Comments on: Sometimes, when you come home late

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 21:20:02 +0000

This is disgusting.
grow up and break up with him
you are seriously more disgusting then the scum of the earth to wish that on someone.

grow up and break up with him

By: karma

karma — Mon, 16 May 2011 16:12:30 +0000

I think all the comments are a good thing. They range from understanding to very judgmental. I think it is somewhat cathartic for someone to put something they would never tell anyone, out there, and see what people think. We always tend to think we are alone, and that just isn’t possible. I imagine this is what my wife thinks, and even if she doesn’t, it makes me want to work harder at being the best husband/father/friend I can be to her so that she never feels this way. Thank you for sharing your secrets people, they help in immeasurable ways!

By: DespicableMe

DespicableMe — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 09:10:57 +0000

I have thought the same… I am an evil and sick person…

By: Summer

Summer — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 16:15:10 +0000

well damn.

By: Audrey

Audrey — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 03:45:48 +0000

me too…

By: I Know That Feeling

I Know That Feeling — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 19:53:03 +0000

I know what you’re feeling. I, too, wish my husband wouldn’t come home. He’s extremely emotionally abusive and spends all of our money. The only reason I stay is so I don’t have to share my daughter with him and his toxic mother. I would rather suffer for my daughter every day than send her to suffer on her own every other weekend and two weeks out of the year…she’s only 2 for Christ’s sake. What kind of mother would I be if I had to leave her like that? Plus with the insurance money I could get myself out of the debt he put me in and buy a nice, small house for me and my daughter to be able start over.

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 09:20:06 +0000

I have felt this way with all of my past boyfriends…I always date such nice guys and never feel like I have a legitimate reason to break up with them and feel like it would be sooo much easier if they just cheated on me!

By: saved

saved — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:29:49 +0000

I was in a relationship like that. Get out as soon as you can. It will be the best thing you can ever do for yourself.

Set yourself free.

I’ll be thinking of you.

By: CL

CL — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 11:22:08 +0000

I agree with you.

I thought this site was non-judgemental but its full of judgement and internet bullying, and all while people are exposing a sensitive part of themselves.

You shouldn’t be able to post a comment until you’ve posted a secret I think.

By: JustMe

JustMe — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:25:26 +0000

Okay, honestly? This is her secret. Goddamn. No one asked you guys to judge her for it.
THIS IS WHY IT’S A SECRET!
Because all you fucks just bash people for things you don’t understand.
Fuck you.
Thanks.

By: AmeliaRose

AmeliaRose — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:24:32 +0000

I can relate to this… My fiance is a trucker and sometimes, when he’s late coming in on his ONE WEEK off a month, I find myself half-heartedly hoping that he’s flipped his truck or something. I’ve gotten so used to being alone all the time that I almost resent it when he is home.
Think about it. I’m alone, three weeks out of a month. No sex, no contact, very little human interaction because he doesn’t want me working. (I’m pregnant. Yay! )
That’s twenty-one days of sleeping alone, watching TV, talking on the phone, playing on the internet, hearing no one actually -in- the house, not being able to go hunting or to the firing range, constantly hearing him talk about ‘Ronnie Jr.’ (Haven’t told him that it’s a girl and her name WILL be Elizabeth)…
I completely understand.

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:52:39 +0000

I wasn’t bitching. I was stating a fact. AND I never said I wanted my life to change, now did I? IF you want your life to change, do something about it. If you don’t want it to change, let it be.

By: sarah

sarah — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 03:47:38 +0000

you can’t have a bitch, then tell other women to quit their bitching.

you say, if you want your life to change, then do something about it. you clearly don’t believe that, otherwise you would not like it when your boyfriend doesn’t come home.

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 02:51:53 +0000

You know what. I kinda like it when my boyfriend comes home late. BECAUSE that means that he is probably out getting waited or high..or both and he will pass out and sleep somewhere else for the night. Which means: I don’t get hit that night. So ya’ll quit your bitchin.

Oh. And if you WANT your life to change, do something about it.

By: richelle

richelle — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:48:35 +0000

i guess it really isn’t funny. it’s horrible. really really horrible. but I feel the same way sometimes. i don’t think i’d really want it though. i jsut say I do as an excuse for my life to change.

By: richelle

richelle — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:45:48 +0000

I know what you mean exactly. it’s not so easy. I’ve been with mine for 2 years but he’s emotionally abusive and I’m afraid he’ll go crazy. also i really love him but sometimes I just want to die. :/

By: diane

diane — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:40:56 +0000

Dear R,

Stay strong. Sooner or later he will get a real job and have to pay. Life is long. It will catch up to him. I waited 17 years and worked 2 jobs. Remember that all of us women who have been there are standing beside you every day to keep you going. Much love and support sent to you.

By: precious

precious — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 12:18:21 +0000

you are right.
this is not funny at all.

By: bm

bm — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 12:16:57 +0000

i agree with you.
noone should wish death upon another human.
especially one who loves them.

By: uno

uno — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 12:14:17 +0000

ouch.
thats harsh.
you have no idea where she is coming from.
maybe you should grow up and be more considerate.

By: Evershrike

Evershrike — Sat, 02 May 2009 03:37:35 +0000

it was the “And so I can get the insurance money… to buy a house or a car…” part that I thought was funny

By: berryberry

berryberry — Sat, 02 May 2009 03:12:13 +0000

I used to wish this about my husband. After many many situations of him not answering his phone at 5:00 in the morning because he was out partying, one time I truly wished he had kept his promise to call and just couldn’t because he was in an accident instead of passed out somewhere…. I don’t think it’s funny.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 01 May 2009 18:05:43 +0000

I felt the same way about my husband, but never acted on it. I found out his feelings were stronger when he tried to poison me.

By: Gwenhyvar

Gwenhyvar — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 02:51:00 +0000

I tell my fiancée every day to drive safely, because I fear losing him too.

By: Evershrike

Evershrike — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 03:21:55 +0000

awww!! thats sad panda and funny at the same time!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 02:41:05 +0000

I know how you feel.

By: Friend

Friend — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 07:26:32 +0000

That is so, so cold…

I can’t help but be bothered by this a little, because EVERY DAY I fear losing him to a car accident.

By: Shortie

Shortie — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:50:52 +0000

that’s a horrible thing to wish upon someone.

you don’t deserve to ever find love.

By: f.-

f.- — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:29:46 +0000

sometimes, i hope that about my parents.
so i would be free, and have a lot of money, and be able to travel to england to study arts.

By: Johanna

Johanna — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:19:51 +0000

Maybe you should just grow up and break up with him.

By: JaneLane

JaneLane — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 16:11:18 +0000

That’s hilarious! I know the feeling, sometimes.

By: ksdjsao

ksdjsao — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 11:51:37 +0000

haha thats hilarious!

By: R.

R. — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 09:26:48 +0000

I felt this way through nearly 8 years of marriage because I thought that was the only way I’d be able to leave. Then I finally left. Still haven’t received any child support though.

The money will never come, but freedom is there if you want to grab it.

By: Samantha C

Samantha C — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 04:33:38 +0000

YOU DO NOT WISH THAT HE CHEATED ON YOU.

I wished the same thing every day for so long…but since it happened (5 months ago) I still cry about it. That’s not what you want…

and deep down, your family will just make excuses as for why he did it; then encourage you to give him another chance.

i pray that he doesn’t cheat on you…it is worse than what you’re feeling right now, I promise.

By: gg

gg — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 02:42:37 +0000

I wish my boyfriend would cheat on me so i would have an excuse to break up with him…… and have something to tell my family so they arent mad at me……

By: J.

J. — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 18:23:39 +0000

I used to feel the same way… but he was never hurt and I’m glad. Now we are not going out but still good friends.