubt that, though.
Hi, I’m twelve years old and have much better judgment than you, already. Open your Goddamn eyes. Take a step back and look at your world from a different perspective.
The disgusting act of which you’ve committed will not go unpunished, I promise you that. When this boy hurts you, please don’t act so surprised. Then, who will you turn to? Your best friend is gone, remember?
l:
Lucky for some of us who have a lot of best friends, not just one, who understand.
Good for you. It must be nice to have so many painfully idiotic best friends, really. If they honestly do “understand” they’d probably have no problem fucking you over in the future.
Good luck with that.
gee, you guys are certainly heavy on the girls aren’t you? what she did was wrong, but what about him? yes, she was her best friend, but he was meant to be her boyfriend !
my friend cheated on his girlfriend with me a few weeks ago, although she was more of an acquaintance. i’m very sorry for what i did and apologized, but when the girlfriend started to solely blame me for what happened i had no time for her whatsoever.
Yeah, we understand the guy is also at fault, but it’s easier to be mad and blame someone you’re not in love with. When I was cheated on, it was easier to call the girl a whore and want to kill her then look at my guy and saying that stuff to him, you know?
Yeah, same here. It’s easy to call this chick all sorts of names, but it’s impossible to look at the guy you’re in love with and ask him why he hurt you/how could he hurt you. I ask mine that and he can’t even give me an answer.
this is my worst fear. you two are my best freinds and i’d hate it if he cheated on you with me. but i’m more worried that i wouldnt stop it.
Do stop it. Some friends don’t know much about relationships, and don’t pretend you’re happy and stuff. Just be honest. We appreciate that a whole lot more.
one of my close friends pretty much did the same to me. and i personally want to rip her face off. so let me tell you, stop while your semi ahead. as soon as your friend finds out, you will not have a best friend. and truly whenever he dumps you and he will, no one is going to be there.
that’s so low.
If he cheated on her, he’ll cheat on you too.
That’s not true.
yes it is.
males are worthless sluts, they cant keep it in the pants once its been in another pussy
No, that’s not true. If they’re willing to change and stay faithful, they will. If they aren’t willing, then yes, it’s going to happen again. Not all cheaters stay cheaters, though.
The point of postsecret is to allow people to get their secrest off their chest without the scrutiny of other people.
You’re confusing PostSecret and confession with a Catholic priest. And even with that, you have the “scrutiny” of one person. If you don’t want to be scrutinized by anyone, write in a diary.
It really pathetic that you would want someone elses man. Most likely because you can not keep one of your own. Remember if he cheats to be with you, he will cheat on your.
As they say what goes around comes around.
If they dude that you got from your best friend really loved his girlfriend he never never would have left her for a low life, no class, stupid ass cunt like you. But he didnt love her. He knew what he was doing was wrong to his girlfriend by fucking around with you, what guy wouldnt go for a whore who is willing to give it up so easily, just like you. You say “I THINK I COULD LOVE HIM” Thats just it you dont even know the real meaning to love let alone RESPECT.
ONCE A WHORE SLUT ALWAYS A WHORE SLUT. You deserve everything you get in life. I believe its called AIDS
What makes you so sure that he loves you back?
He cheated on his girlfriend with her best friend.
Doesn’t sound like a good persona to me, but then, neither do you.
Yeah, you may love him but he will just cheat on you with another girl… just like he did to your ‘best friend’ by cheating with you.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Exactly what I was thinking when I read this… Silly little girl do you think that he would not cheat on you just as he did with you on your best friend? I don’t get the people who get angry at this stuff, what goes around always comes around. Don’t get mad, because life has a way of making people feel what they’ve gone through.
WELL SAID!
People like you remind me that some people are just born rotten!
Its all coming back to you baby..have fun!!
I do think that everyone will get what they deserve, but most people that commented here are all bitter because they’ve all been hurt like that before. i think you have to not be biased to think logically. It may be wrong, but she posted her secret here so you should be understanding. but w/e. Personally, I think that it won’t work out. it was appealing because it was risky, daring and forbidden. He very well could leave you for someone else, or probably leave you to get back with his original gf. I’ve had this happen to me before, so I know how much it hurts. but I know what it feels like to do it too. Just don’t go crawling back to your friend when it’s over. take it like a man! Don’t beg for forgiveness, since that’s a pretty horrible thing to do and to have to go through.
when he leaves you, you’ll suffer by yourself and know how horrible it feels to be alone. I don’t wish death on you, but it will come around, so enjoy it while you can, but don’t take it too seriously.
I can relate, trust me. I’m secretly in love with my best firned’s boyfriend… I liked him first but then she asked him out and now IDK what to do. At least YOU did something about it…
No one person can ever know the full story of another.
All of you wishing this woman death and disaster need to take a step back and think about what you are saying. Think about the damage your rash judgments are doing, not to the OP, but to your own lives.
You judge too fast, too harshly, and you will cut yourself off from the world. You refuse to be humble enough to reassess your position on any issue, you will never grow as a person. You will atrophy.
I fight every day, the urge to break up my friend and her partner. I love him fiercely, unquestioningly, and more intensely than I have ever loved before. I fear that I might never love someone like this again. We have been having an affair for one year this weekend, and continue to be tortured by our inability to stop, no matter what we try. I want nothing more than for him to be happy. He loves his partner, and if it’s going to be right for his future, I want them to be together. If I could tear out the thing inside of me that draws him back to me, and give it to her, I would – regardless of the agony I know it would cause me. I would do it if I knew it was what would make him happy, and give him the best chance at a future…
I am not an evil person, and I do not deserve to die. I am human and I am flawed, just like you. You have no idea what I have experienced, just as I have no idea what this girl has experienced. You can not possibly know how anyone came to be in the place they are in, so you can not possibly judge them.
Be careful the cruel words you throw at those you declare monstrosities. You can never know where your life will take you. You may just find yourself in the monster’s shoes, begging for understanding from the disgusted, hostile, ignorant masses you were once so proud to be a member of.
No-one escapes uninjured when they fall from their high-horse.
So very true!!! I have also been in this situation (from all various angles) before and do not think of myself as evil and will never judge others who have been there ever again. It is wrong to shut off from love no matter who you share it with. From another point of view…we are also sexual beings and sex and love do not always equate. Also it is possible to love more than one person at once.
I think im the only one here who understands both aspects of this situation.
I was immensely in love with my boyfriend for 4 yrs when i found out he’d been cheating on me with my best friend (among others!). She told me i didnt have to worry because it was “just a fling”!
Needless to say, we’re friends no more but i loved him way too deeply then to let him go. Its 6 yrs now,we’re still a couple..but im not sure if i can ever really stay with him..there’s no trust left. My love is not the only thing which will be able to nourish our relationship.
Finally, first time after him, i started falling in love with a friend of mine, who loves me so dearly! This guy knows what i went through with my bf, loves me so much i can see it in his eyes, and everyday i fight the urge to get close to him.
But i’ve been on the other side, and i know i will never cheat and that i will never be the reason for breaking anybody’s heart and home.
So i let the other guy go.
So dear ‘ANYTHING’..yes its true that you can love fiercely someone who doesnt belong to you, or be in love with more than one person at a time, but it is also true that you know exactly what brings him to you, and I know how much it tears you inside but you need to put a stop to this thing and let him go. If you try hard enough, u can and u must stay away from him. He’s not yours.
I speak from experience, and it might be difficult for you to believe, but my love was no lesser than yours.
I’m not sure if all of you read what it says properly.
it says “I think I really could love him someday.”
you do not do that to your “best friend” under any circumstances, ESPECIALLY if you only THINK you could love him.
I’m sorry, but half of you have no idea what it’s like to be cheated on.
I understand that it’s difficult to stay away or whatever when you feel strongly, but surely it’s just common decency to keep your mouth shut.
Guys tend to go for anyone who gives them attention, and if they’re willing to allow them to be with two girls at once! Of course they’re going to say they love you!
Since he left her for you, he will probably leave you for someone else.
u must be really ignoran…What makes u think he won’t cheat on u? do u think ur special or something?
I have been cheated on and used so many times. I have now become the other woman… and I don’t feel bad in the least for it! Don’t hate me because I am beautiful… just hate me cause I’m sleeping with your boyfriend!
Congratulations on being the Queen Whore, slut. You’re definitely NOT beautiful – just easy. Remember, guys will go to ANYONE if they know she’ll put out.
loool.
i agree that it’s pretty much the worst thing to do with a friend
but if you think it’s worth it…
and have you guys considered that maybe the op’s best friend’s doing something wrong too?
haha, i like you manda ! you make a difference to everyone else who has expressed their views here.
Thank you! Humans are the only species that lives in total manogomy… or try to anyways… maybe that’s not the way it should be! Try it sometime… it can be fun! lol
Humans are not the only species that live in total monogomy. You ever hear about them penguins? Hahah! They do it well…You’re just giving yourself an excuse. You’re still wrong, it’s always harder to do the right thing. The thing is, at the end of the day, I sleep well at night knowing that my husband has a loyal woman. I make the conscious effort every day to be loyal and faithful to my mate and my friends, no matter what. It’s a choice.
Hahaha look up your facts before you open your mouth! Penguins are serial monogamous – which means that they only have one mate every breeding season – but when it’s next year – it’s next mate!
I am loyal and faithful to my mate, I only have one at a time, I just don’t have relationships with them,and they are the ones being dishonest!
actually there are some species that stay monogamous.
example: the male prarie vole stays with the girl he loses his virginity to for life. he even acts aggressive to potential “home wreckers”
source : http://www.livescience.com/bestimg/index.php?url=&cat=monogamous
besides we are human beings, not animals. our thought processes are much more complex than any other species. it’s silly to use the rationale that “humans are the only species that are monogamous, so it shouldn’t be that way.” humans are also the only species that cooks its food, so should we stop cooking too?
I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been cheated on in the past, manda, but that’s not really an excuse. don’t you remember how terrible it felt to discover you’d been cheated on? and now you’re contributing to the same pain for other, innocent women. if you can live with yourself knowing that, then it’s whatever. but when you tell people you’re an “other woman,” the vast majority will judge you to be a dumb homewrecking whore, and will therefore treat you that way.
I could probably go on and on about this, not because I’m bitter. I’ve never been cheated on and never cheated, but I know how emotionally devastating it would be for either of those things to happen to me.
No, humans are not more complex, just more self-congratulatory and too stupid to understand that different does not mean lesser.
Also, YES, YOU SHOULD STOP COOKING YOUR FOOD! Cooking food is poisonous, you dumbass! There’s a reason humans evolved to eat fruit!
Oh wait, you’re probably someone who believes that we were hunter-gatherer cavemen in Europe that killed mammoths and hit our women over the head and dragged them off to our cave to
rapehave sex with them.So it’s not very surprising.
Word to the wise: bigotry makes you stupid; species bigotry is still bigotry, no matter how many times you repeat the phrase “just animnals”.
i’ve been with a guy who calls me up to talk about his girl trouble and end up misleading me. saying he broke up with a girl so i won’t leave. he lied.
long story short. we ended up together, i would still feel guilty because i knew we weren’t with a clean start. 5 years forward we broke up and he had been cheating on me apparently a year prior to our break up.
karma is a bitch woman. u sure gonna get it. if u started ur relationship at the expense of other misery. proven on me.
good good good luck.
If he’ll do it FOR you, he’ll do it TO you. It really is that simple.
The difference is… I don’t get involved… I’m in for a good time… not a long time.
Dear Manda,
We all know that deep inside you feel totally worthless. You are not fooling anyone by playing the “I’m a badass sexually liberated hearbreaker… and proud of it!” act. The truth is, you hate yourself and feel like a cheap whore deep down. Just admit it : )
honestly , if thats you..
I’m gonna kick the shit out of him (my best friend).
and if its not , your a piece of shit.
but the biggest piece of shit is the best friend ..
best friends don’t do that , I hope the guilt rots inside you forever.
Yeah your not supposed to do that to your best friend,
But emotions take over,
And Id think she was stupid for assumin she loved him at first sight!
You go for it
And no, its not the case of,
“If he did it for you, he’ll do it to you”
My ex cheated on his girlfriend and finished with her for me,
We lasted a year but broke up NOT for cheating.
Emotions take over? Okay so was it that you actualy “loved” him or wished you had what they did.. I mean come on how long did it even last. please- this is pathedic. And for some one to tell someone to “go for it” just shows how low people can be. I’m glad your not my friend or even someone I know. If he didn’t enough respect to break it off with another girl before you- wow, must make you feel GREAT!
everyone seems to be calling the person who’s secret this is a whore, but has anyone stopped to realize the boyfriend was just as much at fault as the “best friend” ? yes, the girl made a mistake, but obviously the boy didn’t find what he wanted with the girl he cheated on. Your friend will either get over the fact that maybe, just maybe he wasn’t the right guy for her. Once she gets over it, she should accept your happiness. If she still holds a grudge than she obviously wasn’t your “best” friend.
yes, it is just as much the boyfriend’s fault as the “best friend’s,” but he’s not the author of the secret. we don’t know what the boyfriend would say about this, but the other girl is basically bragging about how she “got him” to cheat and how she THINKS she could love him, so of course we will be criticizing the girl.
We got that it’s the boyfriend’s fault, too, and no one’s not blaming him. It’s easier to blame the person that’s supposed to be your best friend and “have your back” then the person you’re in love with. I still refer to the girl my boyfriend cheated on me with as a whore, but I know he’s at fault, too, which is why we’re going to counseling to get over my trust issues with him. I know that he’s the one that asked someone for her number and started the whole thing [texting her first, not saying that he was still dating me] and lead her on. I also know that he got drunk and slept with her twice and didn’t stop himself even though we were in a relationship at the time. Again, you want the person you’re in love with to be perfect, so of course you’re going to see fault in the whore that he slept with and not him. It’s like therapy. How many issues stem from your parents? ha!
I think some of you may be missing the point.. Obviously this person is ashamed of what she did to some extent,,hence the “secret”..who hasn’t been ashamed of themselves before? She isn’t trying to defend herself,,she is stating how she is feeling and getting that weight off her chest. Whether or not its right is irrelevant. To judge her to make yourself feel better..makes me feel bad for you. I enjoy reading these because it reminds me that everyone is human. Also, some of these poor me, i was cheated on comments have to be bullshit.. You don’t just go get back on a plane to war…you get orders, but it sounds cute i guess.
this happened to me.
My best friend in the whole world was sleeping with my boyfriend. That wasn’t enough for her, so she proceeded to brag about what she was doing to all of my friends and even to my face, claiming to be hooking up with a mystery guy. She would laugh and go into graphic detail right to me. I don’t know why she suddenly went completely insane, or why she decided to go sadistic on me. But it was all a sort of sick game for her. My boyfriend was some conquest that she wanted to have. I wasn’t quite suicidal, but it was definitely the worst thing that has ever happened to me. It was utter and total agony.
As to the people who have posted that their the other person, that they’re cheating with their best friend’s partner…there aren’t really any words I can express to you. You have to be some of the cruelest, most hateful people on the planet to hurt someone that much who trusts you like a best friend. You’re pretty much a sociopath, and are incapable of feeling mercy, regret, or guilt for anyone but yourself.
please just stop.
well said.
This is getting stupid.. there are people out there who kill people, but this person is the most horrible person who’ve ever heard of? Watch the damn news! Let’s also remember that no woman should be able to “get” your boyfriend to cheat on you. He’s a SCUM BAG! Lets give women a little bit of a break, and hey ladies instead of hating the women that your bf slept with,, try not acting like such a victim and BREAK UP WITH HIM! When women get seduced by married men, they are home wreckers..but we don’t hold men to the same standard. It’s pathetic.
THANK YOU.
finally, someone that actually sees sense !
No. They’re both disgusting scumbags and both are to be blamed for it.
So you’re saying- Me, being pregnant, i Should give my friend a break because she and my babies father had sex!? OHH i don’t think so. You don’t see men go up to any girl and say lets fu** and it happens. You see the women go up to men and say lets fu** and it happens. No doubt he’s a scumbag but you think it’s okay for her to know about me and still do it.. she could find a single man for a one night stand? please. Have you ever heard the saying “men are like dogs and hump anything that walks”. I’m a drop dead gorgeous women.. This other girl got gang banged (literally) saggy titties and everything- come on now. So i am 19 and currently a single parent because of the disgusting people that are in this world today. Thank you for all of you that support me. and all of you that don’t- i really don’t care about you, you ruin lives.
I completely understand…but now he’s gone and so is she. He honestly was the realest love I’ve ever known
What the hell is wrong with all of you? This is supposed to be a safe place for people to get things off their chests. All I know is that if I was the one reading these comments, it would be enough material to kill myself with. This person is not perfect. None of us are. I’ve been cheated on and it hurt like hell, but you never know what the other person is going through. They are obviously hurting too, confused about friends and love and what to do next. This person is not horrible, she just made a mistake, and now she’s questioning it…she probably feels horrible, but isn’t sure whether it really was a mistake anymore.
No.
She’s not posting this up to share a secret – she’s bragging.
I hope she does kill herself; there ain’t nothin’ wrong with suicide, and honestly, the world could do with fewer humans.
You can’t build a house on a cracked foundation. If it was so easy for him to cheat on someone he was with for awhile I’m pretty sure it will be easy for him to cheat on someone he really didn’t build any memories with
As much as what she did was wrong, the fact that this guy allowed his girlfriends best mate to talk him into cheating shows that he wasn’t worth being with anyway really…
Doesn’t the saying go,
people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.. People who cheat are human. No better or worse than any people here. If everyone whose ever made a horrible mistake is what these people are claiming this stranger to be.. Then over half our population is going to hell. That’s your neighbor, your brother,your dad, your friends, your sister, etc… It’s easy to cast judgment because this person happens to remain nameless, yet we forgive those we love without question. Funny how life works out that way sometimes. These people weren’t married, just a couple of kids who do stupid things..
It doesn’t state their ages, so we don’t know if they’re “just a couple of kids who do stupid things”. My boyfriend and I had been together for years and were 21 when he cheated on me with a 17 year old. Does that mean he was “just a kid” and did “stupid things”? No. He’s an ADULT. Everyone’s going to Hell. Everyone “sins”. It’s human.
yes, yes i do. At 21, I’d consider him a stupid kid. Funny how we don’t all just turn 18 and magically grow up. I wish I lived in a land of sugar plums and candyland.. Sorry to hear about your experience, but when your 40, you’ll look back at the you that you were at 21 and say “damn, if i had known what i know now…” I hope too that there is more to your story, because as a believer in all that is lawful, did your boyfriend get charged with statutory rape? At least in that scenario he would be forced to have to deal with that situation as an adult,,, but i doubt that would numb the pain.
Wow. Sarcasm. I definitely appreciate that. Obviously you still aren’t an adult. If any of us lived in a “land of sugar plums and candyland”, cheating, among other things, wouldn’t exist. At 21/22, most people graduate college and start careers. That’s not a “stupid kid”. That’s an adult. Sorry that I grew up and don’t live with my mommy and daddy and have them pay for everything for me. Cut the umbilical cord. Why would there need to be more to my story? You don’t consider him an adult, remember? The age of consent is 17 and it was consensual. Apparently her parents know how much of a whore she is because they let some strange guy spend a few days at their house [which wasn't the first time they let her have strange guys over either] – they all knew he was in a relationship, too.
Yea, that’s it. I’m 30 years old Lisa and I live with my “Mommy and Daddy” and I’m a cheating whore, just for funsies! You’re a GENIUS! If I considered every 21/22 year old that I know that just graduated college as a mature adult then Beer Pong and Keg stands must be the equivalent of bobbing for apples and pinatas. Only 2 of those things don’t lead to making unsound decisions. At least I’m not sitting around playing the victim and boo hooing because some asshole cheated on me. Obviously you’re all grown up, soo just get a life and get over it. Good thing we’re not at War or anything…then there would be truly awful things to worry about.
you still live with mommy and daddy? that’s pretty pathetic and so sad. why don’t you get off your ass and get a job? there’s nothing we can do about the war, so why should we sit here and worry about it? that’s not going to solve anyhing, dumbass. hun, not all college students play beer pong and do keg stands. get over it. college isn’t about partying to ever college student. you’re losing this argument against Lisa so just give up already. you’re making yourself look pathetic.
I don’t care to argue with Lisa. We think differently and because she disagrees with me she decided to attack me because that’s what adults do. We disagree with the way one another thinks and can’t just accept that. My parents are dead, and you’re right, there is nothing we can do to stop the war, so sleep well and never worry about it. There is also nothing we can do about drugs, violence and all the other problems facing our world today. WOW! you gave me an epiphany, there is no need to worry about anything, least of all some “friend” who got her boyfriend to cheat on her best friend….(back to the original comment here) I enjoy reading these post secret books because they have a unique way of showing us the human condition..and so do the people who respond with WHORE WHORE WHORE. Obviously some of these women have been hurt by cheating men..join the club, don’t let it define you and don’t give him the satisfaction of hating THE WOMEN for it. Be happy, and judgment free of others, in turn you will come out a better person, and a stronger one.
omg shut the fuck up. now your parents are dead but you live with them? stop trying to get sympathy from people. why should i worry about shit i can’t change? i can’t go to iraq and bring everyone home. i donate money and that’s all that i can do from this distance. i worry about shit i’m affected by. i can’t worry about every little thing that’s going on in the world. stop using that as a fucking argument. you’re definitely not 30 years old like you claim. you’re a moron. she didn’t even fucking attack you in the beginning until you wouldn’t just drop the subject. this girl is a whore, yes, because she betrayed her best friend. this girls boyfriend is just as disgusting. man, just shut the fuck up ’cause no one cares about what you have to say anymore and i’m done responding after this because of how pathetic you are. don’t let this argument “define you” either, ass. “be judgment free of others, in turn you will come out a better person, and a stronger one.” take your own advice and swallow it. the end.
PATHETIC! you are so funny, seriously become a comedian or something. although don’t become a debater, cos frankly you suck at arguing. are you like twelve years old? how can you not understand that anon is being COMPLETELY AND OBVIOUSLY sarcastic in her third post!? oh my god, get a brain, pleaseeeeeee.
plus, some of you are such bitches here that frankly i think you deserved to be cheated on. your partners must have thought you had no souls, can’t really blame them.
Olive, you’re just as pathetic as “anon”. Just because I’m a bitch here doesn’t mean I’m a bitch all the time. I’m only being a bitch because “anon” is a moron, like yourself. If girls that are bitches deserve to get cheated on, people that cheat deserve to get STDs, girls that dress like skanks deserve to get raped, etc. That’s definitely a concrete argument you have there. Please go to law school so you can defend others – just remember: some of the clients lawyers defend [murders, child molesters, etc] deserve to be punished yet some walk away free. Does the next person to get killed/raped/molested by these people deserve it? No. No one deserves any harmful thing they go through.
nearly every single comment you make here is bitchy and bitter lisa, whether it’s directed at another person who opposes your opinion or at the OP. i can only assume from this that you’re a bitchy person, sorry. and likewise you assume that i’m a pathetic person and i honestly don’t care. we don’t know each other, unfortunately it’s only in the heated comments that we get to form opinions of each other.
lmao
are you kidding?
how do you know “lisa” made all of those comments?
just because there’s a poster named “lisa” doesn’t mean it’s the same, “lisa” is a very popular name.
anyone can easily change the name he/she is posting with to a different name.
for all we know, you’re really “anon” trying to pretend that someone is backing her/him up.
maybe you’re really “lisa” just trying to get other people heated.
maybe “anon” and “anonymous” are the same person.
maybe i’m “lisa”.
maybe “stephanie” or “alice” is “lisa”.
IT’S AN ANONYMOUS WEBSITE!
it’s the internet.
we get to be whoever we want to be on the internet whether it reflects who we really are or not.
you shouldn’t assume things, “olive”, because you make an ass out of yourself.
WOO WOO!!! Go, “lol!”
Hahahahaha
oh yeah, shit i forgot about that.
well, i think it’s pretty obvious though that the same “lisa” is posting frequently though, her calm justifications are quite recognisable. and i think someones got to have a pretty weak argument if they feel they need to make up aliases to big themselves up. are you sure you’re not PATHETIC!, lol? you both use the word ass rather inappropriately, hmmm.
WOO WOO!!! Go, “olive!”
Hahahahaha
Well… olive certainly isn’t me, and I’m pretty sure Lisa is too stupid to change her name. I’m pretty sure Olive was correct in his assumption that she was 12, which is why in fact, I backed off.
actually i didn’t call you an ass like “PATHETIC!” did.
i said you shouldn’t assume things because you’ll make an ass out of yourself.
the saying goes “when you ‘assume’, you’ll make an ass out of both you and me”.
by your inability to read correctly, you’ve probably never heard of that saying.
to “anon”, “lisa” actually stopped responding to you first.
you continued arguing with “PATHETIC!” after “lisa” stopped.
also, just because you’re stating “olive certainly isn’t me” doesn’t prove anything.
i can easily say “lisa” is me.
would you believe that?
I think it’s funny that all of you “adults” are still arguing about this. I stopped responding and not shortly after, “anon” did as well. There’s no reason for anybody else to be jumping down each others throats. We stopped a long time ago. We all know that anyone can be posting as other people because it’s anonymous. We all get that everyone has different opinions. Just stop responding ’cause it’s never going to stop. Wait until someone new posts and then we can attack them [just kidding].
lol, don’t hide behind sayings when you’re making an argument. english is not my first language, and even though i had heard that saying before, just because i didn’t interpret it the first time doesn’t mean i’m stupid. (inability to read correctly = illeriate = poorly educated = stupid, see i got that one!)
i agree with lisa actually, it’s funny when people argue about this but it gets tiring very quickly. can’t wait until someone else posts and we can attack them, not kidding, cos lets face it. it’s going to happen.
this isnt even about the postcard anymore…
Bahahahaha nope… it’s all about Lisa!
This happened to me two years ago
it still hurts
To the poster: I know exactly how you feel. I honestly started crying when i saw this. Because, i did the exact same thing.
and i know im probably going to get a ton of ‘you are shit, scum, bitch’ responses.
I am.
I should have never done this.
But i love him.
I am sorry, k. I love you. Always.
B: i feel horrible about what we did, but i love you too much.
I feel horrible. as i should.
i think you’re really brave for this…and it sucks that you’re love story started out this way but make it the best you can
I think its wrong that she put her secret on here, and everyone is bashing her for it. Seriously? I’m sure she feels bad.
my god. i truely pray i never meet a person as horibble as you
Wow, haha I don’t think she’s fucked up, she just wants what is not hers….
If she may love him, she should pursue her love. If he loves her, he will show it in return. His girlfriend is better without him considering that he doesn’t care enough for her. Everyone can get what is best for them in this particular situation.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting this secret. If that’s how you feel, then this should be an open forum to express your feelings without being persecuted. I applaud those who have the courage to state how they feel and those who can respond without being rude, demeaning, or judgmental.
What right do you people have to judge? We all make mistakes and we’re all faced with tough choices. I feel for you.
I can say I am not fucked up – but have been fucked over! Boyfriends are far too much hassle – they are needy and have too many expectations. I plan on remaining single – I don’t want a boyfriend of my own – somebody else’s is okay with me. I’m not the one doing anything wrong, I’m not the cheater. And I will say it again – Humans are the only beings who believe monogamy works… maybe its every other being on the planet are the ones who have it right!
I believe people who do mean and cruel things need of our love and compassion the most. There are deeper things going on in this girls life than ‘stealing’ her best friends boyfriend. Just about anyone with self-esteem, respect and dignity would never consider breaking up a relationship. As sad as it was for the girl who lost her boyfriend and best friend, she WILL move on and eventually get over it (and she’s better off), but the girl writing this may carry her issues with her for the rest of her life. I believe one day she’ll acknowledge what a terrible thing she did…if she hasn’t already.
If we continue to tell ourselves (and each other) that people don’t have the right to make mistakes, we would never grow up.
wow, people should shut up, stuff happens, and getting cheated on doesnt hurt all day every day. LIFE GOES ON.
You messed up. But you still deserve to find love. I know I don’t know you, but I forgive you.
oh yeah well if you might love him someday maybe in the forseeable future it’s totally work fucking over your best friend
evidently you’re a sad lonely person and you weren’t thinking rationally but the degree of selfishness you’ve shown doesn’t deserve sympathy
I think that you all have to get over yourselves. There are somethings everyone does that are wrong. her mistake may have been larger but that doesn’t give you the right to criticize her.
yeah only at no point does she say it was a mistake
this is an attempt at validation, nothing more, and anyone who doesn’t call her out on it is doing her a disservice
wow guys…. i dont think that this person ACTUALLY did this.. but who knows.. maybe im wrong..
What you did is terrible, but since you’re admitting it here, it seems like you realise it was a horrible mistake and that you did the wrong thing.
Please have the courage to make amends with your friend and break off the relationship with this guy – besides from the fact that it will heal your broken conscience, it’s a bad idea to keep an enemy that knows you well, and it’s also a bad idea to have a relationship with a guy that has a tendency to cheat.
I am in the exact same situation. I moved in with a work friend and immediately was attracted to her husband. Good thing is, he felt the same way. We started sleeping together after a few days and fell in love. She has a feeling something is going on, but no proof. He and I are saving up for an apartment and when we get enough, we are moving out. He is going to file for divorce and as soon as it’s final we are going to get married. In fact he just proposed today. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.
I know most people will tell me if he cheats with me, he will cheat on me. But funny thing is, I trust him. He doesn’t even touch or do anything with his wife. We are completely and hopelessly in love.
I cannot condone what this girl did. There are people saying that it “doesn’t matter” how the relationship was started and they were in similar situations, but are they reading the damned postcard? She said she “got” him to cheat on her and “could” love him someday! This girl did it for sport. She didn’t want the boy, she wanted to see if she could get her BFF’s man to fuck her and now that she has, she is deciding if she will keep him or not. Is that not obvious? Girl is conniving. Not all post secret confessions are out of guilt. Some are just little releases of pleasure or feelings you don’t feel comfortable displaying. Not every girl, no matter how nasty would want her new man and her ex best friend to know that she had been planning this or she feels satisfied by her victory.
However; the dude is a scumbag too. There is too much hate for the lady here. It takes TWO to tango. He could have said no. It isn’t that hard. I have done it. I’ve never cheated on my man, but I have sure as hell been approached. If he loved her, he could have said no. They were BOTH in the wrong and she is better off without them.
It seems like it is easy for the people who HAVEN’T been cheated on to say that they were just “kids” and made a mistake, but I don’t see anywhere on the card that they were children. They could easily be I their thirties. That being said, yes we do all make mistakes but cheating is not some little mistake you should not be judged for. It’s a big fucking mistake that effects EVERYONE in your life. A little “cheating” mistake would be kissing her best friend’s boyfriend, not fucking him. I am not saying that we as human beings don’t do stupid shit, but really people think that you should just sweep this under the rug? Sleeping around on your partner or upsetting an established relationship is not something that should just be ignored, no matter how new or old the relationship was and no matter how young the participants! Human beings may make mistakes, but we should be held accountable for something in our relationships and when you are in an exclusive relationship, cheating is one of them. Breaking trust in any relationship is a serious thing.
If she liked the guy, tell her friend; but she DIDN’T like him. She made a point of saying that. She thinks now that she has him she perhaps could find it in herself to like him, but hasn’t yet formed those feelings. It’s so blatantly obvious I want to smack some people with the card.
There is NO reason to cheat. If you are unhappy with a relationship, BREAK UP! Don’t further another person’s pain by cheating. That is so sick. You know you are leaving the third party in shambles. It isn’t fair to that person. There is no logical reason for cheating when you could simply tell your partner you aren’t interested anymore… or have an open relationship. Whatever works!
Wow. FINALLY someone gets it. Thank you! My ex and I are in counseling for his cheating [we have a 3 month old together so we figured counseling would be a good idea] and I keep asking him why he didn’t just break up with me ’cause it would’ve been a hell of a lot easier to deal with. Instead, he stayed with me and ruined any self confidence I had in myself, which only got worse after having a baby. I think it’s because he had no respect for me, was selfish, and never loved or cared about me like he claims. If he had any of those things for me, how could he have a completely other relationship with some whore? Yes, she’s a whore because she knew the whole time he was with me.
Amen to that. My husband is unfortunately still paying for my ex’s mistakes. My husband continually surprises me with how much he is not like every guy I have ever know and is a man of God, but I still worry because of what my ex did (tried to cheat on me with two of my friends while I was at school, not to mention all the girls he successfully did because they weren’t my friends and didn’t know about me). I now have problems trusting friends too because of the fact that they got in a situation where they could have cheated.
I agree people need to be held accountable, but first they need morals and a conscience. Consequences have no effect if you don’t think you did anything wrong. If you beat down the conscience God gave you enough, pretty soon you won’t have one, that is when you know you are screwed.