I hate having sex that
takes more than 5mins
I get bored…..
I’m a bad lover
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I agree! It doesn’t make us bad lovers though. It makes us time savers and practical.
reminds me of my ex gf. Sucked when I had a few beers and needed to finish in a matter of minutes. Kind of the opposite way guys “train”.
funnily enough the picture you used for your secret is actually a drawing of an incestuous couple from the French manga Angel Sanctuary. Was that intentional?
A good friend of mine is this way. It makes some of the guys she meets very annoyed, and others happy that they get to finish as soon as they are ready.
May I suggest mixing it up?
Angel Sanctuary?! Love the manga — yes that is a brother and sister.
Yes, you are a bad lover.
I’m guessing you’re also the type of person who eats just because the body demands nourishment, never mind how the food tastes. Like Jaime (who made the first comment), you probably do lead a more practical life than those of us who like to indulge our senses. To each his own.
me too
how sad for you. I wouldn’t trade my orgasm’s for one extra practical anything. Well maybe I would trade for an extra orgasm for him.
im with you on that one b/c im scared he’ll realize im bad in bed (and wanna move on to a better girl) if we’re not having a quickie
You aren’t a bad lover, you just haven’t met the person you like having sex with for more than 5 minutes.
Then you aren’t having sex for the right reasons. Sex is a bonding experience with you and that other person, it should be passionate and if you like that person you should enjoy sharing that time with them.
i have ADD, i understand getting bored/side tracked, and it has happened with EVERY preveious lover i have had. i have finally found the one man who can keep my attention for hours. sex has never been more amazing.
you jsut need to find the right person to share your sexual time with.
do u even orgasm cuz thats fucked..how can u enjoy in five mins…
completely agree with you on that one. no idea if there’s something wrong with us or not?
No, it makes you bad lovers.
I am the exact same way, I absolutely love the idea of sex, but when its actually going down I run out of things to do so quickly haha I just want them to finish so we can snuggle or sleep. I have never orgasmed, but people often tell me that’s just because I havn’t been with the right person. Lol we won’t get off for just anyone
and it doesn’t mean that your neccessairly bad man, just get on top and practice
No it doesn’t.
I need to pretend I did not just read that.
lol
WOAH!! YOU HAVE THE SAME NAME AS ME!
wow that’s really weird…this could get confusing!! I’m surprised they let two people have the same name…but I guess there are a bunch of anon.’s and stuff….oh well lol, nice to meet you I guess!!
I cant remember ever wanting it to take a long time, so either Im a lesbian or have never met the right one.
I guess when you are a virgen you often wonder when people say i get bored with having sex….if maybe sex isn’t all that great.
The manga isn’t French, it’s Japanese, by an artist named Kaori Yuki.
Yeah, I hate that too.
Why should our it be so critical that everyone in the world be a great lover and love sex?
Can’t people just be the people that they want to be?
yea it does
Maybe your not a sensual lover, or are just screwing whatever comes your way, or haven’t found someone who you feel is worth your time, or sex is not your preferred way of expressing your affection towards ppl. I don’t think this makes you a bad lover I just think you need to study yourself more and see why it is you behave in this manner. Is it fear?
I am the same way. Always have been. I’ve never really understood why people think sex is so important. More than 5 minutes and I’m completely bored. I’ve even just gotten up and walked away because he was taking too long. Nothing wrong with quickies.
You are some guy’s dream.
It doesn’t make you a bad lover, maybe your lover is the not so great one…or maybe the right chemistry isn’t there. When you find the right one, you won’t want it to end.
the fact that you’re arguing over it makes you children
beth?
It’s not always the guys job to get you off.
Try helping yourself sometime.
Well that is bizarre. Completely alien to me since I love it no matter whether it’s 10 minnutes or three hours.
for the longest time i thought of sex as a chore. i got no pleasure out of it. I never orgasamed and my partner never cared, as long as he got off it didn’t matter. now that im with someone who cares about me and my needs i enjoy sex.
I was thinking that half an hour is too short for having sex, after reading this I wont complain to him anymore! but it was nice when we had 2 hours of making love, we just didn’t let go of each other..
I know you mean well with this comment. But I can assure you, that rather than give a person hope, comments like the above simply make them feel worse. Me, I get ticked off. Why should everyone have to live up to some far-fetched Hollywood ideal that sex should last for hours on end and be the epitome of any relationship? Seriously, there are so very many more important things than sex. Good grief.
I’m not trying to give them hope, I’m saying that just because they don’t want it to last – doesn’t make them a bad lover…they shouldn’t feel bad about it. Why would you feel bad about it, or get pissed off? I don’t know what Hollywood has to do with sex lasting for hours…I’m guessing you mean porn? But sex doesn’t have to last a certain amount of time to make it great. I wouldn’t want it to end after 5 minutes every time, every now and then would be okay. I also don’t know how you got out of my comment that I think sex is the most important thing in a relationship, I certainly don’t agree with that. Don’t assume you know everything when obviously, you don’t.
Or it makes him a bad lover. Might not always be you.
Sometimes I only want it to last for 5 minutes too.
I was like that with men befor i reolized that i’m attracted to women.
Usually I don’t mind at all how long he lasts, but sometimes I think it would be nice if he lasted a little longer. It’s not his fault that I don’t orgasm… Cos I let him think I do. But it would be nice sometime.
four play and licking.. no one should leave the bed without and orgasm.. relationships are about communication
I don’t think you’re a bad lover. You should probably try for a new lover. When you’re in love you want to stay in bed. Not that noone gets bored, I think every woman has done it because HE was in the mood just once or twice and was like “Okay, finish up. I got to get back to work.”
it’s because you’re gay and you just don’t know it yet.
This is my life. My husband is a wonderful man, and we connect on so many important levels. Sex we differ on. He could go for a while, I never want to. I actually orgasm right away, multiple times, within the first few minutes. 5-10 minutes is my preference. Sometimes my husband gets annoyed but usually he’s okay with a quickie. The orgasm will be the same for him whether he cums after 5 minutes or 5 hours.
Dude, try holding your breath for five minutes. IT’S A LONG TIME! LOL.
Either that is an excuse because you are a dude and cannot last long or you’re a gal and does not enjoy having sex with another partner. I prefer a good 20minutes sex but no more than 5 minutes is just too short of a time. My girlfriend would not even call that sex. She would call it playing ‘house’.