I’m still a virgin
It pains me to think about it.
I’m still a virgin
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I lost mine when i was 17 i was embarrassed of being a virgin because i hung out with older people and i felt so young and inexperienced. I now realize i had nothing to worry about and i feel foolish thinking that way.
i lost my virginity at 20. i wish i’d waited longer. cherish yours. you don’t get a second chance.
I lost mine when i was 16. I was dating him for a year and i was completely head over heals in love. I was not pressured nor did i feel awkward. I have no regrets.
If you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready! Don’t sweat it, man!
clearly you should not have children and if you do, i hope you teach them to look for LOVE, not just sex. im a virgin, too, and i get a lot of shit for it by people who are my age and have never experienced true love in any sense of the word. but, the ones who are older say that i am lucky. im not sure if i am, and my younger friends could be right, but i can say that i am EXTREMELY proud that i didnt give it up to the people that i could have. i deserve to be more than just a notch in a bedpost. we all do.
Me too. I’m 19. Haven’t even been kissed. I only know a couple of people my age who are also still virgins. At first it bugged me, but now it makes me feel unique. One day, I’m going to find somebody who appreciates it, and I hope we’ll both be each others first.
I wish I still was one. I don’t regret losing it to him but I wish i could have waited longer. I am confused weather it was just sex or love. I hope it was Love. :/
I almost did it a few times recently with two different guys that I had been crushing on since high school, I was drunk and I though I wanted it then I thought I don’t want to make such a massive decision just because I had been drinking, I didn’t do it and in the morning I realised I’d made the right decision. the first guy pretended he didn’t remember even seeing me that night and said he didn’t like me, the other guy that I had been crushing on for years left before I woke up and hasn’t spoken to me since. I really liked them and I thought that maybe this year I’d find the right guy..now I’m not so sure..I though these guys liked me I mean hell the second guy was my best friend at one point..I’m 19, I’m a virgin and I am proud to be because I know how easy it can be to remember that jerk that never called back as your first time.
I wish I would have waited because once I started having sex then it was just a “whatever” thing. It’s so easier to just go from kissing to sex now that I’m not a virgin. It can also fuck up a lot of things and you have to worry about STDs, STIs, pregnancy and all the stuff even if you are safe.
Though I do admit I am glad that I lost it with the guy who I did–he is an amazing person. Five years later we still hang out sometimes and he’s still there for me.
But yeah, wait it out until you KNOW and FEEL you want to do it. And let it be special.
I feel the same way… :S it feels like im too old to still be a virgin and i really am ashamed…but at the same time i dont really want to have sex with a random guy…
I am 17 and i feel the exact same way …
I wish I’d seen this comment before I lost my virginity.
I lost mine at 14. I was so young and so stupid. I wish I waited. Life would be so much better now if I had just waited.
I’m 21 and I’ve lost mine last year. Maybe it wasn’t ‘perfect’ with the ‘perfect’ guy, but I knew I was ready for it and that it was the right time. That’s all that mattered to me
You are lucky, feel proud of yourself
Those jerks at work, school, etc., who say the word with a sneer…? They are just jealous that they threw theirs away for some dog who they may have thought was great, but he never called, but YOU still have yours. Good for you! You’re the better person for waiting for the right man! You are to be commended, not shamed.
For my 18th birthday I had sex with someone I didn’t care about. Several weeks ago I got wasted and had sex with someone else. I’m scared. I hate it. I. Am. Scared.
I did it and I agree with Eireann, I find that it has become a whatever thing with me too. It’s easier to make out with a guy have it lead to sex much faster now and to just say yes to sex than to not, It’s a way to self harm without the razor this time..
The guy I lost it to was just some guy and he was a douchebag.
I know I’ll regret it when I finally overcome my self destructive ways though.
There’s no reason to be ashamed, better to be a virgin than to have been drugged when you were eleven and raped by one of the only people you though you could trust, that happened to someone very much close to me and that persons in therapy for many reasons, that being among them. Being a virgin is no bad thing. Dont push for it, I did, and I REGRET IT.
Don’t beat yourself up about it. Sex is such a personal thing, it’s wrong of society to make us feel worthless if we don’t have it. Personally, I’m saving mine for marriage – or at least until the right time. I’m so glad I didn’t give it to my boyfriend of a year whom I adored, he turned out to be a cheating b*stard.
My best friend put it best when he said that virginity isn’t so special. There are tons of virgins out there who do tons of stuff [sexually] that they shouldn’t, and think everything’s okay because they still have their virgin-status. What’s REALLY impressive is chastity. Real chastity, in which you keep yourself clean of lusting after others and all the rest of sexual immorality. My best friend doesn’t even jack-off, ever. He stays out of trouble through a LOT of prayer. He’s 19, and I am sooo totally impressed. And, no, he’s not lying about it.
i’m 28 and still a virgin. i’ve got a great boyfriend. trust me, it’s worth the wait cos he respects me and we love God.
I’m 20 now and I won’t disclose the age I lost mine. I’m no longer with that person and don’t care about him at all. But I am so happy that I did it so I wouldn’t have to pathetically wonder what sex is like. I am so thankful to not be a virgin.
Wow, I SO hope that that wasn’t the reason you had sex with him or her in the first place. THAT would be pathetic.
I lost mine this year i was 18, she was 17.
It was to a girl i loved, but she just used me to get over her ex.
I still remember seeing the picture of her and her ex she smashed while we walked up the stairs to have sex…
i was just a replacement
@ zackpierce #
You have my sympathy. That’s a really cruddy thing to do to a person. My sweetheart was used by a girl he loved also, but for YEARS, and she never did ANYTHING for him. Selfish bitch. I’m afraid I’ll run into her someday, and that I’ll lose my cool, or worse, NOT lose my cool and NOT tell her off. She made him suffer for YEARS, totally taking advantage of his love for her, insisting on keeping her precious virgin-status, even though he would never have said anything about her. I wish he hadn’t been so generous with her, even if it were to mean he wouldn’t be so generous with me.
I’m 38 years old and I am tragically STILL a virgin. And not by choice. It seemed that Every girl I’ve ever attracted to is already taken. It pains me that people say that sex is no big deal, but that’s because they’ve already done it. And for those who have, I’d give Anything to trade places with any one of you.
Telling a virgin that sex is no big deal, is like telling a Blind person that Color is no big deal, like telling a Deaf person that Music is no big deal. Sex is like the Matrix: no one can Tell you what sex is like, you have to experience it for yourself.
Oh, Shane — don’t be so melodramatic. I wouldn’t liken sex unto color to a blind person, music to a deaf person. Sex can be good, great, or crappy; passionate or mechanical. Some people are so drunk when they lose their virginity, they hardly remember it happening at all. (A very logical consequence, since one’s senses are deadened by alcohol.) Most people are only capable of “having sex.” A very small number of people are in such excellent control of their bodies as to be able to *make love,* and there is a nearly infinite difference between the two. Lots of guys have lots of sex, and they never bother to learn to please a woman. Focus first on physical fitness and bodily control, and paying UNDIVIDED attention to one person’s EVERY move and expression (verbal AND nonverbal)…When you get to a place where the average man cannot make you move when he pushes you as hard as he can, you will be on your way to being a good lover. But don’t give all that supreme love to just any woman, just to prove you can do it…Find someone truly special and treat her like your queen. She will be so amazed and so grateful, she will treat you like her king. And that is the God’s-honest truth.