Comments on: Mom, I hate you for calling me fat and telling me I’m ugly

By: breaking heart

breaking heart — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 12:41:37 +0000

I don’t think I can stand to read any more of these posts; so many of you are being psychologically tortured by your families. Ever considered applying for emancipation, or talking to a social worker to try and get yourselves away from your f’ed-up families? I would recommend both. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. @Jill #, people can be driven to suicide by their horrible mother; that’s where most, if not all, youth suicides spring from, horrible mothers. It is also possible to divorce one’s parents. If my parents themselves were divorced, I would divorce my mother, but my folks are a package deal, and my dad is a good person. Be strong; you are so much better than your mothers, etc., will ever be.

By: breaking heart

breaking heart — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 12:16:17 +0000

@Alexa #: What do you know about anyone’s rights? Are you Frank Warren’s lawyer? Did you draw up the policies for posting comments on Post Secret?

By: Alexa

Alexa — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 08:43:26 +0000

Wow, I thought this website was so people could feel comfortable telling their secrets, for you people who are bashing on people for opening up and sharing what they have to go through, which is a tough situation on them you have no right to be on here, I’m sure you have secrets that you don’t want people to make fun of you on, and this website isn’t for a competition as to whos life is worse, it’s so people can come together and know other people understand their pain, and hurt. There are always worse problems out there than whats going on in anybodys given life… but it doesnt mean you can’t talk about it.
The biggest reason I came on this post is because 1. my mom did the same thing to me, if I didn’t wear make-up or fix my hair I wasn’t pretty enough, she always insinuated that I needed to work out more so I would loose weight. And reason 2. Just because there are people on here who are negative, don’t hold back on what you have to say, its people like that who ruined the postsecret app, don’t worry about them. And thank you for this post…There are many people out there who need to see this.

By: breaking heart

breaking heart — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 22:58:43 +0000

Jamal, I’ve read a lot of your comments, and I must say, you are a total swine.

By: Kiana

Kiana — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 21:15:49 +0000

i have problems like this too. my mom and dad and sisteer constantly call me fat and ugly and a bitch and most kids at school call me these names as well. ive been living and dealing with this since i was 7 and i am going to be 14 soon and it is just getting worse. the only people in my life who really care about me is my big brother, my boyfriend who is 15, and my bff who has always been by my side since kindergarden. im just tired of all their bullshit and sometimes i just feel like hurting or killing myself so i can get away from all the drama. :“(

By: Jess

Jess — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:49:41 +0000

I’ve been getting that from my mom since I was 8. It made me feel terrible, but I’ve learned to ignore it. I realized that the reason my mom said those things to me was because she was trying to compensate for her own problems and insecurities. It’s not you she hates. It’s herself.

By: CD

CD — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 03:51:21 +0000

You shouldn’t hate yourself.

By: Can Relate

Can Relate — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 09:19:03 +0000

same here, though my mom says it jokingly (strange family with a strange sense of humor) but joking or not, it doesn’t take away the hurt of being called ugly or fat…i’ve learned to ignore it and i’ve never told her how it makes me feel because I know she’s just joking, I’ve learned to ignore it, and I think it would hurt her more to know she hurt me unintentionally.

By: specialmen

specialmen — Tue, 14 Sep 2010 16:14:24 +0000

bagus..
mantap men..

By: KiRA

KiRA — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 20:59:11 +0000

MY MOM SAYS THE SAME TO ME BUT IM JUST FINE I IGNORE THE FUCK OUT OF HER

By: Kit-Kat

Kit-Kat — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 21:24:40 +0000

yeah, i can see that it must really suck being bagged on by your mom. I feel the same way sometimes, but i’m just terrified of telling my mom how i feel.

By: Caden

Caden — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:41:16 +0000

i can relate my dad calls me fat and ugly. but i try tell myself that he doesn’t realize what he’s saying. Though he must be dense to not get it. It’s hard to fake a smile and pretend it doesn’t bother you. Chin up, the best revenge is doing well

By: KM

KM — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:47:23 +0000

I hate when people act as if bulima and anorexia are a choice. They aren’t, people with bulimia and anorexia are SICK. Just like people with OCD, Autism, and depression. They don’t wake up one day and think, “I want to be anorexia and kill myself for fun. Yay!” It doesn’t work that way. Be more considerate.

By: KM

KM — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:43:03 +0000

Fuck. You.

By: Jwin

Jwin — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 21:11:48 +0000

My mom does the same thing, and then she turns around and does something nice for me. The irony is so mortifying that it’s hard to tell my mom how I feel. I feel you, you’re not alone

By: Jenny

Jenny — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 23:20:34 +0000

I think your bdy is like, perfeect sized and proportionate.

Unlike me, My mom used to force feed me becuse she didn’t udnerstand thefact that I had a fast matabolism.

I weighed only 75 pounds in 5th grade.
I’d rather be fat than skinny

By: surrealistdreamer

surrealistdreamer — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 20:04:43 +0000

My mom told me I was fat everyday from the time I was 8 until I was about 19 or 20, the sad thing is my weight never changed. She always said that my little sister (by 20 months, blond and blue-eyed, that sister made me a get well card once that said “Sorry you’re fat, I hope you feel better soon,” it was 13 years ago and it still hurts) was the pretty one who would get all the boys. My dad teased me too and so did my 3 other sisters, only my brother disagrees.

By: Mari

Mari — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 00:55:17 +0000

Growing up my mom would always tell me that I had a terrible personality. Now I don’t think anyone really likes me.

By: emma

emma — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:02:10 +0000

wow, you’re an asshole.

By: Luisa

Luisa — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:24:29 +0000

I went and go through the same thing with most of my family member, mostly women. My dad and brother have for the most part been supportive, but my mom, aunts and cousins have always felt it was their right / duty to judge my body (and my life choices in general), no matter how fat or how thin. i grew up reacting to my mom, aka, wanting to be anything but her. I hated her, I hated the way she wanted, with her best intentions, to mold me into who she thought I should be (weight, outfits, lifetsyle in general). I hated that her approval was so conditional.

Now, having been in a “normal” weight for about three years, after years and years and years of binge eating and extreme dieting, or having suicidal thoughts, I still struggle to understand where their (my mom and other women’s) own suffering comes from. I struggle to put myself on their shoes and feel their own pain so I can understand the reasons for their actions. I believe that is the only way I can heal, by feeling compassion for them and for me.

I know my comment might be little consolation for a lot of women, but I wanted to share my thoughts on this in hopes that someone can find some relief in them.

By: heathermichelle

heathermichelle — Thu, 28 May 2009 16:00:59 +0000

I knew a girl just like this. She called me her mom because I loved her more than her real mother did. Sure, she was curvy girl, but I always thought she was beautiful.

If I had been financially sound and it had been in any way possible, I would’ve taken her in and maybe even adopted her, even though I’m only 5 years older than she is.

By: ThePharaoh

ThePharaoh — Mon, 04 May 2009 00:42:17 +0000

It’s the same my my dad, too.
I usually end up acting terribly scathing and subtly criticising him on his bad parenting skills.

By: jenny

jenny — Fri, 01 May 2009 17:38:53 +0000

omg i thought i was the only one with a messed up mum. mine’s said the same thing to me three times and thinks its ok. shes fat as anything and looks like a witch, but shes dyed her hair to tone her witchy looks down abit! ive come to the conclusion that shes just jealous. Mothers also tend to become jealous of their daughters youth and vitality which they havent been able to hold onto..

I get attention and get called beautiful by other poeple all the time, but your mum saying this to you makes you question everything. There was an episode of Oprah that said mothers project their own insecurities on their children and that when some mums lives are’nt going well they try and supress their daughters happiness. don’t worry, just remember Cinderella and how hideous and old her step mother was and how cinderllas life turned out…

By: RAW WAR

RAW WAR — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 01:27:20 +0000

i don’t think ur fat..,i can’t see ur face but i don’t think ur ugly either

By: JENNIFER

JENNIFER — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:20:51 +0000

IM RIGHT THERE WITH YOU… MY MUM SAYS THE SAME SHIT & THE ONE TIME I CONFRONTED HER ABOUT IT SHE CONVENIENTLY “DOESNT REMEMBER”… IDK MAYBE SHE REALLY DOESNT (MAYBE SHE BLACKS OUT WHEN SHES MAD OR SOMETHING IDK) BUT IT DOESNT HURT ANY LESS

By: JENNIFER

JENNIFER — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:16:05 +0000

“i fast” a.k.a. “i switched to anorexia”… dont lie to yourself its still not healthy

By: k

Sun, 05 Apr 2009 10:33:35 +0000

i understand how you feel. im anorexic. all thanks to my family. and till now they don’t even understand and tell me to keep fixing myself. sigh.

By: K

Sun, 05 Apr 2009 06:37:23 +0000

Oh Riley I feel for you. It really sucks that your mother has such low self-esteem and uses it to make you feel bad. The best thing for you and the greatest lesson for your mom would be for you to love yourself and be self-confident no matter your size. Women who find self-confidence in only their weight/size, don’t turn out to be all that attractive anyway!

By: Ray-ray

Ray-ray — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:21:27 +0000

My mom and my little sister and my family call me fat all the time it hurts alot!

By: Friend

Friend — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 07:52:10 +0000

Mothers like these are why I am terrified of ever having children.

Every mother I’ve ever known has made it their business to criticize their daughter’s bodies.

My mother picked on me when I was fat, and humiliated me when I was skinny.

But I realize this makes her a bitch, and why should I let some catty bitch, regardless of who they are, determine how I feel about my body or myself?

By: samia

samia — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 01:01:15 +0000

i know how u feel my retarded freind

By: Daniella

Daniella — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 23:40:04 +0000

My mum does exactly the same thing, and my aunt, and my grandma, and my cousin…. But what’s funny is that I’m the smallest size in the family.
Please don’t let her get to you. She’s just voicing her own insecurities.

By: *

Tue, 06 Jan 2009 10:59:17 +0000

my sister goes through this, i hope she doesn’t hate my mom.

By: Nataliee

Nataliee — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 19:58:58 +0000

You’re really really pretty,
Your mum must be blind.

By: Kayla

Kayla — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 11:50:49 +0000

Wow, what a bitch. Just because some other culture somewhere is suffering, doesn’t mean Americans can’t, either. Bulimia is a psychological problem.
Get off your fucking pedestal. I doubt you eat every single ounce of food you’re served. So stop being a bitch to bulimics. A lot of them have went through a lot of hard shit in their life. So what if some far off little kid is starving? That doesn’t make a bulimics issues any less.

By: Confused

Confused — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 18:10:23 +0000

I have no tolerance for bulimics. Open your mind. I realize more about the way this world works everyday and it’s sickening. About 30 years ago Coca Cola opened a plant in India extracting groundwater leaving entire communities without access to water. They take 3liters of water to make 1 liter of Cola and they add HFCS to it and spend BILLIONS on advertising to make you believe in the natural greatness of their product when infact refined, processed foods ARE the cause of American and most worldly obese/overweight cultures. WAKE UP! There are countries without food, water, and shelter. It’s been estimated that 3900 children die every day due to lack of food. So stick your finger down your pathetic throat and purge into the mouth of a dying child and save a life. Get real. You weren’t always bulimic, you had a mindset shift. You still have control. I don’t mean this to be derogatory but you need a healthy dose of reality. Peace.

By: Riley

Riley — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 01:35:11 +0000

I know how you feel

By: Riley

Riley — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 01:33:43 +0000

My mom is only 18 years older than me. She is much skinnier and prettier than me, and in addition to that, just had a tummy tuck and breast implants using my college money. She still calls me ugly and fat and I have never hated myself more.

By: christine

christine — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 07:02:58 +0000

i understand that what you are going through is hard, but everyone else here is going through something rough too. It’s really inconsiderate of you to call them “bitches”. It’s not like they said they have the worst situation ever or that they even compared what they are going through to what you have gone through. Perhaps you cannot live through your situation but you can make a difference in the world with the time you have left. To spread negativity and hate with your life is such a waste. Being HIV positive doesn’t mean you can’t try to have a normal life. To all people with bulimia: You are beautiful inside and out. You are loved. You are special. To let some cock sucking bitch, convince you otherwise is above you. In my opinon everyone with bulimia is skinny or average you just view yourself as fat but honestly no one else does besides you punk ass bitch mother who just tells you these things because deep down she knows she has many imperfections herself. As far as the picture goes if this is you sweetie put on a few pounds if anything because you are NOT in any way shape or form fat, you COULDN’T stand to lose a few pounds, or aren’t in the least bit “fluffy” PS>your mom is a bitch

By: Iui

Iui — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 03:52:55 +0000

Everyone has their own problems. you can’t always live through bulimia. I’m sorry that you have to live with HIV and die with AIDS, but this isn’t a contest to see whose life is worse. Life is what you make of it.

By: Jill

Jill — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 20:57:51 +0000

I am HIV positive because of my father. All you bitches complaining about bulimia at least you know you can live through it.

By: AAAAAA

AAAAAA — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 13:37:30 +0000

its the same with my dad.
i try and block it out, and pretend i dont care, it doesnt work.

parents like this just dont see what they do to their kids.
its sad.

By: Lola

Lola — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 06:45:18 +0000

Tell your mother to take a look at herself. She’s probably 30 years older than you, and more likely than not, aging has already taken it’s toll. Tell her to take a look at her own imperfections. You came out of her; I can’t comprehend how a mother could tell her own child that she is not beautiful. I’m sorry.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 07:48:25 +0000

Lolz!

By: k

Mon, 17 Nov 2008 11:22:37 +0000

My mom also judges me whenever she sees me. I live a couple of hours away so I don’t visit often. I will never understand how my boyfriend can look past that, yet my parents can’t.

By: Hope

Hope — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 20:01:55 +0000

Wow Jamal your lack of empathy and compassion is overwhelming. Maybe you should read up on karma and stop being so hateful.

By: Ana

Ana — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 05:34:01 +0000

yeah…..
same problem.
my moms found puke from me purging
and still critizes me about my body.
after wards,
i fast.

By: amy

amy — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 04:30:20 +0000

dude i know exactly what you think

i have bulimia because of my family

and school mates…

By: yuki

yuki — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 21:09:34 +0000

i get this a lot, too.
thanks for making me want to kill myself, mom.
because i have such great self esteem already, you know?
psh.

By: Katie

Katie — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 23:34:46 +0000

You must be incredibly miserable.

By: francesco

francesco — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 20:57:39 +0000

to ur mom, i say fuuck you

By: Jamal

Jamal — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 10:32:57 +0000

i think ur mom has the right idea…fix those hips bitch

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 04:56:29 +0000

My Parents say this to me regularly.
Thanks for the bulimia mum and dad.