I pretend to be the “good girl”, when really I’m not.
My family has no idea who I really am.
If they did…. they would hate me.
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I’m the exact same. When I do show my true side I get yelled at… and they wonder why I have hard breakdowns…
That totally fits me. I hide who i really am to everyone especially my parents. I don’t even think my friends know the real me. I doubt I know the real me
Only my husband and 2 other people know the real me. My parents and “best friend” never will… most people never will. None of them would ever accept me. I feel your pain.
My parents are very religious and have conservative. I am 26 and pretend to be an entirely different person when ever I am around them. My boyfriend has recently made me realize that I am a great person and the fact that they wont accept me for who I am is their loss. I am working up the courage to tell them that I no longer need their approval enough to continue living a lie. When I tell them that I live with my boyfriend they are going to freak out and tell me what a horrible sinner I am, but what scares me the most is that they will convince my 16 year old brother that they are right the way they convinced me to hide who I am for all these years.
By jdub do you mean Jehovahs Witness? If yes, then I will tell you from hard experience that I know what you are going through. I spent 20+ years in that cult. If you want to talk hit me up.
I am 15 and exactly the same. I am afraid to tell my parents that I am no longer that innocent little child so I hide and lie to them and I am paranoid that on day they will discover and be so dissapointed that they will no longer be able to even look at me.
How can a girl like me with very strict parents admit that she drinks, likes boys AND girls and has been to (and been served at) gay bars?
maybe telling your parents will help your brother. you might be letting him expand his mind about how others live. your his sister and he will connect the dots and hopefully realized that people that he loves and respects can be true to themselvs.
Same Position. If my parents knew the things that went on I think they’d be really disappointed and annoyed; my boyfriend is the only one who knows the real me. It was him who found that person too.
My family knows I’m not a good girl and hates me for it.
And I hate them back.
When my family found out how much of a “bad girl” I really am, there was actually a sense of release. They knew deep down I was lying to them about everything.
My Mom Thinks I’m A Virgin
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I’m Not.
I’m So Sorry Mom.
i know exactly how you feel. i feel so lost because i feel like i dont know who i am. i dont even know what i like. i only like the things i’m told to like. even tho i appear to fit in, i dont feel like i do. every time i hang out with my friends-i feel that reminder in the back of my head that i’m not like them.
only my boyfriends friends know we’ve had sex…i feel more comfortable telling them than my own best friend of 16 years and my sisters..
I’m sure thats not true.
Your family loves you and will accept you for who you are.
If you believe the best in people mayeb they’ll belive the best in you
I’ve just started telling my best friends about the things I’ve done, like very tip of the iceberg things, and they’re already shocked.
My mom knows even less. If she knew what I’ve done, and what I plan to do, I think I’d practically be disowned
You’re 15, you should not be in a bar, gay or straight.
If your parents are good parents, they’ll “freak out” on you about THAT.
I’m the same way. I had a lot of problems in high school especially. My parents found out, and although disappointed, helped me and loved me still, talking things through with me and making sure I knew that they loved me no matter what. I still have some problems now and again, but they don’t know that.
Now I’m engaged and opened myself up to my fiance. He understands my problems and is working with me to get through them.
Stay strong and know that there are those who will still love you!
Im exactly the same way. Except now, I don’t even want to hang out with my friends. i feel like an outkast and i feel like if i actually act like myself people wont accept me..i just feel like everyones watching me. I just want to fly away to some foreign county to party hard and have amazing sex the total strangers. Im not the little girl my parents swear i am.
i understand trust me im 17 now, and drinking doesn’t cover everything i do, Ive become so good at lying to them its a second nature.
as for the first comment to this, really it depends on where u live im in Europe and clubbing is completely normal for like people from grade 8 and up.
my family have no idea who i really am, if they did they would disown me. but i secretely hope they will so i can be free of what they want from me, and finally begin my life. i just want a fresh start.
If my parents knew who I was they would never talk to me again. I’m so tired of hiding who I really am but I feel like it’s necessary to maintain a relationship with me parents. I love you guys so much and I wish I could tell you half of the things I’ve done without being verbally attacked.
I live in the UK….Its not legal but most places will serve you from about 15…….I haven’t been anywhere illegal since I wrote this but I have stopped hiding from my friends and can now feel comfortable about myself around them. No more lying
It feels so good apart from the fact that around my parents I still have my ‘gaurd’ up.
Excuse me,but i think any 15 year old has the power to choose if they are gay, straight, or bisexual. so why don’t you get off her ass and let her be her own person.
Shit, my bad, i thought you were saying she shouldn’t be gay or straight.
So im sorry.
I know how that feels, sometimes when I get really stressed I think about packing a bag, telling them everything and leaving forever…..but I’m only 15 and I need my family no matter how unsafe and scared I feel around them.
I know how this feels arghhh!
People just hate symbols they cannot deconstruct. I bet you are a very good girl as I am. I dont feel guilty for anything.. they are just drowned in Culture and it’s symbols, i am above it all. It will help if you could stand in peace , as i am , above it all keeping all that in secret. They ask you for politeness everyday, make them happy too they probably deserve it.
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yeah, they’re always complaining about all the mistakes my sister made, but they have no idea about everything I’ve done because I’ve just hidden it better.
I would give anything to be the bad girl. I pretend to be, but I’m not. You lucky bitch
My family hates me for the person they think I am. The truth is, I cry myself to sleep each night wondering if i really am the awful person they think i am
Believe it or not, most people feel like this at 15. I certainly did. Maybe your situations different, but keep in mind you may just be going through a phase. I’m 19, now, the people who need to know about my past do and the ones who don’t, I haven’t told. Telling my parents wouldn’t change anything, I’m just not comfortable about it and that’s my choice. That doesn’t mean we’re estranged, though. You should try taking things with a grain of salt.
This is exactly me
I know exactly how that feels.
My parents are already disappointed in me beyond measure..
Why make it worse?
I can imagine this being my cousin’s secret, and now that I know who she really is, I love her more than ever!
You should be grateful that you are not a virgin.
I am 32 and a virgin, and I feel inferior to everyone my age because of that.
Jen,
Do your parents expect you to be a virgin at 26?
@michael… dont feel inferior just because ur a virgin, sex isnt the be all and end all dude. i sometimes wonder y everyone makes such a big deal of it, im only interested in it when its with someone i love. ( if my friends read this i would never hear the end of it but i dnt care)
Euge,
Every single woman my age has had sex. In fact, so many women with whom I went to college or high school are married and/or have kids. I do not measure up to that. What would they think of me?
dont worry bout what they think of ya, all that counts is what u think of urself and beleive me sex is only short term gratification. whats more important is finding someone worth caring for.
Sex is also about proving my manhood.
oh god, that’s me down to a tee. that’s almost terrifying.
but hang in there! i’ve been told it’ll get easier as we grow up. i hope that’s true.
same here, my brother gets in trouble and they find out. but the shit i’ve done, they have no idea.
Me too i have panic attacks and breakdowns b/c of pretending to be the perfect daughter, student, sister,and friend i feel like my fake smile is up more than my real one :/
I can relate. everytime i try to show my true self, my parents and i end up in an arguement. Hang in there though, as we branch off on our own it’ll hopefully get better. As a fellow adult they’re going to have to deal with however you actually are, not who you pretend to be.