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This will probably happen again and again and again…just remember that it’s not your fault, the guy in question is just looking for something different…everyone has things they look for in a person, you might just not fit these criterias…doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. For example your ex might prefer fat girls, or stupid girls…and you might be slim and smart…

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hi, i’m in the same position as you. i just found this old quote i had saved …

And how it can actually ache in places you didn’t know you had inside you. And it doesn’t matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends… you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he’ll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you’ll go somewhere new. And you’ll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, will eventually begin to fade. And then you will fall back in love again, this time with a completly different.

and i somehow got to this site, and the first secret was this one. my ex and i were together for 3 and a half years when he left me for someone else because i wan’t ready to have sex with him … i have to say its been a year and i’m still not quite over it i do think of him everyday but guess what, life goes on. it always gets better, you just need bestfriends and you need to become available. i gained about 15-20 pounds and i felt like shit. i began to feel better when i started to work out and i lost 10 pounds! then a new guy showed up, and i’m falling in love already. trust me it always gets better, theres always a light at the end of the tunnel. you need to look for the light, and never give up. i swear it will get better you just need to stop thinking about him, and keep busy making your life better without HIM in IT!

I am in the same position. I never thought the man I’m with(been together 9 yrs., married 2, would ever be so self absorbed, to inflict such pain on me. He was the one person I thought TRULEY cared about ME . BUT once again (marriage #2) I was screwed over. What’s WRONG with ME?

I feel for you its happened to everyone at one point, I’m Sorry, im wondering what caused everyone to think this was a girl posting

it could be a man or a woman. i’m a guy, and i’m in exacly this position.

i’m sorry i wasn’t good enough.
you’ll find much better.
i’ll always your first
you’re my last as well.

“i still love you with everything i have in me”

i understand.

it hurts when the one person that you truly believe in lets you down.

but i think almost worse than the break up, worse than the end, is that people expect you to get over it. because to everyone else, you dated an asshole; someone not worth your time. they don’t understand how it’s possible for you to love someone so flawed.

but you do.

and every day hurts a little bit less.

because you should know that the relationship that you shared with that person is going to be different from any one they’ve ever had before or will ever have. because you gave a piece of yourself to that person, and for the rest of their life they will have it. and in the long run, they’ll miss you more.

i am glad i saw this. right now i am in the same position and i havent been able to really talk about it with anyone. i dated a guy for about three years then around march of last year he decided to take a break because things in his life were rough. i really couldnt handle it anymore so i moved on and fell in love again. right before i went to school that guy dumped me because i was going away to school but then started dating a girl who went to a college even further away. both guys are happily in love with two other girls and there isnt anything i can do about it. i think about it every day. and as bad as this sounds i miss them both for different reasons. i wish i could be happy again. i just cant find any to help me move on

omg feel the same

I cried…..;(

i love this quote. i read it, and i read everyone’s feedback and it makes me feel so much better about everything.
my boyfriend of 9 months recently broke up with me. i feel empty. he has that part of me that i’ll never get back. never. on top of that, we were best friends for 3 years prior to dating, and had liked eachother basically that whole time as well.
everyone says things will get better. everyone says he doesn’t deserve you. i just want to get in their face and scream. i don’t, but i want to. because what it really comes down to is that…

i just want him…

My boyfriend of a year and a half very recently broke up with me a month ago. He has a new “girlfriend” and she has already “broken” his heart, he came to me crying for advice and I have been there for him the past week. I have been there and acted like I’m over him but everything he says about her hurts me and I still love him, I wish i could be strong enough to push him away and let me heal. I know that there must be a perfect person for me, but I feel like he was the one. Now I just try and distract myself as much as I can.

no i’m not coming back..get over it damn it!

EMO EMO EMO EMO EMO EMO EMO

… Try acid, because pharmaceutical drugs will get you addicted and Acid’s always pulled me out of a deppression. It’s what they used to use before they started with antidepressants… and you’d literally have to drink you own body weight in the stuff to kill yourself… but it’s always diluted when sold to the public.

…. Seriously, you need to move on. Yes, you love this person, yes, you’ll ALWAYS love them, yes you’ll ALWAYS be JADED… it never fully goes away, but it does get easier. Live love… move on.. you won’t be able to get over it unless you get out there and take some more chances.

Best of luck to you

I understand how you feel. My boyfriend in high school, the first person I ever truly fell in love with me broke up with me because he cheated on me after a year and a half together. I felt like I got kicked in the stomach. The worst part was that I never spoke to him about it, never got any closure, until two whole years afterwards. Those two years I spent sad and depressed, when i could have been happy. I was unable to trust anyone enough to like them, let alone fall in love again. My advice to you is don’t worry about what this other person or anyone else thinks of you. Just call them up, and get what you need in terms of closure so that you can move on with the rest of your life.
I just spent six months with a guy, who ended up being the first person I have fallen in love with since the last time. We broke up yesterday because he is going away for the semester, and we might never get back together, but I am still so happy to have had that time with him. Love is always going to hurt in the end, but it is usually worth it.
Good luck, and make sure you get what you need
<3 Leela

Same boat. There is not a day that I think about her.
It is so hard, because we are still friends, and someday I wish I can read her mind.
Does she miss me? I am I fool to keep hoping?
4 months so far, I wish I can tell…

It’s sad and everything.. but this still scares me because even though it seems like a loving sentiment, it’s something my ex would send in and it looks like his writing… he turned very psycho and i’m pretty such he smashed in my new boyfriend’s car window….

Things aren’t always what they seem. but still, i hope this person’s okay and they find someone truelly special.

There is someone else out there waiting for you to find them, and trying to find you. Live and love.

I know what you mean. Every single day I obsess over it; I think I have a problem. I’m definitely regressing.

We were best friends and had been dating for 2 years. We were Engaged and blissfully happy. One day he said it was over. Came like a sudden slap in the face. It has been 36 days. I sometimes think I’m getting better, but I really just lie to myself.

I’m going insane. It is 3 a.m. right now but every night I dream about him. I’m afraid to sleep. Instead I’ve transformed myself into an ugly ugly ugly zombie.

I really would like to believe that things will get better and that I’ll learn to trust again. But I don’t know if I do.

Help.

My boyfriend dumped me a month ago…and then a girl who I thought was my “friend” confessed to me that she had sex with him while he was with me, and her excuse was because she barely knew me and didn’t know I was such a good person and then she got to know me and felt horrible..which still isn’t a good enough excuse. I got so sick and wanted to completely VOMIT. He was the person I trusted the most, I loved the most, did things with for the very first time, and I’m so completely sensitive and fragile about those types of things…but he’s not who I thought he was at all. I was still completely in love with him, even after I found that out..he even tried to play it off like he didn’t know what i was talking about..little did he know she was right next to me when I told him I knew in a text and he said “what are you talking about?” to me and then texted her right after asking her “why’d you tell”…lets just say shit hit the fan.

he met me and cried and said I haunted him but we couldn’t get back together and that he couldn’t even begin to think of being with someone else..

a week later he has a new girlfriend. I just found this out yeserday. I know I would never wanna get back with him..but it still hurts because I can’t just tell the love for him I have to go away..I’m still in complete disbelief and shock. I’m still completely shattered and heartbroken…I don’t see how he can move on so quickly after saying all of those things he said..he’s just a liar. I’m afraid to ever give my heart out again, how can you tell who’s real anymore?

oh..and we were also together for a year and half.

Pfft… try being together 8 years and still missing him for 5

I worry my husband feels ths way about his ex.

that pretty much sums up my life right now

I know how this feels, people are talking about pieces of themselves are missing? i lost my heart. Nothing made me feel the way he did.

and ive never had a flutter come to my heart since he left me for a girl because she was closer. *i lived 3 hours away*

I want to feel my heart again. I want to love someone so i can forget how long he’s been with her.

i want it to go away. But i know i’d run back if only he’d ask.

I love you Bradley.

I feel like this is Jade.

I just spend a half hour comparing a letter she wrote me to this post to make sure it was her handwriting.

I’ve been hung up on her since the day we broke up but I don’t let anyone know.

I hope one day I get to see her again.

I was the one that ended it and, believe me, if he’s anything like me he’s hurting just as much as you are right now.
And still misses you and everything you had no matter how hard he tries to cover it up.
But now it feels too late.
It’ll get better one day though, I can assure you of that.

This hit home with me… i had been with a guy for 5 year, i than moved with my famiy and we split up. well 7 years later we got back together and talked and were still way to in to each other, so we were dating again for about 8 months out of no where he was at his parents for the day and didnt come back, didnt call nothing. it was a knife in the heart, i than found out he had cheated on me, but also had a nother girlfriend at the same time. now less than a month of us being over he was engaged. i still think of him all the time and cant stop. i dont know what to do. and than i had a post on one of my sites, well it was saying how he hurt me and stuff and all he could saw was “glad i could help” that again was a punch in the gut… and to top it off i was out having fun with some friends and saw him with his new girl and that killed the night it hurt so much to see him with someone else. i had a chance at something else but because of my fear of giving my heart again i lost that chance… its not fun having so many strong feeling for someone when you dont know if they still care at all about you.

I read this and it made me want to cry. It parallels my life so much.
Its been 3 years since the girl I love left. plenty of people will tell you you’ll get over it but in all reality you’ll never truly get over it.
The love for them will always be there. People say each day it gets better, and i guess thats true for some, though for 3 long years and I still feel as if she had just told me she no longer wanted to be with me. The feelings you get in your chest, and in places you never knew could hurt solely by emotion. Its effected my life in many different ways. I’ve never been the same since. When you love someone you intertwine that person with yourself, and when they are gone you’ll never be fully complete. But even though the memories hurt so bad, and make me cry at the most random of moments, i wouldn’t trade them for anything.

i wonder if my ex-boyfriend thinks about me too. every day.

It’s been just over a year for me. I still think about him every day. Even though I’m on my 4th boyfriend after him, and I know I love this guy very very much. The whole in your heart will probably never go away. Mine still burns, aches, and at times, I have to stop for a minute to orient myself. Just remember you have those best friends. I made a best friend after that buy, and he is the boy I love now. Try and move on. Good luck.

i feel exactly like this but its only been a few months im glad someone else is further on n still like is, is that bad????