I know my best friend is in love with me

I know my best friend is in love with me

I know my best friend is in love with me….

And it kills me that I am not a lesbian too….




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Comment by justme
2008-12-03 02:26:04

The kitties are cute. I’m not a lesbian but I am in love with one of my best female friends (I’m bi and married to a man). This is sweet though. All you can be is who you are. Your best friend understands and hopefully values you for the kind and true friend you are. all the best to you :)

 
Comment by Julien
2008-12-03 14:56:13

I agree…if your her best friend also it’s for more than her sexual preferences!!!

http://mylifeiscrap.com

 
Comment by OceanEyes
2008-12-09 23:58:52

I know what it’s like to be the lesbian in love with your best friend…

And I know it hurts to be on both sides of that.

Comment by BareFeelings Subscribed to comments via email
2009-11-16 15:56:25

I too, am that best friend. We are undeniably soul mates, and she jokes so often that we would be the same person if she were gay too- that on one hand it gives me hope to be with her some day; yet it breaks my heart all at once because I know that this is unlikely to ever happen for real.

 
 
Comment by Mac
2009-01-15 04:07:26

Oh wow, now I’m worried that you’re MY best friend.

Comment by Clarissa
2009-05-30 07:11:37

I’m worried that it’s my best friend too now.

Comment by anonymous
2009-07-23 21:55:01

i wish she was my best friend.

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Comment by liveinmusic Subscribed to comments via email
2009-01-17 09:04:53

this is strange because i am in love with my best friend and she sent me the same picture of those cats … i never told her i was in to girls … hmmm

 
Comment by FunDip418 Subscribed to comments via email
2009-01-26 06:28:40

My best friend told me we couldnt be friends anymore and it completely crushed me. She meant everything to me. A few weeks later she came out saying that she ended our friendship because she knew she would start to have feelings for me and didnt want to ruin things. I think she is in love with me, and is pushing me away to save herself the pain. But I think I am in love with her.

Comment by Launisch
2009-02-25 02:56:27

Wow. I don’t know whether to say how unlucky you are, or how lucky you are. I fell deeply in love with my best (female) friend long before I realized I even liked girls that way. I think that she always knew, and it made us both so sad to know that we would both be suffering for it.
If you don’t have to suffer, don’t. If you can love someone who loves you, let yourself. It is so worth it, and it terrifies me to think I might have missed my chance.

Comment by Maks
2010-03-16 18:47:41

I am a guy and i told a good friend of mine that i liked him. He is in no way gay at all but i thought it would help me get over feeling like this. Im starting to find, it isnt.

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Comment by emma
2009-12-09 20:01:04

WELL THEN TELL HER!!!

 
 
Comment by FunDip418 Subscribed to comments via email
2009-02-25 03:38:40

I would say that I am unlucky. Since I posted the comment, I told her how I felt, only to have her tell me that I was too late. She did like me but that ship sailed and she is in love with someone else. So I took the pain both ways. Kept in and it ate me up, told her how I felt and Im still in the same boat only now I feel completely humiliated. So my advice is take your chance now, cuz it might be the only one get.

Comment by emma
2009-12-09 20:03:38

oh, shit, shit, shit. i didn’t read far enough ahead. i’m sorry your situation turned out like this, but def good advice you gave for other people.

 
 
Comment by Ally
2009-03-01 10:39:02

My best friend is bi.

I never thought I was….until I fell in love with her

she doenst love me back

 
Comment by Mother
2009-03-19 16:59:34

Your best friend is an INDIVIDUAL and so are you. Said individual is a best friend. The question now is why would you want to be a lesbian? Learn to be assertive. What is the difference between this individual falling for you or any other individual besides the fact you said it is your best friend. I understand your pain. You are going to have to cut ties. Very sad.

Comment by Friend
2009-04-01 00:18:33

I think you are misinterpreting the situation.

Why would she want to cut ties? She loves this person, just not in “that way”.

If you ‘cut ties’ with everyone who admitted to caring deeply for you, then you are a very cold, cruel, and selfish person.

 
Comment by Just that girl Subscribed to comments via email
2010-01-02 21:54:00

You are being extemely rude. She has no need to cut ties. I am a female in love with my female best friend. We have no need to cut ties even though she wishes she could even possibly have feelings for me. Whoever posted this deserves respect. So give it to them.

 
 
Comment by Cuppy
2009-05-25 03:04:18

I wish this was from you. But I know it’s not.
But when I read it, I started to cry.

Comment by Ray
2010-05-11 18:03:42

Same here. </3

 
 
Comment by P L Adamson Subscribed to comments via email
2009-05-28 10:46:57

I completely understand what it’s like to be in a situation where you fall in love with your best friend. Last autumn I met a girl and we instantly became great friends… best friends. I never had considered myself a lesbian at this point till we began to spend more and more time together. One day she said she wanted to go on a little “date” with me, just for fun (nothing to be taken from it). While we were at the pub with some other friends of ours I couldn’t help but think to myself “I wouldn’t mind going on an actual date with her.” From that point onward my feelings grew stronger. I’ve never felt as strong for a guy, one whom I dated for almost a year, the way I felt about her in a matter of months. There were times where I thought she could feel the same way. I even began to get jealous whenever I’d see her with a guy; just wishing I were in his shoes instead.
It’s been 9 months since I’ve felt this way and I’ve tried to let it go and move on but I can’t; she’ll always be the first person I’ve ever loved. The worst part is we’re rooming together starting this August and I’m afriad that if I do tell her she’ll think that was my reasoning in living with her all along, when it’s not. I know I’ll tell her one day, just haven’t the slightest idea as to how or when.
But the thing is, no matter how scared or wreckless this may make me… it’s worth it… just to love her.

Comment by jenna
2009-10-10 00:19:16

This was beautiful. Thank you.

 
 
Comment by lost Subscribed to comments via email
2009-05-31 19:29:41

i met my roommate almost two years ago and we’re best friends. i’m in love with him, but i’m afraid he doesn’t feel the same way, and that, if he doesn’t, telling him would ruin our friendship. we drunkenly hooked up once.. he makes fun of it a lot.. i was never happier. i don’t know what to do.

 
Comment by lost Subscribed to comments via email
2009-05-31 19:30:07

i’m a guy too btw

 
Comment by I wish..
2009-06-01 21:36:31

I wish that this secret was directed towards,me..

 
Comment by four.
2009-06-10 11:12:42

my best friend fell in love with me. we used to hook up and hang out all the time, i thought i loved her too but then things went downhill and eventually i found someone else.
she thinks we stopped it because i was uncomfortable being with a girl.
but really- i just fell in love with a different girl.

 
Comment by AF
2009-08-19 17:35:38

I can’t help hoping you’re my best friend. Just in case…. Do your glasses get in the way?

If that made any sense to you, then I have hopes for my life.

Comment by Diva Subscribed to comments via email
2009-09-08 23:09:18

I don’t even know why I’m commenting on this, but I have to admit that this comment freaked me out a bit. I wear glasses and also have developed feelings for my best friend. I have never planned to pursue them b/c I’m not a lesbian nor do I get involved with people who are involved with others. But I have to admit that I have NEVER been attracted to someone so intensely. I’m not even sure if I’m in love b/c I never have been b/f.

I have never told anyone about these feelings, but something has compelled me to respond to this comment.

So I have to ask, “Do the glasses get in the way of what?”

 
 
Comment by VH Subscribed to comments via email
2009-09-08 08:24:11

reading the comments on this stops me feeling so alone.
i have a nasty habit of falling for girls i become close friends with who are straight.
i think i know though that if my best friend was also gay she would be with me because i know she hates that she cant make me happy in that area of my life.

 
Comment by JustMe
2009-09-09 19:25:25

I’m in love with my best friend..
It’s why she’s my best friend…
I would do anything for her…
Be there for her through thick and thin…
I know everything about her…
And how much she loves whichever boy she’s with…
:-)
It doesn’t bother me anymore, unless she gets hurt…
I’ll always be in love with her…
But I know she’s straight…
She’ll always love me back though, just not the same way…
I’ve come to terms with that.

 
Comment by VH Subscribed to comments via email
2009-09-09 20:47:58

i was like that with my best friend for about 5 years. in all that time i wrapped myself in knots around her love life. we had snipets of something every so often and i clung to them like my life depended on it. then we both went to universities at opposite ends of the UK. and her asshole parents decided to move house hundreds of miles away from home.

 
Comment by yesenia ramirez Subscribed to comments via email
2009-10-06 10:30:23

the reason i turned bi was because of my bestfriend ..
shee loved me and i loved her to .we took the next step but it didnt work out . i wish we never took the next step .. because we’d probably be bestfriends still =/

Comment by Amanda
2010-06-21 20:55:03

You can’t “turn” bi.
Just saying.

 
 
Comment by Blackbird
2009-10-21 14:30:00

i fell hard for a girl my first day of swim practice in college. my love for her made me realize i was gay and a few months after i came out, we began to date. she was my first kiss, first significant other, first everything. we moved in together and exchanged forevers; four months later she fell for another redhead and i was sent to the emergency room during a panic attack. she’s still my best friend.

Comment by emma
2009-12-09 20:18:41

wow. you are good at forgiveness. that’s really admirable.

 
 
Comment by bobaa. Subscribed to comments via email
2009-10-24 15:42:42

I fell in love with my best friend. i told her i liked girls.. she CRIED. i never understood why.. that was 4 years ago.
I finally found a girl who loved me back, who wanted ME we dated for a year… i broke up with her because I’m still in love with my best friend.
she doesn’t even know.

 
Comment by A.Shell Subscribed to comments via email
2009-10-31 01:50:45

I didn’t know I was in love with my best friend until the day she kissed me. We’ve been together ever since.

 
Comment by Chelsea Kasmiskie
2009-11-08 08:45:45

My best friend is lesbian. Shes the one person in the whole world who i care the most about, even over my family.
But she loves me in a different way. I wish i could love her in the same way. It kills me everyday that i cant.
She thinks no one cares about her but she means the world to me.
If i was lesbian, she would be mine forever. She’d never have to worry about getting hurt, or not being “pretty enough”
I think shes beautiful but she doesnt see it.
I dont think other people do either.. but i do. I see it every day.
I wish that i could be there for you in the ways that i cant.
I wish i could heal your heart and stop all the pain from coming even an inch closer to you. I wish you knew what you really do mean to me and i wish youd stop hurting yourself.
i feel like its all my fault. if i was like you then we wouldnt have all the problems that we do.
I wouldnt have my boy problems, you wouldnt get jealous, i wouldnt feel like i shouldnt get too close to you because i dont want you to stay in love with me. I cant love you like a girlfriend could.
And if you never get over me, how are you supposed to find true love?
Ill be jealous when you do. Im already jealous when you talk to other girls and go hang out with them. If i have those feelings why cant i be lesbian??
I cant go without the touch, scent, ect of a guy. thats why. and it kills me.

Comment by sphyndilis
2009-12-21 05:36:25

Your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you. I imagine that if my best friend could say something to me, she’d say that…I love her and I always will, my year with her was by far, they most amazing and I still ache for it. But things will be as they are meant to. Good luck! I know how your friend feels and its something that can’t be described.

 
 
Comment by yesenia ramirez Subscribed to comments via email
2009-12-09 20:36:26

i know the pain u feel ;
but ur bff shuld accept u cant change to be a lesbian ..
maybe you will change – but when u do its not for any one but for you
still make her feel special – seems like she needs it<3

 
Comment by Somebody Subscribed to comments via email
2009-12-18 12:49:50

I’ve been madly in live with one of my best friends for a long time. Realized it when she fell asleep on my shoulder. I kissed her head after we got off the bus that night and she still doesn’t know. To whoever wrote this, give her your best friendship, and that may be good enough. My friend makes sure I know she’s still my friend, and she loves me like a sister. Give her the works as a friend and she’ll be happy forever.

 
Comment by Emily
2009-12-18 22:37:15

I’ve never been in love. I’m still not 100% sure I’m a lesbian since I’ve never been with a guy or a girl. I want to tell my best friend I think I’m gay, but I’m scared she’ll think I’m in love with her. I’m not.

This mainly freaks me out because one of her past friends was a lesbian, and tried to start a relationship with her. I’m scared she’ll think I’m like her, and only wanted to be her friend because I was attracted to her. This isn’t true at all though because I hadn’t even realized I was a lesbian when we became friends.

 
Comment by wallflower Subscribed to comments via email
2009-12-26 13:25:59

I’m a young girl (too young to be dealing with these things?), and although she’s not my best friend but we’re close friends, I think I’m in love with her. She doesn’t know, basically no one knows except my two closest friends.
Reading all these comments/replies makes me feel like it’s okay to like her like this, but I hate it. It’s been around two years since I’ve felt like this. I get jealous, angry, sad, I feel like I want to punch holes in my walls. She just seems so perfect to me, and the feeling is getting stronger every time I’m with her, or talk to her, or learn something new about her.

I’m sixteen.

Comment by wallflower Subscribed to comments via email
2009-12-26 13:27:17

Also, I’ve never felt this strongly about anyone before. :/

Comment by moonskeezee Subscribed to comments via email
2010-01-16 18:49:39

from one sixteen year old to anotherr.

ohhh mannn ://, oh man, oh man.

I was so very much in love with my best friend, yearss mann. but geezz, we were young, and I dont know. she was perfect, and she was amazing and smart. she saved me when i needed it most.

i know it’s hard, and i know it hurts like hell. i’m sorry i can’t say that she feels the same, because i know it’ll make your heart do backflips.

i would tell you to… drop hints. tell her you like girls, that was my first move.
over the years i just kinda grew out of it, i couldnt take it anymore.

i’m sorry kidd. :/

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Comment by fadedlines Subscribed to comments via email
2010-02-05 13:42:57

I guess what I’m saying will just echo everyone else, but I want to say it anyway.
I love my best friend, have done since we first became friends. At first it was really hard, especially since my other best friend was in love with her too. My best friend is straight, so we both got hurt, but she once kissed my other best friend. I don’t think I’ve ever cried so much, and although it wasn’t her fault and we’re still friends, I’m still so jealous of my other best friend, and can’t help wondering why not me.
Since I met her, I haven’t had feelings for anyone else. It’s been two years.

 
Comment by Me Subscribed to comments via email
2010-02-22 21:25:16

I have the same secret. My best friend thinks I’m bi, but I’m straight. I feel like I’m leading her on…

 
Comment by OriginalGangsta Subscribed to comments via email
2010-04-10 09:39:06

I wrote these poem for my best friend but have never shared it with her

Give me a Chance

every day i find my mind
revovling around her
the time we share is always the best
ying yang opposites creating harmony
why dont you see
whats right before your eyes

you dont want to ruin what we have
neither do i
but if you dont jump you will never fly

you need a push but that wont be from me
I believe everything happens at the right time

dont be scared
nothing will change
i have always been in love with you
and in love with you i will remain

we are best friends
and best friends we will stay
until we are old and grey
and in our graves

i dont want to die
without at least
giving us a try
no matter what i will stay by your side

just think of what you might miss
i am waiting baby
just start with a kiss

we will take it slow
but i know
what your thinking without one word
your mood before you walk in the door

everything with us is just so right
cant you picture us
taking our friendship to new heights

Don’t Hold Back

one day i think its working
i know she is noticing me
my heart starts to soar
then it crashes back to earth
when i see her in his arms
i know she is confused
i can see it in her eyes
i just dont understand what going on in her mind

i want her to tell me
her real feelings inside
what she would do
if she wasnt scared
if no one would talk
if she admits to herself
what she truly wants

i want it too
we know this is right
so whats holding you back
from giving us a try

i have been in love with my best friend for as long as i can remember but never did anything because at the time i first met her i had a boyfriend whose biggest fear was that i was in love with his best friend who is now my best friend as well. I am now out but cant get over her. I still dream that one day we wil be together and i try to show her how much i care. she knows i love her i know i love her but we dont talk about it. one day i am going to show her these poems and lay it all out in the open but that day is not today. she is always with some different guy and the current one is actually a great guy. what makes it even worse is we all are roommates LOL

 
Comment by hatjane
2010-05-14 21:44:27

my best friend is a lesbian and tells me all the time how she wants to be with me and that she is in love with me.. it kills me to hurt her feelings but im very straight, and happy with my boyfriend

 
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