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Good for you. Wait until marriage, it is worth it.

Don’t pain yourself over it!! That’s awesome

So am I. I don’t really want to still be a virgin at this age, but I’m glad I haven’t had meaningless sex. I still want that first time to be special.

I’ll admit, it’s also because I’m scared.

I waited untill the right time and I will never regret that.

I am, too. I have had one opportunity, but it was the wrong time and place, even if it was the right guy.

I’m afraid that I gave up my chances with him. I’m afraid that no-one would want me if they knew I’m a virgin.

I am to, not by choice and it pains me too. At 20, i’m starting to feel like ti never will happen

i honestly wish I would have never had sex. I thought it was a good idea at the time. then once I hit 18 was when positive reinforcement started coming out. I grew up with Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera. I was prego when I heard a song called, “There’s Gotta Be More to Life.” and there totally is. I met my husband in 2007 and he’s been the best thing on earth. He’s better than everything. i would have never known him except with how i have lived my life. keep your head up!!

I am too
=(
But I hate it because I know
sex is awesome & it sucks that I
can’t find the right person to do it with..

i lost my virginity last year.
a month after i turned 18.
all of my friends lost it way before i did.. i was the last one in our group who was a virgin.
i seriously thought it was never gunna happen for me..
but i waited till it was with a guy i cared and still care sooo much about. now my only question is, if i love him or not.
but trust me, many respected me for having my virginity at 18.
hold on to it till you can find someone deserving of it.
when you lose it, you’ll realize how truly amazing it is, to be able to give ONE guy something so special.
i never really cared about my virginity until i lost it. be smart :]

goodluck!!

I lost my virginity at 24, the first chance I had. I was not raped because I wanted it, I wanted it so badly. All I wanted was to get it over with so that I would stop feeling like a weirdo. I hated every second of it, and I hated myself for not knowing “how” to do it and for not having the courage to tell him of my anxiety.

My only advice is that you do it when you want to: as hard as it is, try to not give in to social pressure, either type. It might not be a good idea to do it just because you feel you have to so as to be like the others; and it might not be a good idea to wait because you feel you have to so as to be like the others.

Good for you, you should be proud not ashamed. It is a good thing, wait until you get married it will save alot of grief and pain.

I’m 18 and I’m still a virgin, too.
And as much as I want to lose it, I’m scared: scared that it won’t be that great, and scared that I won’t find anyone to lose it to.

i am too…but there is one person that is he were to ask i would give it to him in a heartbeat

It’s never too late to lose your virginity…

But in an instant, it’s too late to go back.

i’m still a virgin. i’m 17. nevertheless, very proud of it. nothing wrong with not being a virgin.. i know probably 17 is a little young and not much right to speak. but.. seriously, what’s wrong?:]

Don’t be ashamed by it. I thought it would be terrible to be the last in our group to lose my virginity, so I slept with a guy who I USED to like and didn’t tell anyone.
It wasn’t romantic, it wasn’t fun, it wasn’t memorable.
I don’t regret it because I was ready and the next guy I slept with I really did care about, so I wasn’t nervous about messing up with him. All I’m saying is, it’s a personal decision and you shouldn’t let anyone influence you.

I’m still a virgin, and I’ll be 18 in three months. Pretty much all my friends who are 15-16 have lost it. I even know a few 14-year-olds who aren’t virgins anymore.
Sometimes they make fun of me, but I just don’t care about sex. I’d rather love someone, but everyone I’ve loved has just wanted sex or to fool around. Is it so wrong to just want watch a movie and cuddle without someone sticking their hand up my shirt or down my pants?
Secretly, I’m disgusted by people who are having sex at such a young age. I hate society’s obsession with sex.
But I’m so afraid that once I love someone enough and feel ready to sleep with them, I’ll be “too old” and be bad at it.

Being a virgin is not a burden. You should be proud that you are waiting until you know exactly what you want the moment to be like. I chose to give my virginity at 22, I didn’t lose it and no one took it from me. I gifted it to someone who made everything be so perfect that my heart and mind actually agreed that it was time.

I’m 19 and a virgin. At times I get this gut feeling of embarrassment but then I remember that my flatmate & best friend is a virgin aged 27 and I love her to pieces & respect her so much.

Being a virgin isn’t anything to worry about. Wait until you really get to know someone first and really get to like them. You should talk a lot about it first. Then sex will be so much better than if you have sex just to lose your virginity.

I felt this way for a long time. I wanted someone to love, to have sex with. I was scared I was never going to find anyone.

I met the girl of my dreams on January 2nd. I was 21. I got my first kiss on February 12, 2009, when I flew about 2,000 miles to see her. We didn’t make love that night, and I couldn’t sleep for looking at her.

I don’t recall the actual day we first had sex, or what we did. After waiting so long, I forgot to remember just how I gave away my virginity.

I’m glad that I waited for love, though. ^_^

I lost my virginity at 13
It was the worst mistake
I thought I was in love
He made me believe I was in love
I was too niave, he was too old.
Please be careful and wait,
I’d give anything to have it back.
Your so lucky to have something
so special. I envy you.

im a virgin and even tho i say i dont care i do but everytime a guy tries to do anything more then kiss me i actually turn to stone, one guy whose actually a mate (we’ve had these drunken kiss moments) calls it my freezing moments….it sucks…i know i’ll never actually be with sum1 simply cuz i cant be vunerable cuz i knw what happens to vunerable people and im not getting hurt for anyone

I am too, and I’m 25. It’s not that I haven’t had the opportunity, but I chose to save myself for marriage. It’s been tough at times and sometimes I wonder if I will be able to stay that strong, but I’m so glad I never gave in.

Deep down, I’m truly a hopeless romantic. I want the first time to be special, to be with the person I’m spending the rest of my life with. I don’t want to worry about STDs or getting caught or not having a stable home to raise a child if I get pregnant. Sex just isn’t worth all that anxiety.

I’m a virgin, and I just graduated high school…I’m only a virgin because I was in love with someone that is already in love. I hope I find someone like him.

i am too and i’m 19. be proud, its so rare these days. dont let it bring you down, its something to respect and admire.

I’m 19 and still a virgin. I constantly say I’m not and hint that I’m not. Just for the sake of pushing people off of me. Letting people know I am just makes it feel like they have a power over me. I’m not sure if I do want to lose it or keep it forever. It’s not so much that I want to find someone to love or lose it to. I just think I can really care less about it. I still feel nervous when there are chances… when it comes down to it. I’m mixed about my virginity.

Gay virgin here, I’ve given up on sex as far as I can tell. All I see is people fornicating with reckless abandon. When did the world stop making love and start fucking? I don’t want a one night lover I want a man who is willing to be mine. All my friends have lost their virginity in high school and the media emphasizes sexuality. If I die a virgin it will be because the world’s view of sex has been perverted from an act of love and mutual pleasure to an act of partying and individual fufillment. The condom had become the glass slipper, I am not a whore I am a person with feelings and needs. I WILL NOT be reduced to anything less.

same here

i’m 19 and still a virgin . and quite frankly i’m going to hold on to it until i feel it’s the right time . sex might not be anything special today, but i assume that when your in love with someone it does became infinitely meaningful. i want to be able to look into his eyes and tell him that this is how much you mean to me .

ME TOO!. it sucks cus im the only one out of my friends and they alweays tell me about how they have sex which i kinda like hearing and they always try and make me have a random hook but i dont want i just want to do it right happy not forced lik my first kiss which is weird cus the guy who gave me my first kiss wanted me to give it up to him and if i saw him alot i would have, i cant say no to him=(. but i am and proud i hear its addicting

I’ll be 33 next Friday, and I’m STILL a virgin…and I’m proud of it.

When the right man comes along at the right time, it’ll be wonderful because I waited instead of giving it up to the wrong person for the sake of curiosity, boredom, loneliness, or any other millions of reasons out there.

Love is the best reason to give that gift of yourself to someone, and I believe it’s worth waiting for.

it sucks.

I’m a virgin at 25, and proud of it. My boyfriend of a year is not, however, and I fear he will get tired of waiting for me. It’s not easy, but I will continue to save myself until marriage so that I can give this amazing gift to not only my future husband, but myself also I hope he loves me enough to understand…

I hate it. I’m embarassed at 21. Everyone is more proud than I am. I wish I could have thrown it away years ago instead of worrying about what’s right. It would have saved all the hurt, frustraton,shame and pain that comes with. I had an ex who taught me in our break up it was something to be ashamed of and I hate her for taking everything that I held high. When I tell people that I still am, I cant even say it, I want to die right there and when they say theyre proud for me I can honestly say theyre infinitely more proud than I am. THe only reason people say that is because theyre not.

Im 19 and i am a virgin too..It’s not that i’ve never had the chance its just that im afraid..of being judged of being loved and im ashamed to let anyone see my body..
My sister is way too proud of this and yells it out in public..times like those make me want to die..
I wish people wouldnt use it against me..Im 19 and i want it..i guess im just not ready..

I am 22 years old. I am a virgin that has yet to experience her first kiss or a boyfriend. I am not ashamed. I want to experience all of this and I can but, I don’t because I believe that everyones virginity is a gift to give away. What you give it up for is a value of your self. I want to give it up for for a golden ring with a promise of eternal love and devotion. A future of happiness. I would rather die a virgin than to regret giving it up to someone I will hate.

I’m 27 and still a virgin. I’ve never found anyone I wanted to get naked with so badly that I couldn’t wait.

So I wait.

Some call it self-control. I call it a personal decision.

Either way, I’ve found enlightenment outside of physical pleasure as a result, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.

I’m a virgin as well. Really, don’t worry about it. This is coming from a 24 year old guy who’s had plenty of chances. If you think its going to make you more “normal”, it wont.

The world has such a twisted view of things and they ridicule virgins like we can’t get any. I’m just too damn good to give it away to anyone other than my future wife.

I lost mine when i was 17 i was embarrassed of being a virgin because i hung out with older people and i felt so young and inexperienced. I now realize i had nothing to worry about and i feel foolish thinking that way.

i lost my virginity at 20. i wish i’d waited longer. cherish yours. you don’t get a second chance.

I lost mine when i was 16. I was dating him for a year and i was completely head over heals in love. I was not pressured nor did i feel awkward. I have no regrets.

If you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready! Don’t sweat it, man!

clearly you should not have children and if you do, i hope you teach them to look for LOVE, not just sex. im a virgin, too, and i get a lot of shit for it by people who are my age and have never experienced true love in any sense of the word. but, the ones who are older say that i am lucky. im not sure if i am, and my younger friends could be right, but i can say that i am EXTREMELY proud that i didnt give it up to the people that i could have. i deserve to be more than just a notch in a bedpost. we all do.

Me too. I’m 19. Haven’t even been kissed. I only know a couple of people my age who are also still virgins. At first it bugged me, but now it makes me feel unique. One day, I’m going to find somebody who appreciates it, and I hope we’ll both be each others first.