Comments on: I’m still a virgin

By: Broken Heart

Broken Heart — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 07:59:28 +0000

Wow, I SO hope that that wasn’t the reason you had sex with him or her in the first place. THAT would be pathetic.

By: anon

anon — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:56:33 +0000

I’m 20 now and I won’t disclose the age I lost mine. I’m no longer with that person and don’t care about him at all. But I am so happy that I did it so I wouldn’t have to pathetically wonder what sex is like. I am so thankful to not be a virgin.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 09:10:52 +0000

i’m 28 and still a virgin. i’ve got a great boyfriend. trust me, it’s worth the wait cos he respects me and we love God.

By: breaking heart

breaking heart — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 22:29:15 +0000

My best friend put it best when he said that virginity isn’t so special. There are tons of virgins out there who do tons of stuff [sexually] that they shouldn’t, and think everything’s okay because they still have their virgin-status. What’s REALLY impressive is chastity. Real chastity, in which you keep yourself clean of lusting after others and all the rest of sexual immorality. My best friend doesn’t even jack-off, ever. He stays out of trouble through a LOT of prayer. He’s 19, and I am sooo totally impressed. And, no, he’s not lying about it.

By: Julie Lajoie

Julie Lajoie — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 20:22:53 +0000

Don’t beat yourself up about it. Sex is such a personal thing, it’s wrong of society to make us feel worthless if we don’t have it. Personally, I’m saving mine for marriage – or at least until the right time. I’m so glad I didn’t give it to my boyfriend of a year whom I adored, he turned out to be a cheating b*stard.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 22:44:31 +0000

There’s no reason to be ashamed, better to be a virgin than to have been drugged when you were eleven and raped by one of the only people you though you could trust, that happened to someone very much close to me and that persons in therapy for many reasons, that being among them. Being a virgin is no bad thing. Dont push for it, I did, and I REGRET IT.

By: Bee

Bee — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 12:10:48 +0000

I did it and I agree with Eireann, I find that it has become a whatever thing with me too. It’s easier to make out with a guy have it lead to sex much faster now and to just say yes to sex than to not, It’s a way to self harm without the razor this time..
The guy I lost it to was just some guy and he was a douchebag.
I know I’ll regret it when I finally overcome my self destructive ways though.

By: Sonja

Sonja — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 03:23:56 +0000

For my 18th birthday I had sex with someone I didn’t care about. Several weeks ago I got wasted and had sex with someone else. I’m scared. I hate it. I. Am. Scared.

By: broken heart

broken heart — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 09:02:51 +0000

Those jerks at work, school, etc., who say the word with a sneer…? They are just jealous that they threw theirs away for some dog who they may have thought was great, but he never called, but YOU still have yours. Good for you! You’re the better person for waiting for the right man! You are to be commended, not shamed.

By: N

Tue, 01 Feb 2011 02:22:18 +0000

You are lucky, feel proud of yourself

By: GM

GM — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 20:40:54 +0000

I’m 21 and I’ve lost mine last year. Maybe it wasn’t ‘perfect’ with the ‘perfect’ guy, but I knew I was ready for it and that it was the right time. That’s all that mattered to me

By: Caroline

Caroline — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 13:16:03 +0000

I lost mine at 14. I was so young and so stupid. I wish I waited. Life would be so much better now if I had just waited.

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 01:24:32 +0000

I wish I’d seen this comment before I lost my virginity.

By: NoWishUponAstar

NoWishUponAstar — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 18:59:34 +0000

I am 17 and i feel the exact same way …

By: NoWishUponAstar

NoWishUponAstar — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 18:57:08 +0000

I feel the same way… :S it feels like im too old to still be a virgin and i really am ashamed…but at the same time i dont really want to have sex with a random guy…

By: Eireann

Eireann — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 00:55:21 +0000

I wish I would have waited because once I started having sex then it was just a “whatever” thing. It’s so easier to just go from kissing to sex now that I’m not a virgin. It can also fuck up a lot of things and you have to worry about STDs, STIs, pregnancy and all the stuff even if you are safe.
Though I do admit I am glad that I lost it with the guy who I did–he is an amazing person. Five years later we still hang out sometimes and he’s still there for me.
But yeah, wait it out until you KNOW and FEEL you want to do it. And let it be special.

By: April

April — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 10:06:56 +0000

I almost did it a few times recently with two different guys that I had been crushing on since high school, I was drunk and I though I wanted it then I thought I don’t want to make such a massive decision just because I had been drinking, I didn’t do it and in the morning I realised I’d made the right decision. the first guy pretended he didn’t remember even seeing me that night and said he didn’t like me, the other guy that I had been crushing on for years left before I woke up and hasn’t spoken to me since. I really liked them and I thought that maybe this year I’d find the right guy..now I’m not so sure..I though these guys liked me I mean hell the second guy was my best friend at one point..I’m 19, I’m a virgin and I am proud to be because I know how easy it can be to remember that jerk that never called back as your first time.

By: eve

eve — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 18:41:59 +0000

I wish I still was one. I don’t regret losing it to him but I wish i could have waited longer. I am confused weather it was just sex or love. I hope it was Love. :/

By: Steph

Steph — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 18:48:10 +0000

Me too. I’m 19. Haven’t even been kissed. I only know a couple of people my age who are also still virgins. At first it bugged me, but now it makes me feel unique. One day, I’m going to find somebody who appreciates it, and I hope we’ll both be each others first.

By: sympathetic

sympathetic — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:57:49 +0000

clearly you should not have children and if you do, i hope you teach them to look for LOVE, not just sex. im a virgin, too, and i get a lot of shit for it by people who are my age and have never experienced true love in any sense of the word. but, the ones who are older say that i am lucky. im not sure if i am, and my younger friends could be right, but i can say that i am EXTREMELY proud that i didnt give it up to the people that i could have. i deserve to be more than just a notch in a bedpost. we all do.

By: Paul

Paul — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 04:58:02 +0000

If you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready! Don’t sweat it, man!

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 04:01:03 +0000

I lost mine when i was 16. I was dating him for a year and i was completely head over heals in love. I was not pressured nor did i feel awkward. I have no regrets.

By: lost believer

lost believer — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 12:25:49 +0000

i lost my virginity at 20. i wish i’d waited longer. cherish yours. you don’t get a second chance.

By: jessica

jessica — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 21:42:01 +0000

I lost mine when i was 17 i was embarrassed of being a virgin because i hung out with older people and i felt so young and inexperienced. I now realize i had nothing to worry about and i feel foolish thinking that way.

By: Rob

Rob — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 14:19:48 +0000

I’m a virgin as well. Really, don’t worry about it. This is coming from a 24 year old guy who’s had plenty of chances. If you think its going to make you more “normal”, it wont.

The world has such a twisted view of things and they ridicule virgins like we can’t get any. I’m just too damn good to give it away to anyone other than my future wife.

By: Ekzu

Ekzu — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 19:19:50 +0000

I completely agree with you… I lost mine at 14 and it was the worst mistake I ever made. It made me want to kill myself.

By: lbr123

lbr123 — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:38:38 +0000

@qwerty: same with me. i don’t really want to be how i am, but i know i want to be in love when it happens, so it will still be a very long time :/

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 23:18:19 +0000

I wish I had read this before I lost it to a guy that left me for my best friend.

By: bj betty

bj betty — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 06:03:32 +0000

I disagree. I didn’t wait to have sex until marriage. Though I did marry a Mormon. (He decided to wait until marriage.) Let me tell you that was the worst mistake ever. I always test drive before I commit now. Because that was the worst sex ever. I even tried to teach him. He just couldn’t be great at all. Go forth and have sex! Oh btw I’m divorced now. HA HA HA

By: Nardini

Nardini — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 00:00:07 +0000

Ehh..you don’t have to be married to have “meaningful” sex.

By: Nila

Nila — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 06:02:48 +0000

I’m 27 and still a virgin. I’ve never found anyone I wanted to get naked with so badly that I couldn’t wait.

So I wait.

Some call it self-control. I call it a personal decision.

Either way, I’ve found enlightenment outside of physical pleasure as a result, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 02:23:23 +0000

I am 22 years old. I am a virgin that has yet to experience her first kiss or a boyfriend. I am not ashamed. I want to experience all of this and I can but, I don’t because I believe that everyones virginity is a gift to give away. What you give it up for is a value of your self. I want to give it up for for a golden ring with a promise of eternal love and devotion. A future of happiness. I would rather die a virgin than to regret giving it up to someone I will hate.

By: April

April — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:16:36 +0000

Im 19 and i am a virgin too..It’s not that i’ve never had the chance its just that im afraid..of being judged of being loved and im ashamed to let anyone see my body..
My sister is way too proud of this and yells it out in public..times like those make me want to die..
I wish people wouldnt use it against me..Im 19 and i want it..i guess im just not ready..

By: Deej

Deej — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:47:52 +0000

I hate it. I’m embarassed at 21. Everyone is more proud than I am. I wish I could have thrown it away years ago instead of worrying about what’s right. It would have saved all the hurt, frustraton,shame and pain that comes with. I had an ex who taught me in our break up it was something to be ashamed of and I hate her for taking everything that I held high. When I tell people that I still am, I cant even say it, I want to die right there and when they say theyre proud for me I can honestly say theyre infinitely more proud than I am. THe only reason people say that is because theyre not.

By: leash

leash — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 11:17:14 +0000

I’m a virgin at 25, and proud of it. My boyfriend of a year is not, however, and I fear he will get tired of waiting for me. It’s not easy, but I will continue to save myself until marriage so that I can give this amazing gift to not only my future husband, but myself also I hope he loves me enough to understand…

By: megan

megan — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 05:51:26 +0000

it sucks.

By: dawnieangel76

dawnieangel76 — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 19:37:48 +0000

I’ll be 33 next Friday, and I’m STILL a virgin…and I’m proud of it.

When the right man comes along at the right time, it’ll be wonderful because I waited instead of giving it up to the wrong person for the sake of curiosity, boredom, loneliness, or any other millions of reasons out there.

Love is the best reason to give that gift of yourself to someone, and I believe it’s worth waiting for.

By: broken hearted

broken hearted — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 15:06:27 +0000

ME TOO!. it sucks cus im the only one out of my friends and they alweays tell me about how they have sex which i kinda like hearing and they always try and make me have a random hook but i dont want i just want to do it right happy not forced lik my first kiss which is weird cus the guy who gave me my first kiss wanted me to give it up to him and if i saw him alot i would have, i cant say no to him=(. but i am and proud i hear its addicting

By: a

Fri, 28 Aug 2009 20:41:45 +0000

i’m 19 and still a virgin . and quite frankly i’m going to hold on to it until i feel it’s the right time . sex might not be anything special today, but i assume that when your in love with someone it does became infinitely meaningful. i want to be able to look into his eyes and tell him that this is how much you mean to me .

By: yoghurt_girl

yoghurt_girl — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 12:56:19 +0000

I read your comment and although it doesn’t seem like the right word to describe it, it was beautiful. Why has the world detatched itself from emotion. Why must we pretend that we don’t care, that we aren’t hurt for and by others. I only wish that I could have my virginity back, and I lost it to my current partner of two years who claims he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I used to think it was all I would ever want, to be loved by another to make me happy, why isn’t it enough?

By: jessikagurl101

jessikagurl101 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 04:16:04 +0000

same here

By: Jimbo

Jimbo — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 01:39:36 +0000

Gay virgin here, I’ve given up on sex as far as I can tell. All I see is people fornicating with reckless abandon. When did the world stop making love and start fucking? I don’t want a one night lover I want a man who is willing to be mine. All my friends have lost their virginity in high school and the media emphasizes sexuality. If I die a virgin it will be because the world’s view of sex has been perverted from an act of love and mutual pleasure to an act of partying and individual fufillment. The condom had become the glass slipper, I am not a whore I am a person with feelings and needs. I WILL NOT be reduced to anything less.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 11:33:26 +0000

I’m 19 and still a virgin. I constantly say I’m not and hint that I’m not. Just for the sake of pushing people off of me. Letting people know I am just makes it feel like they have a power over me. I’m not sure if I do want to lose it or keep it forever. It’s not so much that I want to find someone to love or lose it to. I just think I can really care less about it. I still feel nervous when there are chances… when it comes down to it. I’m mixed about my virginity.

By: jane

jane — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 06:28:37 +0000

i am too and i’m 19. be proud, its so rare these days. dont let it bring you down, its something to respect and admire.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 22:57:47 +0000

I love that song, and it is so true

By: Cass

Cass — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 18:29:47 +0000

Strangely for me, it has only emerged nearly six years after being out of senior school that over half of the people that bragged continuously about the amount of sex they had at young ages didn’t honestly lose their virginity until they left school. Those people laugh about it now because they said when they fouond someone to sleep with they didn’t, because they were afraid of being “exposed” – they’d dug themselves in a hole through it and they say now, at 24 it was one of the stupidest things they ever claimed because ultimately, in the big scheme – no one gave a crap or anything more than a seconds nod.

By: Cass

Cass — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 18:24:00 +0000

My boyfriend only lost his virginity at 22. I was only the second girl he had slept with and I can hand on heart say he has become the most amazing lover I have ever had.

I, on the onther hand, went and lost my virginity in that back of some nameless university students car when I was thirteen in the belief that it would make me more popular and more attractive. It did neither. I spent the next decade doing the same thing out of insecurity; just slagging around under false names to try and make myself feel wanted and attractive and, of course, it never worked.

So when I met my boyfriend we didn’t discuss numbers at the time. It emerged that he was ashamed of only having slept with one girl whilst I was ashamed of having slept with 37 men. There was shame on both sides for opposite reasons but we have the most amazing sex now – not through any of our previous experiences because ultimately they mean nothing because everyone is different – but because we share such a deep bond that no thrown away one night stand could ever, ever live up to what we have everytime.

I wish I had waited.

As for people being afraid that no one will want them if they find out they’re a virgin – strangely, many people I know find it quite a turn on. Firstly because it seems everyone likes the idea of being someone’s first (be careful not to be used) and secondly, having slept with many people gives a person an unnattractive arrogance it seems. Don’t be afraid, be honest and know that your time will arrive if you have the confidence to be genuine to yourself and open with whoever you believe that special person may be.

By: shweta

shweta — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 19:23:26 +0000

I’m a virgin, and I just graduated high school…I’m only a virgin because I was in love with someone that is already in love. I hope I find someone like him.

By: Clo

Clo — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:39:40 +0000

Best words i’ve heard yet.
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By: Rufus

Rufus — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:16:48 +0000

So young! Time enough, time enough. I was well over that age, married now with two kids.

By: heathermichelle

heathermichelle — Thu, 28 May 2009 17:49:39 +0000

I am too, and I’m 25. It’s not that I haven’t had the opportunity, but I chose to save myself for marriage. It’s been tough at times and sometimes I wonder if I will be able to stay that strong, but I’m so glad I never gave in.

Deep down, I’m truly a hopeless romantic. I want the first time to be special, to be with the person I’m spending the rest of my life with. I don’t want to worry about STDs or getting caught or not having a stable home to raise a child if I get pregnant. Sex just isn’t worth all that anxiety.

By: imnotheartless

imnotheartless — Wed, 06 May 2009 22:33:13 +0000

im a virgin and even tho i say i dont care i do but everytime a guy tries to do anything more then kiss me i actually turn to stone, one guy whose actually a mate (we’ve had these drunken kiss moments) calls it my freezing moments….it sucks…i know i’ll never actually be with sum1 simply cuz i cant be vunerable cuz i knw what happens to vunerable people and im not getting hurt for anyone

By: gosh

gosh — Sun, 03 May 2009 22:18:25 +0000

I lost my virginity at 13
It was the worst mistake
I thought I was in love
He made me believe I was in love
I was too niave, he was too old.
Please be careful and wait,
I’d give anything to have it back.
Your so lucky to have something
so special. I envy you.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 16:57:47 +0000

I felt this way for a long time. I wanted someone to love, to have sex with. I was scared I was never going to find anyone.

I met the girl of my dreams on January 2nd. I was 21. I got my first kiss on February 12, 2009, when I flew about 2,000 miles to see her. We didn’t make love that night, and I couldn’t sleep for looking at her.

I don’t recall the actual day we first had sex, or what we did. After waiting so long, I forgot to remember just how I gave away my virginity.

I’m glad that I waited for love, though. ^_^

By: jaynonymous

jaynonymous — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 19:41:13 +0000

Being a virgin isn’t anything to worry about. Wait until you really get to know someone first and really get to like them. You should talk a lot about it first. Then sex will be so much better than if you have sex just to lose your virginity.

By: inasia'sroom

inasia'sroom — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 18:16:16 +0000

I’m 19 and a virgin. At times I get this gut feeling of embarrassment but then I remember that my flatmate & best friend is a virgin aged 27 and I love her to pieces & respect her so much.

By: Gaby

Gaby — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 00:40:04 +0000

Being a virgin is not a burden. You should be proud that you are waiting until you know exactly what you want the moment to be like. I chose to give my virginity at 22, I didn’t lose it and no one took it from me. I gifted it to someone who made everything be so perfect that my heart and mind actually agreed that it was time.

By: 123

123 — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 15:38:06 +0000

I’m still a virgin, and I’ll be 18 in three months. Pretty much all my friends who are 15-16 have lost it. I even know a few 14-year-olds who aren’t virgins anymore.
Sometimes they make fun of me, but I just don’t care about sex. I’d rather love someone, but everyone I’ve loved has just wanted sex or to fool around. Is it so wrong to just want watch a movie and cuddle without someone sticking their hand up my shirt or down my pants?
Secretly, I’m disgusted by people who are having sex at such a young age. I hate society’s obsession with sex.
But I’m so afraid that once I love someone enough and feel ready to sleep with them, I’ll be “too old” and be bad at it.

By: C24

C24 — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 10:35:11 +0000

Don’t be ashamed by it. I thought it would be terrible to be the last in our group to lose my virginity, so I slept with a guy who I USED to like and didn’t tell anyone.
It wasn’t romantic, it wasn’t fun, it wasn’t memorable.
I don’t regret it because I was ready and the next guy I slept with I really did care about, so I wasn’t nervous about messing up with him. All I’m saying is, it’s a personal decision and you shouldn’t let anyone influence you.

By: k

Sun, 05 Apr 2009 10:38:45 +0000

i’m still a virgin. i’m 17. nevertheless, very proud of it. nothing wrong with not being a virgin.. i know probably 17 is a little young and not much right to speak. but.. seriously, what’s wrong?:]

By: Friend

Friend — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 08:49:51 +0000

It’s never too late to lose your virginity…

But in an instant, it’s too late to go back.

By: Sunshine

Sunshine — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 01:37:20 +0000

i am too…but there is one person that is he were to ask i would give it to him in a heartbeat

By: A

Wed, 18 Mar 2009 00:54:02 +0000

I’m 18 and I’m still a virgin, too.
And as much as I want to lose it, I’m scared: scared that it won’t be that great, and scared that I won’t find anyone to lose it to.

By: Yep

Yep — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:35:58 +0000

Good for you, you should be proud not ashamed. It is a good thing, wait until you get married it will save alot of grief and pain.

By: Lis

Lis — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 16:04:19 +0000

I lost my virginity at 24, the first chance I had. I was not raped because I wanted it, I wanted it so badly. All I wanted was to get it over with so that I would stop feeling like a weirdo. I hated every second of it, and I hated myself for not knowing “how” to do it and for not having the courage to tell him of my anxiety.

My only advice is that you do it when you want to: as hard as it is, try to not give in to social pressure, either type. It might not be a good idea to do it just because you feel you have to so as to be like the others; and it might not be a good idea to wait because you feel you have to so as to be like the others.

By: in denial

in denial — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 00:03:36 +0000

i lost my virginity last year.
a month after i turned 18.
all of my friends lost it way before i did.. i was the last one in our group who was a virgin.
i seriously thought it was never gunna happen for me..
but i waited till it was with a guy i cared and still care sooo much about. now my only question is, if i love him or not.
but trust me, many respected me for having my virginity at 18.
hold on to it till you can find someone deserving of it.
when you lose it, you’ll realize how truly amazing it is, to be able to give ONE guy something so special.
i never really cared about my virginity until i lost it. be smart :]

goodluck!!

By: kiki

kiki — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 20:06:27 +0000

I am too
=(
But I hate it because I know
sex is awesome & it sucks that I
can’t find the right person to do it with..

By: Kris

Kris — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 06:42:05 +0000

i honestly wish I would have never had sex. I thought it was a good idea at the time. then once I hit 18 was when positive reinforcement started coming out. I grew up with Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera. I was prego when I heard a song called, “There’s Gotta Be More to Life.” and there totally is. I met my husband in 2007 and he’s been the best thing on earth. He’s better than everything. i would have never known him except with how i have lived my life. keep your head up!!

By: Louise

Louise — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 05:34:20 +0000

I am to, not by choice and it pains me too. At 20, i’m starting to feel like ti never will happen

By: s

Wed, 17 Dec 2008 19:33:02 +0000

I am, too. I have had one opportunity, but it was the wrong time and place, even if it was the right guy.

I’m afraid that I gave up my chances with him. I’m afraid that no-one would want me if they knew I’m a virgin.

By: Spttin' in the Face of Fools

Spttin' in the Face of Fools — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 20:36:40 +0000

I waited untill the right time and I will never regret that.

By: qwerty

qwerty — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 02:37:32 +0000

So am I. I don’t really want to still be a virgin at this age, but I’m glad I haven’t had meaningless sex. I still want that first time to be special.

I’ll admit, it’s also because I’m scared.

By: SC

SC — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 04:58:36 +0000

Don’t pain yourself over it!! That’s awesome

By: Jenny

Jenny — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 01:48:55 +0000

Good for you. Wait until marriage, it is worth it.