I love being kinky

I love being kinky

I love being kinky but I look horrible in the outfits he wants me to wear.

22 Comments on “I love being kinky

  1.  by  MLIC

    Well then you should find your own outfits…don’t listen to him. If you like being kinky, I’m sure he’ll like that whatever you wear!!! MLIC (The Blog)

  2.  by  Heather

    I’m sure he doesn’t care about the outfits, as long as your enjoying the kinkyness as much as he is…at least that’s how my relationship is working 🙂

  3.  by  Friend

    He wants you to wear them because to him, you look amazing.

    So…you look amazing. 🙂

  4.  by  NotNow

    I look fantastic in my kinky garb, only I am so damn uncomfortable in them I want to get out!

  5.  by  Switch

    Clearly he thinks you look awesome. 😀

  6.  by  sexy.

    ive never worn any ‘kinky’ outfits but i think i’d look pretty sexy in them.

    im fourteen and have no self confidence whatsoever..

  7.  by  Kay

    At 14 I’d like to think so! You shouldn’t even know what Kinky outfits are and you should be ashamed of yourself!

  8.  by  Scarlettewiththerope

    14 is when you start discovering your sexuality! There’s nothing wrong with exploring that as long as you aren’t rushing out to lose your v-card or something dumb like that. Find out who you are for yourself, it’s important 🙂

  9.  by  SuzyQ

    No one should be exploring their sexuality if they refer to their virginity as their “v-card”. I’m kinda teasing, but I am serious. Fourteen is too young to have sex, oral or otherwise.

    When I was 14, I had very little self confidence. I dated a boy who I thought I was crazy about. Looking back I think I liked him mainly because HE like ME. He went to a different school than I did, and he was friends with my best friend’s boyfriend. It was great until about two months into our relationship when my best friend had sex with her boyfriend, who told mine about it.

    My boyfriend then started pressuring me for sex, which I gave in a few months later with the rationale that “well, my friend did it, so I guess it’s ok for me to also”. Obviously this was NOT a mature way to decide something so important, and I wish I had waited.

    That feeling was only made worse by the fact that ONE WEEK after I gave in and had sex with my boyfriend, he broke up with me. Because we went to different schools, it turned out that the day I had sex with him was the last day I ever saw him. Let me just tell you how awful that feels. I am now 38 and happily married, but I would be lying if I said that situation didnt negatively affect my later relationships and ability to trust people, especially men.

    Please wait until you have a very strong sense of yourself before you share yourself with others. Good Luck!

  10.  by  Alice

    First of all “Sexy”, find someone who likes what you like. When you find them, dont let him (or her) get away, no matter what. That will do wonders for your confidence.

    SuzyQ.
    I’ve been having kinky fantasies about dominance since preschool. Today I practice bdsm on my lover/best-friend; and I have been for the last 4 years. I am 16, and he is 20; and, I’m a virgin. (I don’t know if we’ll stay together in the future, but my cherry sure as hell aint leavin!)

    Sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of.

  11.  by  SuzyQ826

    Alice, I was in no way saying that sexuality should be something you are ashamed of! I don’t think that at all! My main point was that – in general – 14 year olds are not mature enough to handle all of the issues that go along with a sexual relationship. I am happy that you have found someone to share your fantasies with, but you must realize that you are a rare exception to the rule. Unfortunately, many women end up with an experience or experiences like mine that leave them scarred emotionally. The only reason I shared my story is so that any young teens that read it might think twice before giving in to pressure for the wrong reasons. Ideally, you should never have to be “pressured” to have a sexual relationship with anyone!

  12.  by  Scarlettewiththerope

    You can explore your sexuality without having sex. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, but I started exploring my sexuality in junior high (alone, I might add). Sex is a positive, healthy expression, and anyone who tells someone they should be ashamed of their sexuality –especially a teenager– has some serious problems.

    That’s the point I want to make.

    SuzyQ, I’m sorry you had a bad experience, but to me it sounds like you made a bad choice because you HADN’T explored your sexuality. You allowed your first time to be about someone else, not yourself, and that sucks, but you shouldn’t project that on the rest of the world.

  13.  by  Scarlettewiththerope

    You can explore your sexuality without having sex. I was 18 when I lost my virginity, but I started exploring my sexuality in junior high (alone, I might add). Sex is a positive, healthy expression, and anyone who tells someone they should be ashamed of their sexuality –especially a teenager– has some serious problems.

    That’s the point I want to make.

    SuzyQ, I’m sorry you had a bad experience, but to me it sounds like you made a bad choice because you HADN’T explored your sexuality. You allowed your first time to be about someone else, not yourself, and that sucks, but you shouldn’t project that on the rest of the world.

  14.  by  SuzyQ826

    Scarlettewiththerope,
    Yes, I did have a bad experience – but how am I “projecting that on the rest of the world?” What an absurd thing to say. I posted my experiences here as a cautionary tale. My message is that people need to make sure they are emotionally ready for sex and everything that goes along with it – if and when they do have it.

    I never said anyone should be ashamed by any part of their sexuality. I simply stated that very young people need to be sure they are ready for it, because everyone’s time table is different.

    If your opinion differs from mine, that’s fine – but don’t you dare tell me what I should and should not “project” to the world or otherwise. This is a discussion board. I have as much right to share my experience and my opinion as you do.

  15.  by  Scarlettewiththerope

    SuzyQ: The comment about being ashamed was directed at the person who made it, read the whole board before going off half cocked. The parts directed at you specifically were made very clear by addressing them to you by using your name. It’s a common practice in my country, how about yours? Additionally, do you appreciate the irony inherent in the act of telling me not to ‘dare’ rebut your opinion because it’s a message board? Just asking. If your real problem was that you found my terminology offensive, I’d like to point out that you started the rude-fest by saying “No one should be exploring their sexuality if they refer to their virginity as their “v-card”. You then made a half disclaimer for it that backhandedly defended it. So good job on that.

    Anyway, the reason I say I think you’re projecting your issues is because you used that story to defend the point that young people shouldn’t be exploring their sexuality. Ergo, for that to be an effective defense of the point, then it should be relevant. It’s not. ‘Exploring your sexuality’ is in no way synonymous with having sex with some douchebag who pressures you. Hell, it’s not synonymous with having sex at all! Actually, that might be the opposite of exploring your sexuality, because there’s no exploration, and it’s not about you. Anyway, I might have simply disagreed without thinking you tend to project, but guess what… I put the caveat on my original point not to rush out to lose your virginity! (Or v-card, as us kids nowadays say.)

  16.  by  violet21

    i lost my virginity two days before my 15th birthday, and i turned out fine. my then-boyfriend turned out to be not that great, and we broke up two months later. i have no regrets. i’m now 20 and in a very healthy, loving relationship. it all depends on the person, there’s no right age to do anything. to any young teenagers reading this, do everything when you feel comfortable doing it, it’s that simple.

  17.  by  lynda.

    i lost my virginity when i was 12, in may of 07. by that time, i had vastly been exploring myself, what i liked, and what turned me on for years. the man who i gave my virginity to is still a very prominent figure in my life, and always will be. point is, age is nothing but a number. no one, male or female, should ever give something as important as their virginity away to some one under pressure. however, it does happen. and if you can take that, or any situation for that matter, and learn from it, thats what counts.

    as far as the original post goes, ever since i began exploring myself, ive found that i Love being tied down, still safe mind you, but restricted in one way or another. and i think that it completely fine. however, most people in our society of today shy away from such a matter because it “doesnt fit the norm.”, and the few people who edge into this abnormal abyss, and not just fully accept it, want everything to go their way. its like walking into a dark tunnel, you want a flashlight, a gun, and/or a light-saber (i know i would!), but the people who have been living in these dark tunnels dont need them. so, let him get used to the abnormal world, a bit longer. however, if it doesnt work, tell him, try and talk it out, and go shopping for such things together, and settle on things you both like. 🙂

    ps, i am a HAPPY 14 year old, leading the best life i never thought i could get. and its all because of Him.

  18.  by  CourtneyD

    Honey, you’re an idiot. Age is not just a number, its a biological condition. Your BRAIN is not fully formed yet and you haven’t yet learned the consequences of sex and love. Regardless of finding your kink. You should have just done it through porn instead of being an idiot. Both of you, the boy too.

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