63 thoughts on “I aborted my boyfriend’s baby”

  1. This is also my secret.

    Believe me, no one WANTS an abortion.

    Its an awful decision to have to make. I was very angry with myself, even though it was an accident and I had taken precautions. I was angry because I felt that I could have prevented it somehow, even though I felt i had already done everything in my power to do so. I am still with my boyfriend, and I don’t regret not telling him. It’s my body, and my choice weather or not he should know. It’s done, and I want it behind me. It IS behind me! If I had told him, I feel that it would be the elephant in the room for the rest of our time together. We are very much in love, and I feel that he is my soulmate. I don’t regret my decision at all. Every day, I am thankful for people who support a woman’s right to choose. I am thankful for the wonderful people that work at that clinic, who assured me that I would be ok and held my hand and took care of me. I am not ready for a child; financially, emotionally, in any way whatsoever. Neither is this planet. Do you realize how severely overpopulated this place is? Also, my boyfriend and I decided early on that neither of us wanted children, and if he found out I think he would be more understanding than most.

    Also, having to have the man’s “consent” sounds so completely backwards and outdated. What if it was the man that wanted the abortion and not you? They ask you multiple times at the clinic if you are doing this out of your own choosing or if you feel that someone else is pressuring you to do it. There’s no reason to be ashamed of your body and what you choose for yourself.

  2. Dude. Fuck off. Feminism is NOT a hoax. Your wife couldn’t handle any more children, how does that make her a bad person? You’d rather she emotionally suffer for nine months and maybe HATE your child as a result? You’re really a selfish ass.

  3. all i have to say is… if u never had an abortion then u shouldnt comment on this subject. n other words STFU… ive been thru it and it changes u forever… so what if the guy didnt know for all she knows he probably would of paid for it for her… thats what my ex boyfriend did n afterwards everythin went down hell…n for the record no guy knows what its like for a girl to have an abortion, he wasnt the one who had to go thru with it….

  4. i was thinking about it and although, because of the publics way of thinking, it would leave emotional scars on the parents, it really scientifically speaking doesn’t seem any worse than using a condom… It would be like pining after every sperm that gets squirted into a kleenex in some dudes room, those all had the chance to be children. Or every time a girls egg is not fertilized…
    I know that this probably won’t help any women who do decide to abort but try not to feel to bad okay?
    although i think that the women should allways have the choice and be free of pressure from men, I think you should tell the guy…

  5. I had my abortion almost two years ago. I wasn’t going to tell anyone, but my mom came over one day, randomly, and caught me crying. It took her almost 2 hours to get me to tell her what was wrong, because I thought she would be disappointed in me. She told me when she was my age, she had one too.

    I never told him, and I don’t regret any part of my decision. It’s better this way. He gets to live his life, without being tied to me. And as much as I regret getting into the situation in the first place and take responsibility for my actions, I’m proud of my decision and I’m not sorry. I could never bring a child into the world knowing I couldn’t give it the care it deserved.

  6. I was raped when I was 15 years old and got pregnant. It was four months before I told anyone. I don’t know what it feels like to have an abortion because that wasn’t an option for me. But I do know that giving my baby up for adoption could be compared to it because I still feel the pain of not knowing who he is, but I am so glad he got the option of life. Whoever his dad is doesn’t know and I doubt he would care. But I do know you need to forgive yourself and let it go. The dad doesn’t need to know. The past is the past.

  7. My uncle’s girlfriend tried to keep it a secret that she aborted his baby. When he eventually found out, he committed suicide. I never got to meet my uncle and from what I hear he was an amazing person. I wish she would have decided to tell him and let him have a say in the baby’s life.

  8. My ex girlfriend had an abortion and didnt tell me. I would have a child by now but I dont. I still am maturing as a man, but it is fucked up that she killed our child. I am still hurt and this happened 5 years ago. I love her, but fuck her.

  9. I had an abortion 7 years ago. Junior year of college. He was my boyfriend then. Now he’s my husband. He didn’t even ask anything before I told him I’m not keeping it. I knew right away. I was early enough I only had to take a pill. I was not upset, didn’t cry and I have no regrets. I wanted to finish school so I could provide I great life for the kids I wanted later in life and there was no way I was going to give my child up that I would want to have back in just a couple years. I still believe I did the right thing and part of me want to rub it in all the anti-abortionists faces. I’m not cold. I just believe more in nature than any sort of religions and in nature it normal for animals to abort when conditions for raising offspring aren’t ideal. It’s just convenient that humans can do this consciously. I went on birth control after that. And guess what. Now I’m pregnant and keeping it and happy ( scared but happy)

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