28 thoughts on “I feel stupid”

  1. Unfortunately I know what this is like =/
    I feel stupid for believing him when he said he loved me
    It still stings a little when I think about it 5 months on, especially because he’s still with her, the one responsible for me losing everything I had with him
    I guess that “love” just wasn’t enough..
    I wish all these feelings would just go away.. i guess i’m stuck with them until I find someone better who actually will mean it when they say “i love you”

  2. Amy, I could have written your post.
    Only difference is I don’t blame her, I blame him for leading me on thinking he really did love me. I was fooled. My love wasn’t “good” enough for him.
    He was out on the town with her the same week we broke up.
    I guess “love” means different things to different people.

  3. Yep you’re right
    I suppose I blame both of them to an extent
    The person I trusted most in the world let me down so badly and what she did was just low
    It’s trying to forget about him and move on now, that’s the most difficult part

  4. Unfortunately, I have been there a couple of times. I just need to stop believing guys when they say they love me.

  5. I feel the same way..
    I loved him with all i had
    We date for 3 years and he left me
    had another gf with in 2 weeks..
    he said he fell out of love..
    I feel i wasnt good enough..
    My love wasnt enough..
    Moving on feels impossible

  6. When a person tell you that “They fell out of Love” in all actuality they never loved you from the beginning. Love is not something that just stops. we tend to build walls around those feelings when we are hurt and then we stop acting on those feelings

  7. I want to let all of you women out there know that this feeling isn’t just yours. I am a man and I am right there with you.

    I was head over heels for a wonderful girl. It was the happiest year and a half of my life, bar none. Then things went downhill. She left me for some douchebag she’d been crushing on for years, and when I found out I even asked her “does it feel good to finally get your man?” She played me for 6 more months because I was a fool and didn’t know how to stay away from someone who wronged me. I knew better than to go back, but I follow my heart before I follow my head… I am too much a sappy romantic. So after 6 months of lying to me about how she really loves me and doesn’t feel the same about him and that she will leave him but she still continued on and kept sleeping with him and blowing me off, I finally walked away. And just like Amy, I know that she is still with this guy… even though I haven’t spoken to her in 4 months. But like Lori Ann mentioned, I’m not mad at him; I’m mad at her. Not a day has gone by that I don’t think about her, and even though I miss her very much, every time I think about her I just get angry thinking about how poorly she treated me and that I let it happen for so long. Why is love so confusing? I miss her, I hate her, I want her, I want her to die. I don’t know how I am supposed to feel and I don’t know if I’ll ever be okay again. I can only hope to meet someone who can once again remind me how great love is supposed to be.

  8. What is love? Is love a story book romance? Is love what your parents have? Is love what your parents do not have? As long as you give yourself 100 percent to a relationship its up to the other to keep it or leave it. Someone will want what you have to give.

  9. I know how love feels all too well. Sometimes I think it’s not worth the excruciating pain anymore. I’ve had this guy who told me he would love me always and forever, but obviously he didn’t mean it. After dating for 20 months we randomly broke up because “he didn’t want a girlfriend anymore”, yet left me dangling there for about four months after. Then he dated a couple girls, and always came running back to me, telling me he loved me. One night after not talking to him for a month I went to his house, and that night just happened to be the night he had to leave to go to Boston for three years. Before he left, I helped him pack, it was something you’d see out of a romance novel except this story leaves the girl in so much pain. Anyway, so he told me that he would come back for me, we kissed and he watched me drive off. I honestly think that I could never love anyone else as much as I loved him. Even though he has hurt me more times that I could count, I don’t ever want to let him go. I feel that most girls are attracted to giant assholes, and we just can’t help it. Once anyone has put so much effort into loving someone, it’s hard to let go, and even though we may be hurt in the end, it’s hard to find a love like that again.

  10. i know that feeling.but its sucks cus i know thats how this guy felt about me,i never really told him my feelings and he felt like he would be the only one in the relationship so he stopped caring about me and moved on,the worst thing is im still in “love” with him and i only have myself to blame for not having gim in my life.

  11. Broken hearted
    I think that’s what I’m doing not letting him in my life and all it is I’m afraid
    he is going to go back to his ex she’s still in his life his a great guy I just don’t
    want to end up alone and madly in love with him

  12. I’ve felt this way everyday sense he left me. One night we are going out to dinner talking about what we want to do tomorrow, tomorrow comes and he cut all communication with me no explantation. So I’m left feeling like a loser who had been used for the last 3 years. I would love to know how it makes him feel knowing he destroyed my life.

  13. I know exactly how all of you feel. I think im the only guy here and i can’t stop thinking about her 7 months later, If only she could see how much i really do love her then maybe she would take me back.

  14. You’re not the only guy, you must have missed my long comment above.

    It’s been 9 months for me and I can’t stop thinking about it. Of course I did see her about 3 months ago, I went to get back a couple things and tell her off, but everything came rushing back… we made love that night and hung out for a couple days. Then she started her same bullshit all over again. Trust me man; women never change. You DON’T want her back. You have to move on, however long it takes.

  15. Tell me why do guys keep going back when they know it’s going to happen again
    my bf still talks to his e. And it’s been 2 years any advice you can give me
    to it works both ways

  16. i know what this is like.. every day we have the same argument over who loves who more. i do everything with him in mind. but to him, im an annoyance and a responsibility that he doesnt want to deal with. we used to be so happy. i love him more. more than anything i could think of. id do anything. i just have issues coping with the reality that he doesnt love me anymore.

  17. this post secret sums up everything i’ve felt within the last month and a half. i was with my ex for almost 2 yrs. in august, we started a long distance relationship due to the fact that i started college and he wasn’t starting until spring semester. i was madly in love with him. he told me i was the best he ever had. his mom and his friends think the same thing too. everyone thought that i really helped him turn his life around positively. we had got in a huge arguement, then we didn’t talk for a few days then all of a sudden he tells me he doesnt need a relationship. a few weeks later he ends up with a girlfriend. after that he text me a couple of times and he cheated on her with me and whatnot. but through it all he left me hanging. not knowing what our next move was going to be. i finally came to the conclusion that he only loved me because i put up with his bs, because no other girl would. it hurts everyday knowing that i still love him but he never loved me. 2 yrs is a long time to put in that much energy. a little piece of me hopes that one day he’ll pick up the phone and either txt me or call me to at least apologize but i know that will never happen. this may sound mean but i can only move on better if he ends up getting hurt the same way he hurt me.

  18. i once told a boy that i loved him, and he said nothing. he didn’t love me back, he had only been using me. i hate him, but at the same time, if he told me he loved me, i hate to admit that i would probably be with him. i do still love him, i feel that he fits, but i hate what he has done. i make fun of him with my friends when they do, but deep down, i’m still pining over him and fantasizing about him. i can’t wait for someone who will like, love, and appreciate me for me. someone who will take all of me, and not just use bits of me got their own personal gain. i know that guy is out there, and i’m waiting for him 🙂

  19. I disagree Yvonne.
    i was with my first love for 3 years.
    I had never felt that way EVER in my life.
    i was sooo in love with him.
    i fell out of love with him. We still talk and are kind of friends.
    But i find his insane ego really aggrivating to me.
    i could never be with someone so selfish.
    And i have been in love with a friend of ours for quite a while.
    He is almost too perfect for me it scares me.

    people are always evolving and growing.
    sometimes you just grow in different directions, and that’s okay.

  20. I know exactly how this feels. :/ I’ve loved one man completely for three years, even though I know he’ll never feel the same.

  21. I fell in love with a straight boy. I told him and he told me that it was ok. He accepted my love, but we both knew that it wouldn’t be able to happen. I was so happy he still wanted to be my friend. He even told me that there was someone better than him out there for me.
    No one could be better than him.

  22. I know this feeling all too well. I continue to put so much into guys who use me instead of loving me back. I really hope that I can learn to wait and I’ll find the perfect one someday…

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