Comments on: I don’t know why anyone wants to be pretty

By: amen

amen — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 06:20:37 +0000

Love this comment. this secret is conceited. Make new friends or change. You don’t have to be attractive, if you want to be a burn victim so bad then go try it out. Maybe then you’ll see how ugly you were inside by thinking this.

By: melinda

melinda — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 17:04:22 +0000

i know how it feels to have the burden of beauty to the point of wishing to have some noticeable flaw. when i was younger i was pretty and i knew i was. i did really horrible things to many people who had esteem issues. Then i had my first boyfriend. he was cute and several other girls wanted him but i had him. i was pretty, healthy, smart and because of being obsessive with my own physical shape i was solid muscle at 16. this caused me to weigh more than other girls my size. it didn’t bother me until he found out. that relationship destroyed my entire personal image. but i realized it wasn’t a bad thing. i was able to step out of the light and actually see the real beauty of other people. a beauty i knew i did not have because i was judged on my appearance and i couldn’t see past that judgment.
call it superficial or whatever else you want to label it as or call her stupid for feeling this way that just shows that you are just as bad as those that set pretty people on a pedestal. just because a person is pretty doesn’t mean that they are excluded from judgment. sometimes it is better to be invisible with a hidden beauty than to have the burden of attractiveness on the outside.

By: Anon

Anon — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 22:07:43 +0000

I know how you feel!

By: Amberly

Amberly — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 22:11:22 +0000

Is this even real? You can’t have it both ways.
Make better friends, suck it up.
Your life can’t be so horrible that
YOU ARE ACTUALLY WISHING TO BE A BURN VICTIM.
Stop being so superficial, from what I can tell,
you shouldn’t miss being ugly.
Your personality still is.

By: Aj

Aj — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 00:59:14 +0000

worst secret ever.

By: Liv

Liv — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:38:50 +0000

true.. i really believe the way i look is the only reason some people talk to me. but still..honestly.. i wouldn’t want to be ugly. human nature. there are ups and downs to being conventionally pretty and conventionally ‘ugly’

By: Corine

Corine — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:12:37 +0000

There are days I feel the same. I hate how there are guys at the mall who only come up and talk to me because I’m pretty.

By: soso

soso — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:28:11 +0000

Everyone on here is effin stupid. That was a wonderful postcard IMFO. I am not pretty yet and I can understand exactly what she is saying. If you are gorgeous you simply cant be a “real” person. Ugly people hate on pretty people. So all you haters are ugly. GET OVER “YOURSELVES”. Anyways I will be pretty here in a few months, and I am scared I am going to regret it.

My secret: I dont give myself to anyone completely because I am not comfortable with my body, and I think thats why my ex boyfriend dumped me. My motivation to get skinny and take care of myself is to make him want me back, so that I can dump HIS sorry ass.

By: Kat

Kat — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 04:37:12 +0000

I feel nothing but contempt and disdain for every person in this thread who uses the words “fat and ugly” synonymously. If you think being fat makes you ugly, you should know that A) There are plenty of very beautiful large women, and B) Fat is not exactly impossible to reverse. And if you are one of these people and you think the OP is the shallow one, have another look in the mirror.

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 07:18:49 +0000

My thoughts on this topic: it’s true. Beautiful people do get treated differently from normal or average looking people. I find myself in the average category. However, my best friend is in the gorgeous category. I’m a freshman at college and I mainly hang around two other girls. They are two of the prettiest girls I’ve ever met. A lot of times I feel really ugly standing with them, hanging out with them, etc. It has caused me to become really insecure (in a drunken stupor I even started crying to my best friend asking if I was going to be replaced because our new friend was prettier than me, more likable, etc.). Sometimes I think, what makes them any better than me? Why is it that when we meet new people, they look back and forth between those two, and barely make eye contact with me once? Why is it that when people greet us it’s either “Hey Alice and girls” or “Hey Melanie and girls,” but never “Hey Emily and girls?” Why is it that every guy we come across is hitting on one of them, before he even knows what any of us are like? Now, don’t think I’m self-loathing or trying to get sympathy or some BS. I’m just showing the other, “ugly” person’s side of the story. Neither is fun. Both suck. That said, I’d probably agree with the person who posted this. I’d rather be ugly than pretty because then I’d know people like me for me. Heck, half the time I dress like shit anyway and look like crap. So yeah, I know I’m the “ugly” one, but at the same time I roll with it, and in the end, I kind of like not showing off my pretty side all the time. When I do it just makes a bigger impact, and when I do find someone who really loves me for me, I’ll find pride in making myself look prettier for them, not for the attention of everybody else out there.

Also, I think my best friend may have the same feelings as the girl who sent in this letter. Beauty is great, but it can also be a pain. I think my best friend wishes she didn’t attract all the male attention she does. Though in general, I’m sure it has it’s perks. But I definitely could understand why someone would rather be “ugly” than pretty. I’m one of the “uglies” and I prefer it that way, but there are still certain days when I wish I was the one who people were interested in talking to, instead of my prettier friends.

On a side note, I don’t consider myself ugly. Like I said in the beginning, I think I’m average. But I’m just using ugly as a comparison adjective because it works better.