37 thoughts on “Sometimes, when you come home late”

  1. I used to feel the same way… but he was never hurt and I’m glad. Now we are not going out but still good friends.

  2. I wish my boyfriend would cheat on me so i would have an excuse to break up with him…… and have something to tell my family so they arent mad at me……


    I wished the same thing every day for so long…but since it happened (5 months ago) I still cry about it. That’s not what you want…

    and deep down, your family will just make excuses as for why he did it; then encourage you to give him another chance.

    i pray that he doesn’t cheat on you…it is worse than what you’re feeling right now, I promise.

  4. I felt this way through nearly 8 years of marriage because I thought that was the only way I’d be able to leave. Then I finally left. Still haven’t received any child support though.

    The money will never come, but freedom is there if you want to grab it.

  5. sometimes, i hope that about my parents.
    so i would be free, and have a lot of money, and be able to travel to england to study arts.

  6. That is so, so cold…

    I can’t help but be bothered by this a little, because EVERY DAY I fear losing him to a car accident.

  7. I felt the same way about my husband, but never acted on it. I found out his feelings were stronger when he tried to poison me.

  8. I used to wish this about my husband. After many many situations of him not answering his phone at 5:00 in the morning because he was out partying, one time I truly wished he had kept his promise to call and just couldn’t because he was in an accident instead of passed out somewhere…. I don’t think it’s funny.

  9. ouch.
    thats harsh.
    you have no idea where she is coming from.
    maybe you should grow up and be more considerate.

  10. Dear R,

    Stay strong. Sooner or later he will get a real job and have to pay. Life is long. It will catch up to him. I waited 17 years and worked 2 jobs. Remember that all of us women who have been there are standing beside you every day to keep you going. Much love and support sent to you.

  11. I know what you mean exactly. it’s not so easy. I’ve been with mine for 2 years but he’s emotionally abusive and I’m afraid he’ll go crazy. also i really love him but sometimes I just want to die. :/

  12. i guess it really isn’t funny. it’s horrible. really really horrible. but I feel the same way sometimes. i don’t think i’d really want it though. i jsut say I do as an excuse for my life to change.

  13. You know what. I kinda like it when my boyfriend comes home late. BECAUSE that means that he is probably out getting waited or high..or both and he will pass out and sleep somewhere else for the night. Which means: I don’t get hit that night. So ya’ll quit your bitchin.

    Oh. And if you WANT your life to change, do something about it.

  14. you can’t have a bitch, then tell other women to quit their bitching.

    you say, if you want your life to change, then do something about it. you clearly don’t believe that, otherwise you would not like it when your boyfriend doesn’t come home.

  15. I wasn’t bitching. I was stating a fact. AND I never said I wanted my life to change, now did I? IF you want your life to change, do something about it. If you don’t want it to change, let it be.

  16. I can relate to this… My fiance is a trucker and sometimes, when he’s late coming in on his ONE WEEK off a month, I find myself half-heartedly hoping that he’s flipped his truck or something. I’ve gotten so used to being alone all the time that I almost resent it when he is home.
    Think about it. I’m alone, three weeks out of a month. No sex, no contact, very little human interaction because he doesn’t want me working. (I’m pregnant. Yay! 🙁 )
    That’s twenty-one days of sleeping alone, watching TV, talking on the phone, playing on the internet, hearing no one actually -in- the house, not being able to go hunting or to the firing range, constantly hearing him talk about ‘Ronnie Jr.’ (Haven’t told him that it’s a girl and her name WILL be Elizabeth)…
    I completely understand.

  17. Okay, honestly? This is her secret. Goddamn. No one asked you guys to judge her for it.
    Because all you fucks just bash people for things you don’t understand.
    Fuck you.
    Thanks. 🙂

  18. I agree with you.

    I thought this site was non-judgemental but its full of judgement and internet bullying, and all while people are exposing a sensitive part of themselves.

    You shouldn’t be able to post a comment until you’ve posted a secret I think.

  19. I was in a relationship like that. Get out as soon as you can. It will be the best thing you can ever do for yourself.

    Set yourself free.

    I’ll be thinking of you.

  20. I have felt this way with all of my past boyfriends…I always date such nice guys and never feel like I have a legitimate reason to break up with them and feel like it would be sooo much easier if they just cheated on me!

  21. I know what you’re feeling. I, too, wish my husband wouldn’t come home. He’s extremely emotionally abusive and spends all of our money. The only reason I stay is so I don’t have to share my daughter with him and his toxic mother. I would rather suffer for my daughter every day than send her to suffer on her own every other weekend and two weeks out of the year…she’s only 2 for Christ’s sake. What kind of mother would I be if I had to leave her like that? Plus with the insurance money I could get myself out of the debt he put me in and buy a nice, small house for me and my daughter to be able start over.

  22. I think all the comments are a good thing. They range from understanding to very judgmental. I think it is somewhat cathartic for someone to put something they would never tell anyone, out there, and see what people think. We always tend to think we are alone, and that just isn’t possible. I imagine this is what my wife thinks, and even if she doesn’t, it makes me want to work harder at being the best husband/father/friend I can be to her so that she never feels this way. Thank you for sharing your secrets people, they help in immeasurable ways!

  23. This is disgusting.
    grow up and break up with him
    you are seriously more disgusting then the scum of the earth to wish that on someone.

    grow up and break up with him

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