March 9, 2009
I let everyone walk all over me
Because I’m afraid of someday being the lonely woman with 50 cats
Category: New Secrets
Tags: alone, loneliness
I have to same secret.
I used to be like this. Now I look forward to the cat option. But maybe I’m being cynical. Cat Ladies of the World, unite!
There’s no reason to let anyone walk over you. Anyone who does, isn’t someone you’ll be able to spend your life with anyway. You’ll end up resenting them, or they’ll get bored. (I’ve been in the second situation. Better to have loved and lost my butt). So be strong, be loud, have an opinion. Most people will love you for it even more.
I do the same thing. I am afraid that they will leave me if I don’t submit to what they want. I don’t even know what I want anymore.
I was depressed years ago when I started believing I would be the old woman with a ton of cats…
Then I realized: I love cats! =)
When I resigned myself to my fate and stopped caring about what other people thought of me, I figured out who I really am. And I’m pretty cool! I like myself.
..Turns out, other people really like me, too! And they like the fact that I’m my own person and don’t let people walk all over me.
Sometimes, I’m still blown away by the whole idea.
It’s wonderful =)
To the author of the post card…it sounds like you already are alone. And I agree with Mia. When you are true to yourself, perhaps you won’t be the most popular kid in school, but you will find true friends if you take the time to look for them.
My secret is the same;
I would prefer to be used and have people there for me,
rather than say ‘no’ and not have anyone.
It’s the same for me. I was always the fat kid getting picked on and put down. I found the easiest way to not be ‘that’ kid was to let people walk on me and use me for what they could get out of me.
… and it makes me sad that it’s still so true today … even 20 years later.
Seriously. At least cats are honest about whether they like you. Cat lady pride!
YAY!! thats wonderful!! (im glad you have shared your story to this post secret poster im not being sarcastic) 🙂
YAY!! thats wonderful!! (im glad you have shared your story to this post secret poster im not being sarcastic)
I feel the same way. I joke about it, but I really do fear dying alone. The funny thing is, I don’t even like cats. But I still let people use me, over and over again.
Hey! Cats are blooming amazing! Haha trust me i’d love to be a crazy old cat lady 🙂 but i suppose i’d prefer people..
We can be crazy cat ladies together [:
I want to be the lonely woman with cats. ;D
i know what you mean. except i let people walk all over me and i know i will still be the lonely women with 50 cats…
I do that too. I give people what they want so they’ll like me, but they don’t respect me. They know they can walk all over me. But then when I finally do start standing up for myself, I feel like a bitch and people stop being nice to me. I just wish I could have friends who respect me without me giving them whatever they want.
I tell people I know Im going to be the crazy cat lady- but I hate cats. They think I am just trying to be funny. Im not.
Aye! Cats rule!
I am the same way. I have been for years, and despite trying to be brave, I seem to be crumbling away more and more
I feel the same way, although my image has 27 cats. If I ever mention it, people laugh and tell me I’m funny. They don’t realize how much this terrifies me.
I’m not the only one! Feels better and worse at the same time
my gosh this is terrible that i have the same fears am i am seventeen but what annoys me more is people saying you will find someone …what if i dont ? what if i spend my whole life searching for a man who is too vain to ever look at me …….
im glad that there are people like me out there !!! thank goodness!!
I used to do that, but then i got tir4ed of being the one who got picked on and of people that didn’t actually know me. I moved, hoping to start a new life, but i don’t have friends. In time, they’ll come, but for now i feel like going back to letting people walk all over me.
I don’t know if the law of attraction really works, but if you let everyone walk over you then that’s the only kind of people you’ll have around.
Also, if you’re surrounded by people who walk all over you then you’re still alone. so you better be 50 and alone than 50, alone and with people walking over you.
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