Comments on: I think I’d love myself if I was skinny

By: emma 24

emma 24 — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 07:10:03 +0000

I lost over 4 stone and I have never left happier…I still have two more stone to go to be at my ideal weight but life hasn’t been this good in a while. I think happiness is related to weight…how can you truely feel good about yourself when your not confident, don’t think you look pretty, can’t wear the clothes you want etc? The most important think here is not to focus your attention on becoming skinny, rather you should aim to get to a weight that is healthy for your height. If you really want to lose weight you can, but no one can do it for you, it has to be a choice you decide and you must attack it head on with persistance and determination….remember happiness comes from within….be true to yourself and ALLOW yourself to be happy…then the rest will follow x

By: katk

katk — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 13:39:14 +0000

I lost 160 pounds and looked great and still felt fat and ugly.I learned no matter what my size, the only thing that matters, no one can see with their eyes anyway. You have to love you for whats inside, that is the stuff that matters.

By: tokeabelle

tokeabelle — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 05:07:26 +0000

being skinny doesn’t always make you happy. finally learning to accept who you are does (and I’m still getting there)

By: kb

kb — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 04:21:07 +0000

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes it’s like you are just hiding behind the fat, because if you are the “fat girl” then you don’t really have to be yourself. But at the same time you hate being fat, and feeling like you aren’t good enough to be thin. Obviously we know that we should exercise more etc. so yeah I think you should find some activity you enjoy, but not because you aren’t “attractive”, but because you might be happier. Although I honestly think that not liking yourself goes deeper then how you look. I know it does for me.

By: Jitters

Jitters — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 20:01:03 +0000

I’m skinny and people talk shit about me all the time. They call me disgusting because they think it doesn’t hurt my feelings. I’d love to have some curves! Be proud of who you are.

By: Helena

Helena — Sun, 17 Oct 2010 15:12:39 +0000

I used to think the opposite,anyways I am all in the clear now and it doesnt matter anymore.

By: In case I die

In case I die — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 08:40:24 +0000

I am going through the EXACT same thing.

By: Weight Training and Force Factor

Weight Training and Force Factor — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 02:52:10 +0000

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By: Black

Black — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 20:55:09 +0000

I was happiest when I was a size 3! I know that may not be feasable anymore, but I am losing weight and it’s making me very happy.

By: Jessi simmons

Jessi simmons — Sat, 22 May 2010 07:45:59 +0000

i think this too, but the only thing that ever happens is me getting more and more fat, which means i hate myself more and more

By: gonzalez

gonzalez — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 10:20:14 +0000

i think what she means is she wants to be normal and comfortable in her own skin.. some people don’t like to stand out.. and i know it’s wrong but most people judge another by how they look.. i know i hate when people stare at my stretch marks when i have a t-shirt on just because it’s a nice day outside.. i know when people comment on sites like this they will say the right things.. but TRUTH.. if you seen a over weight girl you know you would take another look and miss the skinny girl pass right in front of her.. stop being so fake people.. just be truthful with your own self.. hopefully there our pure hearted people out there.. haven’t meet one yet.. my search continues..

By: Jessy

Jessy — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:52:38 +0000

I agree with you totally!

And babe, it’ll be alright eventually. If I were a gambling sort of gal I’d place money on the fact that your a gorgeous, nice girl. Don’t put yourself down. Been there, done that, it isn’t fun.

Try exercise instead of self-hating. It sounds a little lame but seriously if you can just try it you’ll find yourself able to eat the foods you love and not gain as much weight. Exercise helps your self esteem and can get you fit and at a healthy weight as I assume you’d want to be
Good Luck!

By: Jessy

Jessy — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:47:52 +0000

Again we don’t need your comment on everything. Get nice or get off.

By: Jessy

Jessy — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:46:09 +0000

I totally agree! It’s because of sad, sad judgements (such as those above us)that secrets like this actually exist.

By: Jessy

Jessy — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 15:44:39 +0000

Babe, lay off. It isn’t a HUGE deal because no one else on the planet really cares what anyone says on this page. We all have much better ways to use our time but seriously, chill. We don’t need your comment on everything.

Yes you are bashing on people. Does any of this sound familiar? “Lifeless Barbie Doll” or you condescending tone? It’s because of your so called “bad ass” additive that people actually feel bad about themselves.

Again, you look bad here. No one else. Lay off. If we wanted your opinion on every minuet detail we’d say so.

By: I wish i wasnt

I wish i wasnt — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 19:46:54 +0000

ive been super skinny my whole life…i wish more then anything i could be just a average sized girl..Everyone thinks i have a eating disorder..but i dont..i just cant gain weight..im 5’8..the most ive ever weighed is 110..those few weeks were the happiest ive ever been with my self…it bothers me when my friends who are your average sized female complain about being fat and talk about how they wish they could be my size..i just wish they could see how beautiful they really are.

By: Lucy

Lucy — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 05:16:40 +0000

I thought that as well, well i actually still do, however i was anorexic a few years ago, and you just keep thinking that way. I ended up becoming reclusive and refusing to see my friends. I realised and still have to keep telling myself these days that it is actually company and friendship that makes me love myself. Because if someone else can love me that i trust, i trust their love to love myself.

By: brittany

brittany — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 02:20:32 +0000

i almost died from anorexia. recovery is the best thing that ever happened to me.

By: AnaRox

AnaRox — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:15:45 +0000

Hey if you wanna be skinny i say Go Girl! It’s her choice haterz,,if she wants to be chosen by ana then she is gifted.

stay strong,,stay skinny

By: xlovexmyxbonesx

xlovexmyxbonesx — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 00:09:18 +0000

I’ve never hated myself so much as when I weight 7st.

By: Riley

Riley — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:54:24 +0000

Because I would have enough self esteem and self confidence and love and happiness to deal with them and work through them instead of just being depressed all the time

By: dawnieangel76

dawnieangel76 — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 15:35:40 +0000

I love myself more being fat than I ever did trying to be skinny.

By: bleh bleh

bleh bleh — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 16:09:22 +0000

Wahida; ill pray for you.

By: Jeez.

Jeez. — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:59:53 +0000

No you don’t. You don’t know what it’s like.
I thought i would like myself if i was skinny too.
Now i have an eating disorder.
I can’t eat without hating myself.

By: anon

anon — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 14:52:18 +0000

I believe this person named themselves ‘skinny’ to define her comment as “I did it, it worked for me”.

And how do you know, that the only reason this person or others are only fat because they don’t eat healthily. That they literally only eat chocolate and high fat take-outs?? And that now they limit their intake of high fat food, they’ve lost the weight. So in 5 years they won’t put it back on.

Yes there are those genetically prone to be fat… but that is no excuse. They must alter their diet. The same as someone who is diabetic. Not everyone can have the same foods.

Stop being so judgemental!

By: tzophia

tzophia — Sun, 24 May 2009 03:56:00 +0000

I wish I had an eating disorder.

By: Sleeper Car

Sleeper Car — Fri, 22 May 2009 06:27:19 +0000

I know what you mean… that’s pretty much the exact description of my life. I’ve never been able to be “thin,” or “skinny.” Never. Not for lack of trying. But it seems like the harder I tried, the farther I bounced back, and it’s all been just discouraging. I’ve gotten to the point where I feel like I’ve given up on losing the weight at all, since all my past attempts have failed. And with that, I feel like I’ve given up on ever finding anyone who loves me for me, or on having self-confidence enough to think that I’m worth something. I really don’t know what to do anymore.

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 17 May 2009 22:09:26 +0000

I often feel like this
I feel like if I was skinny everything would be ok but then I think about it and realise I’d always find some other fault

By: Falling Star

Falling Star — Fri, 15 May 2009 06:41:14 +0000

i feel the exact same way. I have been dealing with my weight ever since i was little and nothing has changed or gotten better. I do believe that if i lost the weight and were thin, then i would be happier. I think i would be a lot more confident in myself and my self esteem would increase. I also feel that my anxiety would decrease. It’s hard being fat. It really is. It’s even harder to lose the fat. I’ve tried numerous times but i can never seem to keep it off. It effects my everyday life. It also makes me feel like i am not good enough and not worthy of love. It’s difficult to find a guy who can accept me for me, curves and all. I just feel like there is no one out there. I think if i lost the weight and were thinner i would be liked and more accepted. And i’m not saying that if I lost the weight and became thin everything would be perfect and I wouldn’t have any problems at all because it’s not true. I would have problem regardless, everyone does, we’re human. but i do feel like it would make me feel better about myself and improve my life.

If only it weren’t so difficult :/

By: One day...

One day... — Thu, 07 May 2009 06:52:58 +0000

I would kill for someone elses metabolism. I eat constantly. I always
have Fatty foods. I almost continued my own Super-Size me. I
Have friends who always work out. I never have. I have less than 90
pounds on me. I have only been alive for fourteen years. I don’t have abs
I have ribs. I can’t be told apart from the starving ethiopian children. I hide
my body sometimes so they don’t see me like this. I ware long sleeve in summer.
I hate being skinny. Weight can always be managed, along with the endless other
qualities of your life. But the things that can’t be? You have to learn to live with
them. Unless you’d decide to change it. I’m now 15 and weigh 134!!

By: mya

mya — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 18:55:02 +0000

It’s people like you that make me strongly believe there *should not* be a comments section on Post Secret

By: sarahchristine

sarahchristine — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 22:36:52 +0000

I thought that too. but i was wrong

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 11:39:56 +0000

I agree. I’m pretty sure I’d be happier and more confident if I were thinner. But for some reason I can’t get rid of my disgusting obbsession with food. I hate it and I hate myself and I hate that I hate myself because of it. So I get what you mean.
I’m not sure why anyone feels they have the right to criticise someone else’s secret. Surely this is a forum for support for people brave enough to reveal their secrets?

By: Same Sister

Same Sister — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 04:59:24 +0000

you aren’t alone

By: riley

riley — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 03:28:49 +0000

Agreed

Skinny= Happy

By: Sam

Sam — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 16:12:28 +0000

“The worries about your weight do not decrease no matter how much weight you lose. Rather, they grow. And the more you worry about your weight, the more you are willing to act on that worry…”

I think it’s important to warn you and anyone else who believes thin is the end-all, be-all of happiness that in this culture, it is extremely difficult to act on the desire to lose weight in a healthy manner:

“We know we need, and so we acquire and acquire and eat and eat, past the point of bodily fullness, trying to sate a greater need. Ashamed of this, we turn skeletons into goddesses and look to them as if they might teach us how to not need.”

“My generation was weaned on subliminal advertising, stupid television, slasher movies, insipid grocery store literature, MTV, VCRs, fast food, infomercials, glossy ads, diet aids, plastic surgery, a pop culture wherein the hyper-cool, blank-eyed supermodel was a hero.”

“In our culture thinness is associated with wealth, upward mobility, success. I may not even need to point out that these things are associated with self-control and discipline: the yuppification of the body and soul, perfect people with high-powered jobs and personal trainers, perfect-toothed smiles and happy-happy lives.”

“Denial of the flesh…is not only the obvious culmination of centuries of bizarre ideas about the dainty nature of women but also an active realization of religious and cultural ideals. And yet this is a culture where we seesaw madly, hair flying and eyes alight, between crazed and constant consumption, where the insatiable hunger is near-universal, as is the fanatical belief in the moral superiority of self-denial and self-control.”

We have been raised on on the idea that there is a quick fix for anything that goes wrong, and it is very much portrayed in our attitude towards food. Starving, diet pills, laxatives, etc. instead of being viewed as the dangerous methods of weight loss that they are, are now looked at as solutions. This has overshadowed the fact that a body needs to be fed. I spent four years with an eating disorder, trying to convince myself otherwise, and I was left with nothing but near-kidney failure and a completely distorted idea of who I was.

I didn’t believe that I was self-destructive, but one day I heard myself, with absolute sincerity, telling the concerned doctors that I didn’t care if I died. Based on my routine, they estimated that if I continued, I might make it for three more years. I didn’t cry or try to recover, because I was living for starving and if I couldn’t, then I didn’t want to live at all. Though I knew there had been a time of eating normally somewhere in my past, I didn’t remember it, and I had no idea how I would return:

“And so I went through the looking glass, stepped into the netherworld, where up is down and food is greed, where convex mirrors cover the walls, where death is honor and flesh is weak. It is ever so easy to go. Harder to find your way back.”

Anorexia was the only identity I had, and I couldn’t imagine going on without it.

“The awful paradox is that, to me it seemed that my emotional survival, my basic personal integrity, was dependent upon my mastery, if not total erasure, of myself.”

“I didn’t know in advance that I would never feel like I was good enough, like I was a “successful” eating disordered person until I was at death’s door. Actually, not even then.”

I believed that I needed to be thin to be happy. I didn’t gain much weight after recovery, and people tell me I’m thin, but I don’t concentrate on that. I eat, and I enjoy it, and I have found so much to live for. Therefore, I am happy. Thin has nothing to do with it.

All quotes came from Marya Hornbacher’s Wasted: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia. A lot of therapists advise against reading it if you have an unhealthy sense of body image, but I think it is the best, and quite frankly, the only book that depicts the truth about eating disorders. All messages via television, magazines, and general society aside, eating disorders are addictive, vicious physical representations of how much people can grow to hate themselves. They do not, in any way, indicate self-worth.

You could argue that we’re all different, that some of us might honestly determine our sense of value based on our weight. If that really is the only thing that you think will make you love yourself, then you will set aside your body’s needs and end up doing absolutely anything in order to achieve it. As your quiet aspiration grows into full-blown obsession, and it usually does, your standards grow. You chase the dragon, you never reach your objective, and then you die:

The body, many of us find to our great dismay, will always win. Either it will survive despite our best efforts, dealing a blow to our egotistical notion that we can control it, or it will die, making emotional survival utterly moot.”

Figure out what is actually nagging you. It takes a lot of rummaging around, but it’s there, and when you learn to approach your problems in a realistic, sustainable way, then you will love yourself.

Love for oneself takes more audacity than Western society wants us to believe. When you finally do, it feels like a revolution.

By: Lis

Lis — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 16:22:39 +0000

I used to be fat. I hated myself. My mother told me she would love me more if I was thin. I felt guys rejected me because I was fat. At 22, I lost a lot of weight. For a couple of years, my whole universe turned upside down. I was pretty, people liked me, approached me, admired me, complimented me, my parents were proud and not embarrassed anymore. For some months, I felt like prom queen. I glowed.

Then I realized that all my confidence resided on my looks, that my social worth was on my looks, that my “friends” were so because of my looks. I became an angry girl, someone who would disdain fat people because she felt they were lazy and should follow her lead. I looked healthy, but I starved myself. I thought about food all the time. I never cut myself any slack.

I ended up developing binge eating and getting back some of the weight. Again I noticed how people changed the way they approached me, how let down “they” felt. I would eat and eat and eat until it hurt so much that I had to cry, but never “allowed” myself to vomit because I felt I had done something so horrible that I had to pay for it. I am still trying to figure out why I did that.

Now, after making good friends, and some therapy, I feel much better. I am in my weight. I enjoy food. I eat well, but indulge myself sometimes without feeling guilty. I don’t kid myself that I am over food-weight-self-image issues, I think they will be with me forever. I can only hope that I can learn to deal with them as healthily as I can.

By: skinny

skinny — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 02:16:19 +0000

It doesn’t work like this for everyone, for some people it even has the opposite effect, but for me, loosing weight was the best decision I ever made. Even with the vicious rumors and concerns that came along with it, it didn’t even bother me because now I am more confident than I ever have been. I have more fun with everything I do.

By: Shortie

Shortie — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:53:42 +0000

sometimes i feel the exact same way.

By: Selene

Selene — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 00:13:07 +0000

This secret hits a little too close to home. I ended up becoming vegetarian just so I could eat less. After that I just ate enough to sustain myself. I was pretty happy entering high school because I had dropped from a size nine to a size five.us Then things took a downwards spiral that caused me to binges for awhile. I ended up being a size eleven after six months of my binges. Since then I’ve been fighting a battle between eating healthy or not eating at all.

By: his.lamb

his.lamb — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 01:42:27 +0000

i’ve felt this way my whole high school life.
don’t give up on yourself. don’t focus on your weight or you’ll never get it off your mind.

By: struggling

struggling — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 16:31:28 +0000

i have also had experience with symptoms of eating disorders, which i suppose was what drew me to this particular secret. it upsets me when people persuade a total stranger to lose a dangerous amount of weight, as some people have done here. it’s only one step away from pro-ana really.

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 12:21:56 +0000

Who says?

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 12:11:59 +0000

Thanks for your support about my comment ‘Struggling’ although some people see themselves as healthy underweight, even though they are unhealthily underweight. my ex girlfriend was like that. i think that the trick is to ask your friends their honest opinions and then listen to what they have to say. And also trust in the fact that your friends love you and they will generally be honest with you.

PS…. struggling…. what you struggling with?

By: N-L-mo

N-L-mo — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:26:07 +0000

so do i…. i bet he’d love me 2

By: internetarguingishilarious

internetarguingishilarious — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 05:20:33 +0000

you people crack me up

By: Struggling.

Struggling. — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 22:18:19 +0000

the word ‘skinny’ implies below a normal healthy weight. i’m not arguing with anyone, i’m just trying to set things straight, it’s clear that really the girl who left the secret is talking about a desire to be very thin, very underweight. if you’re healthy, then that’s great. but if you’re keeping your body weight low deliberately, as SJRSA says ‘as long as you dont take it too far’, as long as you’re not harming yourselves. obsessive over weight loss is damaging to body and mind. stay healthy and happy. lx

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 11:50:31 +0000

why?

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stefjrsa@hotmail.com

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 11:49:11 +0000

your mom is a psycho woman…… seriously… not cool! not cool at all. sorry you had to go through that.

_____________________________
stefjrsa@hotmail.com

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 11:47:25 +0000

just because other people will judge you, you shouldnt let it kill you… they are the one’s with a problem… not you.
you should look around and u will see in your life that there are people who love you as you are.

_____________________________
stefjrsa@hotmail.com

By: Liz

Liz — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 05:59:05 +0000

I’m ‘skinny’ and hate it. It gives reasons for people to call you anorexic and Bulimic. I used to cry myself to sleep because of it.

By: Riley

Riley — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 01:51:04 +0000

I believe sincerly that If I was skinny all my other problems wouldnt matter anymore.

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 21:05:25 +0000

I was really skinny, my mom starved me on purpose. Now I love myself after gaining 30 pounds, and so does my boyfriend.

By: Alex

Alex — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:05:09 +0000

So do i.

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 10:40:09 +0000

I agree completely. slim is good, skinny is bad. its just about finding the balance

By: Wahida

Wahida — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 20:19:30 +0000

That’s what we all tend to believe when we start dieting. You just want to lose some weight and be a lil bit skinnier then once you get to your ideal size you can stop dieting and maintain it.
But the reality is once you start ;losing weight, you don’t stop coz you are never skinny enough. You keep losing and losing and losing some more but never gaining. Then you get scared that you’ll add weight….and so forth it goes….u then become what i became…i believed i was too strong for anorexia…even up to date i don’t acknowledge myself as an anorexic! I am very ok, just a few pounds lighter than the ‘normal’ girl. Losing weight becomes an obsession and evrytime you manage to shed off some weight, you feellike a conquerer.
Slim is good skinny is bad! Real bad.

By: Wahida

Wahida — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 20:11:08 +0000

That’s what we all tend to believe when we start dieting. You just want to loose and be a lil bit skinnier then was you get to your ideal size you can stop dieting then maintain it.
But the reality is once you start ;loosing weight, you dont stop coz you are never skinny enough. You keep loosing and losing and losing some more but never gaining. Then you get scared that you’ll add weight….and it goes….u then become what i became…i believed i was too strong for anorexia…even up to date i don’t acknowledge myself as an anorexic! I am very ok, just a few pounds lighter than the ‘normal’ girl

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 08:03:45 +0000

skinny doesnt always mean an eating disorder. it CAN also be a way of keeping yourself looking good and as long as you dont take it too far then u can be healthy

By: julia

julia — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 19:30:17 +0000

i think i would too.
too bad i’ll never get to know….

By: Wahida

Wahida — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 22:11:43 +0000

I’ve always wanted to be skinny. my friends say am skinny but i fell like not good enuff. mmy familly told me i have an eating disorder. I denied it.
Now I am on medication that includes weekly injections because my body is giving up on me. i know I am fighting a losing battle and one day I will i will die in my sleep. i wish that night was tonight. coz i cant stand the medicine anymore!!!!

By: Nandini

Nandini — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 10:13:55 +0000

hate parade?
huh?
just coz you buy in the being skinny will get me more love brigade too…i am hating skinny?
whaaaaaaaaat?
where have i hated anyone?

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 09:48:45 +0000

Bashing on people for their current state of awareness isn’t emotionally or spiritually healthy either. Lay off the hate parade Nandini, negativity is toxic.

By: anonymous

anonymous — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 08:43:48 +0000

I feel the same way, but I’m to embarrassed to do anything to change it..

and @the people above.. grow the hell up. It’s his/her secret; not your battle grounds. and P.S skinny is probably fat and just wants to pick on people who have enough guts to admit it.

By: skinny

skinny — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 03:40:01 +0000

Nandini
I actually really respect and envy how you’ve been able to not let todays society compromise how you feel about yourself and your body. Good for you! Thats a pretty strong quality in a person, but what’s really not is how you feel the need to be SO condesending and rude to those of us who live in the modern world where alot of self confidence comes along with how other people see you. You’re getting pretty self richeous for someone who seems so independantly confident. Who are you trying to convince? I see where you’re coming from, but don’t feel the need to bash me and other people who are proud that other people – as well as ourselves – find us attractive. You’re being rude.
As far as that website you left us, I’m pretty sure there are thousands of credited websites with information on how obesity is infact a health concern. That link was the equivalent to a fat person’s pro ana page.
Congradulations though, really you should be proud, just don’t player hate on people that still care.

And yeah SJRSA it was the exact same thing with me once i quit gymnastics! lol i was just used to having this super metabolism haha now I just don’t let myself munch out on garbage, and i’m back to looking and feeling great Its so true – the confidence that comes along with it has made me a much happier person.

By: Nandini

Nandini — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 10:52:24 +0000

Ha ha ha ha
SJRSA,
Nandini is not slightly (are you being polite, ROFL) overweight. she is rather over weight. but the question is OVER whose weight. ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
sorry probably for you guys it is a life and death situation…being liked by people is probably the single most important thing in your life, so i should really refrain from patronising you poor dears.
yes, i like the way how you end your little note SJRSA tho…like YOU are the one who is victimised and are in a minority…are you serious.
people obsessed with how they look are a plenty!!! maybe you just need to be a little more observant? and er…the world is FULL of people who are judgemental of each other’s appearances to this extent that the poor secret poster feels that s/he will be worthy only if s/he were skinny…
actually come to think of s/he writes SUPER skinny. god, once you get on this trip of losing weight, you might as well never stop and never do. coz when you are not starving yourself or feverishly excercising, you are hating yourself anyway…so when does the madness ever stop.

see i have been skinny…attractive or not is a state of mind now. and i may add, MY state of mind…not random losers who might imagine that they can decide when i am hot or not.
and i have been fat and i feel smart, attractive and a person of value. yes it is a bit of struggle to know that you are an incredible person despite the false media images and insidious messages we are getting from each other, but darling let me tell you …it is SO worth it.
from a person contantly filled with self doubt and i dare say self loathing you just feel like a normal human being, just happy to be YOU. and it is such a wonderful place to be.
wish you guys experience this some day.
best of luck.

p.s your self victimisation in the last line is still cracking me up but i should really behave myself.

By: SJRSA

SJRSA — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 08:16:02 +0000

skinny, i think you should ignore nandini…. because nandini is probably a slightly oversized person.
I understand what you are saying completely and I am a guy. I was fit all the way through high school. I played water polo and I swam and i played football. Then at the beginning of my final year i broke my leg. Because of the sports centered llifestyle i had, i used to eat alot. now lots of food + no exercise = gaining weight. so i gained weight. not alot, but enough that i would have a little bulge here or there etc. And even though other people didnt really care. I felt uncomfortable and insecure. And I found that I wasnt the same person I used to be. I disliked myself.
My Cast came off my leg and I didnt play as much sport as i had before, but i cut down on the food i ate and found a nice balance. I am now back to the weight I was before. I have my six pack back and I feel much more comfortable about who I am. And I can feel the mental and emotional change within me….
So dont let nandini get you down. There are only a few people who understand us!.

Have a GR8 day skinny!

By: Nandini

Nandini — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 05:56:38 +0000

you obviously assume being fit and being thin are the same thing. what can possibly be said to you then.
it has been proven that genes are the factor that causes fatness or thinness in people. and yes there is no need to challenge genes to fit in the narrow asthetic requirements that society has. it is as ridiculous as darker skinned people wanting/needing/being forced to to be fairer because the society values and far more easily accepts the lighter skinned people.
having said this and all that i have said above, i am not denying the ‘benefits’ of fitting in. of course, your self esteem grows, because all your life you have seen people who are thin enjoying the attention, affection that you also wanted.of course now you can be a part of the poplura fashion and look even better.
but that is exactly my point, why force people to fit in…why make their lives miserable if they don’t fit in.
and perhaps you’d like to read this http://kateharding.net/but-dont-you-realize-fat-is-unhealthy/

By: skinny

skinny — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 18:41:22 +0000

LOL they’ don’t like me more because of how much better they think I look, they like me because of how much better I feel I look. I’ve had self esteem issues my whole life, and these insecurities just made me bitter and sad all the time. Now I finally feel confident in who I am and how I look, and this confidence has brought me much happiness. It’s easier for me to socialize and make friends, put myself out there without being all self concious. I’ve stopped dieting and started living more healthy, this new body is turnign out to be easy to maintain.

You can’t choose your genes but body weight is one thing you can almost control. It takes some work, but being fit has its benefits. With todays society I assume the author has much of the same issues as I did, so I’m just saying I know what shes talkign about.

and there is an obesity crisis.. lol Nandini

By: Nandini

Nandini — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 05:18:21 +0000

Hey Skinny, sad isn’t it that your user name shows that you identity is mainly about being ‘skinny’. sad because if such a transient thing is your main identity…
research (not the greedy docs who are trying to create a fake obesity crisis) but real research proves that if you are genetically inclined to be fat then despite your insane dieting, scary weight loss plans etc will not last beyond 5 years!
do you REALLY like being friends with people who have started liking you more now that you are a lifeless Barbie Doll like in their hands. have you also changed your ideologies etc to fit in with such shallow friends. will you also leave your family members, your jobs, your pets, your favourite authors and anything and everything to ‘fit in’?
if not, then why go by their standards of beauty.
anyhow now that you have lost tonnes of weight you can also spend the rest of the life obsessively trying to maintain it and lead a rather unfulfilling life.
i do feel sorry for you but you know if you are an adult you can really CHOOSE to have better friends and a healthier life style.
wanting to be thin is not mentally or spiritually healthy. and physically healthy, that also is a doubtful thing.

By: skinny

skinny — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 17:56:23 +0000

I like myself more, People like me more, I’m happier, I finally feel confident. Best thing that ever happened to me.

By: Nandini

Nandini — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 06:43:40 +0000

no you wouldn’t. people will find another reason for you to hate themselves. so i think don’t bother hating yourself. it is not worth anything. it will NOT make you more attractive or successful. just unhappy.