Comments on: I hate myself for loving you

By: Me_too

Me_too — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 08:16:24 +0000

This is how I feel right now. I’ve been falling for this guy who I’ve been dating for awhile but he never asked me to be his girlfriend. I finally worked up the courage to just tell him that’s what I wanted but he told me he couldn’t do it because he would just hurt me. He says he get these feelings and he’s afraid he won’t be able to control them. I just feel sad because I feel like he won’t even give us a chance, he’s so scared of what he might do, he’s missing out on what could be. That strand of hope is unfortunately still there and I fluctuate between happy and sad. I hope someday he’ll realize he’s a fool for letting me walk away.

By: finallyonmyown

finallyonmyown — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 22:34:48 +0000

I totally relate to this. I was seeing a guy and he called and texted me everyday. We live an hour and half away and we would see eachother 3 times a week at least and than one day he just stopped calling. We finally spoke again about 2 weeks later and his only explanation was the distance and he didnt know if we could work. We still talk briefly at times and I keep going to see him when he calls (no sex) because I still hold onto some strand of hope that he will change his mind, but as soon as I get back home we dont speak for a week or 2. Its a constant cycle that I keep allowing, but I agree that little stand of hope has hurt me and continues to hurt me more than I ever wanted it to.

By: Alexa

Alexa — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 02:12:02 +0000

I know exactly how you feel, I was sacraficing so much to be with this guy, I was transfering colleges to be closer to him, I was adverting my entire life to make “us” work out and he gave up, he quit on us…I wasn’t worth it and I knew that in the end I wasn’t worth waiting for…but that little strand of hope kept me going…but in the end that little strand of hope hurt me more than I ever wanted it to…

By: That Guy

That Guy — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 23:43:04 +0000

When my ex dumped me, I drank so much and became such a functional alcoholic my liver failed. I’d drink heavily and take Tylenol to ward off the coming hangover. The acetaminophen destroyed my liver & one night I go to sleep and woke up after a week in the hospital with a new liver. No one knows that she was the reason I drank so much and I’m still not over her.

By: jaymonigga

jaymonigga — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 10:20:36 +0000

Well, as self proclaimed postsecret detective that is just unproductive. Not only do you hate him but yourself too, you are just full of hatred. Seems like you failed, not him! Cheers to bro!

By: both sides

both sides — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 21:53:21 +0000

So i get both sides of this. im currently dating a wonderful guy. we started dating because i was trying to get over my ex, that i am still so madly in love with! I know to be fair to my current boyfriend I should break up with him, knowing I cant return the love he has for me… but part of me doesnt want to, because I know the pain he will be in-mine. talk about fucked up.

By: Mrs. Unknown

Mrs. Unknown — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 06:52:19 +0000

My boyfriend was differnt in the beginning, not like the guys I have ever dated, he was amazing! Now he’s secretive,kicks me out in the dead of winter with nowhere to go but outside,calls me a whore,worthless piece of shit, choked me, broke my phone & were still together, I can’t stop loving him but I wish I woulda never fell in love with him. Something is wrong with me. )’:

By: Lovelost

Lovelost — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 00:48:06 +0000

what do you mean?

it just happened to me again. Accept he didn’t choose another girl (to my knowledge)… We just ran out of time I think. We were working together temporarily and I was waiting for him to make the next move but now i’m gone and he didn’t do ro say anything… I would’ve made it work if I knew he was willing… despite the distance i would’ve still tried my best to make him happy. I think we would’ve had fun together.

By: found

found — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 05:31:59 +0000

I think I’m on the other end of this

By: lovelost

lovelost — Sat, 23 Oct 2010 00:28:40 +0000

amazing how the most generic can be so understandable.

I feel this way all the time. I’ve never “loved” anyone yet, but everytime I get a chance to be with someone they choose someone else. I feel like I can be worth it…but he won’t let me prove it…

By: mini

mini — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 04:00:24 +0000

same with mine.
he then said he was falling in love with me but he wasnt sure what he wanted.
I hope one day he realizes we are meant to be.

By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:19:03 +0000

You deserve someone so much better than her, i hope you have now found that someone!

By: Anonymous Continued...

Anonymous Continued... — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 05:20:29 +0000

Hi, i am the original poster of the message on 2009-12-17 17:05:46 about my bestfriend who thought i had slept with someone while i was away. I just wanted to share with all of you that after hating him for not loving me anymore for years, i have finally learned to let it go. He still likes to make fun of me and tease me whenever he can but i know now that what we had was in the past and at this moment in my life, i dont really need him, he was a great friend and a great person to be around at the time but you have to put the past behind you and learn to be bigger than the problem inront of you. Id like to ask every girl on this site who said that they knew of my position to ask themselves these questions….
1. Did you really love them, or did you blow it up to something it maybe wasn’t?
2. Did they really love you the way you thought they did, or did you imagine that too?
3. Is it really bothering you that much that he isn’t talking to you anymore?
(I doubt it )
And finally,
4. If you were to die or get hurt badly and end up in the hospital, would he be there for you?
If you answered no to any of these questions, he honestly wasnt the one for you in the first place Go out, get prettied up, keep a smile on your face constantly, have a GREAT time, and think about all the men who are just dying to know you, because, girl, YOURE FABULOUS!

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 03:42:48 +0000

I know how you feel. I feel in love with one of my best friends. He kissed me.. We talked everynight for a couple of weeks, then he picked the other girl instead of me. He broke my heart. I hate that I fell for someone who couldn”t catch me. We have talked about what went wrong. He told me it takes him about a month to know if he likes a girl or not.. i never got my month.. I never got the chance to prove to him how much I loved him.. Noiw I have to see him with her everyday. He broke my heart on July fourth 2009, exactly four months and ten days ago, It has never healed, I live with the pain each day and spend each night in tears wishing I had gotten my chance.

By: Kiersten Collette

Kiersten Collette — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 19:59:27 +0000

I hear you I have the same problem I messed up and I dont know how to say I’m sorry and I still love you

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 22:47:17 +0000

yup, story of my life.
:/

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 01:05:46 +0000

I met the boy of my dreams when i was thirteen, we got along like no one else has ever gotten along before. We were bestfriends for three years, he told me he loved me and wanted to be with me. We never got the chance, my family went through a rough patch and i had to move away. We spoke to eachother every single day until one day he just didnt reply anymore. I convinced my dad to take me back to visit him so i could find out what had gone wrong, when i finally get there he ignored me and wouldnt tell me what had happened. I finally found out from a friend that oe of our mutual friends had told him that i had slept with someone while i was away (I had not) i told him that, he still does not believe me to this day. Every day i see him i see the hurt in his eyes. I miss him more than anything in the world and would give anything up to get to be with him again. Hell, id give anything in the world just to be friends with him again. I will always love you, no matter what. Please dont give up on us!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:22:34 +0000

i feel the same way.
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By: Ashish Vaidya

Ashish Vaidya — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 19:48:48 +0000

We were together for 4 years. one day she cheated on me. she felt so guilty that she could not face me anymore. I told her i forgave her, but she never came back. now she is with the other guy even though she doesn’t love him. I hate her for not giving our love a second chance. We were so perfect together.

By: erin

erin — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 19:32:51 +0000

This secret is the story of my life. I took my boyfriend for granted, I was terrified of showing him my true feelings. He moved away and found someone else. Now he’s back and won’t give me the chance to show him how I really feel. What hurts the most is the fact that he won’t let me show him this side of me, this person that he’s been looking for all along. The fact that he cheated is all dust in the wind; it’s NOTHING compared to the hurt I feel for this. This thought is always going to be in the back of my mind, and I hate him for that.

By: Phil

Phil — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:54:58 +0000

We met 2years ago in a club. we dated for a month then you left for 6-7months. you came back it was the happest time of my life i thought you were the one i grow old with then you left 3 weeks ago. i still love you and want to work things out but the only thing you want from me now is something i can’t give you friendship.

By: shorty

shorty — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:34:29 +0000

I completely understand… I fell in love, and he didn’t. And I knew it, but I just chose to believe the bs he was telling me, although I knew it wasn’t true…I just wanted to believe it soooo bad. He told me that he didn’t see us together… it took him a year of my life to realize that he didn’t see us together. And I’m hurt, only because I feel that he didn’t give me a chance to show him. I would move mountains for this guy, and he wouldn’t give me so much as the time of day sometimes. I feel horrible for letting myself get used so bad, and I feel horrible for still feeling horrible about this situation.

By: Jessica Wiseman

Jessica Wiseman — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 01:50:43 +0000

i hear ya…. keep your chin up that’s all you can do…. :/

By: bobart

bobart — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 04:06:17 +0000

creeper

By: anon

anon — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 22:28:25 +0000

he kept saying “trust me, this isnt love. you dont even know why you like me” but i did, i just loved him so much i couldn’t find the words to explain it to him..

By: no

no — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:19:02 +0000

My god, this is so true for me. I fell in love with the most perfect girl I’d ever met. She was unbelievable, beautiful, funny, and no matter what was going on in my life just hearing her voice made it all better. We talked everyday on the phone for hours, talking movies, music, telling stories. I bared my soul to her more than anyone ever. She told me her darkest secrets. We talked about marriage, kids, and everything. Then one day she just stopped talking to me, After a few days she called and dumped me. She swore we’d be friends forever and she never talked to me again. I got depressed, cried, sent emails, texts, you name it and she just ignored me, found someone else and forgot me. I hate her so much for what she did, and yet I can’t stop loving her. It’s been two months and everyone tells me to stop dwelling on the past. Why won’t the pain go away? Why can’t I stop loving her like she stopped loving me? Why the hell can’t we be back together?

By: imnotheartless

imnotheartless — Wed, 06 May 2009 22:28:36 +0000

secret: i hate you for saying ‘yeah well u didnt even like me’
no i didnt, i listened to our song everyday before bed, i slept with the teddy u gave me so it would be the first/last thing id see everyday and make me think of you, i smiled everytime sum1 mentioned your name
i loved you
and now everyday your an inch away from me and we dont say a word and i know you dont care and i hate you for not realising i would still die for you and thinking about u makes me want to cry forever
i still love you

By: Anon

Anon — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:34:17 +0000

I know how you feel… The only way I could finally move past it, was cutting off all contact… I’m not even sure he noticed…. And, I still miss him. A lot…. so much for moving past it.

By: holden the past

holden the past — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 03:55:28 +0000

This post is so true. I feel EXACTLY the same way. Everything with my ex turned so bad so fast. It wasn’t like either of us to not make up after an argument. He left for school across the country. No explanation, returned calls, nothing. His friends posted nasty things about me on the internet. I hate myself for loving him but I hate him even more for not understanding and giving me a chance to make it up to him. To show him that it was him I cared about and our future together. It has been three months and it still feels like the wind was knocked out of me. I wish I never fell in love in the first place.

By: dp

dp — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 09:29:18 +0000

I am drinking at four in the morning because I understand this secret all too well.

By: you don't know me

you don't know me — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 04:23:53 +0000

This makes me wanna cry cause i feel the same way…

By: 20something

20something — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 22:32:30 +0000

Im sorry i didnt give you that chance, I still think about you…

By: it's me

it's me — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 05:50:27 +0000

yeah I have a similar story. my best friend ended up hitting his pregnant g/f. I helped her move out and promised that I’d look after that guy’s kid. after this I ended up not talking to him ever again cause he was an abusive ass, but I ended up falling in love with his kid and his ex. I did everything I could to help her along, after awhile she tells me she loves me, and I go after her. next thing I know she’s asking if she can send a letter to her ex saying I’m going to adopt their kid. I said ok, under the assumption that we were together. next thing I find out is that she’s told everyone we’re just friends and that we’ve been just friends. this is after we’ve been living together for about 4 months. the only people she’s told that we were dating was her parents. after confronting her, we’ve been doing nothing but pushing each other away. now I hate myself for believing that there was a family there for me, and for going after my ex-friend’s ex, but I can’t help but love the both of them unconditionally…and now that her ex has gotten the letter, she’s decided to date someone else, and I’m supposed to be a supportive friend and smile and help her make the people I believed to be my family go to someone else….

By: greg

greg — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 01:22:18 +0000

i have come to hate being in love with the girl i love
we only went out for not quite 3 months, and i only knew her for a few months more than that
she was going away for a year, so we decided to break up, i didnt tell her how i felt, i didnt really know before she had gone, but we left it as open ended as possible
i saw her 5 months after, we had a great time, then a few days later she told me there could never be anything between us. i had just told her i loved her. i hope she gives us a second chance, but i kno she wont.
but happy endings do happen, dont give up everyone

By: lauren

lauren — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:15:37 +0000

thank you very much.
it’s nice to know that i’m not alone on this.
i hope everything works out for you as well.

By: lauren

lauren — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:14:08 +0000

are you referring to me or the other person who replied?

if me, i’m sorry, but i don’t know how this is you’re fault.
and if i do know you, i know that no one is perfect.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:36:19 +0000

You may not be perfect, nether am (I). Nobody is.
But there is one thing i wil(L) never be able to deny,
Y(O)U are perfect for ME.
The past 3 months, ha(V)e be(E)n the best 3 months i have ever lived to experience, and i swear by it.
I’d give ANYTHING to have that back..
The feeling i get when im with you, to know your with me, to see you, to know your mine, to know im yours, is.. indescribable. It’s the all time high, but losing you, has been my all time low.
I have never stopped loving you, and i never will. Words cannot describe my feelings for (YOU).

(YOU)

By: anonymous

anonymous — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:00:16 +0000

To the person above me, I am sorry because it’s my fault you feel this way.

Just please remember, I’m not perfect. For anything.
But I do love you. I always will.

By: Mr.1 1 18 15 14

Mr.1 1 18 15 14 — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 00:34:58 +0000

I dont know who this is, but im sure, im so fucking sure, he knows who that girl is the girl he met at first . He loves you, and he understands, beleive me.

I just lost the perfect girl too, she IS perfect for me, and i am for her.
She was molded for me, and i was constructed for her..
I know this, deep down in my heart; i NEED it back.
I want it like nothing else, i can have everything, but nothing with out this girl.
It hurts, i know. I fucking know!!!!!!!!!!!!
She once gave me a note, saying i was the best boyfriend, in the history of boyfriends. I know im not, but i hope hope i am for her..

Dont lose hope Lauren, i know i wont.

By: lauren

lauren — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:03:20 +0000

i so understand.
i want to show my boyfriend that just broke up with me that i am that girl he met at first.
and that we’re so perfect for eachother.

i just can’t lose hope.

By: secrets

secrets — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 06:24:29 +0000

sorry to say but holy crap that is exactly what my situation is like WOW thats creepy similar

By: kimberly

kimberly — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 06:21:44 +0000

i know exactly how you feel. we broke up about 3 years ago, he’s one of my best friends, but i could never tell him i love him. i hate that i do love him though, because it keeps me distant from every other guy i meet. we get along so well, and there’s no doubt that there’s something special between us that no one else could ever understand. however, the end of our relationship was interesting, and i don’t think he’d ever want to be with me again. i’ve grown up so much and i am so ready to prove myself to him, but with the risk of ruining our friendship, i can’t ever tell him how i feel.

i honestly want to marry this man, i did three years ago, and i still do today. i hope one day he will be the one to tell me how he feels.

By: joe

joe — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 16:42:42 +0000

damn, i wish i saw this when i was trying to woo the girl i like, o ye i failed, she never even gave me a chance

By: Angie

Angie — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 08:30:41 +0000

I hate myself for the same reason… But only time will tell if I can get over it.

By: heartbroken

heartbroken — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 05:31:02 +0000

We were together for 9 yrs, married 2 (WE ARE NEWLY WEDS FOR GOD SAKE) He was my prince in shining armour, now he is no better then my ex, he is pulling the same s— only worse! WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!?>?

By: AnonymousCoward

AnonymousCoward — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 22:12:25 +0000

Christ, I know what you mean.

By: cherrycvlax

cherrycvlax — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 22:08:17 +0000

I totally understand this. there was a guy i talked to for 3 months and he never even got to know me, after all that time he still didn’t know my last name. then he told me that we could never be anything b/c i didn’t open up enough. he never gave me the chance too….

By: accidentprone

accidentprone — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 20:27:27 +0000

You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone but yourself! If that person took you for granite- you don’t need them ! You’ll find someone who will give you a chance- the best chance, and it will be amazing!! [Trust me, this took me awhile to admit to myself.]

By: Ashly

Ashly — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 03:16:17 +0000

I totally get what your saying..except him and i went out three years ago broke up and been best friends on and off even since but i secretly hate him for not giving me another chance. =[

By: elle

elle — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 02:08:03 +0000

this secret is like the story of my life

By: lauren

lauren — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 00:00:30 +0000

same here
=/

By: Bri

Bri — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 20:32:29 +0000

I hear you

By: Flash

Flash — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 05:52:00 +0000

I get you.