I’m sick of being nothing but a pretty face.
When I know that I am so, so much more.
I’m sick of being nothing but a pretty face
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Oh, boo hoo! Seriously? You’re sick of being a “pretty face”?? That just pisses me off. How do you think ugly people like me feel when they see all the opportunities falling into pretty people’s laps, despite all our efforts? I work to cultivate a “winning personality” and a great sense of humor because that’s the only way I can make myself attractive. But people like you still have an overwhelming advantage over me. If people like you say smart things or prove themselves to be very efficient in the workplace, it’s a pleasant surprise and people love you all the more for it. If I do the same thing, it’s treated as a matter of fact.
SO STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR CHARMED DNA AND JUST APPRECIATE WHAT YOU’VE BEEN GIVEN. And maybe buy your uglier friends a drink once in a while, if you’ve got any friends who aren’t pretty like you.
I agree with Nanashi. I think that if you’re tired of being just a pretty face, then don’t be. MAKE SOMETHING OF YOURSELF. Looks aren’t good enough, you have to have it all?
Than why is the main shot in the picture you chose to write this message on your chest? Behave like more than “just a pretty face” and people will treat you accordingly.
people don’t send in their secrets so they can be torn apart. the three of you should be ashamed of yourself. how would you feel if someone insulted you for your secrets? to whoever made this secret: as long as you know you’re more than just a pretty face, that’s what matters.
I wasn’t tearing her apart, nor did I mean to insult her or anyone with what I said. I was just pointing out that her actions are what are other people see and judge her by. If she wants to be seen as something more than a shallow shell of a person, than she needs to act like more than that. Hoping that people are just going to figure it out for themselves isn’t going to work.
To Leah, if you ever see this: How was any of what I said insulting? If anything, I offered her some constructive criticism. All I said, basically, is that this girl needs to understand that this problem she believes she has is not only easily remedied but would be considered by many to be a gift. Yes, my tone was harsh. But that’s necessary with someone who would post a “secret” like this. I’ve never been one to hold hands or pity another person because not only does that keep them weak and complacent, it shows you don’t respect that person for being capable of becoming stronger.
Hi honey. I’m the exact same, sort of. I look very young and “chrubic”. Every one I know calls me pretty. No boy I’ve dated lasted longer than a few weeks, because all they cared about was the I was a size 8 (Australian) and a double-D. They don’t give a damn about my straight-As or my aspirations to learning Quantum Mechanics and theology. No one seems to. And I’m never treated as an adult because I’m pretty and young-looking. Anyone who says beauty isn’t a curse isn’t thinking. If they say it’s gifted genes, they don’t realize how hard it is. It’s not easy being unattractive either (I was the proverbial ugly duckling, growing into my looks) but hell, no one has it easy. It’s kinda the point of the world. And if we can’t complain about the hardships of being genetically pretty and wanting to be seen as smart, thent the genetically ‘unattractive’ shouldn’t complain about wanting to be seen as pretty.
Just my two cents.
Nanashi you are harsh. Have you ever thought people treat you the way they do because they see you the same way you see the person who wrote this secret.–You are weak and complacent in the beauty department (after all you called yourself ugly) beautiful people are not going to hold your hand and pity your homely appearance. SO STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR CHARMED PERSONALITY AND JUST APPRECIATE WHAT YOU’VE GOT. And maybe ask your pretty friends for makeover advice once in a while, if you’ve got any friends who aren’t ugly like you, sulking in their own depression.
Lola you got it right on.
idk who u r, but if i were u i would not read these comments
thank you
nanashi,
Your saying she should get over it because she is pretty and is sick of being seen as just that. When all you did in that whole post was bitch because your ugly. Get over it!
you are so wrong..
* I was replying to nanashi’s first comment
id smash
My comment was for you too Mari.
Way to turn the tables.
We all need to get over ourselves once in a while.
The girl who posted the secret is coming from the right place. Nanashi, you are not. No matter what you look like, your bitter jealousy is the ugliest thing about you.
i know exactly what you mean.
most of the guys i have dated have only dated me cause they think im pretty or hott or whatever
none of them have honestly liked me for my personality
and it makes me feel like shit
cause i know im more then just a pretty girl.
This girl isn’t trying to brag that she’s pretty. She’s trying to say that she knows she’s pretty, but wants to be noticed for her personality or brains. People need to lay off and stop being so jealous. Let people get out their secrets without getting bashed the second it’s posted. my god.
@ Everyone who says I’m too harsh, that I’m wrong: I’ll stop being harsh when this world stops judging people based on looks.
Say there are two men, one born into extreme wealth, and one into extreme poverty. The wealthy man is dissatisfied with life because people ingratiate themselves with him for his money. The poor man is dissatisfied because, well, life is fucking hard without any money. Of course the poor man can work hard until he is rich, but he will never be as rich as the blue-blooded wealthy man who was born into a family fortune. Intellectually, the poor man understands that the wealthy man is hard-pressed for an experience of true, sincere friendship because the wealthy man is surrounded by leaches. But at least the wealthy man doesn’t have to worry about where his next meal is coming from, or how long he can stall his landlord from evicting him until his next meager paycheck.
I understand that the secret poster is tired of the way people treat her for her looks. But what I’m saying is, there are things she can do about it. And obviously, things could be worse. She could be “fat.” (Yeah that’s right, I’ve gone and opened THAT can of worms.)
Nanashi you agreed that you are harsh. —Peasants become kings and kings fall from greatness. Bill Gates is richer than any blue-blood in the world. Barack Obama is the President; a kid from a non wealthy family.— Your analogy is hogwash; instead of trying to defend your negativity why not just relate your struggles to the secret poster’s struggles just like you did the two men in your analogy. Read my first comment to you. If people are trees and negativity is the flames that set us on fire; your harshness is a bottle of kerosene(in this situation).
Agreed 100%
at least you have a pretty face…
Flash,
I have related my struggles to the poster’s struggles, and you attacked me for it. (“instead of trying to defend your negativity why not just relate your struggles to the secret poster’s struggles”–This is exactly what I did in my first comment for this secret.)
You see the words I’ve written, but you’re not really reading any of it. (In response to my reply to Leah–”I’ve never been one to hold hands or pity another person because not only does that keep them weak and complacent, it shows you don’t respect that person for being capable of becoming stronger”–you wrote, “beautiful people are not going to hold your hand and pity your homely appearance.” Did I ask for anyone to hold my hand?)
You just turn my words “against” me, but your replies are not only reactionary but cursory; they’re ad hominem and only address the points I make in order to negate them. I state my opinion–that the secret poster is painting herself as a victim in a victimless situation–and you tell me I’m wrong for being unsympathetic. There’s no right or wrong here. The only morality involved in judging people by their appearance is the “wrongness” of the deed itself (which is based on the instinctual urge to propagate one’s DNA, but never mind that). Whatever you may think of me as a person is beside the point that this girl who’s “sick of being nothing but a pretty face” has a lot less to complain about than a lot of other people in this world.
Also, you seem to be convinced that I’m somehow projecting my insecurities onto the poster. You wrote, “You are weak and complacent in the beauty department (after all you called yourself ugly).” You say admitting my lack of attractiveness, I am somehow being weak and complacent. I see it as calling a spade a spade–if I’m genetically doomed to being 50 pounds over the ideal BMI for my height, I’m not going to suffer other beach-goers by insisting on wearing a bikini. If I have masculine facial features, I’m not going to delude myself into thinking that with the right hair, make-up and lighting, I’ll look like Grace Kelly. It might get me a few points over myself au naturale, but ultimately, that’s not me.
(There now, in order to “justify” my opinions, I’ve given you and whoever has the time to read this a better look at me than I would’ve otherwise liked. Posting a picture might’ve been faster, but that would be dangerously close to playing the pity card in my mind, and as I’ve said, I despise pity.)
Finally, to go back to the wealthy man/poor man analogy: Making a lot of money is hardly the same thing as being wealthy, just as a cosmetically/surgically enhanced woman can never measure up to woman who was born beautiful. And kings may fall, but only to be replaced by other kings. Give me one instance in history where a peasant becomes a king and you’ll never have to hear from me again (the French Revolution doesn’t count).
(By the way: does Bill Gates LOOK rich to you? His current net worth may be $40 billion, but from his hair to his suits, the man reeks with the stench of suburbia. He hasn’t even been the richest man in the world for over a year now, and that’s only according to Forbes. You think the truly wealthy would allow a magazine to judge them?)
You aren’t even a pretty face…..
So many of these comments seem to prove the point. If you have a pretty face people seem to think you should shut your mouth or change. Whatever happened to being yourself?
I’m sorry, but I have to agree with nanashi. She’s already pretty, so all she has to do is act even a tiny bit smart or nice and people will automatically love her. Face it; in today’s world pretty people have it easier than ugly people. Period. some posters on here complain about how guys will only date them for their looks and it makes me want to scream “at least you can get a date!”. I, on the other hand, have gone almost 20 years without even being able to get a guy to flirt with me (and believe me, I’ve tried). Pretty people need to just count their blessings and be themselves, because there are so many people out there who aren’t nearly as fortunate as they are.
This is what I think.
I am a pretty girl. I wouldn’t call myself beautiful by any means but I have confidence in my looks. All women should have confidence in what god gave them. You look the way you do for a reason. If you don’t want to be considered “just a pretty face” then don’t act like one. Don’t twittle your hair and giggle at stupid shit. If you are truely smart and work hard to do so then show it and don’t act like another pretty face.
If you’re not a pretty face, have confidence in the fact that you are beautiful on the inside and one day you will find the man that see’s it. And if you can’t get a date, maybe you are trying too hard for the people out of your range. Everyone knows that the guy that makes you laugh and the one you can be yourself around is the guy you should be with. So what if he has smokin hot abs? Happiness rules over hotness ANYDAY!
My 2 cents
You know what sometimes when a person is really beautiful it’s all people see. I have a good friend like this and all the guys want her, but don’t have any interest in getting to know her. She is just a prize to them. Then there are people like you who see someone who is beautiful and look down on them! Well you know what you are a hypocrite! You get pissed if people judge you for the way you look and then turn around and do the same thing.
That you Flash & Friend.
No offense nanashi, but take your “constructive criticism” and use it for art. You can frame it however you want, but what you are doing is insulting both her and yourself. You have no respect for either the poster or yourself
Well now haven’t you just made everything clear. Bill Gates must be in a horrible situation, he can’t possibly be content with his riches because he wasn’t born rich, and hasn’t become the richest man in the world.
How is the girl in a “victimless situation” You seem to think that the only way to be a victim is to have what you qualify as a ‘dissadvantage’. Obviously it appears that you are the one not reading the posts.
But let me give you some examples, since you are so fond of them. When my mother was younger. She went through puberty early and had bigger breast than anyone her age. I boy from her class cornered her in the woods and tried boy tried to rape her because she was so pretty and well endowed. But no she shouldn’t complain right? that kind of thing one must just accept when they are “genetically blessed”
How about another. From your point of view now. I attend the third most expensive University in the country. I work as a waitress at every free moment to attempt to afford to go there. Many of my friends are beyond rich, but I see that they have there own problems to contend with. I would NEVER judge there life as easy because they have an advantage I don’t
Being bitter will get you no where in life. You are so caught up in your own disadvantages that you don’t realize that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
oh and P.S. There have been peasant kings, more than one. King Peter of Serbia, and one in Egypt who’s name I can’t recall. Don’t test a history minor
So give up, admit you might not always be right!
I feel exactly the same way. I wish guys wouldn’t just date me for the way I look.
For someone who attends the third most expensive university, you can’t spell for shit. And check your grammar, asshole.
* message in response to haley’s
And nanashi, though you could have relayed your message in a less hostile way, I completely agree with you. I am not by any means an Angelina Jolie clone, however I have still been called “pretty”, “beautiful”, “attractive” (you get the point); the story was much different when I was an awkward adolescent so I can relate to both side but for someone to complain about being “just a pretty face” when they are much more is ridiculous because there are NUMEROUS beautiful women who also have brains. For those who say men do not take you seriously, perhaps it’s because of the way you carry yourself. Stop acting like a “pretty-faced” slut and act like a lady, perhaps for once, you will be treated as such.
I highly agree with Nanashi.
There is no denying I’m bitter and jealous about pretty people. Ugly people are jealous over pretty people, but is it the same case vice versa?
I know that long term, it’s what on the inside that counts. But what are these BS comments that suggest guys NEVER look past pretty girls for their looks?
I like examples, so let me give a few.
My sister is one of the most gorgeous people I’ve ever met. She’s naturally pretty, and every time she goes out on weekends, she has at least 2-3 guys hit on her. Now, of course all these guys are initially interested in is fucking her, but that initial “god-shes-so-hot-I-wanna-fuck-her” attraction is NOT bad.
She goes out with the guys, and obviously for the first few dates all the guys want is to get into her pants. HOWEVER, she has an AMAZING personality, and eventually that shines through and the guys start wanting to see for more than her body. She’s been dating the same guy for 3 years, so obviouly this is a long term relationship with more than fucking involved, and she met him at a club the way I described above.
I, on the other hand, have never gone on a date before. My sister knows the pitable situation I’m in, and though she doesn’t comment on it, I’m not an idiot and I know what she’s thinking. She first thought it was lack of me trying, but she witnessed me a couple of times and the men just rebuked me, so it’s definitely not that.
Now, I’m not ashamed to admit I have a good personality. But you can’t look at someone and think “oh that person has a good personality”. Physical appearances are CRUCIAL. Lots of people make it sound like it’s either beautiful on the inside or beautiful on the outside, and you can’t have both. That’s total BS. Pretty people can have both, whilst ugly people are only able to live with one of those.
Now in the workplace: My aunt is a senior member at the company she works, and she confessed to me that various times they’ve hired people based on looks. Not to say it’s just a case of “you’re pretty, I’ll hire you on the spot.” No, obviously you gotta be more than that. But my aunt said they’ve had to pick between two candidates for a single position many times, and most of the time they go with a pretty person even if the other, less-attractive candidate is better suited for the job. And this just isn’t in my aunt’s company, it happens EVERYWHERE, and statistics prove it.
Now, moving on. Another example. My cousin is a high school student – let’s stop here right now and let me say that I do NOT consider High School to be parallel to the real world, but it’s often where we build our characters and whatnot. Okay, so, she’s highly pretty, and she gets lots of attention from both genders. Males wanna date her, and females wanna be her friend. Again, the initial physical attraction that consists of purely self-interest for those that wanna befriend her. So she gets all this attention, whilst if an ugly girl drops by it’s really no attention at all. With guys, same case above – eventually the looks aspect fade, and those who initiay communicated with her based solely on looks start seeing more than that.
I’m not saying being pretty and physically attractive makes life hella easy. Every advantage comes with a disadvantage. However, the disadvantages of being pretty are less severe than the ones of being ugly. Advantages to being pretty are way better than those of being ugly. So while being pretty doesn’t make life EASY, it certainly is EASIER when compared to ugly.
And btw, to whoever said pretty people are most likely to get raped: that’s fucking bushit, and statistics say otherwise, so shut your ignorant mouth.
please shut your braced face and stop flashing your A cups.
Post Secret is a way for people to let out their secrets anonymously. It’s not to be used to scrutinize and belittle people. You are obviously using your “charmed DNA” to create your “winning personality.” You use your God given gifts and let other people use theirs without being so judgmental.
She’s trying to make a point.
So much hate… It’s a place to post things that you need to get off your chest. Who honestly cares if you don’t agree with what the person posted. I’m fairly sure that nobody does.
Way to try girl, your doing great, you know showing the tits instead.
everyone needs to stop judging her. most often people who are insecure scrutinize “good-looking” people. it does suck when guys only want to talk to you because you are “attractive”. or people assume you are dumb because you look good. etc. all these people who consider themselves ugly should understand and empathize with this girl because they probably do not want people assuming things about them because of their looks. everyone needs to stop being so judgmental, and actually try to understand that everyone has feelings and a right to not like the way others treat them, especially when based on looks (so called attractive or not).
i think she portrayed herself in this picture to show that she feels that people only look at her for her face/body hence the angle of the shot. not to be a show-off or slut.
and to the girl in the picture, keep being beautiful. you will find people who see the beauty that shines from the inside, not just the outside.
i know i’m no beauty, and honestly i feel blessed. I earn people’s respect and when a boy does ever ask me out, not that it happens often, cause trust me it doesn’t, he asks me out because he admires my outspokenness or views on life. I am valued for who i am not the size of my waist or my proportions. even your analogy helps illustrate my point. The poor man is much the richer for his true friends and money can leave one feeling empty. The rich man much work to find those who don’t care about his “material” wealth before he can find those who love him for who he is.
dates that don’t mean anything aren’t any better than no dates at all
Sounds like you have some work to do on that ‘winning personality’ there, douche.
Wow this is really pathetic. Yelling at someone, who like every other person on this site, and maybe even you, is sharing a secret is just low. If you can’t find the strength to love and embrace your looks then I feel bad for you. People with pretty faces, nice bodies or big boobs are treated as if they’re a piece of meat, and most of them would rather be seen as just smart instead of pretty with a side of intelligence.
You know, in middle school, high school and half of college I didn’t have a single friend that didn’t want to get into bed with me. The girls hated me (the ones that didn’t want to bed me) and all of the guys wanted me. It taught me that the only way anyone would want to get close to me is by sleeping with me and if anyone is nice to me, I can’t stop the immediate question in the back of my head about their ulterior motives.
I became a body, not a person.
The only reason I stopped having friends like that was because I stopped having friends.
Being ‘ugly’ sucks, but I would rather that any day over being a sex object when I’m 12.
My god you’re so right. :/
I’m surprised that no one’s pointed this out yet:
She’s. Not. Even. Pretty.
She’s a gross little 12-year-old. End of.
HA! this is the best comment yet.
yes, yes, yes! and by the way (to people saying that we should only be supportive of secret posters) the “comments” section is where you voice your opinion (true, it’s probably more polite to do it nicely), so if you disagree with the secret then you should post that. also, being supportive of secret posters, is that even the point? is the mission statement (or whatever) “postsecret is a place where you can post whatever the hell secret you want and no one will judge you?” i mean maybe it is and i missed that memo. but that seems rather stupid. if someone posted “i once was driving drunk and ran over an old lady and didn’t even stop” (random, sorry) I would sure as hell judge them. yes, the site is about encouraging honesty, but that doesn’t mean that that honesy comes without consequences.