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that’s because you’re worth way more than that.

I used to sleep around a lot too.. now I get that I am worth WAYYYY more than that,and that ALL of us do!
Sex is not a hobby, its a bond with the correct person..

hang in there, and make the change u want to see in urself!
FUCK WHAT OTHER PPL HAVE TO SAY

Then stop.

i know exactly how you feel… its not like i try to be it just happens… and now i feel the only time i am loved is when im hooking up with someone, like it doesnt even matter anymore… although i havent figured out how to help myself yet i do think that when youre ready and realize your self-worth youll stop… and i agree, screw what other people try to judge you by, im sure youre amazing!

i know how you feel. i’m always getting used by guys cause they all know that i’m easy and i’m pretty much just one of those “hit it and forget it” girls. i don’t act like this bothers me, but i think about it everyday. and it’s not that easy to stop because guys never try to get to know me for who i actually am. it makes me actually feel wanted for a night when i just feel horrible the days after. you only live once so just try not to have regrets… even though that’s really hard

I’m sure your an amazing person.
follow your heart. don’t let other people tell you who you are.

Your gonna get it :]

I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been there ! I’m 20 years old and honestly don’t know how many people I’ve had sex with (I lost count around 30) & all but 3 were whirlwind adventures or drunken one night stands during two periods in my life when I was EXTREMELY depressed and didn’t value myself at all, and, in turn, had lots of empty, meaningless sex with guys who didn’t value me either. I desperately tried to fill my longing for love and affection by sleeping around, hoping that SOMEONE would love me. It’s extremely difficult to overcome, especially when EVERYONE judges you and doesn’t understand that there’s a reason behind your easy facade. There’s pain. Dealing with people spreading rumors (which happened in my case, and I’m assuming is the norm since there are always people who love to gossip) makes the situation much worse, because not only do you feel like guys don’t respect you, now you feel like everyone is judging you as you walk by, thinking “what a slut!” The only way to overcome it is to start loving yourself, and to realize that you are NOT worthless and are a prize that someone must earn. Sex should be a gift that you give to someone you care about ! Just know that other people have been there before & it’s okay. You have to respect yourself before other people can respect you.

me too.

I used to sleep around a lot. I wanted to feel attractive but I didn’t want to be hurt so I had numerous one night stands under false names and numbers (ultimately hurting others). It didn’t make me feel attractive, it became self destructive and I became so afraid that no one would ever genuinelly want me because I was a “slut” and therefore worthless, stupid and arrogant. But I did find someone who broke that pattern, someone who I can be completely honest with who doesn’t judge me.
I know it isn’t so simple as to just stop, I know its almost like giving up a safety blanket and actually facing emotions and maybe feeling increibly isolated but I hope you find an inner strength through it. Sleeping around does not make a person more attractive – it doesn’t really give them more experience since many of the one night experiences are just drunken fumbles and teach you nothing. It batters, not enhances, your own self-esteem and you hurt and confuse more people than we let ouorselves believe.
I cannot and will not judge you. I hope you manage to break out of it.

There is nothing wrong with being a slut….. men do it and they don’t get judged for it…..