Flipping through secrets, I stumbled across this. I was molested by my older brother too, when I was a kid.
I don’t blame him for it. And I don’t hold him against him.
My brother is still my hero to this day. He’s too important for me to every hold it against him.
I know you might feel like you love him, but he is unhealthy. There is no real relationship after molestation. If you don’t report him, you have to at least move away from him. Think of yourself, think of your friends, your future children, etc. Ask any psychologist.
I think it’s beautiful that you still love them. What they did was terrible, but forgiving them is huge. I don’t know you, but I’m proud. Don’t let anyone break your spirit; love everyone not matter what. (:
It wasn’t my brother, but was close enough. And I have forgiven him. He actually has a chemical inbalance in his brance, he is medicine now, so he isn’t nearly as angry.
It was not my brother, I have none, it was my step-dad. He died, while I was pregnant and I grieve everyday for the father my little sisters lost but am relieved I never had to choose between my love for him and my love for my baby girl. Forgiveness was a balm to my soul but could never prevent the pain of choosing.
I experienced the same thing with a single brother, and I feel the same way. I know he was a child too, although old enough to know better. His childhood was as scary as mine, he just used me as an outlet. I forgave him years ago, but it is still confusing and painful. I don’t know if that will ever go away.
Thank God I’m not the only one who feels this way. I was wondering if i was a freak or something. Mine was just the one brother and similar to ‘thesame’ my family in general was going through a lot of shit. So i think my brother just used me as an outlet.
I was too. I never told anyone, life is so confusing now… but I still love him and forgive him. But I come from a completely normal family with great parents. I always wondered if this has happened to other girls out there, and now I know I’m not alone… thank you for this…
I feel the same. Everyone seems to think I should be going through life angry but I’m not. I know what was done is evil but that doesn’t mean my brother is. I still love him with my whole heart.
I know how you feel, my brother molested me from ten to eleven and I still love him. It’s a struggle. Please feel free to email me if you need to talk.
WOW, that shows how much of a big heart you have.
you are a very very brave person…
I know exactly what you mean.
your a far better person then me..cause i dont and wont ever again…i lie about it and it makes me cringe
Flipping through secrets, I stumbled across this. I was molested by my older brother too, when I was a kid.
I don’t blame him for it. And I don’t hold him against him.
My brother is still my hero to this day. He’s too important for me to every hold it against him.
I love you, bro, I just hope you know that.
I exactly know what u mean…I just admire your courage and your big heart..Bless you…
Me too.
I know you might feel like you love him, but he is unhealthy. There is no real relationship after molestation. If you don’t report him, you have to at least move away from him. Think of yourself, think of your friends, your future children, etc. Ask any psychologist.
I think it’s beautiful that you still love them. What they did was terrible, but forgiving them is huge. I don’t know you, but I’m proud. Don’t let anyone break your spirit; love everyone not matter what. (:
It wasn’t my brother, but was close enough. And I have forgiven him. He actually has a chemical inbalance in his brance, he is medicine now, so he isn’t nearly as angry.
It was not my brother, I have none, it was my step-dad. He died, while I was pregnant and I grieve everyday for the father my little sisters lost but am relieved I never had to choose between my love for him and my love for my baby girl. Forgiveness was a balm to my soul but could never prevent the pain of choosing.
I think that this is less about courage and more about the security that comes with being a family.
I am so sorry that you don’t feel secure enough as an individual to leave them in the dust and I hope that some day you can.
you’re not alone
I experienced the same thing with a single brother, and I feel the same way. I know he was a child too, although old enough to know better. His childhood was as scary as mine, he just used me as an outlet. I forgave him years ago, but it is still confusing and painful. I don’t know if that will ever go away.
it was my brother too. I was 9 and he was 11, I feel guity every day.
WOW what a strong person you are, I can’t stand to even look at my brothers picture on the wall without wanting to kill him
Ive been through similar. You are strong… but take care of yourself. You do matter and you are worth it
Thank God I’m not the only one who feels this way. I was wondering if i was a freak or something. Mine was just the one brother and similar to ‘thesame’ my family in general was going through a lot of shit. So i think my brother just used me as an outlet.
I was too. I never told anyone, life is so confusing now… but I still love him and forgive him. But I come from a completely normal family with great parents. I always wondered if this has happened to other girls out there, and now I know I’m not alone… thank you for this…
rethink your strategy
I feel the same. Everyone seems to think I should be going through life angry but I’m not. I know what was done is evil but that doesn’t mean my brother is. I still love him with my whole heart.
I admire your courage and strength. Just please be safe.
I know how you feel, my brother molested me from ten to eleven and I still love him. It’s a struggle. Please feel free to email me if you need to talk.