Comments on: I’ve been having sex with my friend for a year

By: that girlllllllll

that girlllllllll — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 00:51:25 +0000

If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldnt have fallen for the second…

By: Ploom

Ploom — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 06:06:21 +0000

I was on the receiving end of this.. do what your heart wants to but please make sure you’re right. I lost her, but im happy for her and my best friend because she is happy.

By: Mary Jane

Mary Jane — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 03:14:57 +0000

wow

By: fearful_

fearful_ — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 12:11:08 +0000

you know what pisses me off about this is your terrible attitude … i have my entire life lost boys to girls like you … it just pisses me off when those guys could be with someone who is going to cherish them and love them like they should be loved .I annoys me when i am left alone while girls like you take two boys and damage them to the point where they are dysfunctional
!!
i just found out a friend did the same thing as you and i dont think i will ever speak to her again because it is just selfish when obviously both guys deserve to be with someone better the only reason you are doing this is because you like the attention and the feeling of feeling like your pretty hot please break one off before you scar both of them terribly !!

By: CD

CD — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 03:25:06 +0000

I dated two friends and picked one. But they knew about eachother and I wasn’t exclusive with either. The sex and the lies are just complicating what could be a lot easier if you just DISCUSSED it.

By: CD

CD — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 03:23:31 +0000

*rolls eyes* Aren’t you a catch?

By: what happened to loging in

what happened to loging in — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 14:30:51 +0000

Jamal trolls on every secret. If we ignore him, maybe he will go away.

Bottom Line: Don’t Feed the Trolls!

By: Summer

Summer — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 20:35:29 +0000

I hate comments like this, brutallyhonest. You’re calling Jamal out for making rude comments, and you’re here doing what.. the exact same thing? Don’t tell others to apologize when you are no better. God hypocrites are annoying.

By: Amourette

Amourette — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 13:55:26 +0000

In the end you’re gonna be the one that hurts the most..

By: chatontriste

chatontriste — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 01:44:36 +0000

jeez, don’t take it too personally or anything. Post Secret doesn’t need to be ruined by middle-school attitudes and anonymous people saying things like what you said in your comment. Real ‘adult’ of you. Save it for Youtube.

By: Black

Black — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 21:31:13 +0000

Buncha maggots. You don’t know the first thing about being adults. Running around calling people “sluts” & “bitches” when you’re the ones who are acting like them.

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 19 May 2010 14:24:41 +0000

sorry I meant boyfriend’s best friend
as if it’s not complicated enough

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 19 May 2010 14:22:26 +0000

I suppose if you love two people enough to consider spending the rest of your life with them you couldn’t go “hey guys would you mind if I dated you both in turn so I can choose” so “slut” is a somewhat inaccurate word, thanks guys, and if your best friend’s boyfriend thought you were the love of his life again I can sympathise, but is this really the foundation of a healthy relationship? Assuming the best of both of you, even if you tell your boyfriend and the three of you manage to work it out whoever you’re with in the end, would any of you really be happy in that situation – which is at the moment the most ideal?
It’s clearly going to be hard for all of you whatever happens, but I really hope it works out; maybe it already has, but if not just think for a moment, who could you most likely see yourself in a relationship with?
Now, who was the first one you thought of?
Good luck to the three of you xx

By: BrutallyHonest

BrutallyHonest — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 18:52:44 +0000

2nd Jamal, however, you the writer are a real piece of work. I hope they find out and crucify you. Start by apologizing.

By: loser

loser — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 05:55:52 +0000

quite a pickle there

By: Grace

Grace — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 20:53:17 +0000

You can’t expect everyone to act by *your* morals. You believe in monogamy. There are already plenty of cultures who accept polygamy – do you regard that as immorality?

Not everyone who sleeps around is polyamourous. Polyamoury is characterised by being open with everyone involved. And, as with the poster of this secret, can be motivated by more than just sex.

By: Grace

Grace — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 20:36:16 +0000

I *love* this attitude towards love and relationships.

Polyamoury is totally workable, but it’s too different from social norms for people to accept. Most people do the usual, and say you can’t love two people at once. That’s simply not true. Not of everyone.

By: Sweetzen

Sweetzen — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:50:44 +0000

the heart wants what it wants…. but hiding and lying are not the way to go about listening to it. its natural to love more than one person, but it shouldnt mean that one of them is getting cheated on. it sullies the whole situation.

By: writer

writer — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 03:15:13 +0000

It doesn’t mean you don’t love them both. That’s too confused a word to make that kind of call about. Flip a coin, and pick which side is who after it lands, I suppose. Closest thing to a guide I can think of.

By: dawnieangel76

dawnieangel76 — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 15:32:37 +0000

Polyamory?

I love this day & age; finding way to try & make slutting around acceptable by giving it a scientific name.

Yes, yes…the idea has been around for ages, I get that. However, I don’t know why people in such a modern time don’t just come right out & say that they wanna screw more than one person at a time because they enjoy it.

Lord knows morality isn’t a basis for actions anymore.

By: Tanvi

Tanvi — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 12:07:39 +0000

You are aware that you and your ‘friend’ are just backstabbing your bf,right?
Seriously, what kind of a gf are u? and what kind of a best frnd is he!
Stay without both of them for a month….you’ll understand who u actually feel for.. go with him (if he takes you that is!) and let the other free.

By: Queen Jane

Queen Jane — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:57:59 +0000

@Linzeey:
I basically did the exact same thing. I don’t regret it, either. I’ve moved across the country but me and the friend (who dated my girl friend, who was my boyfriend’s friend when we hooked up) keep in touch and will always be close. o.0

By: Linzeey

Linzeey — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 03:00:34 +0000

I went out with my boyfriend for 2 months. He broke up with me. His best friend broke up with his girlfriend, she’s my friend. His best friend and I have been sleeping together for 5 months. I’m going to hell but I love him so much and he only sees me as a friend.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 16:24:51 +0000

While I’m a monogamous type of guy and quite jealous, I can understand how other people are suited to a different way of life.

I wish you luck in resolving the situation. With any luck, they are close enough friends to be willing to share, though the longer the secret is kept the more your boyfriend will be hurt.

By: Anonymous...

Anonymous... — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 13:36:59 +0000

Hello there. I’m about the only one standing up for her, and I specifically stated that I do think she’s cheated on them for that very reason. She has to tell them. It’ll hurt them all, possibly or probably, but that’s the only way to achieve healthy relationships, in my experience. Communication.

However, I didn’t like that others were attacking her, so I stood up for her. I think that this secret may indicate that she wants to be open, but is afraid. By calling her names and cheapening her love for them, even saying that she deserves STDs, people are driving her further into silence. That’s not what’s best for her. That’s the internet acting as a tool for hatred and a voice for deep-seated prejudice against polyamorists.

How does she give “true polys” a bad name? By keeping a secret that will get her attacked and blamed by most people who hear it? I know she should tell them. But that isn’t totally fair to say without knowing her whole situation.

By the way, if I sound upset or defensive, I’m not. I just woke up at six in the morning because of a dream, and am probably less coherent than I usually am.

By: Friend

Friend — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 07:58:29 +0000

But I think all true polyamorists will agree that there is something soul-wrenchingly wrong about keeping secrets from one or more of those involved in your polyamory.

Everyone should be a willing participant, or you are doing something very, very wrong.

I think people are too quick to attatch the lable of “polyamorous” to this girl. You are giving true polys a bad name.

By: chatontriste

chatontriste — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 20:59:35 +0000

…This happened to me my senior year of high school. If you were with the boyfriend first and got with his friend second, you’re definitely in love with the friend.
The Friend is always The One, man, let me tell you…

…I still wish I could still be with The Friend, but now I’m across the country from home! If all else fails, you should find a baseball player with a nice tush.

By: Anonymous...

Anonymous... — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 01:46:28 +0000

Why wouldn’t that have been an issue? People are not naturally monogamous, for the most part. I, myself, can’t understand jealousy. I would be delighted if my boyfriend found another girl that he was attracted to; I’d encourage him to act on it. I’m a big girl; I can share. And he’s told me the same.

People confuse me.

By: Anonymous...

Anonymous... — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 01:44:11 +0000

I can’t believe how you’re treating her. Have you ever been in love with more than one person at once? I know I have. Yes, I would say that she’s cheated, because she hasn’t been forthright with them, but polyamory isn’t disgusting.

You’re being awfully small-minded. Also, you shouldn’t wish STDs on people. That’s just hateful. I hope that you never experience that.

I wish that people could stop trying to hurt each other…

By: Anonymous...

Anonymous... — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 01:41:14 +0000

Don’t listen to what they’re telling you about loving and not loving. Monogamy doesn’t mean love. And it’s wholly possible to love them both. If they can’t share… That’s the real problem. I still think that you have to be honest, because being honest is important with those that you love. Deceit hurts everyone in the long run.

I hope that they can understand, and, you know, be willing to share you. I know someone in my daily life who’s polyamorous; she has more than one boyfriend most of the time. And one boyfriend has been the same for well over a year.

It’s possible to be with more than one person. Difficult, but possible. I wish you luck.

By: J

Thu, 15 Jan 2009 18:39:47 +0000

You can’t help who you fall in love with.

By: beth

beth — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 14:52:34 +0000

jamal, you are disgusting.
seriously?
get a life and get off post secret.

By: Flash

Flash — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 06:43:46 +0000

Tell both of them together at the same time.

By: Little One

Little One — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 08:48:29 +0000

I’ve done it. The friend and the boyfriend will be rough for a while but eventually get over it. Your relationship with both will end up fine. Its all for the best to tell them though. don’t let them find out the hard way.
PS it is possible to love both its just a matter of who is more important
STOP NOW

By: Aimee-Rose

Aimee-Rose — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 08:03:19 +0000

It will be ok one day

By: hedfones

hedfones — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:45:42 +0000

burn in hell

By: elle

elle — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:44:31 +0000

word. this girl is a bitch. she deserves STDs galore.

By: olof

olof — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:16:34 +0000

you have to pick either one and talk to them both, it’s better to tell them than they hear it from somebody else;)

By: kittenK

kittenK — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 19:28:22 +0000

i dont feel bad for this asshole

shes fucked up I hope she get STDS from that
who does shit like that

SLUT

By: K

Wed, 12 Nov 2008 15:59:11 +0000

i agree with this lies kill both the lier and the one being lied to in the end and really ur hurting urself as much as ur bf the sooner u make the decision u know u have to make the better for u and everyone else

By: sme345

sme345 — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 00:29:50 +0000

Tell your boyfriend. It will hurt him, but he needs to know. The friend just wants sex or he would have done something to change your relationship. Think of it this way, would you want someone you love sleeping with someone else. Plus the boyfriend is hopeful there for you more and if he loves you he probably does alot for you. You really need to tell him brefore its to late, before he finds out himself and it kills him inside.

By: Zee

Zee — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 20:17:35 +0000

You don’t love either of them.
You’ll figure it out eventually…and by then, one or both of them will hate you.

I’m not judging you…I’m just hoping you’ll make a decision soon.
Comfort and pleasure should never be mistaken for true love.
If you actually loved either of them, the other one would never have been an issue.

By: Mistaken

Mistaken — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 17:44:49 +0000

thats fucked up. your a cheater. you must not really love either of them if you are doing them both because you know if your boyfriend found out that he would be hurt because he’s being cheated on by his gf With his best friend. That’s like two slaps in the face at once.

By: Ella

Ella — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 06:42:28 +0000

me too. they just found out.

By: One who understands

One who understands — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 19:28:18 +0000

You ultimately have to make a decision on what you are going to do because trust me….this wont stay a secret for ever.

By: One who understands

One who understands — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 19:27:02 +0000

You ultimately have to make a decision on what you are going to do because trust me. This wont stay a secret for ever

By: Maria Doe

Maria Doe — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:13:21 +0000

that sounds like something i always thought of doing;

By: Hey Lee

Hey Lee — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 20:42:52 +0000

omg! thats is soo sad!

By: Jamal

Jamal — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 10:01:43 +0000

thts so fucking hot