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he smiled at me, i stole him from his child.
he knows how i hate his silence
so he won’t speak a word to me now.
he knows exactly how much he hurts me.
im sorry i have to say this somewhere its killing me!
even though he loved his comics over me i still love him.. ugh im crying… that was almost a year ago.. and now i all ive been doing is sitting in my room for 4 months… im not ugly ive had guys asked me out since.. but something about him clicked with me… you asshole.. im keeping your shit!… bc its all i have of you… and your a prick.. but i miss you i wish hed talk to me…
i know exactly how you feel. and i wish i could stop hurting but i cant…
i know how you feel.
i feel the same about him.
and i think he knows.
it hurts so much more.
I know exactly how you feel.
He’s always told me, “Oh I love you & one day, I promise, I will marry you.”
But I always see him falling for other girls and telling them he likes them/loves them.
I don’t think he knows how much he hurts me sometimes, either.
i feel the same too esp with “the pretty hermit girl”
idk what else to do but move on and i think i will soon or i hope i will soon.
I started writing a list of things that hes done to hurt me and it seems endless. I know if he found it he’d leave me. Sometimes I want him to leave me. I know that if he does I’ll hate myself for making him do it. I dont know if I love him. I dont know if he loves me.
I think I hate myself for not knowing what to do.
I can relate to everything you are saying. A guy I dated 3 years ago is getting married and yet, I am sitting here in my room crying over him. I have dated and even had a boyfriend in between the 3 years, yet I still do not feel like I am over him. I can’t seem to move on. I really don’t know if it will ever happen.
I love my best friend and I have the conflict whether to stay friends or have “friend” titles but, I know I will never live with myself if I am no longer a friend.
Falling in love with your best friend is horrible. People always ask me: “oh! are you two dating? You look so cute together!” and so on. It is like a knife in my side when I have to tell them that we are just friends.
awwww i know how you feel evershrike
this one guy i feel so hard for he was my best friend we would talk till like 3 in the morning almost EVERY night
we knew everything about each other
everyone was like are you two dating you guys would be perfect together
knife in my back”no” i always had to say
he ended up dating my best friend =[
Its hard, but I guess I’d rather be his friend than nothing you know?
Because of him and what he did……I feel worthless.
not related to the topic but…. i lied about having suicidal thoughts because i wanted someone to pay attention to me
I fell in love with him, and then he became my best friend. I don’t know what I’d do without him and I don’t know what I’ll do when he finds someone else. “We’re just friends.” are three drops of acid in my soul every time one of us has to say them.
I kept going back to this guy no matter how much he was a ass or how mean he was to me. But in the end i kept wanting him back no matter how mean he was to me and the sad thing was that every time we would break up i would come right back to him.
I wish he knew just how much he meant to me.
for me, i think he does know how much he hurts me sometimes.
i know how you feel. i do the exact same thing
I do, and I don’t know how to stop and why I don’t get help….
there will be someone who treats you better, i promise. there will be. let this one go.
I want to stop waiting and finally realize that even if he says he’ll call, it doesn’t he will. I should stop dressing up and spending hours getting ready for a date he won’t show for. I need to stop spending hour crying and stepping out of newly ironed skirts. I wish he knew how much i wanted him to realize that I wait for him, even if I bite my lips so hard they bleed sometimes because I don’t want to tell him, I don’t want him to know. I’m afraid, then, that he’ll leave me. And I love him too much for that; I’m a bit too broken for that. I’m too fucking scared of that.
I want to stop waiting and finally realize that even if he says he’ll call, it doesn’t mean that he will. I should stop dressing up and spending hours getting ready for a date he won’t show for. I need to stop spending hours crying and stepping out of newly ironed skirts because yet again he didn’t feel like calling me and I waited for hours outside, by myself, hoping against hope that this time would be different. I wish he knew how much i wanted him to realize that I wait for him, even if I bite my lips so hard they bleed sometimes because I don’t want to tell him, I don’t want him to know. I’m afraid, then, that he’ll leave me. And I love him too much for that; I’m a bit too broken for that. I’m too fucking scared of that.
wow i am soooo sorry
This is me. Although I think he knows but doesn’t care that I cry myself to sleep.
I wish he would look at me the same, I wish he was still that guy that fort for months to win my heart. Now he has it he dosnt want me.I feel like a fool.
All i want now is for him to tell me how much he loves me.. talk to me like im the most important person in the world. Its never going to happen hes too busy trying to be a rockstar waiting for someone better.
I will always love you..
it took me 3 years to realize im done with you trying to kill me..sometimes it hurts so much i wish you would just do it or get out of my life. youve f**cked it up enough already & its barley begun. when i turn 18 this june im determined to never see you again. thanks for taking my childhood ..you make me sick
i broke up with him and he thinks im a heartless bitch, i still cry at night because the guy i loved wasn’t the real him and i couldnt let myself pretend to be like every other fling he’s had
And I honestly don’t think he cares
awww. That’s the saddest thing….ok maybe not but still sad panda.
i’m so scared of this.
I know what you mean. I had a friend that became my best friend during hard times and I fell in love with him. I was scared to start anything because I didn’t want to lose a friend. He said he felt all the same things and for an extremely brief few days he was perfect – just like I already knew… but then suddenly he was a different person and he did horrible things to me and now he pretends I am crazy and does not talk to me. I am sure he knows exactly how much he hurts me – and seems to enjoy it. I haven’t been able to delete any messages, still have to chk social nets, still hope for him to call, txt, mssg, or IM me… hoping for some kind of explanation that could just erase the horrible things and bring the perfect guy back… even after everything he has done to me I miss him so much and his silence is killing me – and I can’t even tell him because he will use it to call me crazy… am I sadistic?
What really kills me is that he holds me and kisses me while loving a ghost that never loved him
You cheated on me.
Used me.
Lied to me.
Offered a threesome with the girl you cheated on me with when you know I wasn’t ready for sex.
You wanted to bang me a week into the relationship.
And sometimes…
I still cry and wish you were laying beside me.
I wish I was stronger.
you are strong by admitting you feel that way…
I think sometimes he knows I would do anything for him..and I think he takes advantage of that. When we’re together, it’s perfect for me. But he only calls when there’s no one else or when he’s been drinking. So it makes me wonder if he’s scared to fall for me. I’m done being scared of it. After hoping for so long, jumping every time the phone rings, turning into mush anytime he smiles at me, I’ve realized all I’m doing is slowly destroying myself. So as much as it hurts to try to let go, it hurts more to never be what he wants. You think I love you….but you’ll never know because you’ll never stick around long enough to find out how much I could.
I can’t figure out if he knows and he does it on purpose or if he is really that clueless, even after I’ve tried to spell it out for him when words don’t describe the pain. That’s just the guy I’m with now.
I still miss the one before this one. The one who gave me mix cds that I still listen to, who sang to me, who drew pictures for me…the one who chose drugs over me and his new friends in a totally different city. The guy I’m with now begs me for sex, and degrades me when I do something for me and not for him. The guy I’m with now gave me roses…two birthdays ago and that’s the last time he gave me a gift, yet he calls me his queen and princess. I don’t get it. What’s wrong with me?
I feel the same as many of you here-damaged, defective, and defeated. We keep asking if it’s something wrong with us…but I really hope it’s them.
Though easier said than done-stay strong, I hope for the best for all of you.
That’s what I ask myself ever day does he know how much it hurts me to know that he still says he loves his ex yet he says he’ll never go back with her it hurts me so much I cry myself to sleep when I can’t be strong
tell him or her how you feel. If he/she loves you truly they will do what it takes to stop.
I believe that pure emotional thought like this can reach the depth of one’s heart. I don’t know you but I feel for you and your pain. I pray that he/she does also.
I’ve seen my wife cry like this because of how much I’ve hurt her, I’ve caught her cheating three times now. When are we even?
I once fell in love with my best friend. He manipulated my emotions, thoughts, social life, and self-esteem for 2 years before he did something so unforgivable it shocked me out of love.
It may take time, but you WILL get over him. In the mean time, spend time with anyone besides him and give yourself an outlet: writing, art, playing music, something. I’ve had other relationships since, and while my first [painful] one will never be forgotten, it fades. Don’t ever lose hope.
Your feeling of worthlessness is actually a testament to how self-sacrificing you are. Some people, though, are not worth sacrificing for. The tipping point for me was when I wrote out the entire list of unfair/mean things he did to me (and compared it to the number of ways I had bent over backwards for him).
*Caring for someone, or forgiving them for wronging you does not make you a bad person.*
I know how you feel. You will figure it out eventually, and you will survive until you make your decision. Some things to hurry it along: don’t forget to make sure you really care about HIM, rather than just the IDEA of him. Also, what does your gut say?
If you leave him, you may be broken-hearted. But you already sound broken-hearted, and you seem to be getting hurt more instead of healing.
No, you’re not sadistic. You’ll realize, eventually, that the ‘perfect guy’ was never really perfect. I did.
Good for you!! Stick with it, and beware–he may not like the idea that you aren’t there for him every second he wants you to be (so he’ll say things to try to keep you ensnared).
When you can look each other in the eyes, say “I’m sorry, and I forgive you,” and mean it.
Sometimes they truly love you (the most that they are capable), but they still hurt you, and they are too weak to push you away. And nobody deserves to be hurt for loving/being loved. If this is the case, words alone are not enough. (You already know what is enough, you just need to realize that you do.)
Hiding your emotions is easier than feeling them–crying shows your strength.
Manipulative people play on both their victim’s weaknesses and their strengths (lack of self-esteem, compassion, empathy, self-sacrifice, etc.).
What doesn’t kill you will (eventually) make you stronger, so don’t think of yourself as damaged.
You are not defective for caring for a manipulative person. Not even close.
Defeat is temporary and will change with your attitude towards it.
It’s them.