Comments on: Secretly… I’m afraid to be myself

By: A.

A. — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 12:30:40 +0000

Haha, couldn’t retlate more to that. Except that they hate the masked me just as much as they would hate the real one.

By: peace.roxy

peace.roxy — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 02:40:00 +0000

I used to wear a mask, too. I didn’t really have anything in my life. Not like my older sister who had fun, friends, happiness, all the things I wanted. So I started to copy her, deciding that if I acted exactly like her then maybe I could get all the things she had. After a while, I could barely tell who I was and who the mask was. As I got older I realised that my sisters life wasn’t as amazing as it had looked when I was younger. And so I moved on, found myself again and I am starting to see what it is like to be happy as me, not as anyone else. I took off the mask and it was the best thing I ever did.

By: kingssavior

kingssavior — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 18:03:17 +0000

I know that mask. I can tell you about it if you want.

By: YupThatsMe

YupThatsMe — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 02:23:06 +0000

Its really hard to ever get outta the depression I will say that now but keep trying to look at the bright side and the people that dont exsept you for who you are dont deserve to be near you and when people see the real you they will love you. =)

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 22:30:21 +0000

You have to be as you are, negative or not, you can’t bottle it up, it’ll never help, and it’s really quite hard to poison someone else’s outlook on life. So, heres some advice, be as you are, you can’t rely on other people to help you. Take off your mask, it’s the best thing you can do.

By: V.Rose

V.Rose — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 01:32:26 +0000

When I read this I was terrified that it was my best friend posting. I had to look at the year to make sure it wasn’t. I would be one of the ones she’d call out to. How do I help? I’ve tried everything. Please.

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 19:46:53 +0000

Just be sure to take off your mask before it becomes your face. I wish I had. I am a much less creative person with it on.

By: Silver Wolf

Silver Wolf — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 00:48:56 +0000

I know what you mean, I myself hold a ‘mask’ of joy and am wanting someone to see past it and see me. so far only one person has tried and they pushed me away.

By: A pianist

A pianist — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 07:37:53 +0000

I agree. I’m a very negative person, and now I’m too scared to talk to people or do anything fun because people think I’m a downer and avoid me.

By: Helena

Helena — Sun, 17 Oct 2010 15:32:20 +0000

I feel this way too. When I try to be positive, the reaction people feel is that I attack them. So there I am holding myself back, never letting anyone in.

By: painter1

painter1 — Sat, 09 Oct 2010 06:55:13 +0000

It could be depression or greif. When you hide it instead of working through the pain, you kinda lose yourself…..and people have this idea that showing emotion or greif is weakness when its not. People hide what they are feeling thinking that they have to “be strong” It takes greater strength to make oursleves vulnerable to people…When we hide and become “lost”, it is even easier to focus on the negative because it gives our minds something to focus on or grab on to… Pick a supportive person and tell them how you are feeling…. and how you feel about feeling that way.. You will find that you have some real friends who will stick with you no matter what. Maybe i am only speaking from my experience and I am not understanding you, but here is a quote I like…
“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing… not healing, not curing… that is a friend who cares.”
Henri Nouwen

By: justme

justme — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 19:34:30 +0000

I don’t know if that will help, but i dearly hope so.
I build so many masks for me I ended up not knowing who was I. Then, one day, I felt that life is too short to spend it with people who won’t love you the way you are and instead of worrying for them I started caring about me. I don’t know how did I do it but I just broke everything around me and began to behave like I really felt.
Now I have more and better friends than before and though the loneliness feeling doesn’t abandon me completely, I know I can trust them cause the’ll always be there.
My opinion? Being brave is not about being fearless but going throgh your fears.

By: Matt

Matt — Sun, 22 Aug 2010 19:56:01 +0000

its ok, WE still love you. And I mean WE not just me

By: pistol,poison,noose,or,the,knife

pistol,poison,noose,or,the,knife — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 14:59:40 +0000

exactly the way i feel x

By: DoItAnyway

DoItAnyway — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 05:47:50 +0000

Go BrutallyHonest! But I think a lot of people feel this way, at least sometimes. Even me.

By: Sami

Sami — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 22:05:01 +0000

I know what you mean, I felt the same way.
Then the guy I’m in love with told me none of them would hate me, no matter what.
When I finally was myself, he was right, none of them did.
Only my mom and stepdad did.

By: Sarab

Sarab — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 21:07:54 +0000

I know how that feels…… I used to be talkative, cheerful…everyone still thinks i am… I still tease people, joke and make them laugh, only because I don’t want them to know how negative I can be. I’d rather make them laugh than make them sad. But on the inside I’d be much happier just sitting quiet and reveling in my sorrow……

By: BrutallyHonest

BrutallyHonest — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 18:35:09 +0000

Stop waiting and start preventing. No one is in control of your life except for YOU. ACCEPT THAT.

By: Charlie Thibadeaux

Charlie Thibadeaux — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:47:59 +0000

i’ve been there…. the right people will listen.

By: One

One — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 07:49:46 +0000

When you look at a rose what do you see the thorns? No. You see a beautiful blossom with petals radiating beauty for al to see. It matters not how sharp the thorns may be for they do nothing to make a rose less beautiful. Masks are just faces shed like the petals of a blossomed rose changed anew as they grow. For it matters not whether a rose is red or blue or black it is beatiful and should be for all to see.

By: Cate

Cate — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 05:52:10 +0000

I know exactly how you feel. It’s hard to be “normal” and optimistic when I’m constantly thinking about all the crap that’s happening in the world and the people around me are immersed in petty conversations about relationships or drama. And because you can’t tell anyone what you’re thinking, it just builds up inside. I used to think if I tried to join in and be like them, I would eventually become that person and fit in. But I don’t want to be. And every time I’m not faking the happy person they want me to be, they call me “emo” and “depressed”. I hate my friends, but I’m too afraid to be a loner. I can’t wait to get out of here.

By: Caden

Caden — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:47:01 +0000

I know how you feel. I feel like i pretend to be happy just so I won’t make others uncomfortable, but really I’m making myself uncomfortable faking/lying, so I just limit my contact with others so I don’t have to fake it and feel like shit. At the same time I wish there was something/someone to change my negative outlook.

By: Dark

Dark — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 04:01:15 +0000

Whats wrong with negative? Whats wrong with being you? If they dont like you then you shouldn’t care.

By: Lilly

Lilly — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:54:51 +0000

I really want to know you, because I feel exactly the same, you could save me from myself.

By: Madeline Claire Gazzo

Madeline Claire Gazzo — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:04:37 +0000

I’ll tell you something. I am the most negative person I know. Almost every thing i say is negative.
My out look on the world is so bad and so evil i can’t tell everyone every thing i think about this world because it might make them cry.
But you have to look at it this way. It’s who you are, this world no one is ever positive about anything, because it will never come out the way you want. If you think negative ( or at least the way i see it) something could come good out of it.

By: Kiera

Kiera — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 04:27:48 +0000

I had the same problem; I only have a past tense there cause I found people to help me remove my mask; it’s to bad those people smoke drink and do drugs; cause now I’m a druggie; and now I can’t remove tat mask.

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:01:51 +0000

I know exactly how you feel and i want to remove my mask also
but i can’t and….. idk if i’m really trying to

By: Mia

Mia — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 20:30:17 +0000

That’s like me…I’m very negative, but I always pretend to be positive

By: Facebook User

Facebook User — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 16:55:30 +0000

Sounds so much like me … I have become so negative that even when I try to be more positive, people tell me I am not positive enough. I just can’t make myself feel otherwise anymore and don’t know how to change or I am too scared

By: bassistcat

bassistcat — Sun, 03 May 2009 08:23:08 +0000

amen to that. i am so negative, and then i realize, no wonder there aren’t so many people around. but its okay, those who stay, they are the friends of a lifetime. but i do wish too, to be happy one day.

By: Mari

Mari — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 21:47:00 +0000

I try not to wear masks, I’m so negative, they all hate me and I know they pretend they don’t.
But I wish I could be happy like them.

By: anon

anon — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 08:04:35 +0000

“They have a word for it now…”EMO””

BURN!

LOL

By: pixydust

pixydust — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 11:57:39 +0000

I know how you feel! I am only really myself around my kids and my sister-in-law/BFF…not even my husband sees the real me anymore…he doesn’t like the real me.

By: RAW WAR

RAW WAR — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 01:22:32 +0000

u only got 1 life u know of so poision the world b/c i get bored w/ all the optimism and some negativity might help fix the world

By: Skit

Skit — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 17:17:56 +0000

People always ask me why I’m so quiet all the time, I tell them I’m a listener. Really, it’s because I never have anything good to say. I’m too critical of people, I’m too negative.

By: VERVE

VERVE — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 08:54:27 +0000

I can totally relate. Having felt that way most of my life. They have a word for it now…”EMO”… Don’t really agree with it though. I think at times you can’t help but look at the world around you and see it filled with hurt, pain, dissapointment. I was once labelled by a friends mom as being “the most negatibe child” she ever met. That was years ago and nothing much has changed. We pretend to be something other than ourselves purely to be functional. It’s a trade off we make to live amongst others who are not as observant as we are.

By: AngryRebel

AngryRebel — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 02:00:13 +0000

I feel like I’m in love with you even though I’ve never met you.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 09:12:36 +0000

Have you ever heard of Search?

It’s a retreat, I went on one my junior year of high school.

Find one and go on it. It’ll help.

By: Riley

Riley — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 01:38:59 +0000

I know how you feel. When I act the way I feel people avoid me because I am too negative. So I try to be overly possitive. Now people tell me im obnoxious……you just cant please anyone.

By: i get it

i get it — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 02:48:58 +0000

as long as you dont forget who’s behing the mask.
eventually it just doesn’t feel like a mask anymore.
you just feel changed

By: maggie

maggie — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 03:52:43 +0000

my mask is shaped by what my life needs. inside im a hateful person

By: lizzy.hearts

lizzy.hearts — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 01:40:42 +0000

I’m waiting for it all to crash and burn….

again.

By: yuki

yuki — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 21:27:34 +0000

i feel like this is me.
i feel like a always act differently in front of people.
because i feel like if i act like myself, they’ll all hate me.
and i’ll infect them with depression….and bad decisions….and...everything.
like i have a virus or something.
thanks for sharing.

By: mike

mike — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:40:20 +0000

yeah I know how you’re feeling. I actually come with a warning like with cigarrettes. “I’m a bad influence and will screw you up if you stay too close too long”