Why didn’t he fight for me?
I wanted him to fight for me.
He was supposed to fight for me.
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i recently told my boyfriend (er.. ex boyfriend) that we should stop talking. he agreed.
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and i wanted so badly for him to beg for me back like he did so many times before..
tell us enough and we stop
don’t perpetuate the drama
you can be as strong as us in this
that is so weird.
i honestly almost made one just like this
and the boy that i wanted to fight for me
i talked to him last night
telling him that i was upset that he didnt fight for me
he said that he thought there was no chance
so he didnt even try.
that is so weird cause i was going to make one saying this.
and last night
i talked to the boy that i wanted to fight for me
and i told him that if he wanted me back
he should have fought
and he said that he thought there would be no chance in getting me back
so he didnt even try.
They never fight for you. They’ll give you pretty words until you need them to be true, give you charming smiles until you want one to be real, hold your hand until you ask for it to be held. They’re all the same.
I feel your pain! I was just told it’s up to me to decide! But we need a break, he said. If I decide I don’t want him anymore whatever!! after 9 years he WON’T fight for me> It sucks, good luck!
I hear ya hunny
I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years (soon to be fiance…) and the most fight I got afterward was a text message asking me if this is really what I wanted. It hurts, especially after all that time, to know that they could let something like that go so easily. I didn’t break up with him just to see if he would fight for me…but now I know that I will find someone who is always wiling to fight for me…but won’t ever have to.
So will you
If he didn’t fight for you it’s that he just didn’t want to…his mind was probably elsewhere and although you’re probably worth it he couldn’t see it himself!!!
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he’s not worth it.
you deserve the world.
not a douchebag like him.
Why didn’t he fight for you?
Probably because he thinks you are a grown up, capable of making your own decisions. And he respects your right to make the decision.
Fighting for you?
Come on people!!
i told him i was done and i left, he didnt beg me to stay like all the times before. ive never been so lonely in my life.
every time he left, i always fought for him, called him a million times til he came back… the one time he left and i decided not to call, he didn’t fight for me, just left… broke my heart., i know how you feel… i fought for him so many times, once in return would have been nice
same here
I was mad because he didn’t really try even to be a decent friend after he told me that we couldn’t even try the couple thing because of the distance. I agreed, and I was just glad that I told him I liked him, and that he still talked to me. But what I came to realize was how much I worried and how much I fussed whenever he contacted me. I’d reply my heart out, but there would never be a follow up until a week later when he felt like saying some other random thing. I couldn’t do it to myself, I couldn’t be a fussy, worrisome bitch anymore so I deleted my myspace to sever the last line of communication. I hate myself for letting anything emotional, especially that, play out on myspace.
sorry.
i got goosebumps reading this…
a reflection of my own situation…
I was infatuated with someone who never fought for me. After every fight, I would have to make the first move so that we would stay together. I finally ended up leaving, and he was totally fine with it. I am now with someone who fights for me constantly, and I feel like I have taken on the role of my ex. I now know how he felt about me, and it hurts
They don’t need to fight for us, sweetie. We make our own beds and then we must lay in them. Being angry that they didn’t just means we’re trying to manipulate them into doing what we want. Unfair to them, co-dependant of us. I know, I’ve done it more than once. Shocked at the outcome every time.
Anyone who plays games like this isn’t worth fighting for.
it is hard i think. or know.
to lose somebody that you feel so hard for.
and they do not reciprocate.
i lost someone recently.
it hurts like hell.
and today.
i saw that stupid movie.
with jim carrey?
though it wasn’t a particularly brilliant movie,
carrey’s character struggled with the loss of someone
and he seemed more alive
when he let it go and just…..lived.
how simplistic.
that’s what i’m going to do.
join me?
it couldn’t hurt.
yeah, it hurts to think you’re not worth it.
Stop playing, girls. If the guy does not fight for you, then it means that you don’t deserve it (from his point of view, at least). And by the way, why won’t you fight for him, too ? Guys are not luring you, that idea is typically childish. We guys also have needs and dreams.
you girls are retarded, you are letting go just as easily as the guys are you are complaining about except you expect them to fight for you when your not willing to do so in return!!! the hypocrisy is absurd
Wait a minute, Wait a minute ladies, I hear what you saying. Yes it hurts. But in my case, I fought for this one girl I loved but she ended up with someone else, I mean I would call her, e-mail he; but nothing, nada. To this day, I haven’t met a girl I really liked and worth fighting for because of this. I gave up on love because of this past experience, maybe my outlook on life will change one IDK. But for now, I feel like there no need for me to fight for anyone, I’m not rushing myself into a relationship for someone who doesn’t seem like it worth it.
He should’nt have to be in the position where he had to fight for her, thats just wrong. Honestly, she was’nt worth the fight if she would pull something like that, but it all depends on the situation. He might have wanted to fight, but maybe he thought it would’nt make a difference, maybe he thought he didn’t have a chance this time.. Sadly, i would fight. If your going down, why not go down with a fight.
girls often want their guy to fight for them forever and never give up just because they enjoy it. this doesnt allways suffice. i have a friend who is still fighting to get this girls heart back and he doesnt ask for anything in return, she just ignores it and keeps moving.
Because he wanted you to do what you wanted. And maybe then you would be happy.
Fight for you? it’s over so why are you still trying? Guessing and mind games still drive me crazy!
I often wondered if my ex-girlfriend wanted the same thing…
because you were leaving me to live a happier life somewhere else, and more than anything i want you to be happy. this is similar to your handwriting
I was thinking the exact same thing. Broke up recently and the guy, despite flaring up and dragging his parents into the fight, never said sorry or asked me back.
I felt so disposable.
I agree. Break-up words should not be thrown around. If the relationship is really that important enough to you then you shouldn’t do or say anything you’ll regret. Unless you did this just wanted to “test” the strength of the relationship, which is never a good idea. You don’t stress-test the bridge while you’re standing on it.
It sucks, and I don’t necessarily think it’s mind games, just normal human nature.
Who doesn’t want to feel so loved and desired and beheld and pursued that their significant other
Would at least try and get them back? I understand, I sympathize with your situation but it happened
To me and I let him go. Then be came back even it took a year. Let him go if he comes back it’s meant to be.
wow, i agree with the post above me. And I’m a guy.
Ladies…stop telling us to fight for you. Most of us don’t because we know it’s some little fantasy of yours…and we take you for adults, not some little kid who is living in a storybook fantasy of us “fighting” for you.
wow, i agree with the post above me. And I’m a guy.
Ladies…stop telling us to fight for you. Most of us don’t because we know it’s some little fantasy of yours…and we take you for adults, not some little kid who is living in a storybook fantasy of us “fighting” for you.
Please…grow up and stop pretending that you too will experience what you saw on T.V. of that dude fighting for the girl till he was out of breath.
I’ve come to realized that some boys can’t read our minds like we want them to. and you know what, if they’re willing to let you go so easily, they’re not right for you.
That just means the right guy is waiting for you out there somewhere.
Don’t lose hope.
I don’t know how you can end a relationship with someone and then get angry that they didn’t fight for you, that they didn’t chase after you to get you back. Maybe, just maybe they took what you said literally and thought the relationship was over. Maybe they’ve fought for other people and lost and have decided that fighting is no longer worth it.
You have no idea what kind of feelings a breakup will spark and anyone who does it in the expectation to be fought for or chased after is selfish. Selfish because they’re ignoring the other party in the relationship, ignoring their feelings. Fine, if the relationship is bad then ending it might be the only route, but before you cut the line and hope they come back you need to be prepared for the very real possibility that they won’t. If they don’t and you still wanted a relationship then you have no one to blame but yourself for ending it.
I didn’t know how much I was in love with her until she got a boy friend. I tried to fight for her, to let her know how much I cared for her and that I would very much like her to be mine. I tried for what seemed years. I went insane. I had to stop perusing for fear loosing my mind completely, my friends had to step in and tell me to take a second and third look at what I was doing to myself.
I’m sorry if I didn’t peruse enough, I still think about you, and worry about you all the time. I’m afraid that I’ll never be able to let go, even if you two do marry.
I’m not sure if Bruce Almighty is what you’re talking about but I thought of this quote. It gave me comfort through a situation like this.
God: Grace. You want her back?
Bruce: No. I want her to be happy, no matter what that means. I want her to find someone who will treat her with all the love she deserved from me. I want her to meet someone who will see her always as I do now, through Your eyes.
Hun, I hope you are doing okay. I know what it feels like to feel worthless and unimportant because he wouldn’t fight to be with me. And, it’s not that we are testing them. Just it really burns when they seem to be able to let things go so easily. So, it feels like you weren’t anything special. I know it’s a typical response but there will be someone that will know and appreciate you and everything you have to offer. Even if it may not be any time soon. I hope you are going to be okay. Losing love is one of the worst feelings in the world.
Why should someone fight
For a person
That only wants them to fight
To make themselves feel good
When they know it is hurting
The other person
I have been with my boyfriend for two years, the only arguments we have gotten into have been about how he didnt fight back for my diginity as his gf, he let some girl talk to me like i was a worthless piece of shit and she was dillusional to think i wanted her man,i wanted him to let her know that i wasnt worthless and that i obviously didnt want her man bc ive been happy with mine, I drew the line when my bf’s ex tried stepping into our lives and she and I were constantly bickering..i gave him a choice. Fight for me, fight for us and tell her to leave us alone or get out of my life…he made the right choice and now he fights as hard for me as i do for him <3
We kept fighting – because he refused to have sex with me and wouldm’t explain why. I told him repeatedly how rejected I felt when he refused to have sex. He said there was no one else he just wanted my company. Wanted me to sleep beside him but no interecourse, just kissing, some touching. He yelled at me sometimes out of the blue. I told him I wanted him to get help.
Examples of some of our fights:
One morning I phoned him at the wrong time and his response was “Not now.” When I phoned later he yelled “if you’re so busy and I’m busy well why don’t you get busy then.” Later on he called and was back to his sweet self. No real apology except that he took me out to a movie as though we were on a date. Said he wasn’t sure if I wanted him as a boyfriend.
This in spite of me sending e-mails, asking him to get help, talking to a woman friend of his and getting her advice to save the relationship.
Finally one morning he yelled at me when I asked him what was wrong. Said the problem was that I’d asked the question. His eyes were bugging out of his head – he was a stranger to me. I left his house. Spent the day with family. No phone calls no apology until later that night when he phoned acting as though nothing had happened, wanted to finally have sex, wanted to get together that week, acted all empathetic and amazingly sensitive.
I blew up and said that because he hadn’t apologized for blowing up at me, hadn’t phoned and seemed to be blaming me for his outburst I couldn’t even see myself having sex with him again and I regretted we hadn’t just been friends all along. He said he was sorry he had hurt me. It seemed as though he had no idea that he had hurt me when he lashed out at me. He thought he could just sweep the incident under the rug.
We’ve had many fights but this time he’s not cailing or e-mailing any more.
Now I’m upset I hadn’t just said point blank get some counselling or forget it.
Then I wonder what’s wrong with me that I put up with a crappy relationship and abuse and why aren’t I happy it’s over.
I guess I would have felt better if he had ended it and said how he felt instead of me feeling I tried so hard for nothing.
A part of me does wish he had fought for the relationship and really tried – i.e. went to counselling for his anger problems. But that’s just not the way life works. It’s too bad he won’t seek help.
I think he’ll treat his next girlfriend much better. I wish I had mattered enough to him that he would have sought help for the sake of us.
I can guarantee you he will not treat his next girlfriend any better.
It seems that this guy suffers from a huge lack of self-confidence. He does not know who he is, or why he does what he does. He seems like he is still trying to find himself.
Trust me, I am a guy and I know people exactly how you described the guy in your story. His next gf will go through the same crap you did, unfortunately. I’ll bet money on that.
You know, I’m afraid not to be one to argue, but some guys really can’t and need to be communicated with in words.
I was with a woman I adored for 8 months in the course of the last month of our relationship she totally walled me out and wouldn’t really open up to me about anything, now I’m pretty insightful, and I was with her but it only goes so far. She walled me out and left me with no real explanation.
In the end, both sides have to talk, if this girl wanted him back she should have said something subtle yet direct. (I say that with great license)
I wanted him to change. I wanted to be with him forever…he didnt fight for me, or his son.
If fighting for you means giving in to your little tantrums, then maybe he finally wised up. Nobody likes being manipulated.
I wouldn’t tell a guy I didn’t want to be with him any more unless I meant it.
And that decision is final.
this secret breaks my heart.
I fought for her with all my might. Within a week she had someone else, within a month she had many someone elses. I fought with her with my soul and body, crying on the street and begging her not to tell me she loved me and treat me like this. The funny thing is, I guarantee she would say that I did not fight for her. Girls stop putting your men through hell, you might say we are not fighting for you, but destroying ourselves to boost your ego is unfair, manipulative and just plain cruel.
We fight, it is just never enough for you. Why do you want us to fight for you? Because you want us – then tell us that. Because you want your ego boosted, but dont want us – cruel and mean in unimaginable ways. Whatever it is, it is unfair to say that when we may be fighting and when you tell us you dont want us. Good luck to all on their search for a love that is worth fighting for, but needs not be fought for.
I SO relate to this feeling…
I always beg him not to stop talking to me.
And he always comes back.
Some times,I wish I wouldn’t beg him.
you didnt have to just listen. You could have said something. You could have stuck up for me. You could have fought for me.
It dose not matter how many times he tries to break us up. You still blame me for being to emotional. What was I supposed to think, learning you had slept with her.
You could have fought for me, stood up for me!
Instead you’r friends keep walking all over me.
You don’t have to make me fight them alone.
I don’t want them to fight me.
I just want them to love me as much as i love them. And tell them I’m sorry for moving away, sorry for not having the money or the job to come back. Sorry for not dropping out of college to come live by all of you again. And sorry that you are moving here, so we can start our own lives together.
I no that they are hurting. I am taking you away from them so soon.
But you didnt have to keep letting them do/say those things to me.
You could have fought for me.