I hate watching porn

I hate watching porn
because I fear i’ll never look like the girls in them

36 Comments on “I hate watching porn

  1.  by  midwesterner

    I don’t mind watching porn, but it makes me feel bad because I KNOW I’ll never look like them. I’m over 35 and have had three kids and am terrified of looking older. I’m starting to get wrinkles around my eyes and I freak every time I look in the mirror.

  2.  by  Seriously?

    You have to be the most insecure person to really like this image. And stupid because it’s poorly done.

  3.  by  2

    I love pin-ups. They’re beautiful. But, the whole point is that they’re supposed to be fantasies. When you think about it, feeling insecure from looking at porn actresses isn’t all that different from feeling insecure from looking at models. Models use sex (or sex appeal, rather) to sell things. Some might think this argument to be a bit of a stretch, but I believe that both porn stars and models sell their bodies, just in different ways.

  4.  by  RAW WAR

    most of those chix r women who have had so many injections & plastic surgery they’re cyborgs…no offense 2 ne actual porn stars who rn’t like that

  5.  by  h

    I hate watching porn because I find the women in it so unattractive, and the cocks so monstrously terrifying. Nothing about porn looks real, and nothing about those girls is sexy to me. You should be glad that you’ll never be one of those ridiculous, objectified, augmented fantasies – nobody wants one in real life.

  6.  by  just some girl

    …just imagine: my boyfriend’s friend wallpapered my boyfriend’s room with images from hustler and playboy as a joke. he hasn’t taken them down for a few months, and it makes me feel horrible. i feel like he sees them when we are making love, and i can never measure up.

  7.  by  justagirl

    To the author of the post card…I understand what you mean, I feel that way all the time just looking at advertisements and images of thin, yet curvy, beautiful women that permeate American media.

    And to “Seriously?”…you must be really insecure to actually be bashing someone via a thread on a post card created by someone you probably don’t even know.

  8.  by  Friend

    Tell him it hurts you.

    He will take them down in a heartbeat.

  9.  by  Friend

    …because you are the real thing. No poster could ever measure up to that. :)

  10.  by  downtherabbithole

    I hate feeling like I’ll never measure up. Most of my friends are thin and perfect and I do ballet which just puts more pressure on me to be thinner. You just have to let it go an accept that you may not have the perfect body but there will be someone who will love you just for you.

  11.  by  Begging to differ

    It hurts me to see women think that…

    In all honesty I’d rather see a real woman have a REAL orgasm

    a REAL woman, quirks and all, and believe it or not that girl I picture has a tummy and real curves and a wondrous look on her face.

    I tell you, nothing better :-)

    Never allow yourself to have to measure up to anything but your own ideals and expectations, because otherwise you’ll torture yourself and others with an image to live up to that shouldn’t even be an issue in the first place.

  12.  by  Sam

    I wish so badly that i could listen to what youve said about finding someone to love you anyway no matter how you are…my boyfriend tells me im beautiful all the time and i still dont believe him…to prove to me he cares and only wants me…he gave up porn..i still feel like he thinks of other girls during sex

  13.  by  Sam

    I love him more than i can explain..and he tries so hard to get me to see that he feels the same….idk whats wrong with me…

  14.  by  shea

    To Sam and the original Postcard author… I’ve heard from many guys, especially my fiance, that most men (the ones worth being with) want a real woman with a real body and some flaws. I am slightly overweight by about 10 pounds, but he loves my body the way it is. He says he can’t stand sticks and that he wants a girl who’s fun and real, not some fake doll.

    I understand what you mean, but take pride in your own personal beauty.

    Sam, you need to change that attitude before you lose him because he feels like you don’t believe him. Trust in him and yourself, point out the good things about your body and maybe have him do the same. If he says you’re beautiful, then you are, and you need to believe that just as much as he does or he’ll stop saying it.

  15.  by  Jim

    I hate porn too but eventually I realized that people like me, writers, we don’t live happy endings we create fake ones. Porn is the closest I will ever come to having a relationship and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better because I just don’t have the strength to kill myself. I’m also really addicted to online erotic fiction under the romance genre, when I read it I imagine I have some one who genuinely loves me and I’m not alone in life.

  16.  by  Kay

    It always makes me wonder… why are such good looking women degraded to porn. I envy them, for their looks, and pity them wasting such beauty.

  17.  by  figment

    I find my wife’s belly and other curves absolutely adorable.

    We also both enjoy plenty of good, kinky porn, as often as possible.

  18.  by  amy

    i know exactly how you feel. i feel this way everyday of my life and the worst thing is i know i can do something about it… but then again, my weight is something i can blame things on, if i don’t have that anymore then i won’t have a reason for losing my friends and having a broken heart.

  19.  by  Caden

    Ew, why would you want to look like a porn star? You’re beautiful if you don’t look like that.

  20.  by  Sam, also

    Not only is the fact we share a name coincidental, but I was in a similar situation. My boyfriend, the man I will hopefully marry, confessed to watching porn when he became so sexuaally frustrated. We are saving sex for marriage, but we still do other things and he would get all this pent up emotion with how strongly he wanted me. I think your boyfirend is much the same. Take the leap and trust him. When it gets to you too much just cry on his shoulder and let him know how you feel. He gave it up for you and so he obviously wants you to know how incredibly much you mean to him, he wouldn’t have stopped otherwise. I still have troubles believing my man too sometimes. He will still hold me when I’m sobbing on his shoulder and tell me how beautiful I am with a runny nose, red eyes and screwed up makeup. It will help you if you find the beauty in your self too. You can do it hun.

  21.  by  hate it

    i hate porn. my bf watched it when i was recovering from an eating disorder. I was 5’5 and 110-115 at the time. Now I am 94 pounds, and cant bear the thought of getting into the triple digits again, because that was when he watched a ton of porn. That was when he lied and snuck around to see these perfect girls. I hate it, and I hate myself for not being enough. Nothing he says can change the knot in my stomach when I think about it.

  22.  by  Chris

    I used to work as a stripper. The pressure to keep yourself looking good is so intense. I’ve kept those standards for my body for years. But my boyfriend told me that he likes it best when my hair is up and I’m wearing his boxers and a t-shirt. The strange thing is, I actually believe him.

  23.  by  Mish

    I hate porn. Went out with an addict once; God, he was nuts.

    I’m not at all concerned about matching up to porn “stars” – they probably have very sad lives, don’t you think? How would you like to make your living that way?! It’s not something a person with a stable, happy upbringing would choose to do. Read Traci Lord’s book.

    Especially object to how porn influences guys today, thanks to the net. (How old are they when they start to access porn?) When I grew up 20 years ago, if a guy expected anal, he was gay! Ladies, speak up for yourselves and have pride in who you are.

    LOVE x

  24.  by  PG

    I think you women have to understand something….

    I’m a straight guy who has plenty of female friends and dates. Porn is partly a ridiclous fantasy for MOST guys. No one seriously expects it to have any connection to real life. Most guys aren’t attracted to the overdone look as well- the super big boobs, the big lips, the overall fake look.

    It’s also a fantasy to see both the attractive women who may be in some porn as well as the ones that look like “real” women. There is that. But the main fantasy behind porn is it lets us believe that women want sex as much as we (men) do. It may be true, but in real life it never FEELS true, and we can’t believe that women would have as much sex as we want as FAST as we want, and porn lets us fantasize about that.

    And once every normal guy finds a girl that they really like, and that they really like having sex with, they don’t compare her unfavorably to porn stars- they’re glad they have her. Trust me.

  25.  by  brittany

    Maybe not but I bet your beautiful too.. porn stars may have the looks but they also have many other insecurities and worries far more than their facial appearance… ya know?

  26.  by  vaporvowel

    Guys, too much emphasis is being put on physical appearance. Confidence is the key to being sexy. And I also really feel like bashing these girls in the porns is super petty. Did anyone ever stop and think that maybe they enjoy it? Sexuality is not some horrible thing that people should hide and sneak around to enjoy. It is when people feel ashamed about sex and all that comes with it that these insecurities come out. Remember, to each his own.

  27.  by  Tina

    I think for some men it is the apparent enthusiasm and appetites of porn actresses that gets their attention. I love sex and am enthusiastic and my boyfriend is amazed and hooked. He tells me he can’t believe he is so lucky to have such a sexy girlfriend. We’ve been together 3 years and I am 30 pounds over weight. He is not overweight at all and has dated girls of all shapes and sizes. Initially I was insecure but eventually I could see he meant what he was saying. I believe it is the enthusiasm and the fact that I obviously am enjoying myself in bed as much as he is.

  28.  by  AxeBackflip

    I’m pretty sure that like 90% of porn stars have FAKE boobs, and are probably not eating as much as they probably should

    porn isn’t RL, ya know. It’s just a bunch of perverted visual satisfaction, so it’s not really realistic

  29.  by  fenriswolf

    I watch porn, even though I shouldn’t, but I have to tell ya, never compare yourself to the women in it. To break it down, they are paid (most of the time) actors. The biggest reason I watch porn is because I like the sounds the women make, but I know that real women more than likely don’t make those noises. The women (and men) in porn can’t be in the best of health, after all, they have sex with MANY different people.

    And “Seriously?”, this site is to meant to build people up, to give a safe place to tell things that are weighing us down. To criticize someone on here like the way you did, is wrong. Why are you on this site if that’s all you are going to do on here?

  30.  by  Richard

    To be honest, I wouldn’t worry if I were you. As a guy, it makes me more sad when I see a beautiful girl in a porno, it just suggests they’ve thrown away their life/dignity/intelligence just just for the short term appeal of their looks.

    Forget about it, its easy to be loved, but to be both loved and valued as a person? Thats something porn stars will always struggle to feel.

  31.  by  Cliff

    I always look at amateur because i prefer women like you.when it comes to gettin the guys ambition even beats looks to the guy who hates his life every time dream women walk around him like hes invisible.

  32.  by  Allie23

    There is so much pressure on women today to look a certain way. All these images tell us that we should be basically underweight with enormous boobs. This likely only naturally occurs in less then 2% of the population. Women starve themselves and mutilate their bodies to conform to this unrealistic ideal and by doing that they end up promoting it to other women and future generations. Do yourselves and every other women and young girl a favor: be healthy and embrace your natural beauty and sexuality. You and your partner will never truly be happy if choose to give into all the superficial pressures and fixate on looks.

  33.  by  Stanton Maack

    I am a man who is addicted to porn. Just recently I learned that women are subjectified in porn and watching porn has made me view women as sexual objects. But its not only porn, but mass media has trained me to view women in this way. I hate this part about myself, i do not take pride in saying this, and i will fix this part of myself. I Believe this is how many men feel, but just like women are made to feel like they should be thin to be viewed as a sexual object, men are trained to view women as sexual objects. All genders have to realize this ideology has been integrated into our minds since birth by media. Ideologies are a set of beliefs that are over believed and taken for granted. I try my best to view women as intellectuals, but often catch myself having sexual thoughts of the women i find attractive. The action i have taken to help resolve my problems is to watch no television, deleted my social networks, try to eliminate porn from my life and make friends that are women. So far porn has been the most difficult to stop because i have been watching it since ive been 14 almost every day.

  34.  by  avalon77

    Stanton Maack # are you joking/being sarcastic? you have to be.
    I’m a straight female and I enjoy watching porn. My body isn’t perfect but watching other people having sex is hot!! Its not about comparing yourself to the people in the porn, its about enjoying it. And if you can enjoy it as much as men do, you’ve reached a high plateau… And believe it or not, guys think that’s hot.

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