i am your first and only girlfriend.
first kiss, first time, first everything.
you say you want to stay with me forever.
& i believe you.
i’m so scared you’re going to regret staying with me & not seeing “what else is out there”
i swear,
you’re not missing anything.
That is always a tricky one…it’s the same case with my girlfriend…I’m her first everything and after 4 years together it’s still going strong but I’m afraid one day she’ll want to see if there is anything better out there…at least it keeps me in check and loving her is my weapon!!!
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my first boy friend, i thought the same thing. but we broke up. i haven’t dated anyone since because deep down inside i know there’s something worth waiting for. i know he’s the best guy out there for me.
“find someone that can make you smile and don’t give up on them.”
My husband has never dated, kissed, or had sex with anyone but me. used to wonder the same thing about him, but in the long run ive never been with a more generous or respectful man. and im thankful for it now
I was in your exact place for two and a half years…. and We broke up and he is now dating the girl who was my best friend all during mine and his relationship… this picture describes me so perfect last december… god I valued what we had…. and its gone now….
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Thank you for posting this; it has let me know that I am not alone.
I dated my guy for nearly three years, and we were each other’s first everything.
Well, he got that “I wonder what’s out there” feeling, and we broke up. It has been nearly two years since, and he’s met this new girl who has become his new everything. It shattered my world, and I begun selectively dating jerks, who didn’t respect me at all. Now, I’ve cost myself more than what our relationship was worth, and I’ve finally found a guy who respects me and cares for me, yet I can’t help but wonder if I’ll ever love him as much as I loved my first; he’s the one I just can’t let go.
Fortunately, I’m realizing that every day holds new surprises, and I’m learning to cope and to move on. One day at a time, it’s all I have…
My boyfriend and I are in the same situation…. 4 years… I was his first everything… im so scared… hes left me before and dated one other girl only for a few weeks (nothing happened) then wanted me back. that was 2 years ago… but i found out hes been secretly talking to her behind my back for 6 months…. i feel broken in half
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years now he was my first everything and before I read this post card I too wondered if i was missing anything that was out there. Today i have realized I have not missed anything and I never will, I love him more than ever but I wonder if he ever thinks about this.
I met my BF two yrs ago.. I was the one that thought i was missing out… He was my first and I was his first. I cheated on him for a period of three months(I never slept with the other guy but we hung out and were make out buddies) My BF ended up finding out through my “friend”(who told him because she was mad over the fact that this ugly guy she liked thought i was cute)anyway…This whole situation made me realize how much i love him…and the tought of loosing him drove me insane…to the point that i thought i was going to have to take depression pills…Watching him cry killed me…. I hate the fact that he still doesnt trust me…and I don’t blame him… I just hope everything can go back to normal and i can b his princess again… I HATE MYSELF FOR THIS… Im sooo afraid he’ll do it to me… I wont b able to live with it…
you took the words out of my mouth.
I sent this in, thinking it would never be posted. I was stunned when I saw it on the home page. I can’t believe how many people are so understanding and in my shoes. All of you helped me realize I’m not alone. I’m so happy that I could relate and help all of you too.
Thank you so much
I just wanted to say I’m sorry you’re going through that, I have been through it as well. That feeling when you think about it just won’t go away and you don’t know what to do. Stay with him, leave him, you want to hurt him (at least I did!). I hope that everything works out for you. Just make sure that you are happy yourself, that’s the most imporant thing.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year now. I recently got the idea that maybe we should both see whats out there, we’re both young and we are both each other’s first everything. I realized just a minute too late that that was the worst idea I had ever had in my life. Never try and fix something that isn’t broken.
I just hope she can accept my apologies on how bad I’ve hurt her and we can get back to how things should be.
I am 34 with a string of two three year realtionships behind me. I WISH so much that I had just stayed with my first boyfriend. PLEASE trust me, all the relationships you have end up the same. The grass isnt greener, its just someone elses grass. If you find someone to love and who loves you please please please just make it work. There is no point moving onto someone else (of course unless it is abusive in ANY WAY). All relationships are tricky and hard work and so will the next one and the next one. Just stick with it, do everything to find that love again and work through it. You WONT find someone better, just someone different.
First time relationships pretty much never work out… sorry but it’s true. It’s a new, thrilling experience but in the end you will probably part ways.
My whole view when I started dating when I was younger was pretty much I don’t care, too young to be serious and no way in hell I want to stick around for years. I think everyone should venture out before getting stuck with someone.
But eh, I think relationships are pretty pointless (in my case). I just don’t see the benefit of being with someone long term. I mean, okay sure you get a ‘secure relationship’ but it gets boring and irritating… then they want to get married and have kids… no way in hell I want to get trapped in to that. I can’t stand being stuck with someone and I absolutely hate feeling trapped. I’ve had guys tell me they think they’d be dead if it wasn’t for me and that is something I never, ever want to hear. If a relationship ‘saved your life’ from weather it be depression or whatever your problem is, that’s not the healthy way to go, because when that relationship ends, you’re right back to where you started… it’s just a band-aid solution you could say. Relationships to me will either: A. cause me grief or B. get boring. I can’t even get sad when relationships end because I know it’s going to happen anyway… I have loved, I’ve loved every single person I’ve been with, but did I want to be with anyone for the rest of my life? No, no matter how much I loved them or how interested I was.
It’s always more fun to go around, see different people and get to know what you’re interested in. But that’s just how I view it. I know some people thrive on relationships and dream of one day getting married and finding that ‘one,’ but I sincerely don’t believe there is only ‘one’ person out there and I don’t believe in being with ‘one’ person for life… that would drive me up the wall.
Can you stick it in her butt?
No but I’ll get my strap on and do you in the rectum.
Marry me? HAHA kidding. I’m a guy that falls for girls like you, and constantly tries to keep it exciting and I’m pretty liberal. For instance, I’ll take girls sky diving or rock climbing or something similar if their outdoorsy (usually are with me) and surprise them with it each time. I don’t care where you go or who you hang out with when you’re not with me as long as you aren’t hurting yourself. Never mention kids or marriage with them, but if I do mention something I always use the word if and not when. So far I’ve gotten girls that never had a relationship longer than 3 months stay with me for 3 years, so I’m doing something right.
Same situation, 2 years with a girl that never had anything ebfore me, it ended because she wanted to find out what else was out there, but then after a little while she wanted to come back to me, but i messed up and said that i wouldnt because i wanted her to actually find out what else was out there. Well now she’s dating another guy and they have been for a while, and everytime i think about her it kills me.
Heres a post secret for you:
I wrote my name so that if by some miracle she reads this she’ll know it’s me and she’ll know that i still feel for her, despite the fact that she probably won’t come back to me
i’m my boyfriend’s first everything. i feel the same exact way. it breaks my heart to think about but i’m so paranoid that it’s gonna happen.
I’ve been dating this one girl for awhile. She’s my first real girlfriend, and the only person I have ever loved. I’m scared that she feels this way, when in reality, I don’t care about seeing what’s out there. She’s the only one who makes me happy, and the only one I ever want to be with. Though I know it’s still early in our relationship, and we have a long way to go, it doesn’t bother me, I don’t want to live without her.
Dude, haha, my girlfriend is my first “real” girlfriend (I had another one but, its just weird and we never actually did anything and she didn’t care about me etc. so basically we where more like good friends i guess) But I have had my first kiss and date even though I am Mormon and not technically supposed to yet, but I am in love with this girl and if this keeps up will marry her someday, renouncing my Mormonism in the process
this has been one of my favorite postsecret submissions ever.
GGAAAAAAAAAAAYY
My boyfriend is my first love, and I’ve had most of my firsts with him. It’s been two years already, but he’s mentioned this very same problem to me before. He’s worried that I will regret marrying him if it ever happens because I didn’t get to explore the world of other men.
But the truth is, I don’t care whether or not I experience more. Being with him makes me happy, happier than I’ve ever been. I wish he would realize it and stop pushing the subject.
I AM HAPPY BECAUSE OF YOU. I DONT WANT TO EXPERIENCE MORE.
I was my husband’s first girlfriend and after a few years together, when I knew he loved me more than anything, I said I wanted him to experience other things, other people, just so he knew he wasn’t missing out on anything. We stayed together but he slept with other women occasionally (sometimes I even joined them) and he figured it out for himself. I’m the one he’s meant to be with. I’m not saying this would work for everyone, but it sure worked for me! We’ve been together for 12 years, married for 3 and we are now expecting our first child.
My first boyfriend and I met when I was 14, he 16, and we were each other’s first loves. When I was 19, and he 21, he told me that he wanted to experience a relationship with someone else; I was positively shipwrecked — I had been so prepared to settle for him! But the next two years, my first years without him, were the start of the best years of my life; for him, the worst — and he ultimately returned in the hopes that we could reconcile. In the meantime, I had moved on, and realized how much better others treated me. I respected that he had taken the risk to “see what was out there”, but you never do know — often you will be disappointed by what’s “out there”, yet find that you can’t return to where you started. No matter how much or how little experience you may have, consider only whether you’re happy with and truly valued by your partner.
I call Bamboon Tampoon
I call Bamboon Tampoon!!!
I just got engaged to my first everything. I could not be happier that he’ll be my only everything.
I just want her to feel like this.
I just want her to be sorry.
she never will be though….
I feel stuck. I’ve been with the same guy for almost 4 years (married for 6 mos), and I can’t help but wonder “What am I missing?” I feel like a terrible person but I honestly just want to be happy again. We were each others firsts on lots of things but at least he had the opportunity to make out with other people. I didn’t; he’s my first everything. It sucks and to this day it still erks me. I love him but I’m getting sick of feeling this way. It doesn’t help that I know other guys are interested in me but I can’t do anything about it. Help!
hey, I dont know if you read over the comments people left, but there is some great advice there. really, there is no way of telling what will happen in any given situation. but if you truly love the person you are with, you probably are not missing anything. all dating (and the physical relations associated with it) people is is just interviewing them for a relationship. i’ve been with my guy for a little over four years now, and i sometimes worry -like the original poster of the secret- that he may think he is “missing” something. like your guy, i’ve been with other people and from my experience (and i can only speak for myself) my bf is really is not missing anything. you will always have crushes, there will always be temptation, it’s part of being human. but really, what you’d be basically doing by following the new attraction is seeing if it’ll lead “somewhere” (read: love). you already have that. if you do not feel fulfilled or “excited” by your relationship that is a little different. perhaps voicing your concerns to your partner may help. maybe try joining an organization together, take up an activity that both of you can participate in. maybe something physical like hiking trips or jogging in the mornings… or as silly as it sounds, have a date night. go out again.
i hope this helps in some way…
FUck you. I’m so sorry for saying it.
Truth is I’m jealous.
So. fucking. jealous. Because that was supposed to be me.
It was.
I am the orginal poster. I posted this secret and the replies to it have been amazing. I am so thrilled so many people can relate to this. You’ve all helped me so much. Thank you. You have no idea how much this means to me.
If you recognized me in the picture, do I know you? Please respond.
Thank you, that means so much to me. I’m so glad
You people are a bunch of whiny pussies. Get over it.
same here… i love him so much i cant get over it. we’ve been dating for only 3 months and i feel so… perfect with him. but he already told me in the very begining he would still want to “experience life” and meet other people. that he wasnt ready to “settle down” but i still love him uncondtionally…
this post made me cry. its on the girls side for me… but i love it. im still afraid. and i cant explain this to him, cause he wont tell me what i want to here. “It’s okay, I’m not going anywhere.” he still hasnt said it.. even when i tell him i cry about the thought of him leaving me D:
why are you here?! what possessed you to come here and click on something you “could care less about” and leave a comment?! god i hate people like you.
all your heart are belong to us!
You poor, poor thing…
Your good heart is the greatest and most valuable asset you will ever have, and you will find someone who won’t be sorry because there will be nothing to be sorry for. <3
This is me and my boyfriend.
Every day I am amazed that he is happy with me and wants nothing else. After 5 years of perfect love, I believe him.
I had a boyfriend who was my first everything.
I broke up with him because.
I’m much happier now.
And I wonder what else is out there…
I was dating a guy for a year and 9 months. I was absolutely in love with him. Marriage was the plan. I was his first for almost everything past making out. He always told me that he never wanted anyone else, and he was okay with it. Nonetheless things came up- emotional and mental stresses unrelated to myself. He was constantly telling me that I was the only thing that made him happy, I was his everything. WAY TOO MUCH TO PUT ON MY SHOULDERS. I couldn’t handle it and broke it off. It was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do because I knew that I was literally breaking his heart. I never thought I could love anyone like I loved him. I thought I would end up marrying him. Now, I’m incredibly happy with someone else, and love him with all my heart. It’s different I think only because it’s not a first love. So, as good as things may be, and as much as you love someone, it may not work out. And, if it doesn’t, there’s a good chance that another will come along and it will amaze you how happy you can be. Oh, and my ex is happy now and doing much better emotionally and mentally, and is moving on. See… it can bring happiness on both ends.
me and my boyfriend aren’t each other’s first anything… but we’ve been dating for 7 months now and we plan on getting married… we have discussed living together sometime in the near future and honestly i never want to be with another person… he has been the most caring and most honest person i have ever been with and i cant imagine life without him and i don’t want to either. but sometimes i worry that he is still in love with and still wants to be with his ex. she caused him so much pain but i know that he planned to be with her long term before me. i am scared to death (to the point where i have nightmares about it) of him leaving me to go back to her. i have never been this happy with anyone… we never fight because we talk about everything. he knows my concerns but is constantly reassuring me that he is going to someday marry me and we will grow old together, but i can’t help feeling this way. i love him with all my heart.
I literally feel the exact same way about my girlfriend.
I wish this was around two and a half years ago and I knew about it then. Then again, there were too many opposing forces to “us” on his side, and if we never broke up I may not have the connection I have with my best friend today.
Oh sweetie, find someone else.
True love holds no secrets…You can never trust someone who does something “behind your back”, and love can’t exist without trust.
He’s not the one.