My mommy loves her bottle more than me
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I understand every word of this.
A little girl shouldn’t be brought up around such things, I know from experience.
the day i realized this was true. its broke my heart.
It’s a hard truth to learn. This hit my heart in a very tender spot just now. The hardest part about it is watching your loving mother kill herself one drink at a time….
She might not be around for my wedding…
I know the feeling, I’m 15 and my mother has been an alocholic since before I was born. She stopped drinking each time she was pregnant though, she could choose when she stopped. She hasn’t since, not really.
Mine does too.
i’m 14 and my sister has taken on the role of my mother since she was 16 and i was 8.my mother has been drunk my hole life.Now she always wonders why i hate her and don’t talk to her.she was never there for me.
I’m 14 and I’ve had to be a mother to my older sister who is 16 because she doesn’t realize how hard it is for me to deal with while trying to hide our mothers drinking from her, because I know she couldn’t handle it.
I know these feelings all too well. I’m 20 now, and my mother and I don’t speak. I’ve tried rectifying our relationship after years of torment and/or neglect at her hands, but her new boyfriend won’t tolerate anything negative between us.
So I gave up trying to talk about the situation.
My brother gave up years ago.
I don’t know why I still tried.
He’s happy.
I’m not.
Maybe in a few years I will be.
Reading this made me feel like I’ve been kicked in the stomach.
I know the same thing is true for me. Everyone knows about her problem. No one admits it but me. I feel like I am fully responsible for my mothers slow painful suicide.
mine too. I literally started to cry reading this and everyone’s comments. It’s comforting though to know you’re not entirely alone.
Sometimes I feel that even if my mother does live until my wedding day, I won’t allow her to come to the wedding.
yea, mine was the same way when it mattered. she’s sober now that i’m grown, that makes me happy, but it doesn’t make up for it
Both of my parents have been that way my whole life. Six years between me and my sisters and I practically brought them up as mum was always at work and dad was always drunk.
Nower days mum drinks a bottle of wine a night and two on Fridays and Saturdays. Dad does the same. Mum shouts at dad for being drunk all the time but never once see’s that she is the same.
They both think I am jokeing when I mention it. I realy am not…
My mother realised she had an alcohol problem about a year ago and the doctor told her if she wasn’t drinking first thing in the morning then it wasn’t a problem! This was the worst thing ANYONE could ever have done for her! She has cut down since but there are days when the slope is just too slippery. I thank God for my dad who tries to keep a lid on her problem. She’s a different person when she’s drunk and doesn’t realise what she says and how hurtful she is. I wish I had the same luxury.
My kids have yet to realize that fact, some days it breaks my heart, some days it makes me so angry.
for the first 16 years of my life this was also my story she loved her bottle and only had her first 3 children bc “she was tired of doing all of the cleaning” i want u too know i believe one day we can both get past not being loved and be ok!
My heart goes out to each of you. I have been so blessed to have both of my parents as being 100% sober for their whole lives. They both grew up with drinking fathers, but were never into booze or drugs themselves. I’m grateful that my parents not only don’t drink so they can hold down jobs and keep out of the courts, but because they respect themselves enough to want to have control over their bodies and actions at all times. I love that about them, and it has made it so much easier to not be out getting drunk or wasted myself. It’s important that kids have good exemplars living in the house they grow up in.
Some people should not be entrusted with the welfare of children. Unfortunately, there is such a stigma of shame surrounding drunk parents that people see this as a secret, something to be swept under the rug again and again. I wish all children grew up in healthier dysfunctional families, since dysfunctional families are really the only kind of families on this planet.
I still get scared to see adults drink now because of my mother. She drank and drove me and my siblings around for the last 4 years. I tried to talk to her about it, but she would make up another reason for her drinking and never fix the problem. Finally I stood up to her and she has actually confronted her problem. She is so much better today and though the wounds are still there and we are all still hurting, we are also healing. My heart goes out to all of you who are feeling the same that I have before. All I can say is try to show them love and help them to change, with as little anger as possible, for the both of you.
Please note, though: Don’t be afraid of offering tough love. Most alcoholics got themselves into their mess. They shouldn’t be handled with kid gloves in their very adult problem. And it IS an adult problem, regardless of the chronological age of the booze-addict.